Hi Guys I understand that there will be countless threads like this but I couldn't find one to deal with my particular concerns. Basically there's a girl (F19) in one of my classes who I'd like to ask out. My worries are as follows... I don't know her super well, we only talk in class, on average I speak to her about 10 mins per week. I'd love to talk to her more, but the only way to do so is to ask her out. I'm worried if I get rejected it will be a little awkward as we will still be in the same class. Therefore ideally I'd look for a way of asking her out which could potentially be framed as not quite a 'date'. I understand that this is a little foolish, but ideally I could make a hint but then back down if I get rejected so it wouldn't be so awkward. And yeah I know I sound like a coward but I'm pretty shy and as I say this is my first time asking a girl out. So basically I'm just looking for advice on how to ask someone

So it's been a dream of mine to live and abroad for the whole of my life. I've sacrificed a lot to be the stage I am now where I have no attachments to my home country other than my family. I was planning to apply for jobs abroad this summer ready for a move in the winter. However, I really get on with this girl, she's attractive, smart and we share gave a lot of chemistry. I guess I'm just looking for some advice on what to do. Do I stay and see how things go with this girl or do I let her know I'm going away and I'm unavailable? Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:53PM So it's been a dream of mine to live and abroad for the whole of my life. I've sacrificed a lot to be the stage I am now where I have no attachments to my home country other than my family. I was planning to apply for jobs abroad this summer ready for a move in the winter.However, I really get on with this girl, she's attractive, smart and we share gave a lot of chemistry.I gu

Anyone else as clueless as I am with dating? How do people even date these days? I have a good amount of dating experience and have been in two long term relationships and I still don’t know wtf I’m doing. Long story short, I (28F) met a guy (27M) last year who was in town for a month and we had a fun fling but also a low key genuine, intense connection. We’ve kept in touch since then and at some point a couple months ago, admitted to having feelings for each other. I constantly remind myself that nothing will come of this because of the distance but I know how rare it is to meet people you really connect with. A couple weeks ago, he reached out to let me know he was gonna be in town this weekend for a long weekend and wanted to see me. I told him I was down but we never made solid plans as it was a few weeks away but it’s now Tuesday and he’s supposed to be here Thursday and I haven’t heard from him. He’s not very organized and is somewhat spontaneous when it comes to making plan

I (20 M) started talking to my friend (22 F) at the start of last year from college. I really thought I hit it off with her at the start and everything felt and was so easy to talk to unlike other girls. She was seeing another man at the time and we all went to a festival together. We had such a good time and we spent a lot of the time dancing together. She then left for America for the summer and I went travelling. I didn't really text her over the summer because I didn't want to get attached and she would be so far away. At the end of the summer she came back with a boyfriend. I went to her house a lot alone and spent lots of nights out just with her. I never got with girls when she was around because I would feel weird about it. She recently got cheated on by her boyfriend and is now single. I've been spending a lot of time lately and she think she needs to spend some time single after what happened. I really want to start a relationship with her but I don't wa

I met this girl on tinder and we talked for a couple weeks until I was back in town after the holidays and we finally got together to hang out. It went well we had really good chemistry and I kept coming back to hang out with her throughout the next 2 weeks. I stayed at her house with her 2 nights and we hooked up and after that she became distant so I stopped pursuing nearly as hard. Last week I asked her to hang out and she flaked out on me so I went no contact and went along with my life. Yesterday she initiated a conversation on Snapchat and did it again today as well as meeting me to do homework together on our college campus and we talked. She told me about her problems with her roommate and seems very excited to see me again as it had been like 2 weeks. And I think I saw her for like 5 minutes last Tuesday. She then invited me to go to a coffee shop with her and her friend. We matched on bumble this morning and she hasn’t messaged me on the app (I’m not expecting her too) I’m j

So there’s this girl.. advice appreciated So there’s this girl who I met on a dating app who I’ve been talking to pretty regularly for 1.5 months - think texting throughout the day, we used to stay up and talk till late etc. but we haven’t met up yet She just got out of a serious relationship which she was in for years and said she’s not over her ex which is why she doesn’t want to go on a date with me or meet because she thinks she would be leading me on which I think is totally understandable. Initially she wanted to take it slow, then wanted to hook up but since I’m a virgin I was unsure of going ahead since I think I would catch feelings and get hurt. Then I actually considered hooking up because I was tmi horny. But she decided it was best we didn’t. She also stated she was going to focus on herself so she didn’t want to date for a year. I’ve been using dating apps for four years with the hope of finding a serious relationship but nothing came out of it. Main problems being no

Hi all I (27F) am dating 34M. He is heavily involved in AA/drug support groups. He’s currently helping a friend who almost OD’d 2 weeks ago. Over the weekend I asked him what he was doing for Valentine’s Day. He responded “nothing” - I asked if he wanted to do anything, his response was no and that we would talk about it later. I didn’t expect this response and felt disrespected. I didn’t want to drop the subject so I harped on the issue and he finally told me why he didn’t want to do anything - apparently the friend he’s helping out is going thru suicidal thoughts from his separation/drugs and he wanted to keep the day open in case the friend needed him. I made a comment telling him I felt as if he’s putting the friend before me - and he lost his shit. We have made up since then. We have been together for 6 months. I don’t want to push the issue and at this point, I have no plans for Valentine’s Day. Am I wrong for pushing the issue? He has cheated on me once - we have resolved t

It seems to me that keeping them in the relationship isn't fair to them and that you are just using them for other reasons that are convient to your needs.Let em go so they can find real love. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:12AM It seems to me that keeping them in the relationship isn't fair to them and that you are just using them for other reasons that are convient to your needs.Let em go so they can find real love.

