A little background: I (16F) immigrated to a European country at the beginning of summer 2018 with my mom and my dad. My brother (18M) stayed in North America to study at university. My mom was heartbroken over leaving my brother behind and took it very badly. She did not want to move in the first place (my dad is in oil so we didn't have much of a choice) and fought it every step of the way. After a couple of months, my mom moved back to North America, leaving my dad and me here in Europe. She thought I was going to move back at the end of the school year last year, but I didn't (which is a whole other issue). So it's been 10 months of my parents living in different continents, 10 months of just my dad and I living together. My brother and I both figured it'd happen. We've talked about it, joked about it, and accepted it. So when my parents told me last week that they were officially getting a divorce, it didn't surprise me. What's messing me up now is ...

I think my friends lied to me today and don’t really like me i feel like my friends don’t actually like me today we went out for my friends 16th birthday, it was me, my friend M and my friend L it was Ms birthday. It started out fine and happy. The first strange thing to as in the car and M and L were texting in their phones and not talking out loud which i thought was odd but didn’t think about it after. For the first couple minutes at the mall nobody really knew what to do so we wandered around and eventually we fell ‘into a groove’ like it felt normal halfway through M started to get quiet and didn’t talk and was on his phone a lot and asked what was wrong but he wouldn’t tell he asked if i really wanted to go home, i shrugged and said it was up to him if he wanted me to go home for not because i didn’t think he wanted to hang out anymore also when we left the mall he pulled L over to the side and whispered something in her ear when it was time to go home he sent a post in o...

Sometimes I wonder if me and my partner are too different from each other. We have a lot of clashing views and opinions in regards to religious views, even though we’re both Christian, politics, best places to live, how people (even me) should express myself.... just how we see the world, is different between us. A lot of his opinions honestly anger me, hurt me, or just piss me off. But I’m young (20) and so is he (20). I don’t know if this is normal, or if we actually are just too different from each other. I always hear the phrase “opposites attract” as a true and positive thing But im not sure if I like it. And im not sure if i’m wrong for wanting someone a little more similar to me. And if not similar, then more accepting of our differing opinions. Is it wrong to want someone slightly similar to you? Normally, I don’t mind people with other views But a lot of his viewpoints are of the few things that I oppose We have discussion about these things a lot but instead of bri...

Hey guys, I've wanted to do this for a while, but never found the words so sorry if this post is long! I'm 24f with no friends or family. My family was abusive growing up (beating, stabbing, mental torture: heavy shit) and I've had to work and study non-stop to support myself and escape them which has left me with absolutely no real social connections even though I'm fairly active in college. Building relationships with others has been hard because I yearn for a deep connection and physical bonding that seems to come easily when dating someone with good chemistry. I want someone to care about me back. Romance is like a temporary sedative- then it wears off. ALL of my relationships have ended because my guy was into another girl. The last guy just ghosted me twice- once for dating and once for friendship. For a while I suspected I was being too needy, too nice, too chill (or whatever), in my romantic relationships, so I ask and they always assure me that there's n...

throwaway account. Okay so... TL;DR: I’m half Pakistani and half Middle Eastern. When I was younger I became embarrassed of being half Pakistani so told everyone I am fully Middle Eastern and nobody in my life knows other than my family. I met my boyfriend 2 years ago and due to being a secret ex-muslim my family do not know about my boyfriend and have never met him. I have no other secrets from him other than he thinks both sides of my family are Middle Eastern. It’s been 2 years and now I’m too scared to tell him. I live in the UK and I am half Pakistani and half (for anonymity purposes I will just say a Middle Eastern country). Throughout my childhood I was always called “paki” and other names for being half Pakistani however never seemed to receive any backlash for my other half. When I got to about 12/13 I started to become very embarrassed about being half Pakistani because of the negative stereotypes about it and racial comments, and made a decision to just start telling ev...

Disclaimer: Not looking for false hope or negativity. But if you’ve gotten back with your ex then great. Just looking for people to relate to my situation. My [21M] and my ex [21F] of 4 years (broken up for 2 months) broke up semi-amicably for mental health reasons. We both go to the same university. She’s bipolar and I’ve been very depressed for the past 10 months, for which I’m taking a semester off of school to focus on. Her bipolar is pretty minimal but has caused her to make some impulsive decisions in the past regarding her job, school, etc. that I usually try my best to walk her back from and reason things out with her to which she is very accepting of and appreciates my help every time since she’s aware of her mind state. I’ve been severely depressed for about 10 months now and am currently getting treatment so I can return to school next semester. However, during our relationship I was projecting my depression into her passively just by being bland, gray, and just not fun o...

This is a throwaway. You can call me John. I am single, and have been for a long time. No sex, no dates, and no relationships in the last seven years or so. However, I went to my parents' home country last year and met a distant relative (3rd cousin or something) Pam and we hit it off very, very well right off the bat. She [30F] and I saw a lot of things the same way and found the other person interesting and attractive. We started snapchatting and video calling and last month she told me she really wished we could be together. My first reaction was happiness, but immediately I considered potential issues. First, while she and I are distantly related that no law on earth would actually have an issue with us being in a relationship, our conservative families would certainly care and reject it, and we both sincerely care about remaining good with our family. Second, she and I live in different hemispheres and timezones and neither one of us is looking like we will be able to move ...

