So I’m pretty sure this girl (named T) likes me. There are many things to support that and a few major clues to deny that. Let’s take a tour, shall we. We are 15 The positives -She has told me she loves me -She has called me a snack and a full course meal She will touch her hair around me -we are besties on snapchat (nvm I just lost it) -A year ago her friend said she likes me -Her Favorite time to talk is at midnight -She glances over at me during school and once even took a double turn to look at me -She smiles around me a lot -She laughs at all my jokes even things that aren’t remotely funny -She sends snaps with kissy faces -She has sent a bra pic -She sends a lot of pics of her in her undershirt -She definitely tries to look good in her selfies -One time she had me pick her nail color -She never has said she likes another boy -She usually will want to continue snapping me even after our conversation died out, but not always -She took a post shower towel snap ...

With the way how dating sites have profiles to get to know them almost without dating, would you say love at first sight is more common in today's world? I mean on Tinder, all you have to do is swipe to like them. Submitted May 19, 2019 at 10:42PM With the way how dating sites have profiles to get to know them almost without dating, would you say love at first sight is more common in today's world? I mean on Tinder, all you have to do is swipe to like them.

I went on my first date since 2012 last night. I'm chronically single since 2009 and super desperate. I had a lot in common with this girl, and we had very deep and genuine conversation and just clicked in so many ways. It was originally just suppose to be a coffee date, but we ended up going for a walk in the park, and then getting dinner at a fancy restaurant. Then she came to my place and we continued our deep conversations and we did end up having sex. I never thought I would have sex on a first date, especially since it was my first time since 2009. Our connection just seemed so deep and it happened. Fast forward to today, I text her and say I want to see her again tonight. She just casually mentions that she needs to find a babysitter. I have not texted her since and am just thinking WTF. She did not answer the do you have children on her OkCupid profile, but I think she should have mentioned during our conversations, especially given the deep nature of them. I also answere...

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 10 months now. She’s 18 and I’m 19. In the beginning she did lots of cheating and sent nudes to dozens of guys behind my back. For the past few months things have been going very smoothly but there are a few things that bother me and she doesn’t care no matter how much I talk to her about it. 1. She’s obsessed with boy bands. It’s annoying. I know she’d drop me for Harry styles or some other dude like that. 2. When I tried to distance myself from her she threatened me with suicide and her mother was threatening me and made me into a monster to half her family. 3. And most importantly. She’s a very chunky girl which I don’t mind. There’s nothing wrong with being big. But her mother is over 400 pounds and she eats so much junk food, I’m worried she’ll get up there and I’ll have to take care of her just like her mothers husband does. I’ve talked to her about how much sugar she puts in cereal and tea and how much junk she eats and she doesn’t care. I...

I dated someone and we broke up in September. That was enough for me, I forgot what it was like to have your heartbroken. I went through the motions and then a few months ago, I felt this feeling I haven't had in a long time. My walls went up and i became completely indifferent to the idea of dating and finding someone else. I went on a few dates thinking maybe I just needed to go on some to get excited about meeting new people and moving on. ​ It didn't work. I couldn't describe the feeling until someone told me you are emotionally unavailable. I have no desire to date, to be with anyone, to try to be with anyone, etc. I think its a combination of frustration and heartbreak. I'm not sure if this is a phase and what will happen. Sometimes me and this guy we still talk, just as friends because it can't workout at the moment. I will say I'm over it. I think I'm just done with trying to be with anyone like I wouldn't mind being by myself the rest of my l...

A cashier (F) & I have a Subconscious crush for one another. What’s the best way to break the ice? We’ve been eye-balling each other for about a year. I have a serious crush on her & I sense she a serious crush on me as well. Any advice? footnote We kept walking into each other through the store. May be by chance and/or coincidence. I may never know. Although, I had subconscious feeling that she was eye-balling me without me knowing. Submitted May 19, 2019 at 11:16PM A cashier (F) & I have a Subconscious crush for one another. What’s the best way to break the ice? We’ve been eye-balling each other for about a year.I have a serious crush on her & I sense she a serious crush on me as well. Any advice?footnote We kept walking into each other through the store. May be by chance and/or coincidence. I may never know. Although, I had subconscious feeling that she was eye-balling me without me knowing.

