I'm an astronomer by hobby so... December 26, 2020 at 11:56PM

thanks love December 26, 2020 at 11:55PM

Oh I definitely do, and I think it’s cause to me sex itself feels like a joke, so making a joke about it makes sense to me. I mean people don’t ACTUALLY suck each other...right? Right?!?!? /j December 26, 2020 at 11:49PM

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To your question, "tbh I haven't seen dating presented as such, is that something told to males?" For me as a cis male, when I was younger and in the stranglehold of puberty, sex was a unending drive a need stronger than hunger. I understand how some species starve looking for a mate. I'm older now and have slowed down a little (I only think about sex a few times a day). Testosterone is a powerful hormone. Men have started wars, built palaces and cathedrals for the love of a woman. I'm not saying anything is better than the other, I was just born this way. December 26, 2020 at 11:48PM

I don't know about birth control and everything, but it's good to remember that those organs there are related to your hormones. So the consequences are bodywide. Although I am not versed on whatever consequences there may be. Fun fact: women also have testosterone. Hormone balance is complicated. December 26, 2020 at 11:46PM

Corpse’s music is incredible!!!! I love the way it sounds and flows, even if it is pretty explicit. I also tend to like songs more if I like the artist as a person, and corpse is just genuinely a nice person. He’s gone through shit but still sees the good in people and treats them with respect, and that’s just so moving December 26, 2020 at 11:46PM

Hmm, I mean yea sometimes I feel stuff like that, and for the record I'm definitely not aro, but the idea of being attracted to someone's body just feels weird. And even assuming the attraction bit is all there for me (and I'm pretty sure it isn't), I still wouldn't be comfortable with doing that kindsa stuff to anyone or having it done to me, or maybe only after being with them for a really long time. I guess I wish I figured that out sooner, but ey now I get "free" mental health therapy through my university since technically I guess being ace makes me a part of LGBTQ. I'm kinda new to this whole thing, since I never really had to think about it much until something gross happened a few months ago, but I'm mostly okay now. Anyway, all of your feelings on this are valid, and I hope y'all get to feeling okay. December 26, 2020 at 11:43PM

That looks AWESOME you have some real skills and some real pretty yarn December 26, 2020 at 11:43PM

I came out to my friend as gay two months ago and he said he thought I was asexual. That made me think about it because I did not know anything about ace/aro and how I would identify. Now, I think I'm aro/ace, but I find guys attractive and I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone. So I really don't know what I am. December 26, 2020 at 11:42PM

My mother just bought me my first set for Christmas too and I'm so excited to learn from her this next week! So exciting! That looks really good by the way! <3 December 26, 2020 at 11:41PM

Where asexuality and low libido cross is pretty confusing. A person can be ace but be sex positive and have a high libido. They may along great with allosexual partners b/c they like and enjoy sex. Whereas a person may be allosexual but have a low libido and not get along great with another allosexual partner b/c of the mismatch of libido. I do think being asexual and not liking or wanting sex is very common. People here like to point out that it's not the definition of asexuality. But it is a concomitant factor for a lot of asexuals. So you may not be able to split the hair completely accurately between whether your relationship might suffer from you being asexual, or might suffer from you having a low libido. I would recommend telling her exactly this. That you are really comfortable and happy not having sex for long periods of time. You feel aesthetic and romantic attraction to her (if you do) but are not sure if you experience sexual attraction. And you are not sure what ...

Nice! December 26, 2020 at 11:38PM

I get that, for people that aren’t aromantic, asexual or both, the concepts of sex and romance are intimately intertwined. Makes sense, as for you they co-occur. I’d estimate that the majority of those who are asexual, aromantic or both use the split attraction model to emphasize the difference between- and the separation of sexual and romantic attraction: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Split_Attraction_Model_(SAM) And no worries, ignorance only annoys me when it’s stubborn. December 26, 2020 at 11:37PM

I'm a big metalhead, mostly stick around death metal and melodic death metal but I'll branch out every now and then when i find some bands in other genres I like. Main bands I listen to are The Black Dahlia Murder, Gatecreeper, Venom Prison and not death metal but a personal favourite, Unleadh the Archers December 26, 2020 at 11:36PM

If you figure it out reach me out because I also am interested in the know-how December 26, 2020 at 11:36PM

I feel like I’ve always known. I was aware that I wasn’t into boys in 7th grade and while I told myself I’d probably “get it eventually,” a little piece of me was sure I never would. Sexuality was on my mind 0% of the time (and I went to Catholic school so they talked about it 0% of the time), so I never thought I might be bi or lesbian or any other sexuality cause I didn’t even know they existed. I don’t remember exactly when I found the term “asexual”. I think as I grew outside of my little catholic bubble and got exposure to other LGBTQ+ identities, I heard the word a bit and eventually came across a video with the definition in it and was just like “yeah, that’s me”. I didn’t explore that more until sophomore year of high-school, and that’s when I found out about the spectrum and the difference between romantic and sexual attraction (i then started identifying as aroace). It’s funny that the discovery wasn’t emotional enough for me to actually have any memory of the day I learn...

Feels like my life December 26, 2020 at 11:35PM

Well, you taught me something. I didn't see a distinction between being asexual or aromantic. It's good to learn new things. I hope I didn't make you angry. I just didn't know. For me, sex and romance are interlocked and part of the same thing. I think I can speak for my friends, it's like that for them too. It's intriguing to consider they can be separated. I'm not knocking anyone. As people we learn or we cripple ourselves. December 26, 2020 at 11:33PM

So pretty! Where did you get it? 💜 December 26, 2020 at 11:32PM

Yeah, this is why I’ve started being pretty open about aceness. I’m the ace representative in all my friends’ lives, here to break down misconceptions and answer questions! December 26, 2020 at 11:31PM

Not quite what you're after but my Fiancee is a lesbian and me an asexual (bi-romantic). In a way I was lucky that we were both new to our sexuality (or not in my case) and discovered everything together but the answer really lies in communication. A lot depends on if you are sex repulsed (which you should not feel ashamed of) or not as this can be a reasonable limiting factor. For us, healthy communication, healthy attitudes towards self care and masturbation/sex toys/aids and above all discarding our shyness/ashamedness/embarrassment towards sexual issues so that we can have frank discussions about where each of us is at any stage is important. Honesty is key. I wish you all the best on your journey xx December 26, 2020 at 11:28PM

I never came out to any of my friends or family. I later learned that I was just extremely Demi but still there isn’t really a good reason that I saw for the same reasons you pointed out here December 26, 2020 at 11:27PM