​ To be clear, i'm posting this in the hopes that others can offer constructive advice or share their experience with this app (or other dating apps) so I can relate to others. I am not complaining nor fishing for compliments for the sake of such, just simply stating my personal experiences with the app and relating them to how I feel about things To preface, i've been using Tinder for a long time (approximately 5 or so years on and off), and have had varying levels of "success" over the years. I'm relatively attractive by most basic standards (6'0, somewhat toned physique, high quality pictures, relatively creative bio that's also honest about what I want, etc.). For reference: My full profile I live close to a relatively populous city with a population of about 150,000 (many college aged folk Long story short, in that 5 years of time using Tinder, I've had the following experiences: - 100's of "likes/matches" that immediately ghos...

**TL;DR; :I am (19M) and have been dating this girl Stephanie (24F) for six months. I know I am naive, but I wanted to be together with her forever. She has graduated college, and I went back to school (4 hours from home) this fall. We have grown further apart. **. ​ What bothers me is that we fight a lot and she has graduated college, but does not have much ambition. She works part time right now and still lives with her family, but she is scared to move out. She also cannot come visit me at school because her parents won't let her (Catholic). I love her, but she is far and honestly I have wandering eyes for other people (I'm at college 4 hours away from her) and I don't want to hurt her. Should I wait and see where it goes with her or just end it now? But on the other hand, it would break my heart if I never saw her again. Submitted August 24, 2020 at 12:03AM **TL;DR; :I am (19M) and have been dating this girl Stephanie (24F) for six months. I know I am naive, bu...

I'm not sure if this is the right place for this post but... I've (21/f) noticed that this started happening last year. I was in a relationship for about 2 months that wasn't good and school was stressing me. This caused my anxiety to start acting up. Every time I listen to podcasts about relationships or see people online make posts about exes and things that ruin relationships I can feel my heart start racing. It's even worse if it's men talking about it. Had to also stop talking to my ex because I would get anxious every time he would text me. If I see a video on youtube that talks about mistakes people make in a relationship or how to know when to break up with someone I can feel it again. It's so bad I have to avoid anything about relationships most of the time. Has anybody experienced this? How can I deal with it? TLDR: Anxiety issues whenever I see/ hear anything that reminds me of a previous relationship. Submitted August 24, 2020 at 12:06AM I...

This "relationship" started platonic, a 3-month slow burn over the course of working closely together during the pandemic. Recently, we got involved and had a short sexual affair. I developed feelings for him, and suddenly he completely changed - very irritable, critical, and callous. Today we agreed to call it quits, and he insists he wants to preserve our "friendship." I am not looking to win him back. I suspect he has some kind of personality disorder and may be unpredictable. I just need to know how I can navigate working together, as I am afraid he'll try to retaliate somehow and I'd really like to keep this job. I know I fucked up by dating a coworker, but believe me when I say this felt like two completely different people. I wouldn't have gotten involved if I thought he was unstable or cruel in any way. Now I'm freaking out a bit. Any tips for appeasing this sort of person and avoiding some kind of massive blowup? tl;dr : Dated perfectly n...

(I decided to type this after just lying in bed trying to sleep for two hours overthinking if you want to imagine it from my perspective…) I’m a 22(M) virgin and I’ve finally realised am in a pretty deep hole at the moment. I believe am I a position where my low confidence has prevented me from speaking to girls or attempting to get a girlfriend due to the fact I’m scared of ‘shooting my shot’ as they would say these days. This can be in positions of where I may be attracted to a girl and don’t have the guts to message/DM them, or even approach them if I was on a night out etc. This can be quite complicated though… as if the roles where switched and a girl was to message me or approach me for example, id have no problem talking but obviously this happens in a blue moon and most times I’ve not been attracted or into the girl. I can’t deny, I’ve had multiple opportunities to speak/pull/have sex with girls on nights out, lads’ holidays and through my friends’ girlfriends’ friends (if t...

