Right so this girl has been allover me for a few years now and I never really been interested in her but now she's changed and now I am, only problem is she has a bf. She still looks at me in a romantic way I know it and her and her bf are not really that close you know, any advice would be much appreciated, thanks. Submitted January 03, 2020 at 12:26AM Right so this girl has been allover me for a few years now and I never really been interested in her but now she's changed and now I am, only problem is she has a bf. She still looks at me in a romantic way I know it and her and her bf are not really that close you know, any advice would be much appreciated, thanks.

Last month I went out to lunch for the first time with a coworker who I like - at the end of the meal I told her that if she would like to grab dinner sometime, she should let me know. She kind of awkwardly laughed and said OK - I think I caught her off guard. A week goes by, and I get a text from her in the middle of the day asking me if I’d like to grab a drink after work. We had a couple drinks and good conversation, she was ready for a third round but I had to leave because of a project I had to finish that night. Ended the night with a hug and tentative plans to meet up again. I texted her after that and said that I had a nice time with her and suggested that we should go out again after the holidays. She said that would be perfect. We texted a bit back and forth over the holidays and on NYE she said we should hang out this week and catch up. I went ahead and made dinner reservations for Friday night and said we could check out a new cocktail lounge after. I’m also going to be p

I dont have much experience in the dating scene, Pretty muched jumped into a two year relationship without any prior experience, But due to circumstance we had to break up. So now that I finally entered the complex and strategic world of dating I managed to get a date, we texted a lot beforehand. We met twice and both times I got the impression that it was an enjoyable experience. Fluid conversation, hug, etc. But Then over Christmas break iT turned to Mainly me doing the Texting and Then she Eventually left me on read for 4 days now. So I suppose I joined the ghosted gang. Oh Well, I will see What my future is in this complex game called "dating". Submitted January 03, 2020 at 12:29AM I dont have much experience in the dating scene, Pretty muched jumped into a two year relationship without any prior experience, But due to circumstance we had to break up. So now that I finally entered the complex and strategic world of dating I managed to get a date, we texted a lot be

As the title says - I have very little experience dating (except for one "surprise date") due to my health issues, that greatly impacted my mental health and confidence in high school. I'm going to a basically 90% girls university, so I have very few chances to actually meet someone I would like - as all my crushes always felt too "out of my league" to me back then. I also, due to my shyness and introversion (and being told that being nice looking should be enough), had a habit to be passive in going out (like "pickmeisha"), which, as my college friends pointed out, is very passe. Now it feels like everyone except for me has experience dating or being in relationship, and I started thinking that I'm missing out on something. My friends are greatly cheering on me to find someone, so I recently started getting interested in subreddits covering the topic of dating and judging/advising on attractiveness (like this one - I find the community here real

I've been dating this girl for four months and we haven't kissed yet. We've cuddled and held hands and done other kinds of affectionate things, but haven't kissed yet. I'm just a little worried if this is super weird or something. We were friends before we started dating and, although I've kissed other people before, I'm worried about initiating a kiss and then finding out she didn't really like me that way, or doing it, continuing dating, and then we break up for some reason and it be super weird. Am I being irrational? I know I probably am but some advice would be nice. Thank you!! <3 Submitted January 03, 2020 at 12:29AM I've been dating this girl for four months and we haven't kissed yet. We've cuddled and held hands and done other kinds of affectionate things, but haven't kissed yet. I'm just a little worried if this is super weird or something. We were friends before we started dating and, although I've kissed oth

I (F 32) was texting a guy (30) with a view to dating seriously over the last month or so. Ultimately, I did something wrong that ended the connection we had and I accept that. However, before that happened he would ask me very personal questions which usually I answered but if I didn't, he would accuse me of not being interested in dating him saying things like I was wasting his time because he always knew "I was too good to be interested in someone like him". If I asked him any questions about more personal things, he would always not answer or give a very generic answer. This often made me feel vulnerable. When we discussed the end of our connection, he asked why I had "lied and manipulated" him. An accusation he also made whenever I did something wrong in his eyes. But for me, I always stayed up until the very early hours of the morning just to talk to him and travelled a 3 hour round trip after work one evening just to meet him because he raised concerns

