It’s beautiful December 28, 2020 at 12:03AM

Come on, that’s disingenuous and you know it. I really dislike this sort of snobby, holier than thou, us vs them posts. December 28, 2020 at 12:00AM

Is this an asexual yandere? December 27, 2020 at 11:58PM

When I was in college there were a lot of people that wanted cuddle-buddies and would prefer a partner that did not want things to progress beyond that point. I was honest with my partners and told them about my expectations and limits. It made the relationships I was in very rewarding for both of us. It also helped take the sting out of rejection, they were not looking for that type of relationship. People appreciate when you are up front about an issue like this. December 27, 2020 at 11:56PM

No, it’s bad etiquette. Brigading shouldn’t be encouraged, which is all something like this does. December 27, 2020 at 11:53PM

there’s a pretty unnecessary rift that doesn’t need to be there December 27, 2020 at 11:49PM

I couldn’t agree more December 27, 2020 at 11:49PM

Oh hell yeah, I love a good massage. I don’t get them often because I only go to places I trust and am familiar with and they’re generally quite pricey (for very good reason, oh the stories I could tell you!), but when I get a really good massage and the therapist listens to me about how I like it done... seriously, it’s one of my favourite things in the world. December 27, 2020 at 11:48PM

i can totally relate! every once in a while i'll try my hand at tinder but i just feel so different from all the other lesbians on there December 27, 2020 at 11:47PM

Just randomly found it idk wasn’t really looking for it lol December 27, 2020 at 11:47PM

This isn't really the outside perspective you might be looking for because I am aro, but that sounds aro to me. December 27, 2020 at 11:42PM

Wow yeah, no idea why asexuals wouldn't come out to them December 27, 2020 at 11:41PM

(sorry, not stating this in the earlier comment.) There's a thing called Angeosexuality on the a-spec, (also called aegosexuality) that sorta sounds like you're describing. It means a person who might fantasize and masturbate, but doesn't desire to do anything themselves. It's like watching a sport you enjoy, but wouldn't want to play. Here's the fandom wiki link. If you like that word, you can use it. Or keep looking. Or just call yourself ace. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Hope things are going better. Have a good day. December 27, 2020 at 11:40PM

Why are you searching out years old posts about aphobia? December 27, 2020 at 11:40PM

I like any non sexual complement really. Tbh I’ve never really seen compliments as sexual. December 27, 2020 at 11:38PM

LMAO December 27, 2020 at 11:37PM

If being child free isn’t something you talk about, then your parents can let themselves believe you might change your mind. But, affirming it with your sexuality confronts that assumption. I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if that’s a big part of why they don’t want to hear about it. December 27, 2020 at 11:36PM

It sounds like you might be ace! The only qualifier to be ace is to not experience sexual attraction, which sounds on par with what you wrote. Liking/disliking sex doesn’t discredit or validate your ace-y-ness one way or another, so whether your feel arousal or not, you may still be ace. And you’re totally normal! Everyone experiences a spectrum of attraction (or lack thereof) and arousal in their own way, and there’s absolutely nothing weird or wrong with the things you feel. December 27, 2020 at 11:35PM

Fair enough December 27, 2020 at 11:33PM

Ace guy here, you're not alone! I think the driving factor in the imbalance is cultural rather than physical - guys are encouraged far less to interrogate their emotions, and it is far harder as a guy to come out. I know these factors prevented me from understanding myself for years, so it's not difficult to think that a lot of other guys have similar experiences. December 27, 2020 at 11:30PM

Well, completely ignoring -diggity-, the reason there are so many more aro/ace on here is because online people tend to be more open about their sexuality. It's a bigger and safer community, and if things go wrong you can always report or even quit if it's becoming a big issue (which it won't cause reporting is probably as far as you have to go). On the other hand, if things go wrong irl, you can't escape your friends or family, and it is much harder to find other aro/aces irl. Also, you're on r/WouldYouRather , where questions are sometimes sex related, therefore aro/ace would laugh it off and be rather open about being aro/ace. ​ But hey, that's just a theory, an aro/ace theory, thanks for reading :) December 27, 2020 at 11:28PM

Well, I haven't had your experience specifically but what I will say is that imo it's very normal to feel sudden repulsion if you're not expecting a comment or thing to happen. I'm sex-averse in general so take that with a grain of salt hahaha but in my experience whenever the suggestion of intimacy is suddenly made personal or crosses a line (without me predicting it) it's like sex repulsion fuel. December 27, 2020 at 11:26PM

Never actually had one. On one hand I like the thought of relaxing and being taken care of for a bit; on the other hand I can't stand being touched. December 27, 2020 at 11:23PM