I’ve seen a lot of that recently, even from people who are ace. I get it but am also just confused as to where else we’re supposed to go. Yes, we can be on our own and have our own community entirely separate, but we won’t make nearly as much progress as we all will together. And if you kick me out because I’m ace, then you should kick me out because I’m agender. I have a far different experience than a binary or even other non-binary trans people. The LGBTQ+ is a place for everyone that’s outside the norm, and kicking aces out is on par with the whole LGB alliance bullshit. We have different issues but without one another we’re stuck in a homophobic, transphobic, and aphobic society. Only way we’re going to change things is if we all stand together, not divided in further factions based on identity April 10, 2020 at 12:11AM

I can't and frankly I don't wanna see she is the only one that help me to not kill myself April 10, 2020 at 12:10AM

She told me asexuality isn't that like I had no idea of what I was talking about (I've been struggling w asexuality for a long time I wish I was normal) April 10, 2020 at 12:08AM

I- what? I guess all humans are absolute sluts if hugs are sexual. Very pedophilic parents too if that's true. Wow. A fundamental misunderstanding of what a hug is or what being ace is had to have occurred. April 10, 2020 at 12:06AM

Love how cleverly you worked the triangle of the demi flag into the dress! Very creative April 10, 2020 at 12:06AM

I just want to downvote the psychologist can we? April 10, 2020 at 12:06AM

Nice :) My ring is a thinner band too, I prefer it cause I have small skinny hands (lol) so I knew a thick one would look too bulky. April 10, 2020 at 12:02AM

I'm not old enough or haven't had enough experiences with sex and romance to confirm my asexuality "You dont know if you're asexual. You haven't even had sex yet?" Yeah that's kinda the point April 10, 2020 at 12:01AM

I didn't know picrew was even that popular! I thought just me and some friends used it and most of the others were far off in Japan April 09, 2020 at 11:59PM

Lol, we have the same wallpaper April 09, 2020 at 11:57PM

(Disclaimer: Englisch is not my first language. So if you find any mistakes or have any suggestions - please leave them in a comment! I truly appreciate it!) I never thought I would be typing this but here we go: My husband (35) and I (29) have been married for 3 years now (he proposed after 1 year) and have a 1 year old daughter. While my husband comes from a stable, two-parent, high income, cottage in the country side, white fence, golden retriever - you get the gist - type of family, the backdrop for childhood was quite different. The only consistency I knew up until I started to lead my own life was the downward spiral of manipulation, abuse and fear my divorced parents had created for me & my sisters and the only person I could trust was myself. At times. (It's hard to break nearly two decades of conditioning - especially during your formative years - so you end up self-sabotating a lot more than you can comprehend at first.) Long story short: I would consider myself a ...

My boyfriend's friends keeps sending him inappropriate videos and pictures of twerking females who are half dressed. I've told my boyfriend in the past (multiple times!) that I don't appreciate this and I think it's disrespectful. My bf doesn't respond to the pics/videos but he doesn't stop them either. I don't expect him to cut this friend off, I just want it to be known that it's wrong. Although, to find out that my bf was still receiving such messages, I had to go in through his instagram account. How do I bring this up to him without starting yet another argument? I already know that going through his DM's is wrong, so I don't need a lecture on that. I would really appreciate some advice on the friend sending pics/videos situation. TL;DR : How to confront boyfriend about his friends sending him inappropriate pics/videos of other girls w/out starting a fight? Submitted April 09, 2020 at 11:49PM My boyfriend's friends keeps sendi...

I dated him a few years ago but we reconnected last year before I went on study abroad and we had been texting a lot since I left. Maybe around 1-2 months ago he popped the question on a call and I said yes (to being his gf!) I am faced with a couple of issues, which I worry they will snowball into something huge down the line... I come from a conservative background (parents, culture) and different religion than my bf. My parents have only ever known about 1 boyfriend I had before when I was a teen. We weren't on speaking terms for a long time but slowly we started talking more. But I remember them being extremely extremely angry. Very early in the "talking stage" between me and my bf, we were on the phone and my mom asked who I'm speaking to.. I told her I was speaking to one of my girl friends - my bf got annoyed and thought i was embarrassed of him or hiding him... I explained why and he is still trying to understand these things and doing his best which I app...

