As the title says I 15M fell in love with my friend 18F. We've been best friends for ourselfs for 6 months now but last weekend there was a party for her 18th birthday. We've danced, hugged and talked. From that moment i think she is no more my crush but i fell in love with her. I wonder if i should tell her that. She said a lot of things like "i wish i was 3 years younger", we would make a good couple, she even offered me to marry her after we will be like 30 lol. But as I mentioned she is currently 3 years older than me and Im scared it will ruin the relationship. Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:14PM As the title says I 15M fell in love with my friend 18F. We've been best friends for ourselfs for 6 months now but last weekend there was a party for her 18th birthday. We've danced, hugged and talked. From that moment i think she is no more my crush but i fell in love with her. I wonder if i should tell her that. She said a lot of things like "i w...

I (42f) dated a good friend (40m) almost a year ago. Spent a lot of time with him...and his kids Started getting serious and I freaked out. Got a job 5 hours away and broke up with him via text🤦‍♀️ Out of the blue a few months ago..he looked me up and came to visit. We have been commuting back and forth for the last 3 months on weekends (I now live 5 hours away). I stay over on weekends with or without children. I feel terrible for what I previously did..and frankly would never speak to someone like me again yet...hes never brought it up and is beyond perfect. Why would a man want to go back together with someone like me? I'm not sure what to think but I do very much love him and his children. They talk about "before" often and it breaks my heart that I potentially hurt them Advise? Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:16PM I (42f) dated a good friend (40m) almost a year ago. Spent a lot of time with him...and his kids Started getting serious and I freaked out. Got a...

I 27/F have been dating a 31/m for about 3 weeks. We’ve gone on 4 dates and had sex on the 2nd one. Things I feel like have been going well, he even came out to with my friends on Saturday (even though he came incredibly late...which was kind of annoying) anyways, I invited him to my housewarming next weekend that I am hosting. He said that he could maybe come, and I told him that maybe I’ll find another date to my Housewarming. He then said back that I could do whatever I wanted and that he actually might have plans that day. I then told him I was kidding and that I didn’t want another date, that I would love for him to be my date but I understand if he has other plans. He didn’t answer me until the next day and then said he would let me know “soon” if he can come and then proceeded to change the subject This of course hurt my feelings. We are hanging out tomorrow, and I’m not sure if I want to have sex with him because I thought it was hurtful that he isn’t committing to an event t...

So a couple months ago, I went on a date with a guy from Bumble that was a little awkward, but we ended up making out in my car by the end of the date. He texted saying he had fun, but then turned me down when I asked if he'd be interested in meeting again, saying he didn't know what he was looking for and that he felt the connection lacked a little bit. So I tried with a few other guys but eventually took a little break from dating. Well, last week I redownloaded the app and we unexpectedly matched again. He explained that he didn't know what he was looking for, and wasn't really ready for a relationship, so he rejected me because he assumed I was the type to only want a serious relationship and didn't want to waste my time. I told him that that wasn't necessarily true and I'd be willing to give the casual arrangement a try. So a couple days ago we went on another date, and overall I thought it went better than the first date, though a few interesting th...

I (15m) like this girl (17f) I just don't know what to say to her. I've tried going up to her and telling her, but last time I told a girl, I got rejected. We often have like two min conversations, but outside of that I'm too scared to talk to her. Any advice anyone. Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:30PM I (15m) like this girl (17f) I just don't know what to say to her. I've tried going up to her and telling her, but last time I told a girl, I got rejected. We often have like two min conversations, but outside of that I'm too scared to talk to her. Any advice anyone.

I (34M) have become interested in a woman (32F) in my friends circle. The thing is, she just got out of a several-year-long relationship somewhere around a year ago, and her other friends have made mention of her still having a hard time with it sometimes (he broke up with her, and in a bad way). We have almost exclusively hung out in group settings, but when we're alone it's never awkward and the conversation flows pretty well. I want to ask her out on a date, but I'm not sure if I should give her more time to heal. On the one hand I think being asked out might help her feel better. But I'm stuck in this mind trap of worrying that I'll ruin my chances by asking too soon, but also that if I wait too long she'll be too used to me being a friend to even consider me as being more (is that even a thing?). What do y'all think? Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:30PM I (34M) have become interested in a woman (32F) in my friends circle. The thing is, she ju...

