You get to decide when you’re ready to come out who you’re ready to come out to. Full stop. Especially since it sounds like you’re still figuring things out. Take your time and ask your friend to respect where you’re at even if they don’t completely understand. September 28, 2021 at 12:41AM

Agree!! It just the need, in particular you don't actually have to imagine anything. September 28, 2021 at 12:38AM

Oh since he had relationships with men in the past, I thought he was homoromantic asexual September 28, 2021 at 12:36AM

What about the other genders beyond the binary? As pan we stan September 28, 2021 at 12:36AM

For me it depends on if its gratuitous or unnecessarily toxic. Either one is fine, but also both can be real stupid about it sometimes. If it's well shot or written I might enjoy it especially if the characters find it to be an integral moment or if the narrator treats it with respect. But how that looks in both mediums is gonna vary too much for me to say which is better and why, and sometimes it's just based on my mood when I run into tue scene. Ot could be a perfectly good/acceptable scenario but i was feeling bored that day so i find it boring. September 28, 2021 at 12:34AM

He seems to only make me finish from clit stimulation, which is amazing. But I want to be able to finish from penetration, it would more intimate.. I just want to be able to finish from his dick. Any advice? Or does it just happen? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:40AM He seems to only make me finish from clit stimulation, which is amazing. But I want to be able to finish from penetration, it would more intimate.. I just want to be able to finish from his dick.Any advice? Or does it just happen?

I have a question which is has anyone ever made a custom dildo that looks the same as someone's real penis? I've looked at clone a willy already but it seems complicated and I've heard that they're not made from good materials and it seems expensive. My BF and I are LDR and he asked me if he could buy me a penetrative toy and I think I'd rather have one that's in his 'likeness' if I can, rather than some designed one for mass production if that makes sense Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:47AM I have a question which is has anyone ever made a custom dildo that looks the same as someone's real penis? I've looked at clone a willy already but it seems complicated and I've heard that they're not made from good materials and it seems expensive. My BF and I are LDR and he asked me if he could buy me a penetrative toy and I think I'd rather have one that's in his 'likeness' if I can, rather than some designed one for mas...

I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship with my fiancée and only recently did she get comfortable with us having sex without condoms and holy cow. This is THE BEST!!! Of course everything feels like so much more amazing, but I just hate the smell of latex. And the squirming feeling while putting on the condom. And then removing it and disposing of it. And getting out of her carefully and quickly to avoid any leakage from the condom. Now, I don't need to worry about 'nothing!! My poor fiancée takes care of everything, that darling! And she's unfortunately getting the raw end of the deal. I'm so glad the days of fumbling with condoms and cleaning up with them are over. Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:52AM I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship with my fiancée and only recently did she get comfortable with us having sex without condoms and holy cow. This is THE BEST!!!Of course everything feels like so much more amazing, but I just hate the smell...

I just ended a 3.5 year relationship. Lots of ups and downs. I love her but I decided it was best for both of us to not be together anymore. She seemed to understand. There wasn’t any pushback on her side. She accepted it. Probably because this is like our fuckin 5th time breaking up but this time it’s a forsure thing. She’s probably over it and doesn’t wanna keep doing the on and off shit. She even told me before next time we “breakup” she doesn’t want to get back together. I’ve kinda been checked out of the relationship emotionally for a while now. Honestly I want to talk to other women already but I don’t want to disrespect her seeing as October is the last month of our apartment lease. I told her I would move out, help her pay the last month, and I’d go to live at my grandmas. Would I be wrong to engage with other women even though we have this one last thing we have to deal with? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:57AM I just ended a 3.5 year relationship. Lots of ups and...

If so how would you overcome this problem? Would more foreplay and lubricant help? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:58AM If so how would you overcome this problem? Would more foreplay and lubricant help?

I've been making many posts on this subreddit, but I need lots of help lol! Anyways, I just started chatting with a guy this past Fri. We had a wonderful text session, and he kept blowing up my phone (In a good way). He offered to Facetime the next day (Sat). Sat comes, and we plan to Facetime at 8PM. I text him to start the call, and he doesn't respond. I get a text from him at 2am, stating that he "Dozed off". I was irritated, but accepted the answer, and asked if he wanted to Facetime the next day. No response until the evening, when I sent him a text asking if he was still interested in communicating, and his response was "Of course" and that he was busy visiting him grandmother who is very old, but he was home now. I asked if he wanted to Facetime and no response. He sends me a text this morning "Hey there, happy Mon"! I respond with happy Mon back, and ask how he is, and no response. Bear in mind that he has a VERY demanding job in the medic...

I recently started dating this girl (f21) who I met on tinder. It's been 4 weeks since we met and she's mentioned multiple times she has a lot of trauma with men, has severe anxiety and depression, and also dissociates whenever trying to do menial tasks - driving more anxiety and depression. She does not exhibit any of these things when we are around and sometimes our dates last more than 12 hours. Her father has said when I'm not around she gets down and sad and is a different person. My previous relationship was with someone who also had severe anxiety and depression and I told myself I wouldn't date someone like that again unless I saw they were actively working toward healing (therapy, meditation, physical activity, etc.). We have a wonderful time together but I don't want to be her crutch to feel good. I also don't want to get into the "I must change her" mindset. Her happiness and mental well-being is not my responsibility. We have not slept ...