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You and I have been everything. Lovers, Fiancés, friends with benefits. Now what are we. We claim to love each-other but can’t be together because you need time. Yet you call me babe. You call me hun and dear. You tell me you love me. Friends with benefits don’t do that. Lovers do. But we’re not committed. What are we? And why does it hurt... Submitted January 02, 2020 at 11:50PM You and I have been everything. Lovers, Fiancés, friends with benefits. Now what are we. We claim to love each-other but can’t be together because you need time. Yet you call me babe. You call me hun and dear. You tell me you love me. Friends with benefits don’t do that. Lovers do. But we’re not committed. What are we? And why does it hurt...

This dude really got me cute ass frogs for Christmas . I love frogs but my love for him is unbeatable :’) Submitted January 03, 2020 at 12:03AM This dude really got me cute ass frogs for Christmas . I love frogs but my love for him is unbeatable :’)

I'm 17 (guy) and my cousin is 20. Her birthday is in less than two months. I play electric guitar, and I also sing (though I do it horrible, like when I was celebrating my aunt's birthday and sung happy birthday, my cousin laughed kinda hard, though I was at least happy I made her laugh) and I was thinking of writing her a song that I could perform on her birthday. It'll be about her, how smart, ambitious and sweet she is, and stuff like that. Would it be rude however if I asked her to perform it? Because I'm afraid of her saying "of course not" or something since I'm not a professional musician. I've only been playing guitar for almost three years and didn't start writing full songs until last September. Or do you think she would appreciate it and think I was sweet for doing it? She did call me cute once when I told her what each letter in her name meant, like smart, ambitious and happy. I felt really, really happy that day. TL;DR Would it be ru

I (a 22 y/o bisexual female) have had a crush on my best friend (a 21 y/o bisexual female) for about a year. She’d been dating a guy for about a 9 months, so I decide to get over it, w/e. I had been talking to this other girl for about a month, when my best friend told me she broke up with her bf. since then, she’s been super cuddly with me, talking to me a lot more, leaning her head on my shoulder, etc. my crush is getting so much bigger, but i’ve also still been talking to the other girl, who i think is cool. my best friend is also changing colleges this semester, so i won’t be seeing her often. should i tell her how i feel? or should i let it go and try to pursue the other girl i’m talking to? TL;DR: im in love with my friend, she’s moving, im talking to someone else. what to do? Submitted January 02, 2020 at 11:48PM I (a 22 y/o bisexual female) have had a crush on my best friend (a 21 y/o bisexual female) for about a year. She’d been dating a guy for about a 9 months, so I

To preface, I’m a 15 year old with depression and anxiety, so please understand that not everything I did might sound logical in your eyes. So I have a tumblr blog where I rant about my feelings. It’s private, and only my close friends know about it. On it, I complain a lot about my parents causing stress, my genuine struggles, but also exaggerations of how much I hate life (angsty teenage dark jokes). My parents found out about this blog because I left my laptop open one day. They got very upset, and my dad (my mom lives in a different country, but they’re not divorced) threatened to move in with my mom and leave me alone to work minimum wage to support myself. My parents are understandably most upset about the posts regarding them and how much I dislike their unrealistic expectations of me. Some posts about them were exaggerated, which also upset them. I tried to apologize and explain that I wrote on the blog when I was feeling my worst, so I kind of just wanted to spill out all my

