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/u/Shuffle_Replay on How going to a bar feels. Y'know, before the pandemic anyway.

I love Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt 💜 and this scene was glorious xD May 26, 2020 at 11:55PM

/u/478951 on Got my ace ring today, still waiting for an app for ace people.

It feels so great to be with my people (all of you) . Thank you 😇 May 26, 2020 at 11:39PM

/u/Aguiadalua on Got my ace ring today, still waiting for an app for ace people.

Brazilian here too!! May 26, 2020 at 11:38PM

/u/19thcenturyharlot on Am I too young to know?

honestly, the answer is maybe. some people know, some people don't. I'm almost 17 and I currently identify as a demi lesbian but who knows what the future holds for me 🤷 if the label feels comfortable for you now, don't sweat it. just don't get attached to it to the point where it's distressing if you realize it isn't quite right later down the road. May 26, 2020 at 11:37PM

/u/cr2810 on Anyone here not sex-repulsed except when you read overly flowery language to describe sex?

I don’t find reading or listening to someone’s stories bothers me. But watching stuff on regular tv ( simulated sex or make out sessions) makes me really uncomfortable. Especially if I’ve gotten to “know” the characters. May 26, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/nocturnal-floofball on Something that just dawned on me

Honestly I feel the same! My partner isn't ace but he really understands and it feels the same, it just feels like I'm in a relationship with my best friend and having physical stuff out of the equation or spoken about in a very frank manner of like 'this is how I feel' which feels a lot easier. My friends always have mad amounts of drama in their relationships and a lot came from sexual relationships. I'm kinda glad I bypassed that. May 26, 2020 at 11:31PM

/u/blrmkr10 on Any asexuals married to an allosexual?

Generally this is me too. But I haven't said yes in awhile and I'm feeling bad about it. May 26, 2020 at 11:25PM

/u/TemperedTorture on Anyone here not sex-repulsed except when you read overly flowery language to describe sex?

I'm sex repulsed only when someone I know is going into graphic detail about their personal experiences. But I'm ok with well written smut which I can enjoy as long as it is accompanied with at least a half decent storyline. Implied sex in movies is ok. If it's graphic, I skip it because usually it's completely unnecessary. May 26, 2020 at 11:24PM

/u/enemiestobesties on Something that just dawned on me

Yep, it's all fun and games until you realise you're the weird one and not everyone else 😆 even weirder if people who are more religiously conservative than you turn out to be much more sex crazed to the point they consider marrying early and you're like "Wait, you actually want this?" May 26, 2020 at 11:21PM

/u/okaysureiguess14 on Aces on T?

That's fair. It is nice to know I'm not alone. Thanks friend. May 26, 2020 at 11:19PM

/u/TinMan1898 on Anyone here not sex-repulsed except when you read overly flowery language to describe sex?

I'm indifferent to sex, but I don't really like seeing it at all in books, movies, and tv. This isn't always the case, but it seems like it's shoehorned in for no other reason than extra drama. I wish a better story was being told a lot of times I see romance in media like that. That, and I don't like seeing or reading sex scenes; I'd prefer if that just didn't happen. May 26, 2020 at 11:18PM

/u/politelyCalico on Got my ace ring today, still waiting for an app for ace people.

Asexuals.net and r/asexualdating are ur best bet right now May 26, 2020 at 11:16PM

/u/RABlackAuthor on Am I too young to know?

Good question. I have a frustrating answer. Maybe. Personally, I didn't "discover girls" until I was 20. Looking back, I realize that I wasn't really experiencing what other people experience as sexual attraction, but it was close enough that I figured the rest would follow if I did what I was supposed to do. If you feel like saying you're ace fits who you are now , then go with it. There isn't a "no backsies" rule. If things change for you as you get older, that's perfectly okay. What matters is that you're comfortable with yourself. May 26, 2020 at 11:16PM

/u/bazjack on I am wondering something.

I have Asperger's and I'm agender, asexual, panromantic. The therapist who formally diagnosed me with Asperger's told me that many people on the spectrum act out sexually once they hit puberty. I would imagine that aces on the spectrum don't have that problem. May 26, 2020 at 11:14PM

/u/Cakeasaurus_Rex on 🔥Important Information🔥

This was heartwarming... Was that Hestia? May 26, 2020 at 11:13PM

/u/toeb0nes on Anyone here not sex-repulsed except when you read overly flowery language to describe sex?

Not sex repulsed at all, I think I’d describe myself as more “sex-neutral” like I won’t seek it out at all, but if there’s a situation it could happen depending on how I’m feeling I might. But atm not interested in it at all. But definitely not repulsed May 26, 2020 at 11:12PM

/u/SleepConnoisseur on I am wondering something.

Dunno, it'd make a bit of sense seeing as there are quite a few but there are also some who are in good mental health. I definitely have problems tho so I cant say I am one.... May 26, 2020 at 11:08PM

/u/okaysureiguess14 on Aces on T?

If you didn't care for the raised libido, how'd you deal with it? I'm 22 so 30 isn't too long to wait it out I guess lmao. Thanks for answering. May 26, 2020 at 11:07PM

Someone made this flyer in Portland, OR

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Even RS isn't safe; Something small but my partner laughed themselves all the way to the next dig site

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I got fucked repeatedly by Auto-Mod for you to see this screenshot!!!!!

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My Dating Data: An Experiment in Tracking

I'm starting to keep track of my dating data... I thought maybe it would be useful if we start bringing to light our patterns and OLD "norms" by tracking our experiences instead of keeping it in our heads like some anecdote. I understand this is a totally biased data set. I hope that it can bring others the sense of shared experience and not to give up or enlightens someone about what other's experience. Personally, I hope this helps me to be more concise moving forward. My goal is to end things sooner and stop being a pushover. When I see the numbers below it shows me that I waste a lot of time on people who don't deserve that time. I should not be investing in men who do not invest in me. Furthermore, not every pan will contain gold. There are a lot of people out there and OLD apps make it easier for me to see more. That also means there are a lot of just rocks and fool's gold mixed in that can confuse me or be exhausting if I let it get to me. I sincerely

I’m so sick of things not working out.

How do you guys deal with balancing wanting to put yourself out there and settle down, with the emotions and upsets of things continually fizzling or not working out? I’m feeling really exhausted by dating in my 30s :( Submitted May 26, 2020 at 11:58PM How do you guys deal with balancing wanting to put yourself out there and settle down, with the emotions and upsets of things continually fizzling or not working out? I’m feeling really exhausted by dating in my 30s :(