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What would you want your partner to say?

I thought he was with me for a certain reason, I lost that reason. So I asked him why he wants to date me, he said my personality. Is that a good answer? Submitted January 13, 2022 at 01:56AM I thought he was with me for a certain reason, I lost that reason. So I asked him why he wants to date me, he said my personality. Is that a good answer?

We talked on the phone for 2 hours last night

So last night, I (male) talked on the phone for around 2 hours with someone who I met online. The convo was good, she is chatty but I listened and the convo went great! Not sure what happened but I didn't hear from her all day. I'm sure she's not into me anyone but it sucks because we had plans to meet up next week. Oh well, starting over I guess with someone else or am I overthinking? Submitted January 13, 2022 at 01:56AM So last night, I (male) talked on the phone for around 2 hours with someone who I met online. The convo was good, she is chatty but I listened and the convo went great! Not sure what happened but I didn't hear from her all day. I'm sure she's not into me anyone but it sucks because we had plans to meet up next week. Oh well, starting over I guess with someone else or am I overthinking?

This is so dumb but this just dawned on me

So I’m personally off the apps, but my friends are and we were discussing what kind of men we would want, and how to attract them. It dawned on me that to get the man I want to attract, I basically have to show him by my profile! So I like men who work out and lift heavy, so a photo of me in an athletic situation and then a photo that shows off that I lift will be ideal! I also want a man who’s in a similar career situation as me so something that shows off my success but not too obnoxious! I could go on, but I think it explains half the issues with dating apps and finding a partner! Submitted January 13, 2022 at 02:01AM So I’m personally off the apps, but my friends are and we were discussing what kind of men we would want, and how to attract them.It dawned on me that to get the man I want to attract, I basically have to show him by my profile! So I like men who work out and lift heavy, so a photo of me in an athletic situation and then a photo that shows off that I lift will

Why is it weird if a guy is needy but its cute when a girl does it?

So Ive been researching alot about dating recently and it seems like theres alot of things which is acceptable when girls do it but not guys, including this, but is it really true. Submitted January 13, 2022 at 02:02AM So Ive been researching alot about dating recently and it seems like theres alot of things which is acceptable when girls do it but not guys, including this, but is it really true.

Fiancé broke up

I (28m) said to my fiancé (27f) that I would like her to help me financially after marriage. We had a big fight and she broke off our relationship because she said that in her culture the man is supposed to provide for everything and in my situation, I can’t provide for everything alone. She also said that even if she earns, according to her culture, her money is hers and my money is ours. Another detail, I save for retirement and help my parent with home mortgage payments. What should I do? Submitted January 13, 2022 at 02:14AM I (28m) said to my fiancé (27f) that I would like her to help me financially after marriage. We had a big fight and she broke off our relationship because she said that in her culture the man is supposed to provide for everything and in my situation, I can’t provide for everything alone. She also said that even if she earns, according to her culture, her money is hers and my money is ours. Another detail, I save for retirement and help my parent with hom

/u/Kaitlynnc15 on does this count i didnt know my mf ring size lol

Wear it on a chain, maybe? January 13, 2022 at 01:26AM

/u/ctkb2001 on What are some stupid things you thought before you realized you were asexual?

I told myself I had to give my partner sex in order to keep their companionship. Then I learned asexual couples exist and that gave me so much relief I could date without sex January 13, 2022 at 01:18AM

/u/aro_ace_icon on Pan here! What is it like being ace? What are your experiances?

there are some people who identify on the ace/aro spectrums because of trauma, much like there are people who might identify as lesbian because of trauma even though they experienced attraction to men before. It's extremely rare for trauma victims to lose sexual or romantic attraction (in fact, statistically, they are more likely to become hypersexual) but they are absolutely still valid aspecs and we 100% support them. However, a couple pervasive ace stereotypes are that "asexuality isn't real, it's actually just trauma" or "it's actually just a medical condition" and those are extremely harmful to the community as a whole. The overwhelming majority of us are born this way and the idea that we can be "fixed" with therapy or medication is frankly as harmful as saying gay people can be "fixed" with therapy or medication. Basically, whatever you do, please do not equate trauma with any sexuality or perpetuate those ace/aro ste

