I struggle the most in the gay community I feel that. I want to engage with the pan aspect of my identity more, but a lot of the gay community seems to focus on sex specifically and it's annoying. Because so many people's romantic identity matches their sexuality, there's not spaces for queer romanticism that don't frequently cross over into sexuality. In contrast there are tons of spaces about hetero romance that don't focus on sex and at most occasionally allude to it. November 24, 2023 at 11:24PM