Should I (M20) try to continue with GF (F19) of 11 months.

Me and my girlfriend have been together since January 2019. Things has been wonderful and she is a loving person. It has been easy to be with her as we haven't had any major fights or drama before.

For about the last three weeks she has been disconnected and a little cold. Three weeks ago she also has started to snapchat a lot to her friend (M23) through her hobby, wrestling. I called her out if there's a problem or if something has happened. She denied and just told that she had been feeling ok with being alone and that's why she has been a little cold lately. She also removed her snapchat location at the same time, because she didn't want people to see where she is. This raised a few eyebrows on me but we continued. I understand that most of her friends through wrestling are male and I don't believe she has anything going on behind my back, because she seemed genuine as she told she's not playing any games & the guy (M23) has a girlfriend.

Four days ago she was at my place and she was still a little cold and I talked about her being disconnected again. We talked a lot and basically she told that sometimes she has thought about being single and not with me, but at the same time she told that she loves me and wants to stay with me and she doesn't know why she has these feelings.

We were supposed to celebrate christmas with her family and close relatives. Just two days before christmas she tells me by text that maybe it's better that I don't come to her familys' house at christmas and that we celebrate christmas separately, because of the "unstable situation of our relationship". I was heartbroken. She wanted that we meet after christmas. After this I thought that maybe it's better that we breakup if she doesn't want me to be with her at christmas.

She has been really positive and happy in her messages towards me after she told that we should meet after the christmas. This evening we met private, shared our gifts and I told her that maybe it's better that we continue different ways. We cried and she said she understands but wants me to stay atleast this evening. After some time I left her place and she texted me that if I could come back and sleep next to her atleast this night and that she feels lonely. She refered me as "booboo" as she has before. I told her no as it would only make things harder.

Now I've been thinking that maybe I gave up too easily on her as even if things sound bad, most of this time she has been lovely and I love her and I really wouldn't want to lose her, but ofcourse at the same time I think that does she really love me enough if sometimes she has thought about being single.

TLDR: (GF been a little cold for few weeks and has thought about being single. We were supposed to spend xmas together with her family but two days before she tells that maybe it's better we don't spend it together. She still loves me & I love her, but today I told her that we should breakup. After this she still would have wanted me to stay at her place through the night. I'm thinking if I should really end the relationship or not)

(Also sorry for the bad grammar, English is not my first language)

Submitted December 26, 2019 at 12:18AM

Me and my girlfriend have been together since January 2019. Things has been wonderful and she is a loving person. It has been easy to be with her as we haven't had any major fights or drama before.For about the last three weeks she has been disconnected and a little cold. Three weeks ago she also has started to snapchat a lot to her friend (M23) through her hobby, wrestling. I called her out if there's a problem or if something has happened. She denied and just told that she had been feeling ok with being alone and that's why she has been a little cold lately. She also removed her snapchat location at the same time, because she didn't want people to see where she is. This raised a few eyebrows on me but we continued. I understand that most of her friends through wrestling are male and I don't believe she has anything going on behind my back, because she seemed genuine as she told she's not playing any games & the guy (M23) has a girlfriend.Four days ago she was at my place and she was still a little cold and I talked about her being disconnected again. We talked a lot and basically she told that sometimes she has thought about being single and not with me, but at the same time she told that she loves me and wants to stay with me and she doesn't know why she has these feelings.We were supposed to celebrate christmas with her family and close relatives. Just two days before christmas she tells me by text that maybe it's better that I don't come to her familys' house at christmas and that we celebrate christmas separately, because of the "unstable situation of our relationship". I was heartbroken. She wanted that we meet after christmas. After this I thought that maybe it's better that we breakup if she doesn't want me to be with her at christmas.She has been really positive and happy in her messages towards me after she told that we should meet after the christmas. This evening we met private, shared our gifts and I told her that maybe it's better that we continue different ways. We cried and she said she understands but wants me to stay atleast this evening. After some time I left her place and she texted me that if I could come back and sleep next to her atleast this night and that she feels lonely. She refered me as "booboo" as she has before. I told her no as it would only make things harder.Now I've been thinking that maybe I gave up too easily on her as even if things sound bad, most of this time she has been lovely and I love her and I really wouldn't want to lose her, but ofcourse at the same time I think that does she really love me enough if sometimes she has thought about being single.TLDR: (GF been a little cold for few weeks and has thought about being single. We were supposed to spend xmas together with her family but two days before she tells that maybe it's better we don't spend it together. She still loves me & I love her, but today I told her that we should breakup. After this she still would have wanted me to stay at her place through the night. I'm thinking if I should really end the relationship or not)(Also sorry for the bad grammar, English is not my first language)