16-aroace July 29, 2019 at 11:57PM

So much multiclassing. Here I am playing as a single class fighter. I'm boring in comparison. July 29, 2019 at 11:55PM

I call myself ace hero because I am hetero romantic asexual. (Jk I just wanted to make a joke 😂 really do identify as ace hetero romantic tho) July 29, 2019 at 11:54PM

All y'all valid. July 29, 2019 at 11:53PM

I'm pretty sure my father was homoromantic heterosexual. He... Lived a conflicted life. I had a grand aunt who was aro ace. She was fine with it. She was not fine with our family pitying her and telling her how she let her suitor go (the guy later became mayor of her home town). I don't have to deal with this bullshit as a heteroromantic heterosexual. I'm lucky this way. July 29, 2019 at 11:53PM

Obviously, I'm dumb. I've been struggling with a slew of mental issues, including Borderline Personality Disorder, which I know can ruin interpersonal relationships. That's just some background on me, and berating me wont do anything. I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years. We live together in my mother's house (she's moved out) and have 2 dogs together. We aren't married, but I've told him since we started dating that I wanted to be. I reached out to an ex recently, because I was looking for attention. We both still have feelings for each other, but he has since moved cross country and isnt in a good place for a relationship. He was in town this past weekend though. I broke up with my boyfriend. Not only for my ex, but for myself too. I was feeling ignored and trapped in the relationship. We dont do anything together, and he frequently ignores me for his other interests. I've really fallen out of love with this boy, though it kills me to say...

Hey everyone, Around a couple weeks ago, I met this beautiful and amazing woman and I started talking to her. We bonded.. and VERY QUICKLY. I'm talking about we'd be on the phone everyday after work, watch videos together, talking about us as a relationship, meeting her parents/mine, etc. The whole package! She told me she never got that happy with someone else and never felt so synced with someone else. So we decided to meet up, and we did. She doesn't live too far away from me (1h30-2h00 car trip) so I drove to see her and it was great the first night.. we slept together and it was passionate. However, the next day.. she was feeling odd.. I felt some weird vibes coming off her as if I fucked up or did something wrong or anything.. so I played it off cool, but I felt like she wasn't really feeling it anymore. Anyways, I drove back to my place later that night and she started sending me texts saying stuff like thanking me for coming down to visit her, that I am the m...

Very long story short: have been dating my long distance bf for over a year. We talked/hooked up for a year prior to becoming official. A few weeks before we did become official he“ dated” a girl for a few weeks. Possibly to spite me at the time, i didnt want to be exclusive and long distance at the time. Fast forward a year: we were hanging out and I saw that he was dming her on insta. Caved and read it. He was very friendly but not flirty. Confronted him, he apologized, was doing it to annoy her. Still, this made her even more uncomfortable subject. Soon after this drama, one of his best friends started becoming extremely close with this girl... Now i just found out that shes moving in with her next month. So a lot of the time he hangs out with her, this girl will be there. Not sure if theres anything i can do about this, and i dont know if i want to spend my senior year of college stressing out about my bf having fun with these girls while im working.... they have hung out in group...

My (28 F) ex-boyfriend (31 M) broke up with me this past weekend. He found out last week that he did not get the job that he had been wanting so badly and spent over half a year going through interviews, evals, and background check. He doesn’t like his current job and this new job would have been his way towards a different career path. When he told me about the denial over video call, I was in shock and I knew that this would really affect him. I recall saying that I was really sorry this happened, and then he said he wanted to go for a run. I wouldn’t be seeing him in person until a couple days later. The next day, I called him and updated him about my day, but I wasn’t sure if he wanted to talk about it yet. I was afraid to ask as I know how devastating this was to him. When I did see him in person, we were talking about other things that we would normally talk about e.g. music, what’s for dinner, should we run later. The topic was lingering in my mind, but his mood seemed a bit be...

My friend (who has been my mentor for the last three years) introduced me to her brother janurary last, and we hit it off and oops... fast forward: I'm in love with him and also his fiancé. The bisexual panic is real but sure, fine. We are all friends, so I fantasise about them, who cares? But if only. They're both so conspiratorial and my relationship with this couple is flirtier all the time. Example: they were staying at my place when they were in town and I said goodnight at the door. "Won't you stay?" She asked, pulling back the covers. It's PG, I tell myself. Sleepover club tame. And I so want to. I slipped in next to her, to them. Sleeping and touching as politely as three horizontal adults can in a bed of sexual tension. We haven't spent a night in the same house in separate beds since. Whole weekends of spooning and "my morning wood doesn't bother you, does it?" I still believed that I was imagining more than half of it. Build...

