i want to clarify i have not matched, liked or messaged this girl in the past. so im basing this question on the following. 1. she might not have a paid subscription therefor she will never see my like. 2. she hasn't used one specific app for a while so she wont see my message for a long time or wont log back in. 3. she doesn't see my likes or messages because she receives too many. Submitted October 29, 2022 at 01:11AM i want to clarify i have not matched, liked or messaged this girl in the past.so im basing this question on the following. 1. she might not have a paid subscription therefor she will never see my like. 2. she hasn't used one specific app for a while so she wont see my message for a long time or wont log back in. 3. she doesn't see my likes or messages because she receives too many.

Being insecure doesn't make you the asshole, but how you expressed it here made you sound like one. As long as this was a vent post and you're not expressing it this way IRL you're probably fine. The important thing with this insecurity (as with any insecurity) is to take ownership of it and not make it other peoples' problem or act like it's strictly true, which it sounds like you're acknowledging when you acknowledge you shouldn't ask your friend about this stuff if it makes you feel this way. October 29, 2022 at 12:22AM

As someone with family members that ask this all the time, I feel your pain!!! Just remember your worth isn't defined by someone else. You're fucking awesome on your own, so keep doing what you're doing!! I think the people that are actually worth keeping around (if you have a choice) are the ones that will recognize that and see you for who you are October 29, 2022 at 12:22AM

I (29F) have been talking to this guy (26M) for 2 or 3 months through my friend. He works at studio and my band recorded with him. After that, we hung out once. He's a nice person but he is in a tough situation now. He gets less money from his job so he is trying to get a better job now. He said he's really busy like he hasn't seen his friends for a long time because of his crazy job. But he wants to go to the city (he lives 1 hour away)where I live in to hang out with me more once he gets a new job. I understand his situation and try to support him like sending him some job infos etc. This weekend, I will go to his studio with my band to record. I asked him if he wants to do something after that. He said he will go to a party on sat that will be his first time in a while. And he has an interview on Monday so he won't be able to stay out late on Sunday. Friday, I mean today, he will go to his friend's birthday party. When I heard it, it really made me sad. It fel...

yeah I felt like the transphobia comparison was a bit different since that's an actual minority group. Allo's are 99% of the population October 28, 2022 at 11:40PM

You sound like you want to preach purity culture and that's just not it. Calling people sluts for wearing sexy outfits screams Puritanism and, frankly, does present a penchant for sex negativity. You should be ashamed of yourself for casting stones unto people that have done nothing wrong but enjoy a fun holiday. October 28, 2022 at 11:39PM