I’m a man and I think I recently may have come a bit closer to understanding some parts of female attraction. I think it all comes down to the ‘types’ men and women are attracted to. I never really liked talking about my attraction in terms of types. I’ve always liked to think I was more into the individual quirks that set someone apart than the bullshit social trends someone follows. But I know there are trends that I am attracted to more. I think with men the types we are attracted to tend to be very physical in nature. Maybe Guy A likes skinny girls the most and Guy B likes chubby girls the most. With women I think this typing process tends to be much more complicated. They don’t tend to be all about muscular guys vs. fluffy guys. Or maybe even tall guys vs. short guys. Maybe these things can play a role, but not even close to what they do to men I think. It is more of a process of liking the persona that the person emanates in a confident manner. It’s all about how they socially

This has happened to me more times than I can count at this point. I message the girl, we hit it off and she seems totally down to meet. She even adds me on a messaging app to stay in touch. The girl then texts me that day and makes some sort of excuse as to why she can't meet that night. "I'm sick," "I have to work longer than I thought," etc. I'm honestly tired of this. It also annoys me that I'm expected to respond in a way that makes me come across as confident, despite the fact that I'm holding a little phone and writing electronic messages. What gives in this situation? Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:18AM This has happened to me more times than I can count at this point.I message the girl, we hit it off and she seems totally down to meet. She even adds me on a messaging app to stay in touch.The girl then texts me that day and makes some sort of excuse as to why she can't meet that night. "I'm sick," "I h

Ok so I (18M) used to be seeing this girl (18F) for around 5/6 months and we hung out at my house around 6 times. After we hung out a few times I told her that I don’t want anything and we’re too young. After that she said she doesn’t want to see me anymore if I don’t want anything but a week later she asked to come over to my house again. About a month or so after that I told her we will never date. She still wanted to see me. We never had sex, but I fingered her every-time and she gave me head a few times. She was (still is) a virgin and had never done anything before so I had to teach her everything, including how to kiss. One day she messaged me asking if I had any feelings for her at all and I said no. Then she got really angry and said that I used her. She got really mad at me and then apologised and said she has feelings for me and she had false hope. Then said ‘I still want to have sex though’. (About a month before this conversation happened, she’d been wanting to have sex).

I've been talking to this girl for a while over Bumble after we bonded over music. We've really gotten to know each other and I really like her. She claims she really likes me too, but she doesn't want to move from Bumble in terms of messaging and when I mentioned about meeting up she'd either say she's waiting for her anxiety to calm down, that she has no money or will suggest I go with her to a gig which is like 3/4 away. It's very confusing. Its super frustrating for me, because it's very rarely that I meet someone I just click on so many levels with. What do you all suggest I do? Be patient and see how it works out, or just explain all of this to her and risk losing her? Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:22AM I've been talking to this girl for a while over Bumble after we bonded over music. We've really gotten to know each other and I really like her. She claims she really likes me too, but she doesn't want to move from Bumble in ter

Even if it's a seemingly impossible standard to live up to, even if you don't believe this person exists, who is the ideal man? Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:14AM Even if it's a seemingly impossible standard to live up to, even if you don't believe this person exists, who is the ideal man?

So I made a post a couple days ago https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/f1ruw2/had_a_bad_date_but_idk_if_i_should_end_it/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share which can be used for context. So we've discussed it and I've made it clear I'm happy to have a 2nd date since she was busy. She seems really interested when I message her and I even noticed she deleted her bumble and told me she isn't currently seeing/speaking with anyone else which I found very very odd. Big issue is she seems to divert the convo every time I bring up a second date and I'm not sure when I stop being patient over it. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:14AM So I made a post a couple days ago https://ift.tt/38kr70N which can be used for context.So we've discussed it and I've made it clear I'm happy to have a 2nd date since she was busy. She seems really interested when I message her and I even noticed she deleted her bumble and told me she isn't currently seei

I know some people would say having a six month to one year timeline sounds way too soon. They think of everything that could be wrong with the other person. But if you think in that perspective, you probably shouldn’t get married at all...because nobody is perfect. A relationship or marriage is a leap of faith no matter what you did before. I don’t care if you’ve dated him or her for one year or ten years. Also people change over time. The person you fell in love with at 25 or 30 will be different in a lot of ways when he or she is 45 or 50. You will never know what could possibly go wrong dating someone long term or marrying someone. Then what do you filter out when you date? You gotta filter out by main life goals, not whether or not someone has chemistry or that warm fuzzy feeling with you all the time. Major questions Do you want kids? Does your partner? How career oriented are you? Will your partner support your career ambitions? How close do you want to be to your famil

