Had a first date last night. I think it went well, although I think he's a little too good for me. Nonetheless, he insisted on walking me home (a full 30 minutes out of his way), joked about giving me driving lessons and said he'd text me. He litreally did 5 minutes later to say thanks for a great night and that I'm very cute. He texted me at 1pm today and texted me back and forth until I stopped replying around 9pm. No mention of a second date or wanting to see me again. I don't know why he'd bother messaging me like 20 times if he wasn't interested? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 01:12AM Had a first date last night. I think it went well, although I think he's a little too good for me. Nonetheless, he insisted on walking me home (a full 30 minutes out of his way), joked about giving me driving lessons and said he'd text me. He litreally did 5 minutes later to say thanks for a great night and that I'm very cute. He texted me at 1pm today and t...

I’ve been with my girl (Both 20) for around 3 months now and we’ve recently made it official after quite a long talking phase, whenever we meet up she’s really easy to talk to and whenever we call it’s the same and we seem to really enjoy it. However whenever we message each-other throughout the day or on an evening it feels like the conversation is really dry at some points and it feels like I’m trying to come up with engaging responses to keep the conversation going. I don’t know whether this is normal or whether I’m doing something wrong but sometimes it feels like I’m trying way too hard to try and keep her interested. Any advice would be much appreciated <3 Submitted November 11, 2021 at 01:13AM I’ve been with my girl (Both 20) for around 3 months now and we’ve recently made it official after quite a long talking phase, whenever we meet up she’s really easy to talk to and whenever we call it’s the same and we seem to really enjoy it. However whenever we message each-othe...

Excuse my over elaborating... blah blah blah ADHD. TL;DR need things I(26M) can ask my slightly long distant GF (23F) (1-hour drive) to do, so she feels like she provides value to the relationship, that doesn't feel forced. My new girlfriend comes from a poor family and she is struggling financially due to a rough home situation and health problems preventing her from being able to work. I'm a decently well-paid engineer, so I'm able to pay for dates or anything no problem really, it's just doing things I enjoy but with her. Whether it's going to a hockey game, checking out a movie, dinner or whatever, I generally pay because if I expected her to contribute money to those things, they just wouldn't happen. We've been friends for a few years, so her struggles, both physical and emotional, are no surprise to me (and were definitely considerations before I agreed to get physical and eventually begin to form a relationship, but on the balance, she's a l...

we've been talking for a week and decided to meet since next week i'm busy. today would've worked unless we wait 2 weeks. the problem was his car battery needs to get replaced and said he would get it fixed this weekend. he lives about an hour away and we planned to meet in the middle, since his car is broken i'm going to him. ... did i kinda fuck up by asking for gas money ? i'm in california and unleaded is 4.30 where i am.. so i figured $8 would be fine. he replied "sure sounds good".. he's still messaging me thankfully but i feel i gave the wrong impression :/. i'm not well off financially but we like each other so far so ofc we want to meet. would u give a girl gas money if she's driving to you? 😬 Submitted November 11, 2021 at 01:16AM we've been talking for a week and decided to meet since next week i'm busy. today would've worked unless we wait 2 weeks. the problem was his car battery needs to get replaced and said...

Tell her you are not comfortable with her sharing your private identity that makes you more vulnerable and that you need her to stop. I can’t be sure exactly how she identifies apart from lesbian but this stinks of pure allosexual ignorance to me and it’s coming from her. November 11, 2021 at 12:43AM

Being stoic, scientific types? November 11, 2021 at 12:42AM

I think we all already know this? But who's "we"? There are new people discovering their sexual orientation every day, and asexuality is still not very mainstream, so a lot of baby aces' first introduction to asexuality will be through forums like this one. I think we should be able to find a balance between giving everyone a safe space to share their personal experiences and making sure people who've just discovered asexuality don't come away with the wrong idea about what it even is. November 11, 2021 at 12:41AM

Recently I’ve started feeling pushed out of the ace community as well as a sex repulsed ace because i see so many posts and comments about “wait asexuals can like sex!”. I agree it’s important to talk about different asexual experiences but you’re right that this is literally the only space sex repulsed asexuals belong. November 11, 2021 at 12:40AM

Society allocates value to our social lives depending on sexual successes. A regard in which asexuals are pretty much the bottom of the barrel and not due to choice. We are discriminated for it that way but don’t feel it actually reflects on your character. In reality, you are worth every bit as much as any allosexual just the way you are. November 11, 2021 at 12:39AM

im so glad you commented this. whole time reading OP post i was thinking its some troll trying to be acephobic and kick us out of our own community. didnt know people actually hate us sex repulsed aces this way. furthermore, OP, why does sex repulsed aces bother you so much to the point you make a whole post about us? you jealous or something? November 11, 2021 at 12:39AM

I just need to hear from people that have done it. The idea alone gets me horny just because it’s something that shouldn’t be happening, but is, you know? Like something that’s just so taboo and spontaneous… is it as amazing as it sounds? Was it awkward after? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:20AM I just need to hear from people that have done it. The idea alone gets me horny just because it’s something that shouldn’t be happening, but is, you know? Like something that’s just so taboo and spontaneous… is it as amazing as it sounds? Was it awkward after?

Guy I'm seeing often asks me if I'm having a good time and any variation of this question during the act and also after. I thought maybe he wasn't sure I was into it (I panicked thinking perhaps I was inadvertently starfishing?!) but then he commented on me clearly enjoying sex so I don't think that was it. Men who ask their sexual partners if they are enjoying it: why do you do this and what kind of feedback would you like to receive? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:33AM Guy I'm seeing often asks me if I'm having a good time and any variation of this question during the act and also after.I thought maybe he wasn't sure I was into it (I panicked thinking perhaps I was inadvertently starfishing?!) but then he commented on me clearly enjoying sex so I don't think that was it.Men who ask their sexual partners if they are enjoying it: why do you do this and what kind of feedback would you like to receive?