I'm in my 30s, was in a 10 year relationship. Have gone on Tinder dates in the past year while I was single. Most of those seem to be just hookups. I have a girl coming over tonight for the Game of Thrones finally. I really like her. I'm supposed to order food via Postmates for the night. What do I do? Something fancy that she may not like, something predictable like American food that she will like? Submitted May 19, 2019 at 11:24PM I'm in my 30s, was in a 10 year relationship. Have gone on Tinder dates in the past year while I was single. Most of those seem to be just hookups. I have a girl coming over tonight for the Game of Thrones finally. I really like her. I'm supposed to order food via Postmates for the night. What do I do? Something fancy that she may not like, something predictable like American food that she will like?

Assuming both parties are heterosexual, can men and women have a completely platonic friendship? Curious on your personal experiences with this, especially from the male perspective. Edit: specifically, after a first date where you get along but are not attracted to one another. Submitted May 19, 2019 at 11:26PM Assuming both parties are heterosexual, can men and women have a completely platonic friendship? Curious on your personal experiences with this, especially from the male perspective.Edit: specifically, after a first date where you get along but are not attracted to one another.

Hi guys, sorry for any kind of formating mistakes, I'm typing this from my phone. Before anyone jumps into the "don't date a co-worker" advice, I'd like to let you know that this is a temporary part time job and I'm not willing to do it for a long time neither does it contribute in any way to my future career path. So it doesn't matter and this advice won't be of any use. With that said. I'm a 27F who've never really been in a relationship. I tried online dating for a while, went on few dates with few people, didn't work out for me, dropped it. I'd like to say also that I suck at flirting! I just finished my studies, and while job hunting, I decided to take a part time job to get some money, occupy my time a little bit and also meet and socialize a little bit with new people. The job is in a diner. I mainly make desserts. It has nothing to do with the field of my degree, but I find it fun. I've been working there for a month ...

I have a crush on this girl. And she only replied to my texts when she needs something from me and it’s pretty annoying and is making me lose respect for her as a person. What should I do? Completely cut her off and block her from social media? Or just ignore her and pretend nothing ever happened? Just today I replied to her Instagram story and she read it but never replied. I’m not ruling out that she’s busy, but it seems to me I’m consistently a second class person to her. Submitted May 20, 2019 at 12:16AM I have a crush on this girl. And she only replied to my texts when she needs something from me and it’s pretty annoying and is making me lose respect for her as a person. What should I do? Completely cut her off and block her from social media? Or just ignore her and pretend nothing ever happened? Just today I replied to her Instagram story and she read it but never replied. I’m not ruling out that she’s busy, but it seems to me I’m consistently a second class person to her....

My name is Ben. I'm a 30 year old male living in Tuscaloosa, AL. I graduated from college this past December from the University of Alabama, and am working full-time. I've have been wanting to date someone for a while, but I have been struggling with this. I've tried online dating, but I don't like it because a lot of people don't respond to my messages and I can't communicate with them as efficiently. Does anyone has any suggestions on where I could be around a lot of women or socialize with a bunch of people in a natural social environment? I'd strongly prefer not doing online dating. Joining a social group or social activity is ideal, but I'm also open to going to a convention, a conference, or a social event where's there a bunch of women. I'm okay with traveling to Atlanta some weekends, or going out of town. Looking for a social group in Tuscaloosa, social events or places out of town, where I can be around a bunch of people and make new f...