I’m a male and I have literally no sexual or physical experience with a girl I’ve never dated or anything like that but I’ve noticed that lately my horomones have been going crazy like I’ve been super horny constantly and it’s like I’m back to puberty idk what it is but it’s really annoying and it’s preventing me from approaching girls I mean I’m almost 21 and I still act like a nervous little high school freshman when I see a girl I just don’t know what to do at this point Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:36PM I’m a male and I have literally no sexual or physical experience with a girl I’ve never dated or anything like that but I’ve noticed that lately my horomones have been going crazy like I’ve been super horny constantly and it’s like I’m back to puberty idk what it is but it’s really annoying and it’s preventing me from approaching girls I mean I’m almost 21 and I still act like a nervous little high school freshman when I see a girl I just don’t know what to do at this po

I masturbated few minutes ago and now my penis is sore. What should I do to prevent this? Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:37PM I masturbated few minutes ago and now my penis is sore. What should I do to prevent this?

As the title says I just found out I have chlamydia. I started a new relationship 6 months ago and he said he had been recently tested when we first got together and was all clear so we weren't using condoms. Before that I had been in a 7 year relationship so seems unlikely I could have had it during that whole relationship right? I'm assuming new boyf is lying about originally being tested.. Thoughts? Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:41PM As the title says I just found out I have chlamydia. I started a new relationship 6 months ago and he said he had been recently tested when we first got together and was all clear so we weren't using condoms. Before that I had been in a 7 year relationship so seems unlikely I could have had it during that whole relationship right? I'm assuming new boyf is lying about originally being tested.. Thoughts?

I’ve dealt with mild acne on my face and back for a while now but if I follow my skincare routine my skin is decent for the most part. However, a little over a month ago I started dealing with severe acne on my back and an increase in acne on my face. I am seeing a dermatologist and was prescribed oral and topical medication so hopefully I see improvement, but it has been making me feel very ugly. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he says he doesn’t care at all, but I still keep my shirt on during sex because I’m so embarrassed by it. Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:43PM I’ve dealt with mild acne on my face and back for a while now but if I follow my skincare routine my skin is decent for the most part. However, a little over a month ago I started dealing with severe acne on my back and an increase in acne on my face. I am seeing a dermatologist and was prescribed oral and topical medication so hopefully I see improvement, but it has been making me feel very ugly. I talked

My husband and I have had a rocky last year upon uncovering some lies including a porn habit of his. Obliviously this has caused major damage in the trust department & caused me to become even more insecure. One thing I can't understand is that when we make love he becomes overwhelmed by my body and verbally expresses this. Like it, or even just my face, is to much to handle. He has to take short pauses to collect himself and calm the sensations- which is not a problem at all. This whole situation makes me feel irreplaceable and valuable. But if these expressions of feelings are true how or why could seeking porn be worth it? When you could have what makes you feel this way. I get it's faster and less complicated and maybe that's the consensus. But when you're in my shoes you wonder if the expressions are lies if something so amazing can be marginalized. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:05AM My husband and I have had a rocky last year upon uncovering some li

So I was walking home 11/02/2020 in east London Clapton and I think I just saw the most beautiful lady I ever set my eyes upon. Now under any normal circumstances I’d have just admired her beauty and moved on. However as I carried on walking I looked back and saw she had also looked back and our eyes met. She was on the opposite side of the road about 15 yards away from me. I know it’s silly but I saw how she looked at me. It was very pleasing the way our eyes met. She wore a long coat and a pink bonnet. If there is ever a chance I get to bump into her I will not let her slip away. The only reason I prevented myself from approaching her was because it was late at night and I didn’t want to startle her. Submitted February 11, 2020 at 11:26PM So I was walking home 11/02/2020 in east London Clapton and I think I just saw the most beautiful lady I ever set my eyes upon. Now under any normal circumstances I’d have just admired her beauty and moved on. However as I carried on walking

She told me I am the nicest person with the best personality she ever knew. But still she chose someone else. I never found a person who understood me as well as she did. It's been 2 years and I'm still thinking about her. Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:06AM She told me I am the nicest person with the best personality she ever knew. But still she chose someone else. I never found a person who understood me as well as she did. It's been 2 years and I'm still thinking about her.

So in my entire life, there have been only 2 females that I have genuinely loved. Like I think about them all the time and it always gives me that feeling in my gut. One I got rejected by, the other I am friends with right now. Anyways, I just can't figure out what makes me love them so much. I loved everything about both of them, but what makes me just know I love them and give me that gut feeling? Within the first day of talking to them both I just got that gut feeling. I have talked to lots of other girls but none of them made me interested in a relationship because I didn't love them like that. If you have any ideas or want to share what makes you genuinely love someone I would love to hear! Submitted February 12, 2020 at 12:17AM So in my entire life, there have been only 2 females that I have genuinely loved. Like I think about them all the time and it always gives me that feeling in my gut. One I got rejected by, the other I am friends with right now. Anyways, I ju