that’s literally the definition of “Gay is cute and quirky! Screw the straights!” and it’s gross as hell homie October 16, 2020 at 12:03AM

um.. literally I don't sexualize anyone 🙃 I just think love is cute. October 16, 2020 at 12:02AM

My favorite is Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind, followed by Princess Mononoke, then probably Howl's Moving Castle. I really like the environmental message from the Nausicaä and Mononoke, and that type of message was lacking in society at the time those movies came out. I've also seen Castle in the Sky, My Neighbor Totoro (one of my friends is a huge fan of this one since he watched it a lot as a kid), Spirited Away, and Arrietty. Some time I'll get the ones I haven't seen and watch them. I think all the movies are good, since they actually tell a story, and don't rely on typical anime tropes/gags. October 16, 2020 at 12:01AM

and that’s on sexualizing gay people 😀 October 16, 2020 at 12:01AM

sexual orientation is determined by which gender/s one feels sexual attraction to. Heterosexuals are allosexuals who feel sexual attraction to the opposite gender. If you are not heterosexual (and cis and heteroromantic) you are GSRM. The a-spec are not heterosexual because we feel sexual attraction to NO genders and/or are not allosexual like heterosexuals are. I'm not sure what's so confusing to ya ? October 16, 2020

I also don't like watching other people swap spit, regardless of sexuality. Unless it's like, a peck or something, but the kind of slobbery, passionate making-out that you see in movies? Hard pass. Not into PDA in general. lol October 15, 2020 at 11:59PM

yeah that’s homophobic lmao October 15, 2020 at 11:59PM

Wait Wut October 15, 2020 at 11:59PM

ik im probably demi. what im trying to say is that your definition of sexual/romantic minorities excludes many aspec identities including demi edit: not saying we should include harmful stuff like pedophilia and zoophilia but we do need a better definition October 15, 2020 at 11:57PM

That’s still homophobic. Get better soon. October 15, 2020 at 11:55PM

Yeah exactly. They would fall under GRSM, and they might be inherently LGBTQ+, since your identity doesn't just poof away regardless of how terrible a person you are, but they certainly would not be part of any "community". October 15, 2020 at 11:55PM

yeah but a homophobic ace wouldn't consider themselves lgbt+ either ?? it's literally the gay community . October 15, 2020 at 11:54PM

I mean, even if they "chose" to be (for some reason) nobody accepts homophobes into the lgbt+ either as allies or otherwise ?? October 15, 2020 at 11:51PM

Except they don't accept that we are a part of the LGBT+ community.. October 15, 2020 at 11:50PM

Yeah they aren't part of the "community", per se, if they choose not to be. lmao October 15, 2020 at 11:49PM

You can't just say that straight aces or aroaces are "probably" homophobic October 15, 2020 at 11:48PM

Pence October 15, 2020 at 11:47PM

the asexual spectrum is about not feeling sexual attraction to any gender. Demi is on the asexual spectrum bc demis live the asexual experience 98% of the time of not being sexually attracted to any gender. Same with greys. October 15, 2020 at 11:47PM

Hi there, have you heard about aegosexuality? It's a sub label on the ace spectrum, and what you said about enjoying relationships and sex in third person but not being interested when you are involved pretty much fits its definition. Aegosexuality (or autochorisexuality) is a disconect between oneself and the subject of arousal. We can enjoy porn, erotica, have sexual fantaisies, and masturbate, but we do not wish to participate in the action. Or course, aegoromantic also exist, but I can't really talk about it since it's not my case lol... What made me realise I was aego was that I couldn't get off with someone, I just don't feel anything when I have no trouble doing it on my own. I identify as sex-neutral since I don't really care about sex, but since I don't enjoy it I'd rather not do it. I can, and do, find people aesthetically attractive, but I've never felt someone was 'hot' and 'oh my god i need to do stuff with them'. To m

being demi doesn't have to do with what gender/s youre attracted/not attracted to October 15, 2020 at 11:43PM

Only you can decide for yourself, but this sounds a lot like asexuality to me! Asexuality isn’t necessarily repulsion to sex. It’s simplest definition is just a lack of sexual attraction, which seems like what you’re describing. I’d check out the pinned FAQ if you haven’t already. It helped me a lot in figuring out whether or not I was asexual. October 15, 2020 at 11:42PM

Valid question! We live in a world that puts (hetero) sex and romance on a very high pedestal, along with amatonormativity (idea that having one exclusive romantic/sexual relationship is a universally shared goal). That leaves many people who don't conform to those things left feeling like an outcast, different or broken. It affects our worldviews, life, and experiences with others. So, you might see how ace (and aro) people can relate to other lgbt+ experiences. I can't talk for anyone else's experiences but my own (I'm aroace), but feeling like a part of a community, feeling not alone in my struggles, and finding terms to describe my experiences are very valuable to me. It's very tiring that everyone expects me being straight. My parents expecting grandchildren. People asking about potential partners. So coming out can be as liberating (and scary) of an experience as for any non-straight person. Flags and other pride stuff is well, about pride. You don't f

Same. I didn't know I was ace in middle school, and I was very sheltered and assumed that since doing hetero sexy things and being straight was a choice, that doing gay sexy things was also a choice. Same about trans folks, I thought it was a fetish to want to change gender/sex because of how much furry art and fanfiction I saw on the internet of it, but then I did some reading and learned about chimerism and transhumanism and whatnot and realized that was also not a choice. I grew up in a semi-conservative household in Texas, surrounded by some.conservative people, and the impression I get is that people are often homophobic because they believe it's a choice, and they believe LGBTQ+ are just extra-horny sexual deviants who aren't satisfied by cishetero culture, looking for extreme forms of self-gratification... which obviously isn't the case. Homophobic aces exist. Transphobic aces exist. I used to be one of them a long, long, long time ago. Even if it was before I