That's awesome, very well done! July 26, 2021 at 12:38AM

very much able to compromise Hold up, this is a whole other question in and of itself, but how are you able to compromise? Sorry if that sounds offensive, I still barely know anything about asexuality. July 26, 2021 at 12:34AM

I mean, I don't associate myself with the word "queer." But I have no sexual inclinations and some people call that asexuality. At present, I don't find disclosing this information to be a major event since it's not like I pretend to be into something I'm not. I think I might classify me telling my parents about it years ago as a "coming out" moment since at the time it simultaneously felt like a confession to them and to myself. I haven't made any such declarations since but a couple times people have asked me if I'm asexual and I've said yes sort of like when people ask me if I drink coffee and I say no. July 26, 2021 at 12:34AM

I don't like using the term, but for a slightly different reason. For me, "coming out" has a connotation of bravery to it. Obviously this isn't the case for plenty of ace people, but for me telling people I was ace was never a thing of bravery. My being ace is pretty ingrained in my self-expression so it was never a surprise or something that would change peoples' perception of me. There was no brave "coming out," there was just me giving them a word to describe me. July 26, 2021 at 12:33AM

I wish I had friends to come out to. Been too busy adulting with work to make new friends. Making friends is so difficult too 😔 July 26, 2021 at 12:33AM

Ever since I've learned of the existence of asexuals, I've been pretty envious of them (I think that the latter part of my flair speaks for itself). To be honest, I'm kind of dissapointed that I'm straight, because asexuals can just sidestep things powerful things like sexual desire and porn addiction. July 26, 2021 at 12:29AM

... is our country full of aspec people... and so... have we already taken Australia and we just don't know it? July 26, 2021 at 12:25AM

You could also be Acespike. “It is defined as someone who usually feels no sexual attraction, but occasionally has rare, sudden, and intense spikes of sexual attraction for a short amount of time, before returning, just as suddenly, to one's normal amounts of asexuality.” July 26, 2021 at 12:24AM

The absolutely most contested point I made in part 1 was paying/splitting the bill so I really broke this one down and I hope this helps people, I get the feeling that this is a point a lot of people struggle on. I will link part 1 and part 2 on the bottom. Thanks for reading and I hope this helps! It has been brought to my attention that there seems to be some confusion about who pays for the date. I will reiterate that I am a millennial so maybe zoomers do things differently but this is what I have learned in my life. The reason people still talk about this issue is that there isn't just one answer that applies to every situation. Here are some points that have worked for me. I really deep-dove this one so thanks for reading! The thing that I think people get hung-up on is confusing the way the world SHOULD work and the way it actually does. It is great to have an idea of what an ideal future should look like and to even be part of that change but it is more important to under...

I’m 26 and I must have swiped on thousands of dating profiles. I’ve dated at least 20 guys and kissed at least 10. I’m usually disappointed because I just don’t feel the “spark”. The thing is, my chances of being with the one I really want are next to none. The “one” whom I’ve never even met in person is this 38-year old guy whom I matched with on Tinder when I was in my senior year of college. I’ve liked people since him, but every time I realize there’s no chance with them, I go back to thinking about this guy. Deep down, I knew that he wouldn’t take me seriously, but I couldn’t help but him in the #1 spot. When we connected, he wasn’t even living in my area (he’s in the NYC area and I was in upstate NY). I was indifferent to him at first, but after he gave me his phone number and we FaceTimed, I was interested. It also didn’t help that he texted me “good morning” for a month. He was out of my league (a tall and handsome, 34-year old successful consultant) and I didn’t think I was...

basically as the title says. i’m seeing someone i REALLY REALLY like. and my brain keeps saying things like “oh you should tell him about THIS thing” or the next and i get an immense amount of anxiety/guilt and feel the need to confess. i don’t want to push him away or scare him off, but was wondering if anyone else has experience with this? this is the first person i’ve truly liked in a long long time. and the feelings for each other are mutual on both end. this is the first person who’s given me the love/affection i deserve and i don’t want my brain to fuck it up. (i’m also going to talk to my therapist about it tomorrow) Submitted July 25, 2021 at 11:17PM basically as the title says. i’m seeing someone i REALLY REALLY like. and my brain keeps saying things like “oh you should tell him about THIS thing” or the next and i get an immense amount of anxiety/guilt and feel the need to confess. i don’t want to push him away or scare him off, but was wondering if anyone else has expe...

