/u/supermassivenova on I’m sexual and my gf is asexual(she thinks).

well first, romantic attraction is different than sexual attraction. so when she says bisexual asexual, most likely she means biromantic asexual. this means she is romantically attracted to men, women, other genders, but sexually attracted to zero genders.

where i think the dissconnect comes from is for an allosexual (a nonasexual like yourself) is romantic and sexual attraction are usually intertwined and occur simultaneously, so i understand it can be hard to understanding romantic attraction and sexual attraction to be on separate spectrums

another bit of important info about asexuality is that asexuals can have different attitudes about having sex. some asexuals are sex repulsed and want nothing to do with sex, other are sex indifferent and can take or leave sex, and some are sex favorable and enjoy sex. but all asexuals have one thing in common, they dont feel sexual attraction (or feel it very little or very rarely). in your gf case maybe she is sex indifferent or favorable and still willing to compromise and do sexual things, but she just doesnt feel sexual attraction. that is something you can ask her more about so you understand where she is coming from. here is more info about sex favorability: https://www.asexuality.org/?q=attitudes.html

AVEN and this subs wiki/FAQ are great places to learn about asexuality, AVEN even has a FAQ for partners of asexuals





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