I'm 18, male, live in London and suffering from depression, mainly a lack of motivation and a really low self esteem. I'm an ex Muslim, I have attended a boys school for the almost 7 years now and outside of school I have no life except watching anime and playing video games. I've decided that there isn't anything I really want in life other than to possibly find someone special. For whatever reason I'm under the assumption that the only person who would be with me is someone equally as broken, hopeless and fucked up as. I am. I normally lack the motivation to go anywhere so is there anything I can do to find some sort of happieness? Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:34PM I'm 18, male, live in London and suffering from depression, mainly a lack of motivation and a really low self esteem. I'm an ex Muslim, I have attended a boys school for the almost 7 years now and outside of school I have no life except watching anime and playing video games. I'v...

The person I want to ask doesn’t like to be asked “how do you feel about me?” I get it. It can be awkward, but I want to know and not quite sure how to put it into words without putting him on the spot so to speak. Any advice is much appreciated. Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:51PM The person I want to ask doesn’t like to be asked “how do you feel about me?” I get it. It can be awkward, but I want to know and not quite sure how to put it into words without putting him on the spot so to speak. Any advice is much appreciated.

Let me start by saying, I (26F) have very little experience when it comes to dating, so I am honestly just confused. I recently met someone (27M) on Bumble. We texted for a couple days, and then set up a first date. We hung out for a few hours, It started off a bit awkward but was fine by the end of the date. He even kissed me when we got to my car and f/u with a "i had a good time, lets hang out again" text. The day after he texts me to set up a second date. We set up the 2nd date 1 week after the first date. The day before the 2nd date I text to confirm that we were meeting up and he responds that he will make it. THE DAY OF THE 2nd DATE, he cancels saying that he is too hung over. I am assuming he has lost interest. So my question is, why doesn't he just say he isn't interested instead of making up an excuse? Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:51PM Let me start by saying, I (26F) have very little experience when it comes to dating, so I am honestly just conf...

Why is this? Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:52PM Why is this?

I (19m) started working part time as a dishwasher few weeks ago and there is this girl (19?f) who works there with me and who I get to see only for a few brief moments every evening because she is busy taking orders. I would like to know whether it is a good idea to ask someone who I barely know anything about, including her age, out and if yes where should I take her and how should I ask her? Thank you in advance. Note: I have zero experience in dating except only few brief moments in elementary school and those did not end very well for me. Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:54PM I (19m) started working part time as a dishwasher few weeks ago and there is this girl (19?f) who works there with me and who I get to see only for a few brief moments every evening because she is busy taking orders. I would like to know whether it is a good idea to ask someone who I barely know anything about, including her age, out and if yes where should I take her and how should I ask her? Thank y...

It’s weird because I don’t want to completely forget about them as they were a good friend, but I want to not feel sad when I am reminded of their existence. Especially when it’s so easy to remember them... Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:55PM It’s weird because I don’t want to completely forget about them as they were a good friend, but I want to not feel sad when I am reminded of their existence.Especially when it’s so easy to remember them...

So I met this girl (19) and we went on a date. Things went brilliantly - we got on very well and it was a night full of laughter and great conversation. After this night she continued to text me more enthusiastically than before and we talked until we next met up. We kissed that night and continued to chat online after too. I realise I was probably texting her a bit too much even when convo would dry up, and when I saw her for the third time I was blackout drunk and apparently was clinging to her the whole night. In worry of losing what we had, I continued to text, foolishly, and she soon told me that ‘she wasn’t looking for anything at the moment’ and ‘let’s just be friends’. It taught me an important lesson from this about being too keen and learning to give a girls space. It’s been 2 weeks since I got that text from her, and I still think about her every now and then. We really had something good going before I started to become a bit needy/ clingy. Is there any point in me wanting...

Not really seeking advice per se, but whatever. I (24M) have long struggled with dating. I didn’t get romantically involved with anyone until college, and I still haven’t had a REAL relationship. But I want one. I downloaded all the dating apps, and if I’m lucky I’ll get one ACTUAL match (meaning not a bot or someone just looking for Instagram followers) a month. So, three days ago, I shoot this girl a message on okcupid, she responds, and we really hit it off! It’s going really well, and we consistently chat until this morning I wake up to find that she just unmatched me out of the blue. I know I shouldn’t take it personally, but it’s so hard not to. Because of my social anxiety, it usually feels like apps are the only chance I have, but between the low number of matches I get (excluding obvious bots) and shit like this it’s becoming increasingly difficult to have any sort of optimism. Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:02AM Not really seeking advice per se, but whatever. I (24M...

There’s this girl I like and that I am friends with who has hinted that she does not want to go out with me, but I still haven’t actually asked her out. Even though she will mosey likely say no, should I just ask her out so I don’t have to worry about it anymore? Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:04AM There’s this girl I like and that I am friends with who has hinted that she does not want to go out with me, but I still haven’t actually asked her out. Even though she will mosey likely say no, should I just ask her out so I don’t have to worry about it anymore?