I (18M) have never been very good at meeting people, but in the last year a lot has gone on in my life and I've decided I want to actually pursue social interactions, one thing I want to actually try again is dating, however my only real relationship was when I was 15, lasted a year, and I was approached by her. So what I'm asking is, if im out somewhere and I see a girl I'd like to talk to, how do I do that? I'm not looking to get laid or take anybody home, I would like to hopefully get a phone number or snapchat so I can continue to talk to someone and get to know them. I feel like you can't just open up with "can I get your number", I've tried that only twice and both times the girl was really nice about it but I feel like I'm missing some steps. I don't really know any women so if I want to ever find a relationship I have to actually meet someone, surprising, I know, but I dont know how not to look like a jackass doing it. Any advice? ...

I really want to know how the guys feel about this and also what girls would do in this situation. For context, at this point, we weren't even together yet and we were only at the courting stage and doing it long distance. We only had 3-4 dates so it hasn't been very long. We would have frequent video calls where we mostly talk about his life problems and anxieties. He would tell me all about his family drama, even problems he has with his best friend. He would always ask for assurance from me and ask me to comfort him when he has attacks. I always listened to him and did my best to comfort him but I was slowly feeling less and less attracted to him as time went on. I felt more like an amateur therapist than a potential girlfriend. It came to the point where I started suggesting that he could go to his college counsellor or an older and wiser friend because they might be able to give more professional advice compared to me. It was also starting to make me feel down whenever...

I slid into the dms of a girl I knew from a while ago. In the past, she would give me heavy IOIs (smiling, heavy/deep eye contact) and even flirt with me in front of her bf. I deemed that to mean that she was interested, but didn't think much of it at the time. Now, when I asked her out, she responded "this is a prank." I took that to be a soft rejection and stopped responding. Since then, I've seen her out and about. The first time her body language was cold, and I ignored her as well. Then the next times, she was blushing and wanting my attention. Then I noticed she removed me from her socials. I don't know what to make of this? Submitted July 25, 2021 at 11:23PM I slid into the dms of a girl I knew from a while ago. In the past, she would give me heavy IOIs (smiling, heavy/deep eye contact) and even flirt with me in front of her bf. I deemed that to mean that she was interested, but didn't think much of it at the time. Now, when I asked her out, she ...

Hello! I, 26M, have had a very minimal and slow dating life for the past several years. After breaking up with my ex-girlfriend, losing some close friends, COVID hitting, and my job becoming fully remote, I was living alone and essentially became a hermit. During this time, I lost a lot of my social skills. My confidence plummeted, and my anxiety and depression increased significantly. Recently, I decided that nothing will change unless I take action. In addition to other things I'm doing to help my mental health such as getting back in the the gym, I decided to get a new puppy which so far has dramatically helped in getting me out of this slump. She's forced me to get outside and interact with people, and so far I have been feeling significantly better. My social anxiety is still very much there, albeit it improves every time I go out and speak to someone new with my dog. People usually say it's best to work on yourself and figure out your own issues before trying to da...

I’ve never had this happen before in my life. I had a woman reject me at the mall today and she said it’s because I’m just too cute. I asked her what that means and she said exactly what she just said. She said she feels like she would have to constantly fight to keep me and it would always be a competition for her. And she said it would drive her insane because someone as cute as me wouldn’t settle for just one girl. I have never even heard of that, what do I even make of that?? Submitted July 25, 2021 at 11:34PM I’ve never had this happen before in my life. I had a woman reject me at the mall today and she said it’s because I’m just too cute. I asked her what that means and she said exactly what she just said. She said she feels like she would have to constantly fight to keep me and it would always be a competition for her. And she said it would drive her insane because someone as cute as me wouldn’t settle for just one girl. I have never even heard of that, what do I even mak...

I’m 26 years old M and I have friend well best friend who is 25 F. We have known each other for about 11 years and I’ve grown feelings for her. We never had a chance to see what would happen seeing as in when one is single the other isn’t. But at the moment we are both single she is out of a 3 year relationship as am I. I want to tell her how I really feel about her that I want to be with her but she has told me she doesn’t want a relationship at the time. I definitely understand that and I respect that but I want her to know that I’m here as well. I’m a gentleman with her in every aspect and she even says it to me as well, I know what she likes and I know what she doesn’t like and the same goes for me. There was a point where she was showing some interest on occasion we would hold hands, walk and hug like a couple, take pictures like a couple and even gentlemen like I would open my arm out so we could walk they did back in the day. She has spent some nights at my house and she would ...