So I’m going out with my new girl tomorrow to the park to hang out. I knew her for a while now and I just wanna know if you guys could give me some conversation starters. Not the usual things like how’s your day going or w.e Submitted May 20, 2019 at 12:25AM So I’m going out with my new girl tomorrow to the park to hang out. I knew her for a while now and I just wanna know if you guys could give me some conversation starters. Not the usual things like how’s your day going or w.e

I met a guy at a club two years ago and we turned into fwb. In the beginning it was good, but later I caught up feelings. He didn’t want relationship, so we ended. After that I had a short relationship with a new guy and moved to a new country. And then here is the strange part : even though I’m already living in a new country, my ex fwb still texts me until now, asking me how I am, what I am doing etc. To know that I rarely knew about him and we never really had a proper talk, every time we saw each other it was only for sex, nothing else. I find it quite confusing. Is my ex-fwb still dreaming about having sex with me or what? Submitted May 20, 2019 at 12:29AM I met a guy at a club two years ago and we turned into fwb. In the beginning it was good, but later I caught up feelings. He didn’t want relationship, so we ended.After that I had a short relationship with a new guy and moved to a new country. And then here is the strange part : even though I’m already living in a new c...

OK, here's the situation: I met a girl at a dating event, we liked eachother and exchanged numbers. The next day I texted her and asked her out, she agreed and we met 2 days later. The date went really well, we had a lot of fun, great dinner and drinks afterwards. From the signals I received I would say she really liked me. The next day I asked her out, but without a specific date in mind, because I was away over the weekend. During that time we chatted a bit, but not a lot. When I came home, she was sick, so I didn't ask her out for that week. The next 10 days she was away in another coutry and 2 or 3 days in I casually asked her how she was doing. She wasn't online in the messaging app for 4 or so days, then read the text, but never replied. Now she's online frequently, but still hasn't texted me. Tomorrow she's coming back home. Now the question is: What does all of that mean? And what do I write in my next message? Do I just say something short like "...

So I just came back from first date with a girl. The way we met is she bought something from me on letgo. I continued talking to her after it, been playful and I feel like my approach was 10/10 regarding texting. Later on she told me she was flattered because I continued talking to her regardless of the fact that she didnt have any makeup when we met for the sale. She also gave signs that she is interested in relationship. I been very playful, arraged first date in a very smooth way. So the day for our first date came. I told her that we could grab a cocktail in a bar and go to park after it. We started talking about what we do etc and at one point I realised conversation just started losing the flirty vibe we had while texting. As we were in the bar we were sitting opposite, so I kept good eye contact and let her talk most of the time, trying to prove myself as good listener. As we left bar and went to park, we sat next to each other, but at that point I felt like vibe is gone. I ...

Ok, so there is this guy in high school , and he asked me to prom, we text a lot and sometimes hang out and talk for long periods of time. I’m pretty sure he likes me but the thing is, he is super shy and nervous. He also keeps a lot of physical distance between us and is not good with getting hints. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship and I’m not sure where to go from here. HELP!! (Any kissing tips would also be helpful) Thanks Submitted May 20, 2019 at 12:42AM Ok, so there is this guy in high school , and he asked me to prom, we text a lot and sometimes hang out and talk for long periods of time. I’m pretty sure he likes me but the thing is, he is super shy and nervous. He also keeps a lot of physical distance between us and is not good with getting hints. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship and I’m not sure where to go from here. HELP!! (Any kissing tips would also be helpful) Thanks

I'm turning 40 this year and I've never been asked out. I've asked men out before, but they usually turn me down with a "thanks, but no thanks" or ghost before the actual date, which is just as well because I always feel turned off or lose interest when I initiate. I don't know why; I’ve always felt this way. Though I’m lonely and wish I had someone to share my otherwise full and active life, I don't dwell on it because I've never found a guy I truly wanted to get to know -- until now.  Months ago, a guy popped up in my Instagram suggestions list, so I followed him on a whim because he was attractive and interesting in way I've never been drawn to before. Since then, I learned we have a lot of common interests and values, we're in similar professions, and, as it turns out, we even attended the same medical conference a few years ago (though I'm sure our paths didn't cross; it was a big event). He ticks all the boxes and he's not p...

