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My partner often expresses their love physically, and though I sometimes struggle to relate to it I'll always appreciate their affection, be it through hugs or cuddles or sex July 10, 2019 at 12:10AM

Not that I'm judging at all, but don't think I'll ever understand "asexuals" having sex... July 10, 2019 at 12:07AM

I think it sounds like you’re getting to know yourself pretty well. I was very much the same, didn’t care for dating, never was attracted to people, did not understand going to movies just to watch it for the “hot” actor or actress... Conveniently, hormones hit me real good and despite being asexual I’m also hypersexual Demi-sex-having (?) and so if I got close enough to anyone I was down for anything. These titles didn’t exist then and I just called myself eccentric. Just roll with it, just laugh at others jokes, tell them you’re not interested if you’re not, roll your eyes at things that don’t make sense to you, you don’t owe anyone any title. If it makes you feel better- consider it true, park it in your brain, and come back to it for reassessment later. Well done being so self aware and thoughtful. Go you, have a good week. July 10, 2019 at 12:04AM

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I’m Canadian and both my parents are of Indian background. I’ve been seeing this girl who came to Canda from Latin America to study. We’ve been dating for about 3 months. Last week she brought up the fact that a lot of her classmates are international students from India and that their culture and behaviour was a bit of a shock to her. She mentioned that she’s apprehensive of taking things further because she’s afraid my family would be a similar strict culture and social setting. Honestly I was a little shocked because she doesn’t know my family at all and I felt bad being generalized based on her experiences with a select group of people. I did explain to her that, while I do have a Indian background, I know that my parents who’ve lived here since they were kids have a very open mindset and cultural outlook. That doesn’t seem to have convinced her and I’m struggling with if I should even pursue this since she doesn’t seem to be willing to look at this with an open mind. What ...

This is just a confounding question about a thing I overheard an acquaintance of mine say, "When men look at girls, they try to figure out what ethnicity they would look best in." I'm so confused and flabbergasted at what the man said. If it is true, then please explain it because I am terribly confused. Submitted July 09, 2019 at 11:32PM This is just a confounding question about a thing I overheard an acquaintance of mine say, "When men look at girls, they try to figure out what ethnicity they would look best in." I'm so confused and flabbergasted at what the man said. If it is true, then please explain it because I am terribly confused.

So a couple days ago I (25M) decided to spontaneously message a girl (27F) that I'm friends with on Facebook. I met her about 9 years ago, and we know a lot of the same people, but we haven't really talked much at all except for the first time we met all those years ago. I'm kind of in a weird spot, relatively fresh out of a breakup, and looking for new people to spend time with so I just decided to hit her up and see what happens. We texted back and forth a few times and then I asked her if she wanted to do something later this week. She said yes. The thing is, I've never really been on a date before. Or whatever this is. I was in an 8 1/2 year relationship prior to this that started when I was 17 and I didn't have a car or a job then. We never really "dated" because we had been talking for like 2 months before we actually met and we were pretty much already a couple when we did first meet. So I'm completely in the dark here. As for this new girl, ...

Tell me me why you like being her/his man. Submitted July 09, 2019 at 11:35PM Tell me me why you like being her/his man.

I know exactly what boys like. They like girls who don't give a shit about them. The less attention I give a guy, the more persistently they pursue me. The thing is, I dont like to play games. If Im not giving a guy attention its because I genuinely am not interested. When I am interested, I try to wear my heart on my sleeves and be as honest and open as possible. And as a result, i cant date the same guy for more than a month. Boys: do you think its time for me to start being mean to guys i like? Since clearly thats the only thing that works in my 28 years of experience. Submitted July 09, 2019 at 11:45PM I know exactly what boys like. They like girls who don't give a shit about them. The less attention I give a guy, the more persistently they pursue me. The thing is, I dont like to play games. If Im not giving a guy attention its because I genuinely am not interested. When I am interested, I try to wear my heart on my sleeves and be as honest and open as possible. And ...