/u/phoenixfeather162 on "Nobody Actually feels sexual attraction" - My mom

My mom said something very similar. 🤨 - my face when she said “that’s normal for everyone” when explaining asexuality. January 13, 2022 at 01:12AM

/u/Angelflavor on cute chicks in short skirts 😊

Waited too long to add the eggs to the cupcakes January 13, 2022 at 01:12AM

My friend is in a tough position

She has a boyfriend, and he is close with another girl, who she hopes to become friends with. But she doesn't want this girl to view her as "competition". She's in a position where this girl likes and talks to her boyfriend a lot, but he doesnt do anything. What should she do? please ask if you got any questions. side note, her bf is my besto friendo. I know for a fact he isn't cheating. Submitted January 13, 2022 at 01:15AM She has a boyfriend, and he is close with another girl, who she hopes to become friends with. But she doesn't want this girl to view her as "competition".She's in a position where this girl likes and talks to her boyfriend a lot, but he doesnt do anything.What should she do?please ask if you got any questions.side note, her bf is my besto friendo. I know for a fact he isn't cheating.

/u/AlwaysLivMoore on This gave me asexual vibes until I read about the misted water and potato 😂

I specifically stated that the religion has no concept of it. I feel like you're not understanding what that means. Nothing about marital r@pe is discussed and you can't point to a single verse to talk about it without putting your own interpretation on it. Also, people interpret "respect" differently. There are fundamentalist wackos who specifically say that it is disrespectful for a woman to deny sex to her husband for any reason and use Bible verses to back up that claim. They use their own interpretation to say that the Bible refutes the existence of marital r*pe because a woman ALWAYS owes her husband sex. This is my whole point that the religion itself has no stance on the subject. It's all boiled down to personal interpretation. January 12, 2022 at 11:36PM

/u/ReasonableDisk2484 on My sexuality phenomenon

There are gay people out there who aren't part of the community. You don't have to join us, nobody is forcing you to join so idk why you think that?? The reason we have this community is for a support group. If you're getting offended that people are telling you to be a decent human being, then that's on you. You chose to make that comment on a public form, and just like you got an opinion so does everyone else. January 12, 2022 at 11:35PM

/u/Intrepid_Sale_6312 on Can someone explain what this means?

perhaps a little, but I mainly mean to refer to behavior. and it was an inquire as well, sorry if that was not obvious. January 12, 2022 at 11:35PM

/u/TShara_Q on Can someone explain what this means?

You can do all of that stuff without experiencing sexual attraction. I used to wander around the house almost naked just for temperature control. Florida is hot and AC is expensive. I also do a bit of sex work. Neither of those things make me less ace. January 12, 2022 at 11:34PM

/u/Expensive-Drag4799 on John churchman on Twitter

Click on the Twitter tab. My response is below the question Mr. Church man asks. January 12, 2022 at 11:33PM

Exclusivity and red flags?

I’ve been dating this guy for nearly two months now. With the way he talks, the frequency of communication, and the things he says, I thought we were both on the same page and only seeing each other. He had in fact told me in passing that he was only seeing me. Still, my intuition was telling me something was wrong. I eventually just asked if he was still seeing anyone else for peace of mind and he gave me this sheepish look and admitted he was. He had expressed that he wanted to take things slow after having been burned pretty bad in a previous relationship, but I didn’t realize taking things slow meant actively seeing other people. I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with that and concerned that he tried to hide it from me until I asked. He assured me that he likes me more than anyone else he has seen, but the fact that he kind of lied and is clearly still unsure about whether he likes me enough to be exclusive makes me want to run for the hills. When I told him how I felt, he said

/u/MochiGeeseAndTurtles on What are some stupid things you thought before you realized you were asexual?

Yeah... Turns out I'm just in the Ace spectrum January 12, 2022 at 11:33PM