Sadly, this is becoming more and more common and I read a lot of justifications of, 'he's lucky to have my company' and 'I never asked him to pay for my dinner'. Submitted May 20, 2019 at 01:19AM Sadly, this is becoming more and more common and I read a lot of justifications of, 'he's lucky to have my company' and 'I never asked him to pay for my dinner'.

I’ve been talking to this one guy for about a few weeks now. Prior to meeting up, we exchange texts a lot, and he asked about what I was looking for. I told him “I am looking for something serious, but not going to force it”. I asked him the same question, and he said “I’m just going with the flow, but I do know what I want and do not like”. I don’t really get what he was trying to get here? I’ve dated someone in the past who said the exact same thing, and it turned out that person didn’t like “labels”. On our first date, he told me that he is a one-on-one type of guy, as in, he finds it hard to date multiple people. So he prefers for the female to do the same. I notice he cracks some sexual jokes, but jokingly apologizes because it’s his humor. He is a flirty/touchy guy. He wanted to split the bill. His reasoning was “I don’t want to be the victim if the female goes on a date with me and I pay- only then to have her ghost me”. I personally don’t mind splitting, but I believe that if...

Thought 1: After how long do you think any of it matters to fuck? I normally date, and I have sex. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not the type of guy to only fuck. I'm a hopeless romantic and I hate it. I start to fall for them and then have sex only to have my heart broken by them. I've heard from several people that being a hopeless romantic is a terrible thing for a guy, why do people think this way? Why sex in all this? I'm only human, I love sex as much as the next person. I've not dated a girl that didn't wan't to have sex. I haven't dated a girl that didn't want to eventually wait 3 dates and bone. I'm cool with not for a while, but almost always ended with the "try before you buy." deal. but when I hear "I'm waiting till marriage" I can tell right there, they are likely prudish. See my rant about this 1 girl on my profile, I think it's on /r/dating ? I'm not sure. ​ Thought 2: The religion thing, I...

Obviously this unfortunate situation happened to me and when I asked him he said “idk, sometimes my friends come in with their girlfriends” So what would you do lol Submitted May 20, 2019 at 02:18AM Obviously this unfortunate situation happened to me and when I asked him he said “idk, sometimes my friends come in with their girlfriends”So what would you do lol

Girl I met last night followed me on Instagram, so I followed her back and dm’ed her. We talked, good conversation, asked her if she’d like to grab a drink this week. Said she’s super busy this week, maybe another week. Do I even respond? Just let it go? She could have said maybe next week. Submitted May 20, 2019 at 02:43AM Girl I met last night followed me on Instagram, so I followed her back and dm’ed her. We talked, good conversation, asked her if she’d like to grab a drink this week.Said she’s super busy this week, maybe another week.Do I even respond? Just let it go? She could have said maybe next week.

Figure we could use some wholesome content and everyone can tell stories Submitted May 20, 2019 at 02:49AM Figure we could use some wholesome content and everyone can tell stories

Okay so about two weeks ago, I texted this guy that I worked with over the past year as a volunteer at an outreach center. He’s a really nice guy so since the program was over for the year I figured I’d take a chance and ask him out. So I texted him, and he texted back saying he “definitely” wanted to meet up after things cool down with his schedule (it was right before finals and all for both of us) and I told him to let me know. How long should I wait? I kind of left the ball in his court but I haven’t heard back from him about setting something up. Submitted May 20, 2019 at 02:59AM Okay so about two weeks ago, I texted this guy that I worked with over the past year as a volunteer at an outreach center. He’s a really nice guy so since the program was over for the year I figured I’d take a chance and ask him out. So I texted him, and he texted back saying he “definitely” wanted to meet up after things cool down with his schedule (it was right before finals and all for both of u...