Hey Guys, TL;DR: a lad who I’ve spoke to for 4 weeks, met up 4 times (weekly), texts me daily, wants to carry on as we are but doesn’t want a relationship? Has he got cold feet or is he not interested? So long version: I matched with a lad on tinder. We hit it off, and had really good chat from the word go. He would reply instantly. We’ve carried on with pretty good texts. He’ll call / FaceTime me a couple of times a week for a few hours at a time (sometimes the whole evening). Our first date was great, we stayed out for ages just talking about deep life issues, and I feel we had a really good natural connection. The next day he invited me round to his house to meet his mom and just have a chill. I went round and it was lovely to relax and have a great connection with someone. Week 2: Text messages continued to be very frequent for the next week, and that weekend we met up again. Weekend 2: We slept together, but he decided not to stay at mine and he went home instead. Week 3:...

I don't know if this belongs in this sub. However, I really want to get this out of my chest. I am not asking for advice but I one someone to listen/read my story and give me some insight. Memories of my past haunts me until this very day. I think about the times she and I shared together. I guess now that I look at it, in-a-way I guess I am indeed asking for advice on how to try and ease my pain. I am now 30 years-old, I am happily married to a beautiful Filipina wife and a young son. A long time ago, when I migrated here in the US, I was merely 14 years-old when I met E. Freshman high school. At first, I was starstruck when I first saw her. This white girl with dirty-blonde hair, blue-eyes, freckled cheeks, a slender body, and boobs about the size of pomelo. While I was this chubby, insecure foreign kid with a thick Filipino accent. What were my chances right? Comes summer, we had US history class together and she became part of my little study group. She wasn't snub lik...

My family is Jewish and our religion is always important to us but I don't think this isn't really bc of that I don't think bc my family and everyone else I know are really good and accepting of other religions and everyone. the town I live in is almost all Christian and they are the same and no one at my school cares about me being a different religion. And but my brother became really conservative and religious in a bad way when he went to college. And like that's all he ever talks about now. And always argues with are parent about it like whenever he comes home and made them really angry because he's turned it into something really hateful and won't even go with us to are temple anymore bc of them teaching reformed Judaism and them doing interfaith weddings and being okay with gay marriage and a bunch of other stuff that shouldn't matter. But since he came home from COVID/summer break he's gotten better I thought like he stopped talking with my par...

I just recently made an account, have been reading the thread but not posting. I (23F) and my boyfriend (25m) are having problems. He is really nice to me and super funny and I do like him. I have never gotten along with someone so well and have never met a person as funny as him. We are both the same race but he clearly had a Latina fetish. Between his porn preferences, his history of fucking a Colombian prostitute, and an ex girlfriend/multiple hookups it’s very evident to me I am not his type. He has criticized the way I look in the past but attributes it to being insecure. These comments were made over a year ago and since then he has been very kind to me. I am aware he was trying hard to put on a facade when we first started dating and wanted to come across as tough and has since changed. Apparently i was cold to him when we started seeing each other and he felt he had to bring me down. He hasn’t made any comments in the recent past but instead I find myself getting mad over com...

Letting things go I was seeing this girl that Ive known since high school last year up to now. She’s 19 I’m 22, we come from two totally different backgrounds she’s a girl of the church I’m just a guy from the street. When we first started goin out I was only goin out with her to make my ex mad. Turns out it just makes you feel like shit. I was with her for 6 months then I just went MIA to California I blocked her before I did , you know just cut off loose ends. I stayed in Cali for a month and came back, she saw me at a store in Washington. She decided to hit me up and try to work it out so we did. I asked her dad if we could go out this may he said yes but there expections for me was to be apart of the church and devote myself. That’s not me, but I went to support her . She’s illegal and living in her parents crib, I’m out on my own. They never let her out . They always had something to say about me on how I’m less of a man or how I think isn’t correct there old fashioned Mexicans....

(Firstly, sorry for my english) Tl;dr : any tips to forget a girl? Help me, I want to forget the girl I love since 7 years now, she had two relationships and I never had courage to make the first step. She told me years ago that she would have liked if I tried with her, meaning she also wanted something more than a friendship. We stopped frequenting each other and I became overweight and because of that I became even more shy with girls, but that is a problem I am resolving because I'm loosing weight and getting fit since a month, that will hugely help me. As I mentioned she still has a boyfriend and seems really appassionate with him. I hate that I missed my shot, because I know she wouldn't friendzone me (which I made myself). How can I forget her? Thank you my friends Submitted August 23, 2020 at 11:35PM (Firstly, sorry for my english) Tl;dr : any tips to forget a girl?Help me, I want to forget the girl I love since 7 years now, she had two relationships and I never...

