When I first got a crush on my girlfriend, I'd fantasize about her hugs and cuddles September 05, 2022 at 12:41AM

Hi, I’m a 22F, in school and working, and also trying to find a steady relationship. I started taking dating more serious a little over a month ago, and I’ve noticed an annoying little “pattern” and just wanted to rant about it. Basically, I’ll start talking to someone. It goes well—we connect, we agree on social/political issues, we’re attracted to each other, talk daily and wanna meet up. Then, we finally get to the date after talking for about two weeks straight, and it goes well! I think there’ll be a second date at least, we’re into the date and into each other, cuddle, talk about seeing each other again, and I start to get hopeful and excited. And then, suddenly, they’re gone. Most typical reaction is that they ghost, or they’re not looking for anything serious(even if my profile says that’s what I’m looking for, and they said they’re open to smth long term too). This has happened like three times this month alone! I’m so tired of putting effort, time, and compassion into some...

Welcome to /r/dating_advice . Please use this weekly venting/celebration thread to get something off your chest, good or bad, without asking for or offering concrete advice. All individual venting or ranting threads will be removed and directed here. Remember our rules , be sure to include ages and genders if you need help with a specific situation. Please report any rule violations using the report button. Submitted September 05, 2022 at 12:00AM Welcome to /r/dating_advice. Please use this weekly venting/celebration thread to get something off your chest, good or bad, without asking for or offering concrete advice. All individual venting or ranting threads will be removed and directed here.Remember our rules, be sure to include ages and genders if you need help with a specific situation.Please report any rule violations using the report button.

I'm dating this woman, and it seems like I betray her left and right and I keep saying I'll be better or that I'll never do it again. It's been a cycle, and she says the reason she's still with me is because she believes I'm a good person. Line for line, this is the epitome of a trauma bond. How can I stop, and is it even possible for me to change. I've read up on this and it says no, trauma bonds don't turn into healthy relationships, but I love her and I think she loves me, I hope it isn't a trauma bond illusion. So I'm asking if I'm hopeless and I should just let her know I won't be changing (I've said it before but she tells me I owe her to stay and just stop hurting her) Submitted September 05, 2022 at 12:01AM I'm dating this woman, and it seems like I betray her left and right and I keep saying I'll be better or that I'll never do it again. It's been a cycle, and she says the reason she's still with me...

1st date was coffee date. went well, she offered to go on a walk after coffee which means she was interested in me enough to prolong the date. 2nd date: we planned to go to a brewery that I was genuinely excited to try. However, when we got there, there was a festival going on making it a clusterfuck and impossible to find parking. So we decide on another brewery. We get there and lo and behold this brewery was having a private event, so we settled go to another coffee shop. The problem is, coffee dates are decent for 1st dates, but aren't the most ideal for dates after that especially if you've just been on one. We conversed, but I was hoping to 'escalate' my interest in her, but the vibe just didn't feel right at a coffee shop sitting across from her on a table. Our conversation felt more so like platonic, 'friend' talk than anything else. Anyway, I'm afraid after this date she might start losing interest in me. thoughts? How should I precede from h...

Hi, I got ghosted by a girl from work who gave me her number. I asked her if we could hang sometime after I left my job and she said yes. Now I texted her 3 days later and she hasn't responded. I feel crushed since I really liked her and I don't really meet girls my age M(24). I'm trying to move on, how can I tackle this? (She's a hottie) Submitted September 05, 2022 at 12:11AM Hi, I got ghosted by a girl from work who gave me her number. I asked her if we could hang sometime after I left my job and she said yes. Now I texted her 3 days later and she hasn't responded. I feel crushed since I really liked her and I don't really meet girls my age M(24). I'm trying to move on, how can I tackle this? (She's a hottie)

Religion aside, it's very problematic to conflate asexuality with celibacy - especially when talking to allos. We're struggling to establish awareness with a clear message. Your actions and your attraction are independent concepts. Asexuality needs the distinction to be more commonplace. September 04, 2022 at 11:14PM