I started seeing a woman on Tinder earlier this month. We both say it’s a casual relationship but it seems to have gotten more serious. every time we see each other, we have sex. She texts me everyday and on Monday we talked on the phone for five hours. I didn’t take her seriously because she’s 19 and not socially conscious so I never saw this relationship evolving but the more I talk to her the more I grow attached to her. In mid-June, a woman on tinder asked me for my number and I have it to her and she just NOW texted me. She’s definitely looking for something casual and while I’m attracted to her and curious it almost feels like cheating. I don’t know if me and the 19 year old will last but I’m willing to see where it takes me. I’m having fun with her right now and don’t want to mess it up by sleeping with someone else. Should I go out with the woman who just texted me, should I ignore her or should I tell her I’m dating someone else right now and maybe we could talk in the fu...

We’ve been living together in a fraternity house for about a year now. He stays up to ungodly hours of the night smoking weed and playing video games, his diet consists only of fast food, and he showers once every few months (that is not an exaggeration at all). Literally the last time he showered was the end of May and it is now the end of July. You can tell because his hair is so greasy that it looks gelled and when he showers, it looks like normal hair. He’s also pretty mean and not great company, beyond being gross and smelly. He doesn’t clean up after himself ever and is very argumentative. To be fair, I would be angry all the time too if I hadn’t showered in two months and I was probably malnourished and dehydrated. It got so bad that all my roommates (house of 5) ostracized him all last year. He can be unshowered all he wants, we just don’t want to be around that. But I’m a little worried about him. He doesn’t really have any friends, he’s graduated and doesn’t have any job...

I don't even know what advice I'm searching for. I just need to let my feelings out. My ex boyfriend (wow, saying that hurts lol) (22M) and I (20F) had been dating for a while. On the ending of our relationship, last December, he told me he wanted to seriously persue his dream of becoming a gymnast (which I always supported him on), and that he wouldn't have the time he wanted to give to our relationship. I was devastated. We had agreed on not talking for a period of two weeks in which I was going away on vacations, and then meeting again over cake. I spoke to him. The whole vacations. Because I was just devasted. At one point he got a bit mad because I wasn't respecting what we had agreed on. And he was right. I felt really badly for having become something so desperate that couldn't respect his space. I apologized and told him I wouldnt speak to him till the day we were going to grab cake, and that we could even not meet. Two days later he spoke to me, soundin...

I'm a graduate student at a university in the United States. There's about two dozen of us from a particular religious/cultural background at this school. We all vaguely know each other, and there are some individual friendships within the larger group, but on the whole there isn't much group cohesion. I would like to build a strong friendship group out of this two dozen people; I know that many of them would welcome such a thing, but someone just needs to take the initiative to organize it. I'm wondering how to go about doing it. For those who've built and maintained strong friend networks, what's the best way to do so? Any effective techniques in mind or useful pieces of information from your experience? I'm thinking of inviting everyone for dinner on a somewhat regular basis, introducing some kind of shared activities such as sports or board games, and trying to get know everyone a bit more on a personal basis. What else might I be able to do? I'd a...

Sorry about the convoluted title, but the situation is kind of weird haha A month ago I was at a party and ended up going home with an acquaintance and her boyfriend and we had a threesome. Experience was pretty amazing, and the guy especially was incredible in bed. I liked him but he was taken and the threesome hookup was more of a drunken dumb thing. Well a week ago Him and his girlfriend broke up, and now he’s been texting me. Again the girl is someone I know, but it’s not like we were super close we just went to Highschool together and have some mutual friends. Would it be bad to start hooking up with the guy? I’m not necessarily trying to get into a relationship with him right away, but definitely want to have sex with him. Is this a messy situation and I should avoid or should I start seeing the guy? TL;DR Had a threesome hookup, really liked the guy but he was taken by someone that was an auquaintance, they broke up, is hooking up with him now slimey? Submitted July 2...

She playfully sent a pic with a towel in her hips and her hand barely covering her nipples. She says it's an "adaptation of Venus de Milo" lol, I guess it does look kinda artsy and she looks great it in. She asked me if it would bother me if she posted it on IG. I get it's her body and her pictures and she can do whatever she wants with them. I think people who obsess over the way their partner's show them is pretty toxic and borderline abusive. However, the pic is pretty revealing and I guess you gotta draw the line somewhere (it def wouldn't be ok if she shared her nudes, but if she covers her nipples it is?). TL;DR I'm conflicted on whether or not my GF's revealing pic is ok to share. Submitted July 29, 2019 at 11:49PM She playfully sent a pic with a towel in her hips and her hand barely covering her nipples. She says it's an "adaptation of Venus de Milo" lol, I guess it does look kinda artsy and she looks great it in. She as...

I love my mom so much and am grateful for all of her help. However, she constantly worries about my future and almost every conversation besides small talk consists of her questioning my future plans. I moved back home with my parents after living abroad for a couple of years. Most of the conversations we've had, since I've been back, revolve around her asking me if I'm sure about my plans to move to NY for a 4 month program to change careers. My parents offered to help me pay for it on the caveat that I will eventually pay it back. I accepted of course, but I'm trying to apply to a program with deferred tuition so I could potentially not even borrow my parent's money, which is the ideal situation. She'll ask me constantly if this is the path I want to take. I told my parents my whole game plan throughly within the first month of moving back home, so my mom knows the exact steps I will take. I initially opted to go to nursing school and told my parents, but I ...

