Alright, may you draw my umbreon character with lime green rings instead of the yellow ones, with the ace flag behind them? June 16, 2020 at 11:55PM

On a superficial level, I can see how being ace and CF might coincide. However, correlation doesn’t equal causation, and I’m sure there are lots of aces who want to be parents. I’m not one of them. In fact, I figured out I didn’t want hellspawn of my own much sooner than I discovered my orientation. Go figure! June 16, 2020 at 11:54PM

Cool! If you want anything drop your idea in my pms or else just put it in the comments June 16, 2020 at 11:52PM

WOW did my social anxiety ghost write that? 😭 I alwaaays have to do this or I face the instant blushing and stuttering while I order... actually that happens whether I pre-check the menu or not June 16, 2020 at 11:47PM

Sure! That sounds awesome June 16, 2020 at 11:44PM

They’re shitposting. June 16, 2020 at 11:44PM

That's good advice. I still have a hard time doing things for myself and letting myself want things without feeling selfish, but I will work on it! Thank you for answering. June 16, 2020 at 11:43PM

My gyno told me it doesn't look like I've got vaginismus, I'm apparently just a virgin. But yeah at least it's not something that's concerning until I need to get a physical exam at the gyno sometime in the next year. June 16, 2020 at 11:43PM

Foodie chefs tend to make places like that when they leave to open their own restaurant! I try to seek those places out. They also unintentionally have similar names a lot of times :p The Unhappy Chef, Recalcitrus Kitchen, and Fat Cook are the three I've gone to so far. They're great if you have no allergies and aren't picky. Absolutely wonderful dishes, everytime. Even the 'familiar' stuff was well done. If you have any sort of dietary preference or restriction, I can't imagine it'd be a good experience, but you can probably call ahead a few weeks, and see if the chef can do anything for you edit: oh, you've got to be a wine drinker. There's always been a nice, fatty course so far which practically required the acidity of the matched wine to cut through it. June 16, 2020 at 11:43PM

Maybe your horny?? I've never heard of this before sorry June 16, 2020 at 11:41PM

Amatonormativity is definitely frustrating, but I guess I've also always had a very clear idea of what I like and what I don't like along with what I'm interested in and what I'm not interested in. So no matter how much people rave about something, I still exist Sure my range of emotions might not hit all the same colors as most people, but that doesn't mean I can't or don't want to connect with people. I'm 26 now and what has been helpful to me in recent years is thinking about what actually does matter to me. I look at my existing relationships and ask myself if I'm happy with them or not. I've actually improved my friendships a lot by taking steps to better express myself. Will everyone... or even anyone understand my internal hierarchy of feelings? Since they differ so much from society at large, most likely not. But at least I know myself. June 16, 2020 at 11:41PM

I think I've felt something kind of like that before, but it was before I knew I was ace. Maybe I felt the person was out of my league or that I would never be able to have a satisfying relationship with them. Neither of those are necessarily true, but it's easy to think that way with low self esteem and negative thoughts about myself. I might also be afraid that I'll get attracted to them and it would cause problems for some reason. I don't really know, but I can sort of relate I think I feel like I usually just appreciate people's beauty/aesthetics and how they're nice to look at. occasionally someone will be really striking and I can't stop looking at them, or I feel like talking to them and getting to know them, but I don't think I've ever thought of any crushes in a sexual way. Looking back at all the people I was romantically interested in, it was like I imagined us doing things together, but having sex was never one of those things. not that...

You are very sweet, thank you for your encouraging words! She does seem pretty disappointed in me now, but you're right, I think she cares about me. Hopefully that means she might come to terms with my choices someday... Hope everything goes well for you and that your family stops bugging you about it too! June 16, 2020 at 11:39PM

No, this is something else. It’s called self awareness. June 16, 2020 at 11:38PM

If you're distracted to the point that it's interfering with your ability to study, you might want to ask a school counselor or other psychologist. They may have tips for how to deal with this kind of distraction. Unfortunately, being asexual doesn't make you more able to focus. If you aren't distracted by thoughts of sex, your mind apparently just finds other things to latch onto. So, you certainly aren't alone in feeling this way. June 16, 2020 at 11:38PM

Ah, I am glad it was somewhat relevant. I don’t want to assume but I just had a thought that might be helpful. I think newcomers to the idea of asexuality get a little confused about what it means. Asexuality is about attraction/orientation, not behavior. That makes it different from having a low libido or losing your sexual energy. You can be asexual and have a sex drive (these folks often engage in kink play or solo masturbation). You can be asexual and not want sex at all. Many asexual people enjoy the intimacy of sex and participate for that reason, while other asexuals steer clear of the whole thing. It’s hard to tell the difference sometimes. Sometimes a good clue is that a person who is not asexual experiences more distress about the fact they aren’t enjoying/having sex. It’s possible your girlfriend is experience something more along the lines of a loss of libido. Anxiety and stress about sex can ultimately look and feel like the asexuality because you don’t want sex (an...

Yeah I agree the only problem is that I went to the gyno and she said that it's normal for a virgin and I'm like ?????? I don't think so but I guess she's the professional? Anyway when I go next and she still can't do a full exam I'll ask her about it again. I think she hopes I'll fix it myself by having sex or whatever. Not happening! June 16, 2020 at 11:37PM

That's.... Not how it works. There's a lot of sub-labels to Asexuality so you might identify with one of those more. But you can't turn yourself asexual??? If you are just abstaining or something, that's a little different to being ace. You didn't explain much in your question but I think you should look at some more labels on the ace spectrum if you feel the need to identify you as something. But trying to force a certain sexuality probably will not work. June 16, 2020 at 11:33PM

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Hello all! I'm a 29M, back into the dating world after a couple of years. In that time, I've learned that I do not want children now or ever. Some of my best friends have amazing children, I just don't want any myself. Given my age range (26 - 31 for the curious), my dating pool has not so surprisingly shrunk by like 90%, which I've accepted. I have a couple of questions: For the childfree folk: how do you go about concisely yet nicely wording this on your profiles? For women who want children and specifically those with children: what are some non-offensive ways to word things? Submitted June 16, 2020 at 11:56PM Hello all! I'm a 29M, back into the dating world after a couple of years. In that time, I've learned that I do not want children now or ever. Some of my best friends have amazing children, I just don't want any myself. Given my age range (26 - 31 for the curious), my dating pool has not so surprisingly shrunk by like 90%, which I've a...