TLDR; Girlfriend of 5 and a half year now hates me. Hey, So i rly F****d up. My ex and i broke up in late August 2019 and werent talking for a month, we still lived together though. after that we started talking again. even got romantic on and off. We stayed in touch via social media and mutual friends (we are in the same core group of friends). We moved away from each other in december but stayed in touch over social media. She said prior to new years eve that we should only remain as friends and thats all she wanted. We both went to a new years party and everything was great and we had a lot of fun. Later that night i got awfully drunk and thought she had left the party, ( she came back ). Everyone at the party was close friends btw. So its 5am, im drunk out of my mind i go to my friends room to pass out. my ex was there aswell, I didn't want to bother her so i lay down next to my friends who happens to be one of her best girl friends. Out of nowhere (atleast in my head) her f

My [32NB] friend and housemate [29F] has a habit of offering very generous and unnecessary things, and then ...just not doing them. Some examples: A) NYE they offered to buy alcohol to restock the house. They have often been less employed than the rest of us in the past and we’ve supplied more groceries/alcohol because it’s no bother, so this is nice but not at all expected. There’s a whole ten minute conversation about what type of wine we’d like, and they said they’d just got paid and wanted to spend $200 on alcohol, so this wasn’t a quick offhand thought. A few hours later I check with them & oh they decided just to buy two cheap bottles of spirits, so now I have to rush out to get the wine I wanted or have nothing for New Years. B) I’m coming back from several months overseas & I’ve been having a difficult time. My friend has been talking up meeting me at the gate with a big sign and balloons and everything. I get off the (26 hour) flight and discover they’re not at the

Long dramatic post here :`) Okay so I met this guy at school and he was funny and we got along. I didn't expect to continue being friends after but he texted me and we started to going out a few days every week or month. So, the thing is I realized I liked him a couple of months after meeting him for the first time. This is an idiotic fun fact but I have had big crushes on several girls but only two boys, him and another friend. And it makes me so scared that I may get a crush on my male friends??? Like. I have a lot of male friends and I don't have a crush on them. But the two (2) boys I have ever liked in my life were already my friends. And that worries me because I have anxiety and low self-esteem and it scares me that when someone treats me well it seems so wonderful i get attached too soon, like it means a lot for me, and nothing to them. I don't know if this makes sense but I'm just idek. I tried to not think about him or at least not think about him /in that

Hey What a way to start the new year... I broke up with my bf of almost 4 years a few hours ago, b/c I just cant stand how hes irresponsible, always coming up with excuses rather than owning up/apologizing, and just doesnt seem to want to grow up. This year was tough and miserable for both of us. The fight we had was over something incredibly stupid, but it was enough to show me that if I continue to just let things go the way they are, it'll just be another 2019 for me/us. I feel anxious over how incredibly calm I am about it. I cant tell if its b/c I'm so numb over the situation or it hasnt hit me yet. I know I'm sad. I still love him so much... I wanted to marry him. But he has hurt me too much for me to want to beg for him back or anything. I feel bad b/c it happened over text. But everytime I called to talk a screaming match would happen and hed hang up. I'm scared well just be whatever about it and get back together. But despite how much I love him, I dont

Hi! I just got out of a 3 year relationship because we both need to work on ourselves separately. We have a kid together and we’ve spent the last few months arguing. It’s not healthy for my daughter(1) or me(24F). He(24) was consistently going out at night and not calling but showing up at 3am. Saying things like he doesn’t want being a father to be his whole identity. I personally think he's depressed. We both have said very mean things to each other and have been super inconsiderate of the others feelings. Both of us are very remorseful that it’s gotten to this point and I do still want to be with him but just not right now. I’m hoping that w/space we’ll be able to build a healthier and loving relationship in the future but right now we need a break from each other.. I’m curious if anyone has ever been in this situation and how it turned out. Any advice on what we can do while we aren't together that will help us build a better relationship. TL;DR me(24f) and my ex (24m) ha

