Hey, newbie ase-r here so please forgive my ignorance (just trying to verify my understanding) If you're asexual and have a fetish, does that mean that you would (hypothetically) masterbate to your fetish, but don't have any interest in having sex with another person? April 30, 2023 at 12:18AM

Yeah that seems pretty abnormal. Most of the women I know have expressed in conversations that they usually like a guy less once they feel like a guy is ‘chasing’ them, and that definitely parallels what I’ve seen in my own dating world as well. April 30, 2023 at 12:14AM

You guys... This dude raped me... And now he is saying that I'm making a big deal about the situation. . And and saying it's not a good idea if I reported him.. . Because he tells me that it would be worst on me.... And in just So confused.... He also tells me that he never meant to do that to me... He just wanted me to not be so concerned about getting pregnant and stuff... He also tells me that He never meant it to be (well, since he doesn't believe it's rape.... )He thinks that I'm overthinking it... And that He only wanted to show me that I'm not gonna get pregnant and that I shouldn't be afraid of sex. To be clear this is what happened: STEP 1: I told him that I was really horny, and basically told him this: " Hey ex bf...I wouldn't mind having sex, but since I get so paranoid about sex, I don't think we should do it." (Please remember this part.) (NOTE:I DID EXPLAINED THAT I WAS THINKING OF HIM PUTTING HIMSELF OR HIS FINGE

How could I save it to my computer then?? And what if my computer gets broken would I still have the audio?? April 30, 2023 at 12:09AM

Y’all. First post ever and it’s this. 😭 I’m bummed about the situation, honestly. But a guy and I met last year and it didn’t work out and then he came back and tried again. I still had feelings so I let it all happen, and just like last year, I offered to pay for my stuff since day one. He lid for a couple dates and after that I’d cover myself because I know his income is less than mine. Almost $20 and hour less, so I always thought it fair to cover myself unless he offered and be modest when he does. So anyway, in the just under two months that that we lasted this second time, we’ve “broken it off” like twice because I felt like I poured into him and our relationship a whole lot more than him. He was super invested at the beginning, texting me often and matching my energy or whatever it’s called, and then once we began to get physical, he began to stop. To the point where he’d go hours and almost a day without texting me. We only continued that far because he said he wanted to try

I'm sex-repulsed and scared of sex as well. It's not something I've ever had to discuss with anyone (I've never dated) but I could see it being extremely frustrating and painful to feel so invalidated. Just know you aren't alone and that there's nothing about you that needs "fixing". ❤️ April 29, 2023 at 10:51PM

No problem, thrust just means Something else, thats why i found it funny April 29, 2023 at 10:46PM