This weekend I was on a trip out of state. I ended up hitting it off with a guy fairly well at a bar. We exchanged numbers and hung out the next night as well. There is a significant age gap of 7 years. I (F) am 28 and he is 21. Is this creepy and should I drop the connection or should I see where it goes even if we aren’t in the same state? We both genuinely had a good time and he told me he would be in my state for work in a few months. Submitted July 25, 2021 at 11:35PM This weekend I was on a trip out of state. I ended up hitting it off with a guy fairly well at a bar. We exchanged numbers and hung out the next night as well. There is a significant age gap of 7 years. I (F) am 28 and he is 21. Is this creepy and should I drop the connection or should I see where it goes even if we aren’t in the same state? We both genuinely had a good time and he told me he would be in my state for work in a few months.

I graduated college 8 months ago & ive pretty much been off the dating scene since 2019 (had a FWB for ~10 months). I have now reached the stage where I want to date because I genuinely miss having sex & feeling loved. Any advice on how to get back on the dating scene after college? I currently work in healthcare which is 99.9% female staff & I’m not a clubbing or bar person as I do not drink. I have seen a few guys I would date but I am too afraid to approach them. Any advice on approaching men? Submitted July 25, 2021 at 11:54PM I graduated college 8 months ago & ive pretty much been off the dating scene since 2019 (had a FWB for ~10 months). I have now reached the stage where I want to date because I genuinely miss having sex & feeling loved. Any advice on how to get back on the dating scene after college? I currently work in healthcare which is 99.9% female staff & I’m not a clubbing or bar person as I do not drink. I have seen a few guys I would date...

I am 33 now. I’m a doctor now. Man do I not feel good about this stuff. I started medical school when I was 29. The school I was at was kind of toxic af apparently in hindsight. Everyone was always encouraging everyone to get over their “imposter syndrome” and join the beautiful people that knew they were on top of the world in every way imaginable. But the reality was some people were popular and some were not. Some were attractive and some were not. Just like everything. I stuck out like a sore thumb. But I tried to make it work. Did my best to be friendly to everyone. I ended up in a little group of kinda fratty guys somehow. But it originally felt like we had a pretty good sense of camaraderie around each other. It seemed okay. And we helped keep each other motivated, we were all consistently getting some of the best scores on a lot of the tests. But I never really fit in completely. At a certain point they stopped inviting me to things and it seemed more and more like when I was...

So I went on a first date with this guy I knew from a long time ago. It was our first time hanging out in like in like several years so it was kind of like getting to know someone new. Anyways I suggest that we go on a hike for our date and he agrees. He also later mentions that his parents aren't home and he has to watch his dog for the weekend so I should come and meet his dog. ​ Anyways the hike goes well and we actually get along pretty well. After we get back in my car, I asked what he wanted to do. He suggested going back to his house to watch a movie or something (since we talked about a lot of shows/movies we liked). I said that I probably wouldn't have time to watch a whole movie but I would be down to watch a show. So we go into his movie theater room in his basement and he turns on a show. I lowkey start panicking at this moment because I realize everything I was afraid of is starting to happen. I knew it was suspicious that he mentioned his parents being away bu...

Hey all. This is my first time posting on Reddit. Hopefully I do this right. lol. But I’m dealing with this situation and perhaps someone here can shed some light for me as I’m somewhat confused. So there was this girl I met, we started seeing each other as friends maybe 4 months ago. We became good friends quite quickly. After the first couple of times we were seeing each other in groups of people we started doing things alone. We were seeing each other as friends, getting lunch just hanging, etc. This was happening 1-2x a week for a month or two. We became really close friends over this period, we would text all day every day, invite each other any time we went out, confide and open up to each other etc. She was telling me about how I was the only person she was actually seeing actively and only person she liked to spend time with etc. I started to become romantically interested so I decided to make a move - so we hooked up. After that I continued to text her every day because ...

I love this girl from 2 years. There's not a single day that's gone by that i haven't had her in my mind. We had stopped talking from April 2020 till Jan or something. And even then i couldn't stop thinking about her. She's the closet person to me. She knows nearly everything about me and the same vice versa. I love her so much and it fucking sucks. I meet her almost everyday and it's a good time everytime for us but it sucks because everytime i look at her i know I'll never get her. She's in a long distance relationship and i don't want to ruin things for her so i can't tell her anything. The entire reason we stopped talking was because she told me she loved me after an entire year of her knowing that i loved her and after 3 days she just broke up with me and it killed me from inside. I'm scared of telling her anything because i don't want to lose her. I'm in this situation where i just want to tell her everything in my chest. But I...