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/u/Thornescape on Clarifying the Sex Repulsed/Favourable vs Sex/Positive/Negative terminology and spectrum

A demisexual functions like an asexual until they form a particular connection with someone, and when they have that particular connection they function like an allosexual with that person with full sexual attraction. "Functions like" is not the same as "is identical to". This terminology is accurate. Demisexuals see both sides. They aren't identical to either asexual or allosexual, if you really analyze it. If you used the same method to analyze the asexual side of demis, then they wouldn't pass either. Your approach would mean that demisexuals don't count as asexuals either. Demisexuals function like asexuals most of the time, and under special circumstances, they function like allosexuals with specific people. That's what happens. That's how it is. It doesn't invalidate us in any way to say it. Demisexuals struggle because stuff doesn't make sense. Demi didn't even exist as a definition until 2007, which was long after I stop...

/u/Snert42 on Had this conversation with my friend and thought it might have a place here

This is amazing April 16, 2021 at 12:00AM

/u/haikusbot on Got a new ring! 🥰💜

The lighting makes it Look like an asexual Simpsons character - WasteAdministration2 I detect haikus. And sometimes, successfully. Learn more about me. Opt out of replies: "haikusbot opt out" | Delete my comment: "haikusbot delete" April 15, 2021 at 11:57PM

/u/WasteAdministration2 on Got a new ring! 🥰💜

The lighting makes this look like an asexual Simpsons character April 15, 2021 at 11:57PM

/u/JustSomeFantasyGamer on Sex repulsed or sex indifferent

There is also sex ambivalent, which is a general term for anyone who doesn't fit neatly in those categories https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Sex-ambivalent April 15, 2021 at 11:56PM

/u/HighPitchedNoise on I don't want to be aphobic anymore. Help.

There's a difference between critical thinking and hate, and after reading your comment, I think you err on the latter. April 15, 2021 at 11:53PM

/u/_noice202 on resisting “the temptation” is way easier than I thought it would be

that’s how I found out I was probably ace hahhah April 15, 2021 at 11:52PM

/u/notacockroach_ on Someone gifted me a condom as a welcoming present for going to a new school? What do I do with it?

Keep it in case. Worse thing that happens is you don't use it. Or you know, make a balloon animal with it. April 15, 2021 at 11:48PM

/u/Human_Person22 on Does this mean we're immortal?

Asexuals when they die: You can now play as Luigi April 15, 2021 at 11:45PM

/u/Cmixoops on When did you realize you were Ace? Let's discover what we share in common!

Last Saturday, upon seeing a tumblr post about asexuality. I knew the basic definition, but I had never thought about in terms of me. April 15, 2021 at 11:42PM

/u/Aboxofdeth on My Wife and I

I don't really have anything to add. Just wanted to drop in and say it's wonderful to see someone so unconditionally supportive. I wish both of you the best in learning how to adjust that fits you both the best! April 15, 2021 at 11:41PM

/u/bizarre_fox on Starting to wonder if I’m asexual but having weird feelings

Sexual attraction implies that you want to have sex with someone, but if you don't want to have sex then you're experiencing sexual repulsion , which yes would you make a sex-repulsed asexual. That said, you can still be attracted to people for other reasons, such as their looks or their personalities, and you may even want to be in a relationship with them. It's important to recognize those kinds of attraction and separate them from sexual attraction. But more importantly, your sexuality is valid no matter if you like sex or not. You may be an asexual, a gray-asexual, a demisexual, or whatever. It's normal to take your time exploring your sexuality, just don't let other people pressure you into having sex with them when you don't want to. April 15, 2021 at 11:39PM

/u/mlsjthrowaway on how do u know for sure?

i'm trying not to worry about it too much, but it's hard. i definitely feel the pressure to be in a relationship or at least try dating, and i also just feel lonely and bored of not having a companion in my life. i'm just really scared that if i haven't felt sexual attraction yet it might never happen and i need to accept that April 15, 2021 at 11:36PM

/u/Cessicka on Does this mean we're immortal?

I accept cake, garlic bread and dragon egg in exchange for my godly blessings April 15, 2021 at 11:34PM

/u/joonehunnit on When did you realize you were Ace? Let's discover what we share in common!

It was around year 8-9, when people would talk about sexual topics and sexual fantasies they’d have with other people. I had a crush on this one boy at the time, and tried to have the same sexual fantasies that my buddies described to be. No matter how hard I tried, my mind would always block the image out my head and skip to the part where I already had kids that were born. Another thing that happened was when my buddies around my would talk about finding random people sexually attractive. I also tried to be sexually attracted to people to feel normal but my mind always just cut the image out and I’d feel disgusted with myself. I thought there was something wrong with me because nobody around me was like me nor did they teach different sexual orientations at school (man sex Ed class was so heteronormative), and anyone who wasn’t straight in those classes felt left out or not normal. I also thought I was bisexual for the longest time, because I did like both guys and girls romanticall...

/u/thesewingdragon on Does this mean we're immortal?

Let's be honest, r/memes isn't exactly homophobic (from the cross posts I've seen). They're misogynistic and transphobic. Still awful, just not in every way April 15, 2021 at 11:32PM

/u/fae-kat on I don’t know who I am, and I need some help.

If you’ve never been romantically/sexually interested in someone, then it honestly sounds like you have aesthetic attraction to me. You can be aroace, not having romantic/sexual attraction, but having other types of attraction (sensual, emotional, aesthetic, alterous, etc). Maybe you can look these terms up and see if they fit? Also, asexuality/aromantism is a spectrum, so those broad terms may not fit perfectly, but something more specific might. I think it’d be good if you could check it all out! I hope this helps! April 15, 2021 at 11:32PM

/u/Personality_Upstairs on Someone gifted me a condom as a welcoming present for going to a new school? What do I do with it?

Sock April 15, 2021 at 11:31PM

/u/SofiaJasamina on Just curious, do you use sexual terms to describe things you like?

You too, you seem awesome. April 15, 2021 at 11:30PM

/u/thesewingdragon on Does this mean we're immortal?

I (a biro ace) hold the ultimate power mwahahaha April 15, 2021 at 11:28PM

/u/EnchantedRose032495 on resisting “the temptation” is way easier than I thought it would be

Exactly the same for me like: “I thought this was supposed to be a challenge!” How little I knew back then. April 15, 2021 at 11:27PM

/u/the_hairwitch on Does this mean we're immortal?

The aces were here before everything and will stay till the end April 15, 2021 at 11:24PM

/u/zphantomthief on Well this explains my asexuality perfectly

I've had situations where I feel like I fluctuate between repulsed, neutral, and favorable. Does anyone else feel this way? I'm not quite sure how to explain to anyone without confusing them :( April 15, 2021 at 11:23PM