Another loser boyfriend question

So here I go, my first post on Reddit, and I have seen variations of the question hundreds times, yet. Make the story short, I have live-in boyfriend for past about 20 months, I’m post divorcee, ended up falling for him, wanted to take things slow, however he moved in within couple of weeks (closer to work etc etc). Many break ups, this time he’s back since last month (we decided to try during quarantine). We had 3-4 months off. I’m already feeling creepy butterflies for reasons I never understood, honestly I just see many red flags but I’m worn out and just so unhappy that I can’t discuss with him any of it. Here is my question (I mean I’m thinking of any encouragement, any words to give me strength to move his sorry a** out of my place...).

Social media, Facebook. In my opinion pretty much equals dating app, not that I’m against Facebook at all. His status says Single, additionally Interested in Women (open to public). I mean after 2 years of living in relationship...? (Even if rocky relationship, still). Asked him to change it, already upsets me that there is need to ask him. I’m not fan of publicity, I didn’t ask him to shout out loud he’s In Relationship, guys. I’m saying to not show any status at all. He didn’t do it, well he did , changed to In Relationship status with “very funny” post attached, there was laughs of course, which... didn’t make me feel the best. We had other load of problems back then, broke up. Last couple of days I brought the problem up, well he got extremely defensive, reminded me of doing it on e already and never again... next he’s shouting no one should make him to do what he does not want to, additionally he did life streaming for his fans (music) and one of his friends asked if I am a roomate? My boyfriend said Not my roomate and that’s it! I mean , how come his friends don’t know he got girlfriend (2 years of live-in serious relationship)? How come he didn’t simply answer with That’s my gf? He won’t change his relationship status, meaning he won’t take it off. He shouts about me being in bad mood and ruining his day. I really find this “tiny” problem saying a lot about him. He’s hiding me, maybe cheating, maybe not sure about things... can pls someone help me out? Thanks in advance.

Submitted May 24, 2020 at 12:07AM

So here I go, my first post on Reddit, and I have seen variations of the question hundreds times, yet. Make the story short, I have live-in boyfriend for past about 20 months, I’m post divorcee, ended up falling for him, wanted to take things slow, however he moved in within couple of weeks (closer to work etc etc). Many break ups, this time he’s back since last month (we decided to try during quarantine). We had 3-4 months off. I’m already feeling creepy butterflies for reasons I never understood, honestly I just see many red flags but I’m worn out and just so unhappy that I can’t discuss with him any of it. Here is my question (I mean I’m thinking of any encouragement, any words to give me strength to move his sorry a** out of my place...).Social media, Facebook. In my opinion pretty much equals dating app, not that I’m against Facebook at all. His status says Single, additionally Interested in Women (open to public). I mean after 2 years of living in relationship...? (Even if rocky relationship, still). Asked him to change it, already upsets me that there is need to ask him. I’m not fan of publicity, I didn’t ask him to shout out loud he’s In Relationship, guys. I’m saying to not show any status at all. He didn’t do it, well he did , changed to In Relationship status with “very funny” post attached, there was laughs of course, which... didn’t make me feel the best. We had other load of problems back then, broke up. Last couple of days I brought the problem up, well he got extremely defensive, reminded me of doing it on e already and never again... next he’s shouting no one should make him to do what he does not want to, additionally he did life streaming for his fans (music) and one of his friends asked if I am a roomate? My boyfriend said Not my roomate and that’s it! I mean , how come his friends don’t know he got girlfriend (2 years of live-in serious relationship)? How come he didn’t simply answer with That’s my gf? He won’t change his relationship status, meaning he won’t take it off. He shouts about me being in bad mood and ruining his day. I really find this “tiny” problem saying a lot about him. He’s hiding me, maybe cheating, maybe not sure about things... can pls someone help me out? Thanks in advance.