Im 24 M with a really active sexual life. Or at least was like that until this and last year. Now that everything is normalizing where i live im starting to go back to my normal sexual life, but im having trouble with my erections. I can became fully hard but takes way too long and concentration, and they doesnt last long. I have this problem only during sex, so im associating the problem is caused because masturbation. Covid made me masturbate way way more than before. From 1 a day or 1 the other day i went to like 3 or 4 per day, every day. I wasnt having problem with my erections so i just didnt know. My life is not 100% normalized still, like im not going to collage still, so im at home (and i will be here all holydays too), so idk if i just need to gain a bit of self-control and dont jerk too much. I really appreciate your opinions in the matter 🌹 Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:39AM Im 24 M with a really active sexual life. Or at least was like that until this and ...

Me and my galdem decided on this as our safe word, I think this would work if it wasn't the known safeword. It would just be incredibly confusing. I know I would stop atleast for a second Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:48AM Me and my galdem decided on this as our safe word, I think this would work if it wasn't the known safeword. It would just be incredibly confusing. I know I would stop atleast for a second

What is your favorite position for deep penetration? Mine is a modified reverse cowgirl, with my legs under his. It feels awesome for both of us. Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:59AM What is your favorite position for deep penetration? Mine is a modified reverse cowgirl, with my legs under his. It feels awesome for both of us.

Firstly, I hate that I am even asking this, but I'm at a loss. I (F27) met a great guy (32) two months ago online. We really hit it off over text and went on 6 dates now over the course of two months. He has previously been very hurt in a relationship and still has some walls up, which he acknowledged, and said he wants to take it slow. He hates the idea that when you date someone, you essentially will either get married, or someone is getting hurt. I totally get it. We are both pretty busy people. He with a job and a side hustle, and me owning my own business. At times I have felt that he has put his to-do list above me, but then again, maybe I am expecting too much. Everyone seems to have a different answer. On top of it all, his mom passed about 3 weeks ago. It's hard to determine whether he simply doesn't want to make the time for me because he doesn't like me enough, is emotionally unavailable (he said he was numb, and I hate to admit it but I'm like is it a ...

First pls don’t come for the fact that I (f18) ask out guys. So usually I ask guys I like to hangout and not “oh do you wanna go on a date?” Is that making a difference on how they will show up or act? I kinda just realized this is why I think I haven’t been on dates before it’s because of my phrasing but when I describe these hangouts to my friends they think they are dates. I feel like I end up oddly friend-zoning myself. So is wording important in these situations. I asked a guy to hangout but I feel like I should’ve said date but idk. Hopefully at the end of the hangout he’ll ask me but if he say “do you wanna hangout next week” does that mean friends? Like I don’t wanna ask him just because we have been talking long enough to have that conversation again yk. Anyway the question is basically how important is wording and am I over thinking this? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:04AM First pls don’t come for the fact that I (f18) ask out guys. So usually I ask guys I like to...

Hey there everyone. I just wanted to ask see what would be the best thing to do for a second date. This girl (F18) asked me (M18) out last weekend. We hung out last Monday and had such an amazing time. It’s a little lame, but we ended up spending 4 and a half hours just sitting in a cafe talking. She said she had a great time and said that she would love to hang out again and she was pretty persistent on getting together soon. We’re hanging out tomorrow (Thursday) and we’re still trying to figure out what to do. Would maybe a movie either back at my place or in the theatre be a good idea or is that boring? What are some good ideas? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:14AM Hey there everyone. I just wanted to ask see what would be the best thing to do for a second date.This girl (F18) asked me (M18) out last weekend. We hung out last Monday and had such an amazing time. It’s a little lame, but we ended up spending 4 and a half hours just sitting in a cafe talking. She said she had...

Hey, so let me explain this storie. I (18M) met this girl at school and we hit it off pretty well on snapchat and I was confident enough to ask her out on a date. She said yes and we decided to go for a walk at a local park. It was cold and dark but it went better than any date I haver had, we had chemistry and the conversation topics were flowing really well. She a tually took initiative most of the time so it was even better for me. We exchanged compliments to each other several times during the date and there was a clear interest on both parties. Her place was near by and since it was dark I said I would take her home so she wouldn't go alone. When we got to her place I felt like the vibe was for a kiss to happen and I thought "Fuck it, here goes nothing" and I said " I really feel like kissing you" but to my surprise she said "sorry but no". Well I backed off and she hugged me to say goodbye and asked me to text her when I got home just to know...

Hey everyone, so I asked my crush out recently I’m 17 and she is also 17 we go to highschool. She’s my first crush so I thought I could win her over if I did something nice to ask her out. So the day comes to ask her out, I buy some nice flowers and I wrote a meaningful card describing my feelings and I asked if she wanted to go out. Well it turns out she didn’t like my proposal. She said no ,and that letter I wrote to her friends, she decided to send it to her best friends. Her friends started texted me and saying random stuff and calling me stuff with laughing emojis. I had to delete my snap after that I couldn’t handle the embarrassment. I really thought she liked me tbh but from this I guess not. I’ve never thought that I would be rejected in such a way like this, I feel so awful, did I ask her out in the wrong way? Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:15AM Hey everyone, so I asked my crush out recently I’m 17 and she is also 17 we go to highschool. She’s my first crush so I th...