What’s good everyone. Warning: This is gonna be kind of long so I apologize... I’ve been struggling recently with rumination and thoughts of a current crush of mine who is no longer in my life. We met about a year ago and were very close friends. We talked daily and constantly throughout the days; we’d say goodnight and good morning to each other. We hung out all of the time and try to date for a month, but she was too immature emotionally for anything to happen between us. She thought it would be best if we just stayed friends considered nothing ever happened even when we did try to date (cause her signals were all over the place). She eventually began to gain feelings for someone else, and our interactions slowly dwindled and our connection kind of faded. Naturally. We talked less and less as the months went on and she got closer to him. We eventually only really talked a couple times a week if not less. We went from best friends to like distant relatives. We went from hanging out...

I’m ugly I’ll probably be a virgin forever. Like what’s even the point if I am too ugly to enjoy love? Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:04AM I’m ugly I’ll probably be a virgin forever. Like what’s even the point if I am too ugly to enjoy love?

Just like it says in the title. -I mistake friendliness from women as interest WAY too much -If I'm feeling attracted to a woman, and she's engaged me in deeper-than-just-small-talk conversation on a few occasions, and if she's single, I start getting my hopes up, and many times will eventually ask her out -I've been rejected dozens of times due to this. (I can take those rejections in stride and gracefully make an exit) I've asked for advice in a different corner of the internet and was told that my looking at mundane interactions with women and asking myself...could I be interested in her?...could she be interested in me?...am I seeing enough here over a period of time to take my chance?...makes me a creep. "Always on the prowl," were the exact words used. I don't want to make women uncomfortable, but I don't want to be alone forever either. How do I find a non-creepy balance between "Today you could meet someone who is interested in y...

I took advice from this sub to ask out this girl I liked. I asked her out and she accepted and we are gonna hangout at the weekend, so cheers lads. I’m unsure as to what we should do though. In class we laugh a lot and have fun but we never ask any personal questions. I feel like we should get to know each other more but maybe that’s too boring? I was thinking about grabbing coffee or going for a walk in nature. Although part of me thinks an activity would be more fun. I just can’t seem to decide on what to do. We have no problem talking to each other so I don’t think we need an activity to break the ice. I just want to make sure she enjoys herself so do you guys have any suggestions? Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:11AM I took advice from this sub to ask out this girl I liked. I asked her out and she accepted and we are gonna hangout at the weekend, so cheers lads.I’m unsure as to what we should do though. In class we laugh a lot and have fun but we never ask any personal q...

So I’m currently a freshman in college and I’ve been talking to this girl for around two months. I knew immediately when I met her that she was special. We hung out constantly when we first met. There was a point where we saw each other for a 30 days in a row. We both knew we were into each other and eventually we started hooking up. The past couple weeks have been concerning. I’ve noticed she has been playing hard to get recently. Some days she acts very interested in me and she is all over me. Other days she barely responds and doesn’t put in much effort. When we hangout everything feels right but she doesn’t put much effort in on days when we don’t see each other. I really like this girl but I can’t really tell if she feels the same way. I want to keep pursuing her but I’m kind of worn down by the games she is playing. I don’t want to start chasing too hard and become obsessive. Should I start trying to play hard to get or...?? Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:11AM So I’m cu...

I’m not really sure what to do. (27f) Here’s the scenario (and this has happened with almost every guy I’ve gone out with the last 2 years): we have an amazing first date. The vibe is great. The chemistry is there. We have a ton of fun and everything seems to flow. The date ends, and when I get home they immediately ask for a second date. We talk all the time, they say how excited they are to see me. We plan a second one but it never happens. I get ghosted. I replay everything over and over again and I still never understand what I did wrong. I try to be positive and say it’s nothing wrong with me, but when it happens every time, it gets really hard to not think that way. I just want to know why this happens. And I’m sure girls do it too. If you’re not interested after the first date, why even bother pretending that you want a second one? Submitted November 18, 2019 at 12:12AM I’m not really sure what to do. (27f)Here’s the scenario (and this has happened with almost every guy ...

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My husband and I are going through it. He recently got out of the Army about six weeks ago. Right before he got out it was like we had a plan for him, then an idea of what can happen, the plan of action of what he should do to make sure he's going to be okay (financially & health wise) . The plan was for him to get his VA in order then to slow down on the drinking to get back into shape and help with his depression. He struggles with alcoholism. Well, neither has been done. He's drinking about 5th a day, doesn't leave his laptop or the house and has made no effort in doing anything else. I am giving him time to grieve. I back off now when he gets in those highly depressive episodes.( If I try to comfort or give my advice it makes things worse.) So to just give space and come back later. At this point I am just trying to make it past this rough part of our lives. Hoping we come out together at the end. I work two jobs to stay busy and so that I never have to ask for ...