My girlfriend and I met about six years ago while I was starting my career and she was in graduate school. Our relationship was great. Major milestones included moving in together and later moving across the country together to a new city where she began her career. About a year ago I decided that I was ready to head back to school myself. I did the application rigmarole and this past spring ended up accepting an offer at a school on the opposite coast. This led to some major relationship questioning for both of us. She had a great job in our previous home city and a large friend network. I loved our life there too but was ready for a change. After contemplating between doing long distance, a break, or moving together we ultimately decided to do the latter. We arrived here about two months ago. I've started school and she recently started a job in her field. About two weeks ago she confessed that she had had an emotional and physical affair lasting about three months over the pas...

Ex and her friends are calling me a bad person Hello, i’ve recently been through a break up past few weeks, note i just turned 18, i’ve realized that i’m every young with so many things i want to do and focus on like school and what’s to come after that, the relationship was good both treated good and all my love was pure and genuine, even after the break up i still care and try t be there for her but she keeps trying to antagonize me to date again one day, i said that i can’t be in a relationship now or near future since there are so many things i want to to i also did say i want to talk to her and hang out with her but she’s oblivious to the fact i cannot be in a relationship and calls me a bad person or says she hates me and continues to say harsh things, i’ve tried to handle things as nicely as possible and be as mature as i can possibly be, but she just try’s to guilt trip me and make me feel bad for having my own decisions TL;DR am i a bad person Submitted October 13, 2019 ...

I will be alone this Christmas. I cut contact with my mother this year because it was always toxic and abusive and getting too much to handle finally. Up to now I had always come 'home' to her for Christmas which was difficult in other ways but at least I got some of that family Christmas stuff. I have no other family I could go to, the contact to the rest is cordial but uninterested at best. I do have friends, but they will all be with their own family. I know it's not really the end of the world, but I do like Christmas normally and always loved celebrating it even when it wasn't perfect, and the thought of just sitting at home alone during those days is a bit depressing. I'm thinking of maybe going on vacation, though ultimately I'd still be 'alone' but it could take my mind off stuff. Any other tips, also on how to deal with it emotionally I guess? tl,dr: I will spend Christmas alone for the first time due to having no remaining family or peopl...

Hi, all. I have been very close friends to this girl for almost 8 years now. We met entering college and clicked – having the same tastes in music, comedy, fashion and generally being very easy to talk to one another. We used to do everything together during college, even when I got a boyfriend (who's with me for about 6 years now) we remained very close and I didn't drift apart from her (or any other friends) because I was in a relationship. I really loved being around her, she's someone I really care about and that has gone through some awesome moments of my life with me and some difficult moments too. But I always felt very diminished around her. It wasn't something that she actively did to me, but it was how she always acted as the more "laid-back" (cool) friend and I was the uptight, mom-type. I also felt diminished as she usually wouldn't exactly put an effort to see me, we saw each other often when it was convenient but it was always when going t...

My boyfriend (29M) and I (26F) have been together for a year and have recently moved in together. Before our relationship, we were each single for an extended period of time. This is my first serious relationship, his second. Sex for me has never been easy. It's more of an anxiety thing, I think? To be frank, sex scares me - the thought of becoming pregnant and/or ill with an STI is enough to shrivel my insides. Every guy I've previously dated did not want to wait, which I can understand, as sex for some is an incredibly important part of a relationship. Some were kind and open about it. Others were not. My current boyfriend, 'C utie ' we'll dub him, was so AMAZING ! In the beginning, he expressed his understanding and patience when I didn't want to have sex. He never forced me to do anything I was not comfortable with. About four/five months in, I told him that I thought I was greysexual. He struggled a bit with it, but I assured Cutie that I am super attract...

I thought the bracelet said "100% memes" for a second October 14, 2019 at 12:08AM

If we’re going to stay together You might want to reconsider if you should . It doesn't sound like this is working at all . October 14, 2019 at 12:06AM

Also, lifting weights to offload stress October 14, 2019 at 12:06AM

This flag is so pretty, a really nice colour palette tbh October 14, 2019 at 12:04AM

Kay, y'all, but, like, Dysprosium is cool, this comment is completely irrelevant, but you can fight me October 14, 2019 at 12:02AM

My husband and I recently got married. Maybe consider gettting an annulment. AFAIK in most jurisdictions you can get an annulment instead of divorce if it was recent enough. October 14, 2019 at 12:01AM

same. October 13, 2019 at 11:59PM

I use simply lgbt, but with the implications of the + because I'm too lazy to type it, but if you started having a conversation with me about it, it would be pretty obvious that the plus is implied October 13, 2019 at 11:57PM

Damn, this cat looks so much like my cat Are you my mom? Wait, what am I asking... October 13, 2019 at 11:55PM

I wonder where this bullshit comes from. October 13, 2019 at 11:55PM