Hello all, My SO [25M] and I [20F] have been seeing each other for a little over 7 months now, and have been doing LDR for about 6.5 months. We said goodbye mid-September, and I'm flying to him late July. I'll be staying there for a little less than 2 months. So, it'll be a bit over ten months since I've last seen him. Yesterday, he told me some heartbreaking news. The time that I'll be flying out to where he is, he will be very busy with finishing a project for work. That means he'll be seeing me ~3 days a week, mostly late at night only for a few hours. Of course, when he told me this, I guess I was "pretending" to be understanding and supportive. On the inside, my heart literally broke. 10 months -- I've waited to see him for 10 months and we can't even fully be together by then because he’s busy. It's not atypical for him to be busy with work. Everyday, he works at least 12 hours a day, and I stay up until 3 or 4 AM because that...

So my (23M) ex girlfriend (22F) and I were together for 10 months. It was really some of the happiest times of my life but about 6 months ago we broke up from a combination of distance, and deteriorating mental health. It was a difficult breakup and I fell into a depression. With therapy and time I ended up making a turn around and eventually got a job in the city I'd been trying to get into for a while. It happend to be near where she was working but I never told her about it, a mutual friend did. Every now and then I'd get a text from her, asking about my job, happy birthday, etc. Last weekend though I got a big text from her, saying how much she missed me, our relationship, but also that she was officially diagnosed with BPD, which was something that she was concerned about near the end of our relationship. I called her and we talked for a while, I admitted to missing her too and how we both wanted to see each other. I had to think everything over for a couple days. Last ...

I’m on mobile, sorry. So school obviously is online and students are home, but at my school they let a select number stay, and I happened to be one of them as well as my friend Jen. We got assigned to a new dorm so we moved into the new place together (in building A), her boyfriend Jason moved to a dorm in building B, and we have a roommate Nicole (neither of us knew her before so we don’t interact that much). Before we moved here, they made a rule that we couldn’t have visitors over. This rule is still in effect, and it includes students at the school and people who don’t go to the school. Basically, they just don’t want people together. His building is strictly a school building and our’s is combined with the public in an apartment complex. They (supposedly) have security guards at his building that make sure whoever is coming in actually lives there, so she told me he would be coming over sometimes. We don’t have security guards at our building. So, he’s slept over every single f...

Long post apologies. I F(22) have been single for over a year now. My last relationship was my second. I was with my first partner for 5 year’s and my second for 2 and a half. My first relationship broke down doing to being too serious at too young. After this I began seeing a guy (call him J) that afterwards I found out to be abusive both physically but especially mentally. During my time with him I lost most, if not all of my self confidence and hit an all time low. At this time a boy that I worked with (call him C) began talking to be and I broke down and told him everything that happened, he was the only person I told although others had their suspicions. I found comfort in C and ending up cheating on J with him, something completely out of character for me and something I’d typically be against. I broke up with J shorty my after and it was horrible, the abuse, the messages and the threats. Unfortunately I wasn’t with C too long before he started displaying similar behaviour, he ...

I recently picked something up again with a guy I had a very strong connection/history with 2 years ago (it was a 6 month thing). We had been dating for the last month and it was all going great. However, although he always had some problemed drinking, this time around I realised that this was far more serious than it was years prior. I thought it was going to be ok, because he'd talk about sobriety and when we hung out, he never drank around me, telling me he felt he didn't need to drink when he was with me as it made him feel on top of the world. I have a heavy study and work load (even during the current pandemic) and would set out a good ammount of time to spend with him each week. When I started hanging out with him this week, he had just come out of a 2 day bender on booze and speed and was coming down from that. In this time he was really detached and would basically sit in silence, staring at the wall with a wine and cigarette in hand. I told him I was feeling dissapo...