We have gone on a few dates and we both have know we like each other, however she’s really unpredictable. One day she is in love with me, the next she acts like a distant friend she hasn’t talked to in months. I really don’t get it. Submitted May 20, 2019 at 03:31AM We have gone on a few dates and we both have know we like each other, however she’s really unpredictable. One day she is in love with me, the next she acts like a distant friend she hasn’t talked to in months. I really don’t get it.

So kind of new to the online dating scene. Met a woman on bumble. We talked Thursday about getting together tmrw, but we never really locked down a time. Got in touch with her today (Sunday), we talked, she got caught up b/c her kid is sick. She told me she is still interested in meeting up with me. I messaged her that I’m free early in the week and during the day on the weekends, she didn’t get back to me. I figure I’d probably chat with her tmrw to see how things are with her sick kid and maybe see if we can lock down a time Tuesday to meet up. Ladies, at what point does it come off as clingy? Submitted May 20, 2019 at 05:10AM So kind of new to the online dating scene. Met a woman on bumble. We talked Thursday about getting together tmrw, but we never really locked down a time. Got in touch with her today (Sunday), we talked, she got caught up b/c her kid is sick. She told me she is still interested in meeting up with me. I messaged her that I’m free early in the week and duri...

Trying out FB dating. There is no mechanism that I can see to "like" one of FB's dating suggestions. Only option is direct message. Anyone know how this works? Submitted May 20, 2019 at 05:23AM Trying out FB dating. There is no mechanism that I can see to "like" one of FB's dating suggestions. Only option is direct message. Anyone know how this works?

Describe what it feels like to have 'chemistry' with someone? How important is it to feel chemistry early for someone that you just met or had a first date with? PS: it would be good to note if you are M or F in order to see if there are any patterns in responses ;) Submitted May 20, 2019 at 05:25AM Describe what it feels like to have 'chemistry' with someone? How important is it to feel chemistry early for someone that you just met or had a first date with?PS: it would be good to note if you are M or F in order to see if there are any patterns in responses ;)

I have a female friend that is dating one of my good friends. My female friend has a friend that I've been trying to talk to. Last year her and her bf broke up and I talked to her a bit and ended up hooking up with her. Then they got back together. Well they recently split again and I've been trying to date her. Me and her went on a date a couple weeks ago. I ended up staying the night at her place but we didn't have sex. I have been texting her since. On Friday I sent her a text trying to hangout with her Me: we're going to do fun things! Let's hangout Sunday Her: I'm moving all my furniture so maybe after I get that all moved?! Me: sure, give me a holler when you're done Her: will do Well she never said anything at all to me today when we were supposed to hang out. My female friend asked how's things going with us. I told her what happened and she said oh well she's had an emotional last couple weeks and that I should have checked in with h...

(sorry if this isn’t a good place to ask, I can delete if needed!) There’s a guy I’m talking to, and I can’t tell if he’s interested in me or not. Usually I can tell this type of stuff, but it’s hard with this one. This is a generally nice person who’s very kind/considerate/generous, etc. to everyone. I can’t tell if he’s interested in me or has feelings because I don’t know if he treats me differently from others. What signs should I be looking for to see if he’s dropping any type of hint? There’s been some interactions that have made me think he’s interested, but I’m not sure if he’s just being nice. (the only people that have expressed true interest in me have flat out told me, that’s why this is new and hard.) TLDR; how do I tell if an overall nice person is interested in me? Submitted May 20, 2019 at 06:49AM (sorry if this isn’t a good place to ask, I can delete if needed!)There’s a guy I’m talking to, and I can’t tell if he’s interested in me or not. Usually I can tell ...

