TL;DR Brother used to get his penis out in front of me, now I have issues with my aunty over it When I was younger [9ish F] my brother [14ish M] went through a habit of getting his own is out in front of me and pretending everything was normal. This happened a few times before I eventually screamed at him for it. Then that night my Aunty (who lived with us at the time and who my brother is close to) came and spoke to me and told me that he won’t do it again but not to tell my parents. Fast forward to now, and my mum confessed to me that she thinks my brother might be somewhere on the autism spectrum (and I completely agree with her but I never told her about what happened) One of my questions was whether those incidents could be related to autism? We’re much older now (20-25) and I know my brother has a heart of gold but part of me is wondering if I’m still affected in some way by what happened. I’m also angry at my Aunty, who has always shown favouritism to my brother, but I’m al...

I'm a fairly normal college student with plenty of acquaintances but I can never manage to have close friends. Two of my closest friends had to move away early this year because living in Cali has become insanely expensive. And now I feel all alone. I know a lot of people but I'm never the first to come to mind when people go to clubs or parties or even to lunch. I don't know if it's because I don't have a car or maybe I'm not memorable but it feels like I'm always on the sidelines. People usually consult me when it comes to advice or venting but no one reaches out to me when it comes to fun. I've tried asking people to hang out but everyone's busy or we make plans and they fall through. The few people that seem interested in hanging out are low key toxic "friends of a friend" that had falling outs with others I know. Is there something I should do? I don't wanna be a lone wolf all the time. TL;DR - Feeling like I don't have f...

Me and my girlfriend have been together since January 2019. Things has been wonderful and she is a loving person. It has been easy to be with her as we haven't had any major fights or drama before. For about the last three weeks she has been disconnected and a little cold. Three weeks ago she also has started to snapchat a lot to her friend (M23) through her hobby, wrestling. I called her out if there's a problem or if something has happened. She denied and just told that she had been feeling ok with being alone and that's why she has been a little cold lately. She also removed her snapchat location at the same time, because she didn't want people to see where she is. This raised a few eyebrows on me but we continued. I understand that most of her friends through wrestling are male and I don't believe she has anything going on behind my back, because she seemed genuine as she told she's not playing any games & the guy (M23) has a girlfriend. Four days ago...

Hello. My BF and I have been on and off for 2 years. We are each other's first relationship. Every time he asks for us to get back together and I agree, he would be very affectionate and loving during the first few weeks or month then he would go back to pushing me away and being cold. I try my hardest to understand him by asking him what we could do, how I can help him if there are problems, etc. Lately, I opened up to him about being unhappy in the relationship and how I don't want us to be stuck in a cycle of breaking up then getting back together then breaking up again. He told me that my feelings are valid and that he just really "sucks at relationships". My problem with him is that whenever I ask for 1-3 hours of bonding time, he complains that I'm too clingy. During those 1-3 hours, he would even rush it, emphasize how bored he is and even ignore me to talk to friends. He never asks me about my day. He even ignored me for five days. He told me recently ...

i’m a hostess at a restaurant & have been working there for a few months now. it’s a really great job for me, i work with mostly people my age & a lot of us have become close friends. however, there’s this one guy that i work with that makes me really uncomfortable at times. he’s a cook, & i’m a hostess who works in the front, so we don’t interact that often. however, our a break table/area is the back of the restaurant close to where the kitchen is. every time that i take my break, he always seems to mosey his way back into that area wanting to talk to me (mind you he is not on break when he does this). this has been consistent since when i very first started working there. at first it was friendly conversation, which i don’t mind, i wanted to get to know everyone. as time went on the conversations started to become more flirty & almost invasive on his end & that’s something i am not comfortable with. i was really trying to ignore it but last week he was asking me...

Gf (20F) and I (19M) have been together close to 4 years now. And my whole family knows that. But just for more context basically my whole family is republican. My mother is nice and doesn’t care too much about my gfs political views both my mom and her bf are obviously republican but my gf and I are at my house often. And there’s usually no conflict in that regard. Although politics are often brought up even though they knows she’s democratic. We usually just kind of ignore it and let it go. And at this point they know we will probably get married at some point. Well flash forward to today at my family’s Christmas party (which my gf was not at) politics were brought up as they commonly are with my family. Then my gf was brought up by my mother saying how she’s liberal and my whole family got really surprised. (They’ve only met her once, and i don’t see them too often). And before all that was revealed they asked if i planned on getting married to her and i told them yes sometime in t...

