Change it to cookies and we're in business June 14, 2020 at 11:55PM

🤷🏽‍♀️ at this point I’ve became insensitive to ace drama tbh. Still, thank you for the encouragement, it means a lot to know people outside our tiny community care :) June 14, 2020 at 11:52PM

I'm not asexual and for me sensual attraction is an overlap of sexual and romantic attraction, but it's up to you how you define it for yourself. In my experience, sexual attraction involves a lot of the things you mentioned. I think the only difference for me is that kissing, sensual touching, and being physically close with someone I'm attracted to is a turn on because they are generally precursors to sex, so it all functions as foreplay. June 14, 2020 at 11:49PM

SpongeBob is ace and I will die on this hill. June 14, 2020 at 11:48PM

Honestly I thinks kids should just be kids watch cartoons without having characters be whatever sexual orientation as long as there bright colours and koyd noises. Tgeres plenty of time for that when they get older. June 14, 2020 at 11:45PM

By type of porn I mean genre I'm just an idiot. And thanks! June 14, 2020 at 11:43PM

No. Not sure what you mean by type of porn, but porn viewership has nothing to do with asexuality in any case. June 14, 2020 at 11:42PM

I'd read a comic about an Ace person personally defeating the personified 7 sins one by one. June 14, 2020 at 11:40PM

I feel like i won't have sexual desire anymore ....... It makes me frightened and fearful ....... What do u think i should do ?????pls help me with some suggestions June 14, 2020 at 11:38PM

Demi-panromantic... so halfway pan and halfway aro. Or something like that. June 14, 2020 at 11:38PM

People look 100% better when wearing good clothing. A attractive guy looks much better in a nice outfit than he could ever look shirtless. Ditto for girls. I can appreciate how nice people look, and even some hot women’s bodies, but they just look worse when they are naked. June 14, 2020 at 11:35PM

I just got out of an abusive relationship myself where my lack of initiating/enjoying sex was a major subject of contempt. I would literally just have sex with him to try and make him happy, but then he'd get upset and accusatory when he'd notice I wasn't into it because it would make him super insecure and awful. It made me feel like all that mattered was sex. He also had serious control issues. I wouldn't be surprised if he still checks my Reddit account. So if he's reading this, "F*ck you." I'm happier now and re-evaluating what I truly want from my next relationship, and have decided that my next partner needs to be 100% on board with my asexuality, or at least work with me to create a system that works for both of us. There are asexuals who'll have sex with their partners to keep them happy, but I really hope there's more to it than that. I don't quite know how it works, so maybe a fellow ace who is sexually active with their partner...

Well, since assuming this is essentially the same as HOCD, but with asexuality, it seems to be an instance of intrusive thoughts. Therapy is probably your best bet. I could ask what reasons you might have to believe you might become asexual, or reassure you that such a thing is highly improbable, or talk about how being asexual isn't anything to fear - but if this is about intrusive thoughts, I doubt any of that would help. Addressing the problem at the source, rather than treating the symptoms, has a better chance of success. June 14, 2020 at 11:33PM

Thank you. Thankfully my partner is very understanding and is also ace. So he doesn’t necessarily want more. It’s just the introduction lately of more sensual passionate stuff is confusing my brain. June 14, 2020 at 11:33PM

That's what I think lol I love spongebob. June 14, 2020 at 11:32PM

Well hopefully you have a supportive partner that wont pressure you to rush into any sort of label. I agree with the other reply that there isnt a rush. The ace spectrum is quite vast and diverse so maybe a little more research and time can make you feel more secure in your sexual identity. Though it is a relief to figure out where you fit in, taking your time and being confident in, and honest about what you feeling, can set you on the path to figuring this all out June 14, 2020 at 11:30PM

From what I understand, HOCD is a form of pure O OCD, where you have intrusive thoughts where you question your own thoughts and desires, and are afraid of losing control over your actions. I (think I) dealt with that for a while when I was younger, although it was never officially diagnosed. I was scared I was subconsciously a murderous psychopath, or a pedophile, etc. For me, it was a direct result of my fear of going insane, since I was dealing with pretty intense dissociation and anxiety at the time and I felt completely out of control. I calmed down a bit when I found out other people were dealing with this, and psychopaths and pedophiles generally don't worry about being a psychopath or a pedophile. And when I stopped worrying about it, the intrusive thoughts became less persistent. They became just weird thoughts I had in passing, like everyone has. I don't know if this information is any help to you, but either way, if you often find yourself consumed by obsessions an...

The weakest, perhaps. She is neither the most evil of the bunch, nor the worst character. June 14, 2020 at 11:29PM

I commented on a post calling it out, and someone said "but you can be ace and gay." Yeah, you can, but the point is they totally left out the fact that SB is canonically ace. June 14, 2020 at 11:28PM

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This happened earlier today. My husband and I were sitting in the yard with our dog and one of his buddies calls. He answers and they shoot the shit a sec. His buddy then asks about our nearly over custody battle and my husband fills him in. Terrible stuff. His friend says man it's been long and crazy man IDK how you've done it. My husband then says "Man, (my name) is the only reason I made it thru. She stayed on me, stayed with me and kept her foot in my ass. I'm so grateful." Phone buddy then says "hell yeah man, you found one to hold you down, we all out here looking for what y'all have!" Excessive blushing by this point. I appreciate that my husband truly does appreciate what I've helped him do. It's his child we're fighting for and even with no lawyer at a point, no gas money some days, we made it thru two years of social services and court. He fought like hell because he loves her enough to go forth and fight for her, how could I ...

Have any of you done this? What was your experience? I (34F) ask because I matched with an MD (39M) but I am working class & a little above the poverty line. We've been chatting and he seems cool. Has 3 kids but doesn't want anymore. Has a vasectomy (MAJOR plus in my book!). Potentially dating someone from such a different tax bracket, especially higher, sounds intimidating to be honest. I know it wouldn't hurt to meet someone who is a doctor or attorney but actually dating sounds a bit unnerving. Can anyone else relate? Submitted June 14, 2020 at 11:51PM Have any of you done this? What was your experience?I (34F) ask because I matched with an MD (39M) but I am working class & a little above the poverty line. We've been chatting and he seems cool. Has 3 kids but doesn't want anymore. Has a vasectomy (MAJOR plus in my book!). Potentially dating someone from such a different tax bracket, especially higher, sounds intimidating to be honest. I know it ...