OK, so im laughing at all the 'asexuals with claim anything with 2 or more of their colors' memes, but we seriously will lol July 28, 2020 at 11:50PM

You should probs quit while you're ahead because you're only proving my point haha. By saying my last comment was "alloarophobic" you proved my entire point because I was using a hypothetical analogy to explain why your previous comments were wrong and exclusionary. My entire point was that you ARE welcome by our standards you absolute spoon. Don't embarrass yourself further pls 🥴 Edit: to reply to your edit. My logic is literally the opposite. You're the one saying het aces and het aros are fully het and thus unwelcome in the LGBT+ community. I'm saying that both sexual and romantic attractions are significant individually and therefore being A MINORITY IN ONE OF THEM IS ENOUGH TO MAKE YOU LGBT how many times do I have to repeat myself. July 28, 2020 at 11:42PM

I know this was sarcastic, but it also perfectly describes my actual experience with chocolate. July 28, 2020 at 11:41PM

Sadly a lot of people don’t want to recognize asexuals, as they honestly don’t feel they are valid. Also, personally I would consider asexuals as part of the greater LGBTQ community. July 28, 2020 at 11:40PM

Its very dumb logic so yes July 28, 2020 at 11:39PM

So by their logic if a bisexual man dates a woman, that man is now straight? July 28, 2020 at 11:39PM

Link to the book. July 28, 2020 at 11:38PM

U just had to go and do it. July 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

I just assume asexuals look like garlic bread. Or cake. July 28, 2020 at 11:37PM

It's because you're very confusing with this logic. Het aces and het aros are then fully straight. Mean those who are cis are then cishet. Some allosexuals with ace partners are here anyway to learn about Asexuality so I don't think it matters whether or not you think I'm in the 'ace community' (which is an alloarophobic term). July 28, 2020 at 11:36PM

aroace, trans, and childfree. it's literally only here to torment me July 28, 2020 at 11:34PM

Honestly what scares me so much is coming out as ace and then the first thing people go to is "oh ok but you're not LGBT". Like fine, I'm not LGBT, but why is that the first thing to say instead of trying to validate my identity?¿?¿? July 28, 2020 at 11:32PM

Good on you tbh. Im now ingaged in conversation and in the wise words of ben the cow, "i wont back down" July 28, 2020 at 11:31PM

Honestly yeah it's so tiring seeing endless aphobia posts. Like surely this is the community we can go to when we're tired of seeing aphobia from everywhere else. Like this should be our safe zone haha. July 28, 2020 at 11:31PM

At least it's pronounceable July 28, 2020 at 11:30PM

Yeah, I blocked them. It’s a troll account July 28, 2020 at 11:29PM

You're completely missing the point here. You're fully bisexual, fully aromantic. They're separate things and being a minority in either one (IE. not being heteroromantic AND heterosexual) then you're included in LGBT+. Idk why I've had to repeat this three times now in varying ways. By your logic you shouldn't be in this sub because you're not asexual, but by OUR logic you're part of the community bc you're aromantic. July 28, 2020 at 11:28PM

They’re just upset because they know that despite being ace we have a higher chance of getting laid July 28, 2020 at 11:28PM

Q: for those in happy marriages, did you ever ask for space or time to think while in a relationship with your now spouse? Background: I (33F) am in a year long relationship with him (33M) We had our first fight where we were going around in circles last week. We must’ve spoken for about 2 hours before he said he needs space. I can’t even fully summarize what the fight was about. Part of it was him thinking that I ThINK he’s not a good guy because he’s cheated in a past relationship however I don’t think he’s a bad guy. I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater and he gave me so many details I actually don’t think it’s a red flag. However I think a lot of my past insecurities came through and I said something stupid like “I’m scared you’re going to leave me if I gain weight or if I ever fall sick”. I now realize this is coming from my abandonment issues Anyways I’m giving him his space. He has messaged me one msg per day since just to say “hi and that he hopes I’m having a go...

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So I had a pretty turbulant 2 month romp with a girl I started dating in January. We stopped meeting up to have sex at the end of March and got into petty little fights. I saw her for the first time yesterday in 4 months. I like her as a person, I don't hate her. BUT! She did disrespect me many times in those short 2 months. So there is a tiny streak in me that HATES what makes her tick and just some of her behavior. So anyway, we have sex and I climax in like a minute and it was just more powerful than ever ( I wore a condom) I normally would have slowed down but I didnt care if she enjoyed it ( I went down on her first - Im not an a-hole I swear.) I didnt even know this was a thing! How normal is it? Like the average reader - Have you had and enjoyed hate-sex? What is it about this that was so appealing? Do I tell her next time and let her in on it? Submitted July 28, 2020 at 11:34PM So I had a pretty turbulant 2 month romp with a girl I started dating in January. We s...

A couple years ago I got involved with a man who is 10+ years older than me. It was a complex relationship, but now that I'm about a month out, there are a few things my ex said to me that are haunting me that I'm curious to know what others' thoughts are on. I always had a strange gut feeling about things, but didn't listen to it. I can't say I ever really trusted him. Anyway, a couple months into the relationship I went to quickly drop something off at his house, and there was a car outside. I didn't go in or anything, I just drove away and texted him later to say sorry I missed him. He claimed he was helping a friend with their phone. I let it go. About a month later I tried to surprise him and show up at one of his club hockey games (I had been several times before and had the schedule). About 15 minutes in, a woman came walking in. As soon as he saw both of us, he left. When he came out, he breezed past me, and the other woman followed him out. He came ba...

Hey all, apologies if this has been asked and answered - I have looked and couldn't see anything. I appreciate this is a completely hypocritical questions, but, how are people that are taking COVID seriously managing dating? I came out of a relationship in Jan and have been ready to get back out there for a couple of months, however I was of the opinion that dating during COVID is craziness. In view of "during COVID" potentially being for another year or so I am now contemplating getting back out there, but I havent resolved how to do that given those dating are probably those not doing the right thing around social distancing which puts my vulnerable parents at risk. So I guess, of those of you who are legitimately taking COVID seriously (e.g., avoiding public transport, not going to shops, limiting social contact, not eating out or going to events etc), if you are actively dating, how are you going about it? Also, do you put anything in your profile about social di...