I've never taken such a test. Try to figure out, if what you are feeling in different situations is sexual attraction or not. Look up different definitions of sexual attraction and compare them to how you feel. If you come to the conclusion, that you sometimes feel sexual attraction, ask yourself under what circumstances you feel that and how often and how intense the feeling is. If you want to find a more specific label, look up all the different labels people on the asexual spectrum use for themselves and ask yourself, if those labels would fit you too. Also consider reading a lot of texts about asexuality. (I personally found the book "Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex" by Angela Chen helpful.) January 04, 2023 at 12:15AM

How much sexual attraction do you experience? none → ace\ "normal" or above → allo\ some, but significantly less than "normal" → grey January 04, 2023 at 12:13AM

For me it was "I must be straight, because I've been constantly told I am gonna meet a nice boy and marry him and I have a male friend who I promised to get married to when I was a fricking kid (spoiler alert, we don't talk anymore and I have no idea what the hell's he up to and I don't really care), I tried kissing him just to know how it feels like and I wanted to play a pretend game where we were in love, again, just to know what it feels like. Nevermind the fact that I felt annoyed whenever someone made a joke about us dating. Oh, a bunch of my friends in this fandom are into this male character. I don't see it, but I love him a lot too. He brings me comfort and he's really likable. I guess I am also crushing on him? OH, SHIT, OH FUCK, I'VE BEEN DIAGNOSED AS AUTISTIC, IT LOOKS LIKE I JUST HAD A SPECIAL INTEREST IN HIM." January 04, 2023 at 12:11AM

Im glad that little bit helped! If you have more questions feel free to ask, or just browse the subreddit, theres alot of folk here who love helping January 04, 2023 at 12:07AM

Starting of with a little back story: So last year (april-June 2022) I was on an erasmus internship abroad. Now on my first night out I met this girl. Then a couple of weeks went by with some chatting during that time. I was out another day on the weekend and suddenly we bumped into each other (not planned). After that we saw each other again regularly until a couple of hours before my flight back home. We said our goodbyes (was a wonderful time aswell as a little bit sad at the same time). Then the first weeks/months when I was back home I missed her alot. Then the (christmas) holidays came and I started to miss her again very intensely.(trouble falling asleep last couple of weeks) Now recently we had some contact again online after a long time. And I’m debating on telling her how I feel. (I think I have nothing to lose with this) She lives quite far away (european standars ~ 3h flight) Although I always wanted to work/live abroad and never planned to stay in my home country(Belgi

r/bdsm_aces exists I have to masturbate daily otherwise I get a brain itch. You are not the most extreme ace on either case. January 03, 2023 at 11:40PM

I get that 100%. I also get a lot of inappropriate comments. One of which was from my (F late 30s) boss. I normally cover my breasts pretty well, but this day I wore a tight long sleeve shirt and overalls, so on the side you could see my figure. My boss pulled me aside and asked me how big my boobs were. No shame whatsoever. Didn't ask me to cover up (I wasn't dressed inappropriately) or anything, just was genuinely curious as to their size. It's usually women who comment to me how large my breasts are, which I assume is because they think it's okay. January 03, 2023 at 11:39PM