For many years I felt I'm just ugly/average and will never be interesting enough to ever get a girlfriend. I just don't seem charismatic enough and I don't believe that I'm good looking like other guys. I know it seems negative to compare myself to other people but this has been in my mind every day for so long. Every. Day. I finished school this year and near the end of the year some girls told me apparently that a few girls they know actually find me attractive. I was extremely surprised since I always assume no one (at the time) thought I was attractive since I didn't really catch any common psychological clues. But one time I decided to text a girl who followed me for a year who goes to the same school on IG and I thought she was really extremely pretty. Well, I decided to be brave for once and just say "fuck it". "I'm gonna randomly text her and say that I think she's really pretty". And so since I had her on Snapchat for a few da...

40-50 age group. Hi, all of you who are busy dating, I would like to clear some fog around common misconceptions. How many times do you have sex with someone before you start getting attached and catch feelings? When do you decide it’s time to be exclusive? I 49F, personally wouldn’t like to call someone my bf for at least 2-3 months, provided things are going well, but I find it tricky to decide when to assume we are an item. Sometimes guys get mad at me for walking away after having had sex twice over 4-5 dates, sometimes I find myself infatuated after just two hot dates. Go figure... Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:38PM 40-50 age group. Hi, all of you who are busy dating, I would like to clear some fog around common misconceptions. How many times do you have sex with someone before you start getting attached and catch feelings? When do you decide it’s time to be exclusive? I 49F, personally wouldn’t like to call someone my bf for at least 2-3 months, provided things are goi...

So more than 2 weeks ago, I liked a girl on tinder from my course at uni and coincidentally the next day we started talking, not knowing I liked her on tinder. Skip forward to last Sunday and we went on our first date, playing mini golf and going to a bar, it went very well, we got on and she said she'd 100% do it again when I asked about a second date. But now I'm too sure what to do on the second date and where to go to move forward. Any help would be appreciated :) Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:43PM So more than 2 weeks ago, I liked a girl on tinder from my course at uni and coincidentally the next day we started talking, not knowing I liked her on tinder. Skip forward to last Sunday and we went on our first date, playing mini golf and going to a bar, it went very well, we got on and she said she'd 100% do it again when I asked about a second date.But now I'm too sure what to do on the second date and where to go to move forward. Any help would be appreci...

Okay this is a long story, and I think I know what you're going to tell me. But for the few who have real useful advice, I'm all ears. Years ago I dated this sexy, gorgeous, fun, woman who I worked with. She was married and I was separated, but we dated. We also worked together, which is how we met. Then we broke up 6 months later and went our separate ways, both physically and work wise. Fast forward 12 years. We're both married. I needed to hire someone, so I had a "bright idea', I would hire my ex-GF to work with me! What a great idea! Not. At first I thought it was great. I get to work with my ex, who is drop dead gorgeous, and she is also great at her work, a bonus. The first month we worked together, she told me things were bad in her marriage. She felt the need to seduce me, which she did. She texted me romantic texts, told me she missed me and wanted to marry me, how much she wanted to have sex with me, etc. and of course I fell for it because I'm...

Have my second date with my coworker tomorrow and I'm fairly sure she wants to have sex (been joking about waking up in my bed and lots of dirty jokes back and forth, she's very sexually confident). Thing is, I'm a virgin and I don't know whether I should tell her or not. On one hand, I think since we are friends I can trust her and I think being honest with her would help take the pressure off me and lower her expectations lol. But I worry that telling her that I'm a virgin would be manipulative by putting pressure on her and by making her feel guilty if she changed her mind. (Plus there's always the paranoid part of my brain that thinks, telling her would result in her laughing at me and quickly going 'nope, cya bye' haha). My plan originally was to just tell her 'it's been a while' but not to disclose I'm full-blown virgin until after the fact. But I've been second-guessing myself about whether this would be a good idea or not....

I was seeing someone for a little while, all was going really well. He told me he was serious about me and wanted the relationship to last, with no prompting from me. Then he bailed on me last minute one weekend when we had plans and I got upset and told him so (in a nice way, but still I was probably out of order). He hasn't spoken to me since, and it's been 4 days now. He deleted tinder when we were dating but I went back on yesterday (for validation I guess) and his brand new profile pops up. New photos, no bio. Do I reach out? Apologise? Ask what went wrong, and whether we'll see each other again? I genuinely thought it was going somewhere, and it concerns me that maybe we're both playing the hard game at the minute and not knowing where we stand, but then there's the possibility he's just ghosted me! We're both in our late 20s, so I wouldn't really expect the latter at this age, especially after everything he said about wanting to be with me for a...