Some background: Me and my girlfriend had been dating for almost a year in a long distance relationship as we live several states apart. At least once every two months one of us would drive to spend time with each other. I spent alot of time overseas so I'm used to keeping in touch with people, long distance relationships have never neen an issue for me. We originally broke up in December because I was incredibly depressed between school and my social life. I felt like I couldn't be there for her in the way that her as a girlfriend deserved. It was also hard for me to admit to her and myself that I didn't feel like I loved her as strongly as I did before. I ended up dropping out of school during Christmas break and taking a gap semester. Fast forward, six months and I still can't forget how good our relationship was. She was the sweetest, funniest, prettiest girl I have ever been with. If I was 100% certain the problems that we had before would go away I would contac...

This person has offered to hire me as his personal wingwoman and in return he will pay for my drinks on night outs and I’d really like to help him out. But to be blunt, he is not attractive at all. He is from nepal but speaks fluent English, 38 years old , 5’8” , body type - slim and no he isn’t rich. I took him out last weekend but he has really high standards, he goes for girls that are worthy of being Instagram influencers. He has no shot at them , I don’t know how to express that. I have suggested him that next time we go to a less fancy bar/club. He agreed. This time he wants a one night stand. Any tips for me how I can help him? Submitted July 09, 2019 at 11:56PM This person has offered to hire me as his personal wingwoman and in return he will pay for my drinks on night outs and I’d really like to help him out. But to be blunt, he is not attractive at all. He is from nepal but speaks fluent English, 38 years old , 5’8” , body type - slim and no he isn’t rich. I took him o...

So about 2-3 years ago I (24M) met this girl (24F) on a dating app. Things were pretty promising, we went on quite a few dates, had sex on a number of occasions, and spent nights at each other's houses. After a couple months of this we talked and she said she was really starting to develop feelings for me and wanted a serious relationship. I've never been in any serious long term relationship before and at the time I didn't feel ready for any kind of commitment. Nothing wrong with her, I just didn't feel ready. When I told her that she was obviously frustrated and we just kinda drifted. After about 8-10 months of not talking she sent me a long text out of the blue one day apologising for putting pressure on me and saying that she'd love to meet up again if I wanted to. I responded politely but kind of blew off the invite to meet up again and that was that. That was about a year ago. We haven't talked since then, but recently I've found myself thinking abo...

Let me give some background to help explain my problem: I am a M20 who has been dating since he was about 15. Shortly before that I had no interest in relationships or sex at all, I was very solitary aside from one or two friends, and people I engaged with for work (illegal/criminal activity). I had also undergone a lot of emotional/psychological, physical and sexual trauma before this, essentially as far back I can remember to around 17-18 years old. My whole life and even before (considering mental illness runs heavily throughout my family) had essentially led me to the diagnoses of ASPD and NPD (and inattentive ADD, but it’s hard to determine whether your boredom and inability to focus is based off your shallow affect and general disregard or that you just can’t focus; they compliment each other negatively). The diagnoses don’t matter as much as the actual symptoms however. This essentially means that relationships will always be different for me than many people, and I don’t reall...

Im trying to figure out what the best app is if you want an actual relationship if you are around 20 years old. Tinder and bumble are much more hookup oriented in my unprofessional opinion. Submitted July 10, 2019 at 12:06AM Im trying to figure out what the best app is if you want an actual relationship if you are around 20 years old. Tinder and bumble are much more hookup oriented in my unprofessional opinion.

Over the last 6 months I have lost 50 lbs, stopped drinking, and have made an effort to learn more, exercise, get new hobbies, and be an overall kinder person. I’m now somewhat muscular, and from everyone I know “handsome”. I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong. I’m always genuine, I’m not looking for sex. I just have no luck. Most of my efforts are confined to the online dating world, but I can’t seem to catch a break. All of the people who are interested in me just don’t appeal to me. It’s honestly putting a damper on my mood. If anyone has advice or tips it would be appreciated. Are my standards too high? I need to figure this out, because I’m too old to have gone this long without a meaningful relationship or connection. Submitted July 10, 2019 at 12:08AM Over the last 6 months I have lost 50 lbs, stopped drinking, and have made an effort to learn more, exercise, get new hobbies, and be an overall kinder person. I’m now somewhat muscular, and from everyone I know “han...