I'd much much much rather beat the crap out of pedophiles than date them, so no. May 20, 2019 at 07:00AM

Amethystic mostly means that I like purple (and that Amethyst from Steven Universe is basically me). Apothisexual is a posh way of saying sex-repulsed ace. :) May 20, 2019 at 06:54AM

Squish can give you all the same feelings as a crush, including happy, fluttery, nervous, etc. it can also mean you want to be closer, hold hands, cuddle, etc. But it’s purely platonic love that you want with them and nothing sexual underneath. I see it as not just wanting to be friends, but wanting to be best friends with a deep bond and really know them as a person. I think without the squish, you would casually become acquaintances and then friends with a person, realize you click with them, and then before you know it, that person has grown to be your best friend. But with a squish, you either just met or you just know them casually, and you feel a really strong desire to be best friends. I’d sometimes fantasize about hanging out or having a good conversation. May 20, 2019 at 06:48AM

OMG I love it <3 <3 <3 May 20, 2019 at 06:45AM

Edit: meant to post as comment OP. Sorry! May 20, 2019 at 06:45AM

Just because you share a room doesn't mean you had to have sex with him. For instance maybe next time imagine bringing a Nintendo Switch to play with. May 20, 2019 at 06:40AM

I'd like to think I would recognize it if I saw it. So far the only indicator I've ever received from someone was someone telling me they were intimidated by the patches on my letter jacket (3 years later she told me she wasn't interested but I think she might have been back then, I wasn't at the time) and my current crush who looks at me every single time she laughs in a crowd (unfortunately she's married so nothing is happening). And I saw this despite my first crush in college literally rubbing my leg with her toe and telling me she loved me. I can confidently say she wasn't serious despite it sounding like maybe she was. May 20, 2019 at 06:35AM

It's called Touch-me-not. The plant May 20, 2019 at 06:33AM

I run several businesses. I couldn't do that if I were tied down to a wife or girlfriend. In fact most of the things I do are too risky financially in such a situation and would be completely irresponsible. During the financial crisis I lost my job and spent three years putting this all together while waiting for the perfect job to finally land in my lap. If I were in a relationship at the time I almost certainly would have lost it or been forced to take the first underpaying job I found which would have completely wrecked my present day career. May 20, 2019 at 06:32AM

This. There was an episode of 30 Rock where they claimed one character was more powerful than the others because he was gay. I remember thinking that doesn't make any sense because the only orientation that should give someone any sort of power is being asexual. May 20, 2019 at 06:27AM

last of a dying breed May 20, 2019 at 06:22AM

What does amethystic apothisexual mean? May 20, 2019 at 06:19AM

No way. I want to eventually have kids. You can't raise kids in that environment. May 20, 2019 at 06:17AM

My life as a preteen. “No, you have to pick someone!” “...but...I don’t—“ “It’s okay, just tell us!” “...” May 20, 2019 at 06:17AM

I have only been able to use it to describe of Montreal guitar , it just feels wrong in any other context May 20, 2019 at 06:11AM

Agreed. They're extremely contrived most of the time, or alternatively obvious and unnecessary from the start. May 20, 2019 at 06:10AM

Color me interested. I love it when an author doesn’t feel the need to include explicit sexual subplotting. I’ve had books recommended to me that I’ve been unable to finish for that reason alone disputes how great it otherwise seems May 20, 2019 at 06:02AM

The way I've understood it is that people identify with demisexuality (the definition I've heard being that one doesnt feel sexual attraction unless a bond is formed) for one of two reasons: They're allo, but dont want to jump into bed with strangers as a lot of allos seem to do. Instead they want a relationship first. They assume not doing one night stands and such makes them asexual when if fact the majority of allos also dont feel comfortable sleeping with strangers. Which is why they say "everybody feels that way". They're fully ace, but experience romantic attraction and would want intimacy with a partner they feel comfortable with, and confuse this with sexual attraction. I think it makes perfect sense to only be comfortable with intimacy with a close and romantic partner, wether you be ace or allo. I think it all really depends on personal view on sex, if you see it as something intimate you'd only share with someone special, or if you jus...