My(27f) and friend (36M) met online in 2016. I wasn’t really in a rush to meet someone .We met on a site (paid) dating app and have been talking since then. It was a platonic,friendly type of conversation. We never discussed about meeting or so. I didn’t give him my number right away. We talked via emails and it wasn’t like an everyday type of thing . It’s been going on like that for years. I really thought he wasn’t interested in me and just want to be friends...which was fine because we talk every one and then and just checked in how we’re doing . What I truly appreciate and like about this man is his kindness, thoughtfulness and he was there when I needed to talk to someone even at my lowest moments. I have doubts about online dating just like everyone because anyone can turn around and say anything there and you can basically be someone you want to be . So, Meeting people wasn’t my concern. I went online to see possibilities . Maybe I can find someone Different ?compare to the gu...

How do I emotionally connect with future men I date? I recently came out of a 4 and 1/2 month relationship and it ended because there was no emotional connection to keep it going in his (24m) eyes. The relationship soon became one sided and it fizzled. I know it was the lack of emotional connection because I have a hard time opening up to guys I really like and in this case, love. I become really vulnerable and avoid talking about my pains an issues etc because I get really emotional and for some reason, I do not like a guy seeing me that way. I trusted the guy that I was in a relationship though. I wanted to open up so badly but I could never bring myself up to do it. I just avoided it. He would open up to me about his childhood trauma etc and that would be the only topic of discussion and I would rarely open up and tell him I went through the same. I just feel like moments like that could of made saved what we had. Ill sometimes mention something emotional in my past but I would n...

Silly post. We've dated 3 years but never lived together until now. We got an apartment together first of March and now of course we are quarantining together. ​ I have been looking for work since December (no luck yet). He was working but is now using holidays at his employer's request during isolation. So neither of us are working. ​ I cook every day. I don't love cooking, but I just fell into the role (especially since he was working before and I wasn't). It doesn't come naturally to me so I'm always a bit insecure about the outcome. But I plan meals that I think he'll like and cook them (and it usually takes a while, so I'm putting effort into this). ​ He does compliment some meals that he really likes. But my issue is this: anything he doesn't love, he criticizes... - This looks pretty plain - There isn't enough sauce on this - This chicken is tough Maybe I should be taking it as constructive criticism, but it hurts my feelings an...

Hello, just wanted to get a sanity check. Am I wrong for wanting my fiancé to stop talking to this girl for good? They have worked together for 4 years and in different states. They did meet in person a total of 3 times, the last meeting being just them 2 with no other coworkers. I didn’t want him to meet up with her alone because I already had a gut feeling she was up to no good. At this point she had quit the company they both worked at but she wanted to meet up. My fiancé did let me know that nothing happened between them it was just friends hanging out, she showed him around the city and that was it. Fast forward about a week or two after they met in person, she sends him a text and tells him she has feelings for him. She knows we are engaged yet still decided to let him know how she feels about him even though she has a boyfriend. The day after she revealed this, they both kept talking. Its obvious my fiancé has not made it clear enough that he isn’t interested in her because the...

As we have little in the way of things to do we have been constantly talking and deeply missing one another and because we don't know how long this is going to last I keep thinking of whether we should simply live together. We live about 0.4 miles (0.6km) away from each other (I just checked Google maps) and have been following the isolation procedures. We are fairly certain that neither of us have caught COVID-19 and as we live in the same area, use the same shop and exercise at the same park, we can be sure that we have only been in contact with the same surroundings. We sometimes see each other from a distance in either my shared public garden or in the aforementioned park and last week we kissed and have shown no signs, but naturally this has made it even more difficult to not be able to be together. She is not completely certain about moving in together as she is scared that it might sour things if we are so close all the time for an extended period of time. Is it possible to...