Essentially when I post bios about myself, I want to say that I am not interested in anything sexual until there is trust. Long story short I have had past trauma and I find a lot of guys are into hookups or kinky things which personally I have no problem with but personally it's not what I am looking for in a partner to base a relationship off. So how I do say I am looking for a relationship but anything sexual will take time for me to want to act on and not seem weird about it? I did try to tell guys when they start being very suggestive it's making me uncomfortable or I am not ready yet and I get ghosted. I just wonder if there's a term for it or just a shorter nicer way? Submitted August 23, 2020 at 11:41PM Essentially when I post bios about myself, I want to say that I am not interested in anything sexual until there is trust. Long story short I have had past trauma and I find a lot of guys are into hookups or kinky things which personally I have no problem wit...

So 2 days ago I met a girl on tinder and in the following day we met for a date. After 7 hours drinking beer and talking we decided to leave. Everything seemed perfect and there was a chemistry between us. Since it was already quite late I took her home. When we were going to say goodbye and kiss in the face to each other we suddenly kisses each other for a while. At this moment I felt none of us wanted to leave so she invited me to go upstairs to her flat. So I did. OK so fast forward We had "sex" even though I told her I had no condoms with me since I was not expecting that. During the sex I asked her what would happen next and she told me that it depend on me and her. I also told her why was it going too fast and she said because she enjoyed me. She was clearly more experient than me and after the act she took a shower and I felt I was not desired anymore. Next day I send her a message saying good day and I got blocked on insta and unmatch on tinder, which makes me feel s...

I asked her if she wanted to ft and she said she hates to ft so I said lets call and she said maybe. How should I reply? Thank you for any responses! Submitted August 23, 2020 at 11:49PM I asked her if she wanted to ft and she said she hates to ft so I said lets call and she said maybe. How should I reply?Thank you for any responses!

That's really my whole question. Did you have a feeling before you met them (if you hadn't met them in person)? After the first date? A few months in? Or did you never really have a feeling and just end up there? What gave that feeling? Submitted August 23, 2020 at 11:50PM That's really my whole question. Did you have a feeling before you met them (if you hadn't met them in person)? After the first date? A few months in? Or did you never really have a feeling and just end up there? What gave that feeling?

Yes, my mom made me promise never to put nail polish on my little brother. Course, if he wants to try it I’m going to help him August 23, 2020 at 11:31PM

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My SO asked me to learn more about baseball (e.g. players, game terminology, etc.). I have done a decent job considering I knew NOTHING about the sport before. He loves watching his favorite team play and I’ve been right there next to him to watch them since the start of the season; however, the games are 4 hours long. My attention span runs short so lately I haven’t been paying attention as much as he’d probably like. Today he decided to try and quiz me by having me listen to the game in Spanish and translate in English. I was stressed being put on the spot to translate and I didn’t know all the terminology, which made him upset. He sees my lack of knowledge as me not caring enough about him and his interests to learn. To be fair, I haven’t done much to learn lately, not even on things that I’m interested in. I just need advice from seasoned couples and how they share their hobbies and interests. Submitted August 23, 2020 at 11:45PM My SO asked me to learn more about baseball (...

Please read, this is long. I have been with my husband for 18 years and married for 17. We started off as friends and it evolved into a beautiful relationship. We might not be perfect people, but I think that we are perfect for each other. I have struggled with issues from my past and background and on occasion it has meant mild depression, and anxiety. I also struggle with insecurity. I am a work in progress. And he has ALWAYS been there for me, even when I am sure it has been really hard. Honestly the last time I felt depressed was around this time last summer, and I am not even sure why. Except maybe that we had moved. We moved away from a community I loved. My husband had been commuting for work, like a seriously long commute for 10+ years and it was time to change that. And I loved the community we lived in, but all those years the kids and I lived there and he just slept there. I think I struggled with the changes, but I really had no reason to be depressed. And I think I can...

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