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You: Wait.. April 12, 2020 at 12:18AM

I simply don't agree with your perceived undertone. I would have described the reverse example no different putting myself on the receiving side of "those weirdos" undertone, and the same with an aroace example. It's hard to ask you how I should have phrased my original comment differently for you when the original post no longer exist, but that's the only productive thing I see coming out of this. Your quoted undertone is grossly different from my own wording before, so I don't know where you see the undertone and what I can do about. If you can't do that we don't have anything else to talk about. April 12, 2020 at 12:17AM

There's one called aceapp that has a pretty small userbase. Otherwise I would honestly say download tinder, select asexual as your orientation and write in your bio what you're looking for. Then just swipe on whoever you think meets that description. Tinder really isn't all that bad as a dating app in general, and you'll make some cool internet friends that stay in the text zone. April 12, 2020 at 12:16AM

My coming out to my friend text conversation: "TheUltimate be like asexual noises " "Is TheUltimate asexual now?" "Yeah I made the noises there's no going back" April 12, 2020 at 12:13AM

For me it was that my family and friends are interested in who I am and would want to know April 12, 2020 at 12:12AM

i think it depends on where you live and your personal experiences, so probably you're both right April 12, 2020 at 12:06AM

All of my friends are either LGBT themselves, accepting of LGBT orientations, or not political enough to have strong opinions either way. I've never felt unsafe about them knowing my orientation. One friend in particular was my testing ground for coming out, and his response was so nice that I felt safe enough to answer honestly when my dad asked about my ace ring. That was not a good idea. He started saying that asexuality wasn't real, that asexual people weren't real, that I shouldn't put myself down like that (guessing he thought I was using asexuality as a coping mechanism for being unattractive), and he was actually saying I was sick and needed treatment . He managed to inadvertently hit every talking point on the aphobia bingo card after knowing about asexuality for all of five seconds. Thankfully, he calmed down a lot once he got over the knee-jerk reaction, but for the few minutes he was talking I had no idea what to do or say to fix things. Which, I think,...

Yes he was!! Does that have any importance? April 11, 2020 at 11:57PM

Haha, not odd at all!!! 😆And this is bad, but I actually haven’t read any of those. They are old books I found at the thrift store cause I love the look of them, but I keep reading new books first! April 11, 2020 at 11:56PM

They had this one with silver over the purple instead of black, and I was going to get that one to go more with the ace pride flag but the silver seemed to overshadow the purple. April 11, 2020 at 11:54PM

Exactly this is the problem. The sex topic is way too dominant to avoid. Friends have a few options how to handel it. They can try not to talk about that stuff with you, which eleminates a important topic to talk with you (and this means the friendship isn't as strong as it could be) or they can ignor the fact and talk about it, but you get the feeling of beeing incomplete because you can't comprehend. Doesn't matter which option they go with, you will always be the strange guy. And this sucks. But sometime I think they want just brag how sucessful they are hunting for women/men. April 11, 2020 at 11:52PM

This one was a bit out of my price range as well, but it should last for a while. Luckily I found this one at the cheaper option because I did see someone selling it for over $50, but this one was only $18.99 I believe. April 11, 2020 at 11:52PM

Woah April 11, 2020 at 11:51PM

So for some background: I am an over-thinker with bursts of high functioning anxiety and depression This is my first relationship and it's my bf's first relationship also We've been together for 8 months My bf is a very sweet and caring guy but he suffers from depersonalisation ​ I met my current bf on Tinder and we clicked so well, we had so much chemistry on our first date with lots in common and very similar values and beliefs. He was a bit lost in life at the time and I helped him to the best of my ability to get back on track which he has. In the beginning, my bf was very affectionate and we both fell in love with each other, I still love him dearly to this day. He was very attentive and invested in our relationship up until 5 months in. 6 months in, we stopped going on dates at the weekend and would typically visit each other at home, taking turns as both of us live with our parents relatively close-by. We would only go out when I suggested to and I slowly s...

First of I would like to get the most painful admission out of the way: I feel irresponsible that we have a baby (2yo) and that these feelings have been fostering from a year before she was born. The pregnancy and birth shoved this thought right at the back of my mind. But during my stay at home because of COVID-19 it is clear my wife is not the one for me. Here are the reasons: 1.) I have made numerous pleas for her to make self care a priority because her neglect after we got married has been turning me off. 2.) I have to provide solutions to all "problems" in our daily lives. 3.) Her personal life becomes my worry. Anything pressing that she needs does not get done unless I stress or do it myself. 4.) She spends hours in the kitchen, it's always her excuse for not doing a certain task that she needed to do for us while I'm at work and she is at home. 5.) Never takes no for an answer. 6.) No matter how much proof is stacked against her, she will never admit ...