I like my men like my tea, my women like my coffee and my sex like my soda. *sips drink* Ah, lemonade. May 20, 2019 at 05:47AM

Well thank you for your reply, your explanation sounds like me but I still have some self-identifying ahead of me! May 20, 2019 at 05:46AM

Yes May 20, 2019 at 05:43AM

I'm an only child but I told my mom I wanted a sister. So that's on her. May 20, 2019 at 05:40AM

Hahahahahaha! I don't think I have ever used that word unironically May 20, 2019 at 05:40AM

Another good title could be wizards and cake May 20, 2019 at 05:38AM

She try'n to steel that poor boi's money. Don't see any other reason to be feeling up his pants front.... May 20, 2019 at 05:37AM

We don't have any major problems and we are in couples counseling to fix the problems we do have, but every once in a while these doubts creep in. The conversation of kids has been coming up a lot recently. I very much want children and typically feel confident in my choice of partner, but occasionally feel very hesitant. Here are some of the reasons I feel doubtful and hesitant: -Spouse struggles with seeing me as a priority. This has been a major point of contention in our marriage and one that we address frequently. -Spouse is often narrowly focused on things that are going on and fails to "come up for air" and connect with me/help me in things I need help in (such as puppy training). -I don't feel particularly special or important. I feel as though I am just another family member. -We have different ideas on what proper parenting looks like. -When I address an issue I am having, spouse gives excuses and blames the issue on some external factor (medication, being...

Yesterday was my birthday and for maybe the 4th year in a row, my husband has planned nothing for me. This year his excuse is he planned a nice Valentine’s Day (3 months ago) and got me sunglasses (I didn’t want or ask for), he also gave me $100 for Mother’s Day (that I had to spend on our child). I came home from an extremely long day of carting kids around and he didn’t even have dinner ready. He bought beer and weed (for himself) and got me $1 tacos from a taco truck. Happy Birthday to me! Instead of making up for last night, he went to visit his mother and found it shocking that I did not want to join him. Because what girl doesn’t want to visit their MIL for their birthday right? These types of situations have occurred far too often and I’m seriously contemplating separation. I’m starting to realize my self worth and I deserve so much more than this. I’m not even 40 yet and there is so much love out there. I’m definitely not getting it in this house, Submitted May 19, 2019 a...

My wife and I are young. 24 and 22 to be exact. We've been together since our late teen years, and to be honest, our connection was held together by sex initially. You know the story, you've read it a million times. It took us a couple years to realize that we were more than just hookup buddies. But once we realized it, and decided to commit to each other, we fell in love, and it was a passionate, genuine love. We've been married for three years now and have two kids, 2 and 1. She's a full time mom, and I have a full time job, a part time job, and I'm also going to school. The past few months have not been so good for us. It just seems like the connection is fading, if not gone already. She is either in a great mood or a terrible one. When she gets mad, she gets into a total fit of rage, and says hateful things. "I fucking can't stand you." "I hate you." "I hate this life." "I hate that I'm stuck with you." The list...

How do I get over the insecurity of my husband’s love? I often think “if I do that he’ll hate me” if I’m driving and I do something I’ve heard him complain about others doing I think “oh sh*t, he thinks the worst of me” And he tries to make me feel better by saying that he thinks all these negative things about himself. I’ve tried to be super positive and supportive and encouraging. I tell him things aren’t as bad as they seem or that these mistakes don’t define you... but he still curses st himself when he makes a u-turn because he missed the turn. He still rolls his eyes when the dishes aren’t done. And when we’re talking with his friends he lets his friends talk over me and takes the conversation where his friend took it without asking what I was saying. I brought this up and he said something along the lines of that if I was confident that what I had to say was important then people would listen to me..... He doesn’t want to go to counseling It’s just another bill on top of our 4 ...

Perhaps it is my fault but I never let our kids sleep in our room but rather got them a full and a queen bed in the event one of us needed to read a story or comfort them. Going on 8 years now my wife goes to bed with the children every night and claims to come to bed every night but I don't believe her. She leaves her phone notifications on loud and it usually wakes me up which is not the greatest evidence but it is something. I have made clear that it hurts that she makes no effort to talk to me in the evenings. I cannot recall ever having had a conversation in bed since we became parents around eight and a half years ago. I just kicked her out. It's 12:30am and she went to bed with the kids 3 hours ago. Perhaps this belongs in r/petty but I just replaced our wedding picture in an ornament Waterford Crystal frame with my undergrad diploma. At what point is it my room and she's only welcome at my invitation? I have laid several gauntlets lately and I am not sure if I ...