I (33F) invited an acquaintance/friend (35M) whom I had previously gone on a handful of dates with out for last weekend and it turned into a date. We both had a great time. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see if we’re actually compatible. I told him I liked him as well. I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a couple days. Should I give him a call just to say hi? Or do men really just jump at the opportunity when they know someone is interested - the old “if he wanted to, he would” ? Submitted September 28, 2021 at 12:07AM I (33F) invited an acquaintance/friend (35M) whom I had previously gone on a handful of dates with out for last weekend and it turned into a date. We both had a great time. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see if we’re actually compatible. I told him I liked him as well.I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been a couple days. Should I give him a call just to say hi? Or do men really just jump at the opportunity when they know someone...

So a few weeks ago I gave the sister a ride to get her car. I saw her walking and thought I’d ask is she needed a ride or if she was just exercising. Turns out she was very happy that I asked because it was going to rain and hopped in. Through some weird events I find myself changing her flat tire for a spare just a few days later. My only intention was to be a gentleman. She had looked after my daughter before and I wanted to somehow return the favor. A few days after that her kids and mine wanted to spend time together over at my house. We had never really spoken till this time. We start getting to know each and eventually decide to go out. After a few drinks and some long conversations she spent the night, no kids in the house this time. Her brother and my ex don’t know about any of this. I believe there is some real chemistry between us but I’m having second thoughts because of her brother and the mother of my child. What are the chances that this could actually work out or shoul...

So I (26M) have never been in a relationship before. Previously, I never wanted to be in a relationship. All throughout high school and college my friends and I were all single and I felt that being in a relationship would take away from being able to hang out with them. Since then my attitude on all that has changed. I feel that overall I am very happy. I'm a medical student who has amazing friends and amazing family. I workout regularly, have a diverse range of hobbies, like going out, like staying in etc. This past year, I've put a big effort into putting myself out there to try and find someone but have had literally no luck so far and would like some advice on what I could do differently. I've gone out with probably 10 women in the past year, none of them at the same time. I met them both through everyday life and online dating. 7 of the 10 ghosted me after the first date. 3 of the 10 I went out with for at least 3 weeks and all ended telling me that they didn't...

To start things off I'm a 19 year old girl and have vaginismus. Which is basically where penetration is either too painful or impossible to achieve. My other issue is that whenever I think of actually feeling around in there I feel lightheaded. Almost like someone who faints when they see blood I guess. It's not the pain part that bothers me but I hate the thought of sticking my finger somewhere where I can't see anything and just have to feel around different textures and wonder what the hell it is I'm touching. I know it's ridiculous because it's my body and vaginas have existed since the beginning of time so why is it so scary to me? I just feel having this fear may be contributing to my condition and it's slowing down the healing process. What is even more hilarious is that I'm gay. I'm very sexually attracted to women and want to be with one but yet I have a fear of vaginas??? I know this is just something where eventually I'm just gonna ha...

We’re each others first and i really enjoy the sex we have, though I feel like we’ve explored a lot of the tame stuff and want to try something new. Now he’s been down to try whatever I suggest, want to surprise him with an idea he’d be really into. For context he’s a bit odd, not in a bad way just not what I would expect. His favourite thing in terms of receiving, is to snuggle up to me while I give him a slow handjob. So guess something that fits that theme Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:44PM We’re each others first and i really enjoy the sex we have, though I feel like we’ve explored a lot of the tame stuff and want to try something new. Now he’s been down to try whatever I suggest, want to surprise him with an idea he’d be really into.For context he’s a bit odd, not in a bad way just not what I would expect. His favourite thing in terms of receiving, is to snuggle up to me while I give him a slow handjob. So guess something that fits that theme

I (19F) just started having sex with my boyfriend (29M) and I've noticed that I'm bleeding from my vagina now. Long story short, I'm a bit worried, but I'm hoping it's just the fact that I haven't had sex in months and months and he's got a large penis. Coupled with the fact that we had a... Umm, a fairly "rough session", I'm hoping that is all it is. He hasn't had sex in months either, if that is relevant. Also, It's not period blood due to me having a copper IUD. Any idea what it could be, if not the aforementioned things? Thanks in advance a slightly worried young lady Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:47PM I (19F) just started having sex with my boyfriend (29M) and I've noticed that I'm bleeding from my vagina now. Long story short, I'm a bit worried, but I'm hoping it's just the fact that I haven't had sex in months and months and he's got a large penis. Coupled with the fact that we had a.....

I'm wondering if there are any favorite "configurations" out there for people who have threesomes regularly. I may be jumping the gun, but I really hope my roommate, me, and my bf end up doing things more often. The only position that worked where everyone was really having fun was cowgirl and the other one of us sitting on him. He didn't g odown on her much, he was shy I think, so it was me getting eaten out and enjoying how gorgeous she looked riding him. Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:48PM I'm wondering if there are any favorite "configurations" out there for people who have threesomes regularly. I may be jumping the gun, but I really hope my roommate, me, and my bf end up doing things more often. The only position that worked where everyone was really having fun was cowgirl and the other one of us sitting on him. He didn't g odown on her much, he was shy I think, so it was me getting eaten out and enjoying how gorgeous she looked ridin...

Is this only in porn, or it happens it in real life too, with more woman being open to playing with their partner’s feet? Submitted September 27, 2021 at 11:52PM Is this only in porn, or it happens it in real life too, with more woman being open to playing with their partner’s feet?