Been together with my boyfriends for 3 years and only been with guys previously, and now of a sudden I work with a girl [F24] that I can't get of my mind?! She's the recent addition to our team at my part time job (we are all students) and the first time I saw her I felt strongly attracted to her, in a very magnetizing way. I was surprised because I've never felt like that about a woman in my whole life. I've tried everything to forget about this crush but it doesn't go away and my boyfriend doesn't feel interesting anymore when I go home. So what now? Tldr: Have a crush on my co worker although I have a boyfriend. What to do? Submitted January 03, 2020 at 12:04AM Been together with my boyfriends for 3 years and only been with guys previously, and now of a sudden I work with a girl [F24] that I can't get of my mind?!She's the recent addition to our team at my part time job (we are all students) and the first time I saw her I felt strongly attra

So I don't know if this is the right sub for this but my wife [30sF] and I [30sM] are trying to make 2020 a bit of a self care year from both a financial and health perspective. Part of that is we're trying to do (i) no eating out for Jan and (ii) Dryanuary. I'm looking for ways to still make our dates fun since neither one of us particularly enjoys cooking. Specifically I'm looking for ideas about that transition from being out doing something fun to coming home and having to cook or just heat up left overs. Typically a date for us would be something like a hike followed by brunch, or dinner and a comedy show, or people watching and a few drinks at a bar, or even just going out for dinner. Obviously we could try and get all into making fancy meals, but honestly neither one of us really enjoy cooking. Typically when we get home having eaten and/or had a few drinks it's easy to transition straight to sexy-time. How do you handle that transition and keep it feeling

I (F, 21) matched with a guy (M, 21) on tinder. We‘ve been texting on WA since about a month and it’s going well, I think. We both stated that we are interested in meeting and getting to know each other personally. Now, the problem is, we‘re both university students and currently in the finals period. He has a looot more exams than I do and is much more occupied/busy with studying (is studying a harder subject than I am). So his head is full with uni stuff atm. Thus, he stated that unfortunately he can‘t meet me until after his exams bc he wants to rlly focus on his finals. I don’t have a problem with that. A couple days ago I suggested that we call for a short time and he agreed and we decided to set the call for yesterday evening. While we decided on the call he warned me that since he knows himself and he knows how worked up he can get when he‘s in the middle of his studies that he might fuck it up and can’t remind himself to call me. He apologized in advance for if that would happ

There's this guy who works at the same place as me but on a different store who I usually greet and make small conversations for a bit. When I have to go to my store I pass by the one he works for and just greet everyone there by just shouting "hello" or waving. This past few days I haven't been doing that much but when me and him find each other when he greets me, he always have to touch me somehow. Usually it's only high fives but sometimes it's a kiss on the cheek when we spend a few days without seeing each other, a light touch on the elbow or shoulder. Other times when I give him the high five, our fingers interlock for a while and we just stay there chatting about our day. Sometimes when I see him a bit far away from me, I just wave at him then he comes all the way to just greet and touch me. I don't mind him doing that but that kind of thing makes me question if he's actually just a touchy person or if he's trying to imply something. I tr

Tl;DR: When my GF is upset, she will send a barrage of angry messages regardless of whether i am available to talk e.g. am out with family, friends, at work. She also does this when i am in no state to discuss her points or calm her down e.g. right before crucial medical appointments. I think this is unreasonable and is greatly affecting me. Hi all, I've been with my GF for just under a year- could do with some advice as its my first real relationship. Whenever my girlfriend is upset- she cant stop herself from fighting. For example, if I'm out with my family for dinner she'll send me numerous messages about how she's upset about something- il tell her im really sorry, il phone her as soon as im done with my family dinner- but she'll keep going and send me messages for hours on end about how upset she is etc even though I've asked her to stop. This may sound quite minor but its taking a toll on me because it happens all the time and it is so intense- eg whe

There's this hot asian chick who rides the train with me everyday, she's a marine. I know she is because she wears the marine uniform everytime I see her. She's so sexy! I want to fondle her but I am afraid of going to jail. How do I do this and not go to jail? Submitted January 02, 2020 at 11:46PM There's this hot asian chick who rides the train with me everyday, she's a marine. I know she is because she wears the marine uniform everytime I see her.She's so sexy! I want to fondle her but I am afraid of going to jail. How do I do this and not go to jail?