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/u/thatpotatogirl9 on Alongside asexual, did anyone here actively became aromantic and how did you do it?

Also what you're looking for is celibacy. You can't force yourself to change sexuality. It is impossible. But if you're looking for an easy out for relationship issues (still offensive and disrespectful to bring that here), you are free to swear off relationships at any point. Mocking my community isn't even necessary to do it either. November 09, 2021 at 12:34AM

Do I need to kneel?

I (m24) found the courage to open up to a friend about having only one (traumatic )sexual experience where the main problem was the fact that I wasn’t able to put it in because I couldn’t find the right angle. He has the tendency to want to help people ( which I’m grateful af for having him as a friend) and told me that the trick is to put the leg up as close as possible to the body so the vagina will automatically go up. Also is it better to kneel on the bed for optimal penetration? I’m afraid that another bas sexual performance would ruin my mental state for a long time (as the previous did) and refrain me from doing anything Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:44AM I (m24) found the courage to open up to a friend about having only one (traumatic )sexual experience where the main problem was the fact that I wasn’t able to put it in because I couldn’t find the right angle. He has the tendency to want to help people ( which I’m grateful af for having him as a friend) and told me t

Asking for a BJ more than once and slightly pushing for it, when I have expressed that I dont want.

I(F26) went out with a guy i met recently and things got heated, and I had my period. so with lack of being able to have sex(I have strong periods) he really wanted a blowjob and I am not comfortable with giving that when I dont have feeling for someone. I said that once twice and it took several tries until he stopped asking and pushing. is this a red flag? or it's just the heat of the moment and he really likes blowjobs? haha Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:46AM I(F26) went out with a guy i met recently and things got heated, and I had my period.so with lack of being able to have sex(I have strong periods) he really wanted a blowjob and I am not comfortable with giving that when I dont have feeling for someone. I said that once twice and it took several tries until he stopped asking and pushing.is this a red flag? or it's just the heat of the moment and he really likes blowjobs? haha

Lost sex drive with wife.

I dont know what happened, when we first started dating we would do it every week. And now we barely even do it every month. I'm not sure what to do. Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:52AM I dont know what happened, when we first started dating we would do it every week. And now we barely even do it every month. I'm not sure what to do.

I can only orgasm in a very specific angle and it makes me feel like I don’t know my own body.

Hi there! I’m seeking advice and don’t know where else to turn. I’m new here so hopefully this all follows the guidelines. I’m 23F and have only ever been able to orgasm one way: riding on top of a guy in a very leaned forward angle. Never from masturbation, never from any other sort of stimulation, only penetration in this one specific angle. (I have come close but can never get to that point). This makes me really sad and frustrated because I then feel like I don’t even know my own body, despite having spent lots of time with myself trying to figure it out. I know many other women with the inverse situation who can’t finish from penetration alone, but I really just wish I could get myself off. I know it may be a mental issue as well. The only person I’ve orgasmed with was my ex who I had a LTR with and was very comfortable, yet still never could finish with any other method. I don’t know if it’s worth mentioning, but I am bisexual and even with women I’ve come close but couldn’t

Feeling like no one will ever find me attractive

So I [M23] Have never had a girlfriend or had sex before but No matter how hard I try to improve on my looks I jist always feel unattractive. Physically im 6ft with redhair, blue eyes, lean build but I have a lot of masculine traits (i.e body hair, broad shoulders, prominent eyebrow ridge, wider jaw, deep voice etc) but I just feel so fucking unattractive. I do try my best to look good and Im also big into skincare but I think now that my next step is surgery, I also have a scar on my forehead (I was shot with an air rifle) which I want removed. I know that Im not trans but in a way I've always been jelous of women on how they can look good compared to us men, Im also jelous of them because they seem to get attention and praised for thier looks where as society tells men that we are ugly. "Men's bodies are gross" , "Men are plain to look at" , "Women are more attractive" I hear women (even straight women) say that shit on reddit all the time an

I lack empathy. What can I do?

Since I was little, I've been unable to think about something but myself. I can't really put myself into someone's else shoes. Maybe that's why I said these things about ugly women in a previous post (me not wanting to date someone ugly while being ugly). I want to change. Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:09AM Since I was little, I've been unable to think about something but myself. I can't really put myself into someone's else shoes. Maybe that's why I said these things about ugly women in a previous post (me not wanting to date someone ugly while being ugly). I want to change.

Cunnilingus Improvement

My partner(24F) and I’s (24M) sexual life is dope, but she is definitely more of a clitoral stimuli kind of gal rather than vaginal most of the time. I’m rather decent in the oral sex department but I want to be able to cater to her needs as best as I can. Any advice?? :) Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:11AM My partner(24F) and I’s (24M) sexual life is dope, but she is definitely more of a clitoral stimuli kind of gal rather than vaginal most of the time. I’m rather decent in the oral sex department but I want to be able to cater to her needs as best as I can. Any advice?? :)

What does it mean?