Sounds like a gift. Be grateful, honest, and open. Bring up the topic when you feel comfortable. As time goes on and you two get closer start to work out some compromises. But as long as love is the main feature everything should work out fine. Wish you luck friend December 26, 2019 at 12:25AM

I might read through some of your posts, I think it might help quite a bit. I'm glad that you're relationship seems to be good :) Thank you! December 26, 2019 at 12:24AM

Thanks you for your comment. It's nice to feel validated. I really wish we were portrayed more in the media so others can learn too. We're getting there. I actually learned about Aces from Bojack Horseman. December 26, 2019 at 12:21AM

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For me, I always feel very detached in the dream itself, kind of like I'm watching through someone else's eyes December 26, 2019 at 12:16AM

What is the point of having a definition for a type of sexuality if people act in opposite ways to it and still claim that sexuality? It doesn't make sense to me. December 26, 2019 at 12:14AM

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Haters gonna hate. Some people just lack empathy. December 26, 2019 at 12:04AM

The biggest tell for being on the ace spectrum would be that even shyness won't override attraction. You may be too shy and decide not to act on it, but you'd still think things like "I really want him, but..." For gray-ace it would be the same until you felt that attraction, then you'd confirm that it's not 100% asexuality. December 26, 2019 at 12:01AM

First off let me start by saying if I ever knew he was with someone I wouldn’t have never flirted back. He seemed so charming and I fell for it. I have been single for three years. Can’t seem to keep a guys attention until this guy came along. Let’s call him “Jack”. Well Jack showed me so much attention and love. Right off the bat I made it clear I am not a hookup type girl, he said he wasn’t interested in a hookup and wanted more. When then I noticed he would get back to me at odd hours. Which was a red flag. He has a straining job so I thought maybe that could be it. He hardly has any information about him on Facebook, as he doesn’t use it much. Well I did some digging on the internet because female intuition was telling me something was up. Come to find out he is living with his girlfriend and they have a daughter together. I feel sick. I feel horrible for her. I’m a good girl and I feel like I deserve a good man. I feel like I will never get that. I’m heart broken. Why is love...

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I've have had multiple experiences where I've dated people who have had large extended families who were all really close and/or lots of really close friends and these people over the course of our relationships made me feel less than in one way or another, over and over, be it purposely or inadvertently. So now on OLD, during the normal course of initial conversations, I ask potential dates about their families. If they speak positively and say they have a big family and great friends, sadly it's giving me flashbacks and making me lose interest. I feel really bad about this. Like, who the hell begrudges or is turned off by someone being happy and having a semi-normal well adjusted family and friends circle?? That's terrible. I just know how dating someone like this had made me feel in the past. It's not so much anything they were doing or saying to me intentionally but certain things would inadvertently sting or make me feel sad or self-conscious and I know tha...

Merry Christmas to my love. You are the one that is the love of my life. You found me when I was so incredibly lost. You have been here for me through the good times and bad. You picked me up off the floor through the death of not one, but both parents this year. Parents that were married 59 years and loved each other dearly to the end, just as your parents love each other always. You gave me the most amazing gifts, gifts that made me cry like s blubbering baby with tears of joy. It was not about the material items or cost, it was the reason behind the gifts. Two of the gifts will be cherished until I die. These two gifts... what can I say, they have me stunned. Two hard-to-find rare dolls I had as a child that kept me safe from monsters in the closet and warm at night, dolls that Santa (really my beatiful mother) gave me. You have since replaced those dolls when you came into my life, keeping me safe and warm. You brought my childhood back to me. You told me you were dying for me to...

I know people like their romantic relationships, but it’s not the end all be all, a romantic relationship is not the highest form of love, friendships are not any less valuable than the amatonormative standard of a typically-monogamous romantic relationship, comradery is the highest form of love, labeling your relationship romantic or doing romantic things doesn’t make your relationship superior or more valuable than other aromantic forms of relationships, unfortunately our society seems to have difficulty understanding the concept that the amatonormative standard of a relationship isn’t the only way to truly love someone, friendship is a form of love, and it needs to be more appreciated in our society Submitted December 26, 2019 at 12:00AM I know people like their romantic relationships, but it’s not the end all be all, a romantic relationship is not the highest form of love, friendships are not any less valuable than the amatonormative standard of a typically-monogamous roman...