Both 18. So my boyfriend has always been a gamer. There were times he didnt pay attention to me when gaming but we fixed that. He no longer does it. He always makes it a point to message me even if hes playing. He has a set time for us where he gets off gaming completely to show me my full attention, 9 PM until I sleep (around 11 or 12 during school, 2 am in summer). During the day he plays his game for a few hours with his friends and it makes me so incredibly jealous. I ofcourse support him and dont make snarky remarks or ever really mention it. I tell him I'm glad hes enjoying himself. After I sleep, sometimes he'll get on and play until 3 or 4 in the morning, sometimes even later. I just wish hed have a decent sleeping schedule as he doesnt work or really do much. I just feel like he has alot more fun with his friends then he does me because I cant talk or play as much because of my strict parents. I play sometimes with him and ofc i dont mind.... but idk. I just feel lik...

Hey everyone, I just really want to find out both a) if I overreacting to this, and b) suggestions on dealing with it going forward. Long story short my bf and I met as part of a tennis club team about a year ago. About 6 mths ago, a few of the team left and some new people joined and the new dynamic was really hostile - lots of infighting and backstabbing and scapegoating drama that we both decided we didn't want to deal with anymore. We had a conversation both agreeing that it would be best to just cut the existing team out completely- talking to one is like giving the rest of them a way in to contact and try and pull you back. He said he would be really upset if he found out I was talking to them if both agreed to cut them out, which of course makes sense and I cut them out and havent spoken to anyone since then. Well, it keeps coming up lately that he hasnt actually cut everyone out. He either 'forgot' to delete their details, or says some individuals aren't ...

So I [F21] have been living abroad for over a year now and i am currently visiting my hometown for 3 weeks. I’ve been best friends with Lisa [F21] and George [M21] since HS and they are mainly my only friends in my hometown. I have a solid group of friends in my college town but not home. Saturday I was supposed to go to a bar with Lisa and George and we usually meet up in my house since I live downtown very close to the bars. We were supposed to meet up at 8.30 and by 7 two family members i hadn’t seen in forever came by surprise to see me and wanted to take me out for dinner. Lisa texted me at 7.30 and told me she wouldn’t be able to make it until 9 because she had just gotten home from seeing her grandparents. I texted her that it was perfect because I was going to go have dinner with my family members and that i’d meet them at the bar instead of my house when I got back. She texted me “Are you fucking kidding me” I didn’t have any phone service until I got home from dinner ...

Hi guys, Yesterday was going so well. I'm generally always in a good mood and often like to sing to the radio or sometimes sing a disney song that I like while I clean or cook. Well, my husband and I were coming back from eating out on lunch and I start singing a beatles song. Granted I didnt sing it well at all because I was sorta mumbling the words and just playing around. But, my husband says "uh no, dont sing that, does NOT sound good." He guessed the song and I was surprised he could figure it out since I was just sorta humming and singing here and there. He then says "yea I guessed it even though you suck at singing." I asked him if he really thought that and he replies "well you're not great" and starts laughing. I'm obviously hurt and tell him that singing is a sign of comfort and health in a relationship. I started to get emotional and couldnt talk to him anymore so I was just quiet for the ride home. Made me feel so crappy. I was ra...

My boyfriend and i have been together for over almost 5 months. On my end everything has been great but yesterday while out with him we ran into one of his ex’s. I know this is his ex because he’s showed me a phot of her before and after leaving the store i remembered who she was. So at first it seemed like he wanted to avoid her. They eventually crossed paths and he said “hey” and she said hey and he went back to shop. My boyfriend and i had separate things to get so we were grocery shopping separately. She went down an aisle he was on and she started talking to him .. They started talking so i continued to do my shopping while they were talking. After a couple of minutes i glance over towards them and he started teasing her a little. My boyfriends ex was pushing her basket and he would grab the end of her basket then releases it and start laughing. I went to the aisle nearest them and he was bringing up their old memories and their little inside jokes. He then told her randomly “y...

The question being - should we be a couple? TL; DR - after how long / how many times seeing someone, is it reasonable to propose being bf/gf? Have been seeing a girl for a month, like once a week so far. It's casual but I have taken her out a couple times (bar + clubbing one time, and then lunch + shopping for me the other time) She's dropped what I think are hints shes up for a relationship - said she's mostly been a relationship person before & she told me if I was fucking anyone else to wear a rubber but think it was a trick to feel out if I was seeing other girls. Btw the sexual chemistry is like 1000% good. We are quite different personality and opinions wise but so far its been complementary. My relationship is a bit odd. I had one gf for most of my adult life, we broke up a year ago and since then I have only pursued casual sex, so must admit a bit unsure if proposing a relationship to this girl is premature / not best right now. Any advice? Submitted J...