As the title suggests, I've been getting CONSTANT non-stop messages from a girl I've only been dating for a few weeks. The very first date we had she said she was very independent. As I consider myself quite independent too this was quite attractive to me. But ever since that first date I've literally been getting at least 20+ messages a day from her, basically informing me of everything that's happened in her day. Yesterday I kid you not, she sent me a picture of her breakfast and then told me a bird had landed on her balcony. Like, is this really information I HAD to know? I know this may make me come across as an ungrateful asshole, and maybe I am. But it's just not in my personality to talk constantly to someone about every little thing that's happened in the day. Sometimes I'll go weeks without chatting to my mates and when we do it's like we picked off where we left like nothing happened. I know this wouldn't be feasible in a relationship, bu...

Im 18 and never had a girlfriend before. I've never made a move on a girl irl before or approached any girl Im attracted to because im shy and have low confidence due to being bullied in middle/high school for my looks. So I made earlier basically saying that Im giving up but someone recommended I try this dating app called Hinge. I tried and for the first time ever in my life, I actually got some matches. I literally didn't get any matches on Tinder and only got one match on Bumble that was with a girl I wasn't attracted to. So I matched with this one girl and we hit it off pretty well. Conversations through text went well and I asked her to meet up in person. What I shouldve realized from the start was that this girl was always unavailable which was a red flag. For starters, the first week I got her number, I messaged her on Tuesday and Wednesday and suggested we meet up on Thursday but she said she couldnt which I was fine with. I asked her to meetup on Friday and she c...

Not a nervous guy, genuinely a pretty smooth operator when it comes to asking a girl out; however, this time it's a little different. Over the past few months I have been stopping by the same coffee shop for breakfast and a coffee. A girl working in the shop caught my attention, and not in the normal "dayyyymmmm gurl" sort of way. I feel sick saying it but, she caught my attention in that weird, deja vu, there is some unique energy between us without words kind of way. We have only exchanged pleasantries, she regularly fixes her hair when I walk in, and we do that whole awkwardly hold direct eye contact for too long thing. Anyway, I've been trying to get the open opportunity to pull her aside or give her my number; however, that perfect chance hasn't made itself available. Either the shop is busy or like today I recieved an important business call literally THE MOMENT I was going to ask her. Would it be weird to just call the shop, say "hey, if you are ...

What are some skills a man can have that makes then 100x more attractive? I'm talking about life skills (cooking, cleaning, etc.) What are some good habit I can have day-to-day as well? Submitted November 27, 2019 at 12:08AM What are some skills a man can have that makes then 100x more attractive? I'm talking about life skills (cooking, cleaning, etc.) What are some good habit I can have day-to-day as well?

It seems to be a common theme, a handful of men I’ve either hooked up with just for sex or who I dated only a few times will seem.. unsure about me at the time and there is some kind of resistance, not much is said or communicated I’m either ghosted or given a stereotypical reply “ wrong timing, not ready” etc only to see that some of these guys are dating and committing to other women. It’s hard to detach after getting to know these guys naturally, but once I’ve gotten over it and am dating other people, and feeling happy, out of what seems like nowhere these men reach out with heartfelt sometimes paragraph long reasons and apologies and realisations that they should have given me a chance, many have even told me they loved me despite leaving and stringing me along at the time. Is this common, does this happen to other people? How can I stop this pattern from happening? Submitted November 27, 2019 at 12:11AM It seems to be a common theme, a handful of men I’ve either hooked up ...

So I'm 16m and her 17 is the the shy girl from the last post and I ask her if we can hang out and she said maybe and help and or advice Submitted November 27, 2019 at 12:16AM So I'm 16m and her 17 is the the shy girl from the last post and I ask her if we can hang out and she said maybe and help and or advice

I have this exact one!! November 27, 2019 at 12:11AM

I’m not sure why you’re so hung up on this. I understand being uncomfortable if terms have negative historical connotations but the prefix allo primarily means different or other. That’s it. I’m a flaming liberal so I don’t want to sound like an intolerant or dismissive person and this sounds harsh but why are so offended and taking this so personally? November 27, 2019 at 12:08AM

With this ship, I can get behind the romantic part. But when people add the sex part, I find it annoying. I also enjoy this character because I don’t feel like I have to favor a ship or ship him with anyone. After all, he is ace and not aro so the ships seem like they would be completely romantic, but sometimes it’s not like that. November 27, 2019 at 12:06AM

Too hot for any of those. November 27, 2019 at 12:05AM