They are not going to just talk to those two, aren't they? Good conversations are better than sex. Or at least I believe so. August 29, 2021 at 12:04AM

Yeah Iv seen those looking for 3rd wheel profiles. Don’t come across them often. The first time I saw one.. I was like ? Is this a couple ? Then I read the discription August 29, 2021 at 12:04AM

My advice would be to write your character with whatever personality and traits you want them to have, but just keep in mind that what they say, want, or do will not be motivated by sex. It can’t be the thing that drives them or the thing that ruins them. Also, an ace character (or any character at all for that matter) should be a person first, asexual second. If everything about them revolves around their asexuality, it would be both flat and unrealistic. August 29, 2021 at 12:03AM

You have to try to understand that a lack of sexual attraction does not in any way undermine her feelings towards you. She can still have a romantic attraction towards you as well. But, hey, this isn't all about her. You said you feel guilty for saying that not having sex is okay. I assume that that guilt comes from you having second thoughts on that. Of course, you can't(or at very least shouldn't) ask her to do anything she's uncomfortable with but that's a two-way street: If you can't have a romantic relationship without sex, don't torture yourself; relationships are meant to make you both happier. August 29, 2021 at 12:02AM

well first, romantic attraction is different than sexual attraction. so when she says bisexual asexual, most likely she means biromantic asexual. this means she is romantically attracted to men, women, other genders, but sexually attracted to zero genders. where i think the dissconnect comes from is for an allosexual (a nonasexual like yourself) is romantic and sexual attraction are usually intertwined and occur simultaneously, so i understand it can be hard to understanding romantic attraction and sexual attraction to be on separate spectrums another bit of important info about asexuality is that asexuals can have different attitudes about having sex. some asexuals are sex repulsed and want nothing to do with sex, other are sex indifferent and can take or leave sex, and some are sex favorable and enjoy sex. but all asexuals have one thing in common, they dont feel sexual attraction (or feel it very little or very rarely). in your gf case maybe she is sex indifferent or favorable an

I feel a lot of aesthetic attraction towards the torso area of both males and females so I get it lmao August 29, 2021 at 12:00AM

I'm very glad to hear it! I already knew I was ace, but actually seeing that on a show, proper good representation at that (not to mention it being implied but still out of the blue, because who would actually expect a popular show to have good ace representation, especially considering that the show itself isn't shy of being sexual?), was an amazingly validating experience, and I was so happy that the creators paid so much care and attention to it. Bojack is my favourite show for many different reasons, and this is definitely one of them. Reading about people discovering their asexuality through Bojack is super wholesome. August 29, 2021 at 12:00AM

Seconding. Sexuality/romance is an important part of people’s lives but isn’t the only part. And /u/fridaynightmaniac , as an FYI, some aces are also sex neutral and sex favourable! August 29, 2021 at 12:00AM

So for example, I wondered if I was asexual for a bit and wasn’t really sure cause I’d see a girl and think they were cute and all that but I realized that I have no sexual attraction to anyone most of the time and that I just have a high level of aesthetic attraction and romantic attraction to women August 28, 2021 at 11:57PM

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We should hit up r/coding . Maybe one of those guys/gals/persons will be able to help. August 28, 2021 at 11:56PM

Wonderful choice of examples! That show was part of the way I found out I was ace. August 28, 2021 at 11:56PM

Yeah? Well I’m glad that other people experience this too. And I’ll definitely look into that! August 28, 2021 at 11:56PM

I make so many jokes to myself or with friends and they know I’m ace, well aegosexual too lol. So it’s completely normal. August 28, 2021 at 11:55PM

dude... that's awesome. I want you to look at my acne-prone mid-20s face and tell me what you see, lol! August 28, 2021 at 11:53PM

*hugs* August 28, 2021 at 11:53PM

Thank you for these! I'll definitely check them out. August 28, 2021 at 11:52PM

Yeah I've gotten those. Thankfully most of them are pretty up-front about it (a lot of times they'll put stuff like "here for a good time, not a long time" or "looking for a FWB relationship" - that sort of thing). I had one guy ask me to be his and his girlfriend's third. I was like "...no thanks, but good luck lol." August 28, 2021 at 11:52PM

I feel like an important place to start is thinking about their character as who they are outside of being ace. Very often a lot of people tend to fall into a trap when it comes to representation by making the representation the character counts as half their personality. In my opinion, your character should be able to function as a character perfectly well even without their sexuality added in. Someone's sexuality, while being a part of who they are, does not, and should not, in my opinion, define them. A good example would be Todd Chavez from Bojack Horseman, who functioned perfectly well as a lovable and dorky guy who had just as much personality even before he realized he was asexual. In addition, I personally believe the way Bojack Horseman handles asexuality is great, especially in a case where your main character isn't ace, so studying the way it does so would be a good place to start once it comes to handling the asexuality of your character (this is once you've a

Nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with being a loner, either, as long as you're happy. August 28, 2021 at 11:50PM

That sounds like a lovely healthy relationship you have there. Congratulations! If only we could all be so lucky. August 28, 2021 at 11:49PM

Fr, consent is key And why do they have to compromise? P**n exists for a reason August 28, 2021 at 11:48PM

Anyone here who can code? August 28, 2021 at 11:47PM