This girl I like in class flirts with me but also lets me hear that she finds other guys cute. She knows I like her, my actions clearly show that. We chat online and sometimes she is sweet but sometimes she leaves me on read and doesnt reply, sometimes she is just online and doesnt see my message. The questions are : 1. Is it possible that she likes me back and 2. What the fuck does she want 😭 Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:14AM This girl I like in class flirts with me but also lets me hear that she finds other guys cute. She knows I like her, my actions clearly show that. We chat online and sometimes she is sweet but sometimes she leaves me on read and doesnt reply, sometimes she is just online and doesnt see my message. The questions are : 1. Is it possible that she likes me back and 2. What the fuck does she want 😭

Losing feelings

This is purely hypothetical, but if you’re losing feelings for a partner or you don’t see a future anymore, is it your responsibility to tell your partner? And if y’all relate, why do some people not want to tell their partner they’re losing feelings etc? Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:15AM This is purely hypothetical, but if you’re losing feelings for a partner or you don’t see a future anymore, is it your responsibility to tell your partner? And if y’all relate, why do some people not want to tell their partner they’re losing feelings etc?

Gf texts very dry

Been dating my gf for 6 months. She's a nurse and is always tired and always sleeps. She moved couple hours away for new job and her texts are always dry. She's an introvert and I'm an extrovert. I want someone with more energy and engaging. Is this too much to ask? Any advice? I'm 27 she's 24. Submitted November 09, 2021 at 12:15AM Been dating my gf for 6 months. She's a nurse and is always tired and always sleeps. She moved couple hours away for new job and her texts are always dry. She's an introvert and I'm an extrovert. I want someone with more energy and engaging. Is this too much to ask? Any advice? I'm 27 she's 24.

/u/EatingSugarYesPapa on Do you want to have children?

Kids are not “loud gross and inconvenient”. That’s so dehumanizing. I hope the children in your life never find out you feel this way about them. And I never assumed you harmed anyone. November 08, 2021 at 11:38PM

/u/Stellasgirl1110 on follow-up to my last post & apologies for invading this space 💜🖤

You did nothing wrong!!!! We welcome you with open arms. I’m so sorry you had to deal with those jerks! November 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

/u/hennofspades on What do you love most about being ace?

Yeah I have allo friends who go through so much drama and unnecessary shit with people they are seeing/in relationships with, and the only small worries I have are my project deadlines at work. I get to go home and chill, they have text/phone obligations and other crap. 😂😎 November 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

/u/yourfirstlastresort on Favorite ace Greek deity

I almost spat out my drink. Take my award 🏅 November 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

/u/PaineintheBurke on The plain, simple and cheapest ring I got from some local online store for less than 5 bucks. Let's hope it'll last! Hope that it isn't weird seeing a guy like me wear a ring :v

I wear two different rings on my left hand, you won't draw much attention. Hell, one of the rings is the Hydra ring from Marvel because I ordered the wrong ring, and no one has even commented on that, so you should be fine. Looks pretty though. November 08, 2021 at 11:37PM

When I ejaculate I don’t feel much sensation in my penis and my ejaculations aren’t as strong as before. What should I do?

I’ve done kegels for around a month now and whenever I masturbate my climax feels underwhelming and my admen just plops out or just flows out mixed in with precum as I masturbate. Why is this happening? What can I do? Submitted November 08, 2021 at 11:20PM I’ve done kegels for around a month now and whenever I masturbate my climax feels underwhelming and my admen just plops out or just flows out mixed in with precum as I masturbate. Why is this happening? What can I do?

New GF is great, the sex not so much?

​ I (M44) have been with this woman (F43) for a few months and things are going really great. I like everything about this woman with one exception...she's selfish in bed. The amount of sex isn't the problem, we have sex most nights (or day occasionally) that we are together. The problem is that 99% of the time sex involves me pleasuring her and then PIV. She doesn't offer to reciprocate at all. When we first got together she just we down on me and once I finished inside her mouth and it was great...then not at all. Last week I asked if there was any specific reason why she doesn't and she said "no". The next time we has sex she went down without hesitation but the next time had ask or she wasn't going to bother at all. For my part, I make sure she finishes a couple times. At least once orally and she usually finishes again during PIV. she doesn't want to kiss me after I go down on her and prefers that I make love to her more so than dirty sex. Mos

Sex with lower back and hip pain

Hey everyone, I'm looking for advice and guidance on positions that won't flare up and cause pain while I'm doin the deed. I have a fai cam hip impingement with labral tear in my hip, I have osterarthritis, buldged disc both in my lumbar and I have a pinched nerve due to buldged disc affecting my sciatica nerve. I had a few steroid shots so sciatica isn't as bad under the left butt cheek. I've looked at a chart that recommends positions for my fai, but that doesn't take into consideration the other pains. By mid day my backs in so much pain I can barely stand up straight and sitting causes pain aswell Submitted November 08, 2021 at 11:24PM Hey everyone, I'm looking for advice and guidance on positions that won't flare up and cause pain while I'm doin the deed. I have a fai cam hip impingement with labral tear in my hip, I have osterarthritis, buldged disc both in my lumbar and I have a pinched nerve due to buldged disc affecting my sciatica

M27 I masturbate multiple times a day now and kinda worried

I know that masturbation is a healthy release and there is no harm in doing it more than once in a day. But where I am worried is that I am just doing it because I am bored and at home a lot, I feel like it just doesn't hit the spot like it used to and its almost a routine. Sometimes I am not even horny but then my mind drifts to something horny and next thing I know I am back at it again. Most I have done is 3 a day but its normally once a day on average and it has never interrupted my life, I still attend college, work and maintain healthy relationships. Submitted November 08, 2021 at 11:27PM I know that masturbation is a healthy release and there is no harm in doing it more than once in a day.But where I am worried is that I am just doing it because I am bored and at home a lot, I feel like it just doesn't hit the spot like it used to and its almost a routine. Sometimes I am not even horny but then my mind drifts to something horny and next thing I know I am back at