I'm so, so glad to have one less thing to worry about in life. (I'm sex indifferent, and not looking to date.) Now that I come to think of it, my life has been made a lot less complex relative to other people's because I'm not forever looking to bump anatomical parts with another human being. Because of this I can focus on other things like work, music (my main hobby - I play an instrument), and community service (I'm in several voluntary organizations simply because I believe in their missions). I also do quite a bit of traveling. In fact I'm getting ready to go on a short trip within the next few days. I just lock the door and go. I spend my time, energy, and money on my own terms. I wouldn't have it any other way. October 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

No problem! Happy to help :) October 21, 2021 at 11:57PM

I feel really bad about it a lot, because no matter how much I logically know that I'm just fine how I am, I still feel broken or that I'm missing some intrinsic part of being human. ​ It suuucks. October 21, 2021 at 11:50PM

One of my favourite quotes about Christianity: “Religion is a totalitarian belief. It is the wish to be a slave. It is the desire that there be an unalterable, unchallengeable, tyrannical authority who can convict you of thought crime while you are asleep, who can subject you to total surveillance around the clock every waking and sleeping minute of your life, before you're born and, even worse and where the real fun begins, after you're dead. A celestial North Korea. Who wants this to be true? Who but a slave desires such a ghastly fate? I've been to North Korea. It has a dead man as its president, Kim Jong-Il is only head of the party and head of the army. He's not head of the state. That office belongs to his deceased father, Kim Il-Sung. It's a necrocracy, a thanatocracy. It's one short of a trinity I might add. The son is the reincarnation of the father. It is the most revolting and utter and absolute and heartless tyranny the human species has ever evolv...

I personally refresh the video until the ads go away. It normally takes 2 or 3 tries but unless you have bad internet it's quicker and more tolerable than sitting through ads for products I don't give a shit about. Seriously, Google seems to have so much information on me yet tries to sell me romance stories, moisturizers for my extremely oily skin, and fucking erectile dysfunction pills. ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION PILLS. THAT IS MULTIPLE LAYERS OF "THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ME". Honestly, I would be completely okay with ads if it were properly tailored to stuff I'm actually interested in. Edit: Formatting October 21, 2021 at 11:35PM

Thank you <3 October 21, 2021 at 11:23PM

I’m really embarrassed. I don’t know if this is something I should be embarrassed about so I need someone else’s opinion. I’ve been with a handful of guys, but only 1 has ever made me finish while having sex (my ex). The rest of them I faked. I have this weird thing where I can only climax if I have my legs straight and am engaging my core. It’s kind of embarrassing. I’ve tried it other ways, but it’s never worked. My legs have to be tensed up. I have a kind of friends with benefits situation with this guy right now. I’ve previously hooked up with him (before I started dating my ex). Anyway, when I was with him before he never made me cum. Not because he wasn’t good but because I was embarrassed about the leg thing. I decided to kind of get over that. However, him and I smoked weed before we started having sex and I guess I didn’t realize how long it was taking me to cum. I came, it was amazing, but I just felt really bad. I learned it took me almost 20 minutes to finish! I don’t k...

I’m healing from trauma and abuse; I’m in therapy. Usually I’m perfectly happy to be alone, sometimes I’m disgusted by the idea of relationships and sex. But sometimes I really want someone to be there with me, to cuddle and watch TV with, to share a kiss. I don’t think I’m ready for this, not at all. But part of me wants it. Has anyone else been in this space? How did you move forward? Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:29AM I’m healing from trauma and abuse; I’m in therapy. Usually I’m perfectly happy to be alone, sometimes I’m disgusted by the idea of relationships and sex. But sometimes I really want someone to be there with me, to cuddle and watch TV with, to share a kiss.I don’t think I’m ready for this, not at all. But part of me wants it.Has anyone else been in this space? How did you move forward?

I’ve been insecure about my “tightness” for a couple of years and took up kegels starting in May 2020. I found my pelvic floor was stronger so I’ve kept up with it (not everyday, but when I remember). As I’ve previously said, I’m insecure about my tightness and my floor was getting particularly strong, so although you’re only supposed to hold a kegel for 10 seconds max, sometimes for that extra “umph”, I’d hold for 30secs- 1 min. All was well until about a week ago. To test your floor strength, once in a while, you try and stop your stream while peeing. I thought I should test it and was shocked to see how I was struggling and unable to. Prior to that as I went to go to the bathroom a few drops of urine leaked and it set off an alarm in my head that something was wrong. Now every time I try to hold my pee no matter how little is in my bladder. Two weeks ago I was fine but now my pelvic floor is extremely weak. I’m probably being delusional but looking and feeling my vagina, it feels a...

