Girl says she’s not looking for anything at the moment, after we first kissed

So I met this girl (19) and we went on a date. Things went brilliantly - we got on very well and it was a night full of laughter and great conversation. After this night she continued to text me more enthusiastically than before and we talked until we next met up. We kissed that night and continued to chat online after too. I realise I was probably texting her a bit too much even when convo would dry up, and when I saw her for the third time I was blackout drunk and apparently was clinging to her the whole night. In worry of losing what we had, I continued to text, foolishly, and she soon told me that ‘she wasn’t looking for anything at the moment’ and ‘let’s just be friends’. It taught me an important lesson from this about being too keen and learning to give a girls space. It’s been 2 weeks since I got that text from her, and I still think about her every now and then. We really had something good going before I started to become a bit needy/ clingy. Is there any point in me wanting to believe there’d be a second chance with her? I have tried to move on mentally, and start talking to other girls but she continues to stick in my mind... What advice could you offer me? Should I move on entirely? Is there any hope I’d be able to have another chance with her and show that I’ve changed? Thanks Reddit.



Submitted November 17, 2019 at 11:57PM

So I met this girl (19) and we went on a date. Things went brilliantly - we got on very well and it was a night full of laughter and great conversation. After this night she continued to text me more enthusiastically than before and we talked until we next met up. We kissed that night and continued to chat online after too. I realise I was probably texting her a bit too much even when convo would dry up, and when I saw her for the third time I was blackout drunk and apparently was clinging to her the whole night. In worry of losing what we had, I continued to text, foolishly, and she soon told me that ‘she wasn’t looking for anything at the moment’ and ‘let’s just be friends’. It taught me an important lesson from this about being too keen and learning to give a girls space. It’s been 2 weeks since I got that text from her, and I still think about her every now and then. We really had something good going before I started to become a bit needy/ clingy. Is there any point in me wanting to believe there’d be a second chance with her? I have tried to move on mentally, and start talking to other girls but she continues to stick in my mind... What advice could you offer me? Should I move on entirely? Is there any hope I’d be able to have another chance with her and show that I’ve changed? Thanks Reddit.
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