I wasn't really sure how to phrase that title it's really a bizarre situation. My girlfriend and I live together, have been together for going on four years. She's a stripper. Has been for about two years. It's definitely been a strain on our relationship, and it caused some problems in the past but we've set down firm boundaries and I have my limits and we're both aware of these things (no physical contact, no contact with customers outside work being the big two.). Her club is non-nude, pasties and panties, and non-contact (state laws regarding these clubs here are really weird and full of strange requirements but in our case it worked out in my favor lol). And for the most part I've had no issues. She's not giving lapdances, I know all her coworkers, the bouncers seem like good guys so it's a relatively safe environment, it's been alright. But then, y'know, covid. All the clubs are shut down. All the girls are scrambling to find ways to ...

My brother, sister and I haven't ever really gotten along and that's mostly due to their father. Because I wasn't "his kid" every Friday when school let out I would be sent to our grandmother's house (mom's mom) for the weekend as he only wanted "his children" around. This went on for as long as I can remember up until the age of 14/15 when him and my mother divorced. Due to that "she's not family" mentality of his in regards to myself, my brother and sister never really felt like much of a brother nor sister. Only in title. The grandmother mentioned in the title of this post was ex step-dad's mother, brother and sister's biological grandmother. Though she wasn't my biological grandmother, I loved her all the same, as well as she loved me all the same. She made a big deal of my birthday every year up until the divorce was finalized, just as she did brother and sister's. She called me to tell me she loved me, ask if...

I am in a gaming group for this one shooter game which relies heavily on teamwork. This one guy who is probably 12 years old started a voice chat server designed for people who are in a bad part of the game to "rank up" to play against better teams. There is a group of 5 people, including me, who are regularly playing together on this voice chat server. The team size in this game is 5 and you really need 5 players working together effectively to do well. So in this way it is similar to a sport (soccer, basketball, etc) except as a video game. (All group members are male, between 10-40) The guy who started the voice chat server, his fake name is Billy, is very emotionally immature. If someone criticizes a specific move he did, he will have to point out some mistake they made to feel better about himself. In addition he is nagging the more skilled members of the group to "carry" him (meaning have the better players basically do all the work) but they don't want...

Okay, I have finally worked up the courage to post to Reddit. I have been lurking in the shadows for years, but every time I sat down to create an account and share my stories I lost the courage. For the first time, I feel ready to put my experiences into words and turn to the wisdom of the internet for some guidance. Positive or negative, I know that I am strong and can handle it. Here it goes and it is long, so thank you to those who read it through. For some background, I am 30 years old and my husband and I found out last month that we are having a baby! I am extremely jazzed and looking forward to this adventure with him, but have been struggling with some negative emotions I can't seem to shake. I had kind of a rough start to life. My father was abusive and my mother had no clue. He died when I was 8 but the damage was already done. When I was 10 my mom started seeing someone new, which never bothered me. I love her but she was hard to be around growing up. It never felt l...

So, two months ago, I got out of a ten month relationship. I (20F) decided to end things with my boyfriend (20M) at the time bc I had found out that he was active on Tinder during our relationship & had struck conversations with girls while we were going through a rocky patch. I found out he was active on the dating site when we’re hanging out and I saw he received a notification from Tinder. He told me he was on the app for “shits and giggles” and to “look for friends.” Though the conversations weren’t flirtatious, after discovering his activity, I felt betrayed & couldn’t trust him anymore so I decided to break up with him the day after. This was pretty painful for me to do as he was my best friend and I was very much so in love with him. He was seemingly fine w/ the break up but proceeded to block me on all social media. I reached out once to see if he wanted to meet up to go surfing together, as that was an activity we both loved to do, but he never really followed through...

I always enjoyed talking with my best friends little sister and making her laugh. I think that her being “off-limits” helped me be friends with her. I came over to see my best friend one Saturday. She had a t-shirt and underwear on, and I noticed her incredibly attractive thighs. I hope that I was not staring like that looney toons wolf. Her mother told her to go get dressed. She went from the little sister of a friend to an over the top, made me want to cry, gorgeous girl. Some time later I was looking for a date to prom, and my best friend said “why don’t you take my sister.” I was so confused and exited. She agreed to go with me because her friend was going. She wore a little black dress that showed off her hourglass figure. The image of her in that little black dress haunts my dreams. One day extremely early in our courtship I went to her house. She was wearing a bikini that made me want to cry. She came up really close, super close, and asked me “what do you want from me?” My ...

I’ve been talking to this girl for a few days and we’re both really really into each other, we vibe, we laugh, etc. And we have plans to meet up soon and you know... have sex (it was explicitly said). We met on tinder so she knows that i’m skinny and she thinks i’m cute but the thing is that i’m worried when she sees me in person she won’t be attracted because sure, she knows i’m skinny but i don’t think she realizes how much. IM VERY SKINNY, 5’3 and on an amazing week i’ll maybe hit 100 pounds. I’ve never really been with a girl lol but it’s been something that has plagued my interactions with women for a long time. Comments like ew you’re so bony omg and omg i can wrap my arms around you. Looking through the subreddit for situations like mine i’m finding nothing positive and i was just wondering if there were people out there that have had a positive experience because i want to make this girl my girlfriend, not someone who is disgusted the first time they have sex because my hips a...