Am I the only person who hates to hear the whole ‘We never go/never went to sleep angry” when people provide advice on a successful marriage? I can’t be the only person who gets angry, upset, stressed, irrational, hurt, etc. and my best reaction is to go to bed. We can both be pissed at each other but something about going to sleep and waking up to a new day is perfect. On those rare mornings, we might have a much more productive talk. Or we may just say “I’m not so worried about it”, “That was so dumb”, etc. I guess I’m just not one to beat a dead horse. Sometimes you’re never gonna get to the root of something or reach a resolution in the time you have available and a night of sleep can work wonders. My 2 cents Submitted May 19, 2019 at 05:20AM Am I the only person who hates to hear the whole ‘We never go/never went to sleep angry” when people provide advice on a successful marriage? I can’t be the only person who gets angry, upset, stressed, irrational, hurt, etc. and my best...

I want to stress this is a last resort before divorce. (Unbiased opinions) This is my first marriage and I'm at my wits end. As a disclaimer, I have directly and respectfully with no animosity asked was he still attracted to me, if he is unhappy, if there is something I have done to make him no longer desire me, if he has changed his mind even on the marriage. He said no across the board!!! I gave him a complete opportunity to not feel trapped or unhappy in the marriage with no hard feelings at all! I love my husband very much but sex has been a point of contention since we started living together. Prior to as boyfriend and girlfriend, we had sex everytime we saw each other. I assumed we would have a great sex life always. Once under the same roof things took a turn. We didn't have intimacy and he seemed to care less and less. I couldn't figure out the problem but I wanted to stay positive. After a few health issues were resolved (something he needed to handle) we had se...

Is this even reasonable to ask? Do you realize now it wasn't the right choice to leave? What makes you want to stay now? I guess what I'm asking from the remarried is, as supposed experts in the field, what makes the relationship your in now better, and how did you know it was the right time to leave? Submitted May 19, 2019 at 02:27PM Is this even reasonable to ask?Do you realize now it wasn't the right choice to leave? What makes you want to stay now? I guess what I'm asking from the remarried is, as supposed experts in the field, what makes the relationship your in now better, and how did you know it was the right time to leave?

My wife and I are high-school sweethearts, but we've had ups and downs. Significant ups and downs. Since we got married 4 years ago, she has had two emotional affairs. Both times I caught her via call logs. She denied denied denied, until eventually she cracked both times. The first guy she never met with, the second guy she saw on a trip, but swears they "only hugged". When we were engaged, I found pregnancy tests in her purse when we hadn't had sex in months. She told me they were for a baby shower. It has been about 18 months since the I discovered the last emotional affair. At the time I was friendless, unemployed, and a drunk. I mention friendless because she hates my friends. She hates anytime I do anything without her, but if she comes along, she'll 9/10 make me leave with her an hour within getting to a party of event. I lost the majority of my friends because of her. Even my family warned me before I married her. When we met she was fun, energetic, po...

I  am 30 years old and have a one month old baby. I've been married almost 6 years, and had always dreaming about having one with my first crush at age 7. I thought about having kids long and hard, thought about pros and cons and finally decided to try and have a kid. My husband however had never been as sure. We tried for three years and nothing happened. We ended up going to the doctors where I had to have IVF due to infertility. I wanted kids because: I wanted life to be richer and not easier. My life had become stagnant and the usual outings with friends, traveling, work etc were not fulfilling me anymore. I didn't think there was any competing interests that having a kid would get in the way of   This decision came down to two binary choices - have kids or don't have kids - and I couldn't see myself being strong enough in the decision to not have kids. I knew it was a leap of faith and I always saw it as my #1 dream. I wasn't going to let infertili...