I (18F) don't have much experience and received my first oral lately, I really thought I'd enjoy it but I didn't feel anything. I've read that it might be caused by the pill and I'm also on antidepressants which makes everything a little worse. I got kinda bored and realized I was watching the news (tv was on) instead of paying attention so how can I make it better? I tried massaging my breasts and grabbing his hair but I felt like it wasn't enough, like maybe I should moan (?) but it doesn't happens naturally and faking it sounds wrong. The guy I'm seeing enjoys going down on women and I enjoy the idea of receiving oral but how can I make it better for both of us? Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:47AM I (18F) don't have much experience and received my first oral lately, I really thought I'd enjoy it but I didn't feel anything. I've read that it might be caused by the pill and I'm also on antidepressants which makes everythin...

I’ve gone back to kegels after taking a break and whenever I squeeze my pelvic floor muscles I barley feel anything anymore. I know I’m sqeezing the right muscles but I barley feel anything. What’s happening? Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:55AM I’ve gone back to kegels after taking a break and whenever I squeeze my pelvic floor muscles I barley feel anything anymore. I know I’m sqeezing the right muscles but I barley feel anything. What’s happening?

There is a girl who's named Leyla and shes really nice and cute and tomorrow I see her should I ask her out (note we've known each other for around 2-3 months) Submitted October 21, 2021 at 11:59PM There is a girl who's named Leyla and shes really nice and cute and tomorrow I see her should I ask her out (note we've known each other for around 2-3 months)

I (17F) met someone (16M) online and we really started to hit it off. We started to become extremely vulnerable and personal with each other, and talked constantly for about 2 weeks. We agreed that we both didn’t want to get into a relationship, as we had both just gotten out of a long term relationship, and agreed instead to a friends with benefits type of situation. We were very open and communicative about boundaries and feelings. Yesterday, we decided to meet up, and we went to some halloween stores and just drove around. Halfway through, he tells me he’s tired and needs to go home, and we both go very silent. An hour after he drops me off, I’m blocked by him on every platform. The date was a bit awkward, and I’m an awkward introvert who has a hard time warming up to people. I can’t think of anything I did though that would be block worthy over, so I’m very upset, and confused and conflicted about what to do from here, because it seemed like we really clicked. Submitted Octobe...

First off I want to clarify that I do see myself as attractive, and I usually get told that I look older than my age, around 22-24. But what I don't want is to make people uncomfortable thinking they might see me as a 30-year-old pervert trying to smooth talk his way with 20-year-old girls. This was my first time thinking this might ever be a possibility, cause usually women actually like men above their age, so I always took it as a compliment when people said that I look older than my age. So I would just like some anonymous advice, should I take what this one person told me to heart? Is it not a compliment when people tell you that you look older than you age? Thx in advance Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:01AM First off I want to clarify that I do see myself as attractive, and I usually get told that I look older than my age, around 22-24. But what I don't want is to make people uncomfortable thinking they might see me as a 30-year-old pervert trying to smooth tal...

I (21M) asked the girl (21F) I like to dinner and she said yes. The problem is that I have social anxiety and get very nervous and I’m a horrible conversationalist when this happens. What are some questions that I can ask her to keep the conversation going? Also, how do I show her that I’m interested in her and that it’s not just dinner between friends? Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:10AM I (21M) asked the girl (21F) I like to dinner and she said yes. The problem is that I have social anxiety and get very nervous and I’m a horrible conversationalist when this happens. What are some questions that I can ask her to keep the conversation going? Also, how do I show her that I’m interested in her and that it’s not just dinner between friends?

What I mean is I find I want a relationship with people I have great conversations with no matter what they look like so far. Yet there are people who I think are beautiful who I would like to have sex with but not have a relationship with. Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:14AM What I mean is I find I want a relationship with people I have great conversations with no matter what they look like so far. Yet there are people who I think are beautiful who I would like to have sex with but not have a relationship with.

Hi there! I just want you to know that I totally understand... and that I am so grateful that you've recognized where you fall on the "sexuality spectrum" early!! All those things you described? I did them MY WHOLE LIFE. I've been married for 32 years (today, actually. Whoa!) And I finally accepted that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with me only a few years ago - and I finally stopped trying to be something and someone I'm not - and finally stopped believing that if I just "kept trying to be normal" something would "click." Let that experience with your ex go, sweetie. You needed that experience to know and love your authentic self. How blessed you are to know that you are absolutely perfect just the way you are. October 21, 2021 at 11:15PM

I don't feel awesome as in super stoked, it's just kinda chill you know October 21, 2021 at 11:14PM

Had a similar experience. It sucks. October 21, 2021 at 11:13PM

I relate to this so much. It use to be really bad for me because I would end up throwing up when I thought about the stuff I did with my ex. He told me that he would teach me what love was, and all he really taught me was sex and how to feel worthless. You are totally not alone. I wish so badly someone would have told me before that you don’t have to have sex to be in love. It’s just messed up that we aren’t taught that stuff. It seems like pretty basic things, instead we’re told that we are just teases and are selfish. Why is saying no to sex, selfish? It just doesn’t make sense. You are not alone. It’s ok and I promise that before you know it, those feelings will fade and you will move forward. October 21, 2021 at 11:13PM

Almost anyone with real good experience I’ve seen has never shamed me for not having it. Only people mainly guys who think they’re studs in bed when they get gaslighted October 21, 2021 at 11:10PM