I need some major advice on how to get over someone. I (21F) am in a super complicated relationship with a guy (21M). This is probably the first real relationship I had been in, and I lost my virginity to him. I really really like him, more than any guy I've ever met. We had started off as best friends, but after some time started a relationship. He's a great guy in general, but not the best partner. He puts no effort into the relationship or into me. He never really makes any effort to try to talk to me or meet up with me or anything. I know the logical thing would be just to end things with him right away, but I'm having such a hard time doing that. This whole situation is making me super emotional and definitely worsening my already shitty mental health. It's becoming very difficult for me to want to partake in daily life sometimes just because I am so hung up on this guy, and I hate it. I just really want to get over him since my feelings for him are making me ver

Did you know we were already a week into August? I didn't, because I haven't been able to get a restful sleep since mid-to-late July. Just a few days after my birthday, I called my girlfriend for a nice chat because she loves when I call her first. It went terribly though, she started blowing up on me for things she was assuming and I couldn't keep up with dissuading her and it turned into a huge argument because I couldn't keep my cool while she was yelling at me. She left me for it, no ceremony or anything just dumped me like I was trash. In the days that followed immediately, I had to deal with: The only friends I had left getting into a love triangle; two guys fighting over one of the women and she came to me for help because she saw me as an older brother (despite being two years younger than her...) And she was so uncomfortable she just wanted to run away from everything. In protecting her, I became a traitor in their eyes and they wanted nothing to do with me a

Can you guys help me with something? My boyfriend hates my best male friend. He hated him pretty much the first time he heard about him. I had brought him up several times before this incident, but the first incident that set off BF was when we were messaging each other while doing LDR. We were kind of having sexy talk but then I said we need to switch gears because I was at work. So I relocated from where I was texting to go back to my desk. I started thinking about my day and I told him what I wanted to do--get some stuff ready for BFF because it was his birthday and I really flubbed last year (when I was having the worst anxiety of my life and couldn't be around people) and couldn't celebrate it with him. BF got really upset and said it was weird I brought up BFF while we were talking about sexy things. I see what he means but I felt like we had changed gears and to me it was just talking about my day and nothing more. Once, while we were doing LDR, my BFF was helping m

TL;DR at the bottom ​ So I know this is going to come off as me being an asshole but I am fed up with the thought process of "You have to help me because I have (insert mental health issue here)" and please hear me out since you are probably already saying to yourself "This lady is an a$$hole" I know that we, as a society, have a lot of people with mental health issues. I even have had my run in's with anxiety and ptsd. I am different in that when I am having an issue, I keep to myself because I don't like spreading my sadness. Now I have a few good friends that realize when I am being a recluse and will come by to ask if I need anything and I usually just tell them that I'm dealing with a few issues and that sums it up. But they come over and voluntarily put themselves in that situation. I don't ask for them to do that nor do I go to them and just start unloading on them as if they are a trashcan to be used whenever I feel like it. Now let me m

OK, i'm going to try and likely fail to keep this short. My brother (lets call him John) and I are the same age (yea were twins lol). We have had a very close relationship our entire lives. SWe are both in our late twenties, and had been playing soccer together every weekend, would se each other at parties and get togethers multiple times a month etc. I am married- going on 4 years now. My brother has always been something of a serial monogamist, going from one girlfriend to the next, and this time is no different. He started dating a girl, lets call her Katie. Katie seemed nice at first- outgoing and easy to talk to. She came over to some family events, and everything seemed to be going fine. BUt little by little, that facade has been falling apart. Katie comes from a bad family. Single mom who was very controlling, to the point that she literally had her fingers in every aspect of Katie's life. The rest of her family was addicted to drugs, alcohol, etc you get the point. T

To give a bit of context, I’ve known my friend “James” for around three years. We met in college and we’ve always gotten along great. He’s the typical nice, artistic, awkward, slightly depressed guy. Pretty quiet but fine to have around. Generally he’s a good guy. Here’s the part that gets weird: James has been in a series of failed relationships. He tends to get VERY VERY attached quickly. The last girl he dated a few months ago was in high school still (18 but still in high school). I didn’t see a huge issue and we never let her drink at our parties but a lot of people were weirded out by it. It just seemed James was more mature than a high schooler but whatever. After a few months she broke up with him and not even a month later he’s dating another girl. She’s closer to our age, but she has a young daughter (2 or 3). That’s fine but after two months of dating he is calling her his stepdaughter, writing songs for her, saying he loves being a dad. He sits on her bed and sings to he

tl;dr: I made a new friend that happens to be a woman and my girlfriend is being controlling and needy about it. ​ My friend also made a post and I don't feel like people are seeing her side of it, ​ Ok so I (M27) have been with my girlfriend Melanie (F22) for about a year and we live together. She and I have an open relationship where it's ok to hookup with someone else as a short term fling or one night stand kind of situation. We do not date other people. Well it's a lot easier for her to meet people in real life where the opportunity presents itself for her. She's beautiful and works as a hairstylist in a popular salon where there's lots of male clients. I'm a straight male programmer with only a few coworkers so it's not like I randomly meet that many people that are interested in having sex with me, so I do have a tinder and bumble and yes Melanie knows about them and understands why it's harder for me to have the opportunities she has. ​ Ab

I saw the word written in an lgbt forum, and I was like “oh. I don’t really want to have sex. ever.” I hadn’t given sex much thought before, I just sort of thought of it as something I didn’t need to worry about and therefore didn’t ever wonder about it. August 09, 2019 at 12:32AM

My husband is a nice guy, works hard, is a good dad, does more than a lot of guys to take care of the house. But there is no talking to him. He rarely has anything at all to say on his own. If I try to talk to him, he argues and nitpicks everything I say. He's one of those people who will argue about the sky being blue. Or he'll dismiss what I try to express to him (for example, that I need him to talk with me more). He likes to debate with other people, but not to the extent that he does with me and he never dismisses other people the way he does with me. He can talk to other people and he is polite and engaging with them, if a little on the shy side - so it's not a general lack of social skills. I am not an especially talkative person either, but the lack of communication is unsustainable. I pretty much just talk to him about household functioning and scheduling type stuff and sometimes I even avoid that because, like, I don't want to tell him I want to go to a grou

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So, the groundwork first. I met her at a concert about 4 months ago at college. We talked for about a month but after finals and her leaving for the summer we kind of fell off. About a week ago she texted me out of the blue and said that she was so that things went the way they did and that she missed talking to me. I said tht I had no hard feelings and hoped she was doing well. That was quickly followed up with her asking if I wanted to go out sometime and I said yes but I wasn't really around until classes begin. That was the end of talking until yesterday. She wished me happy birthday and kept hinting that she wanted to celebrate I let her know that I was with family and couldn't do anything. She kept the conversation going and I started drinking with my family and wasn't going anywhere so I let her know that and hopped off my phone. We have continued to talk tonight too. The place where I am looking for advice is that I am having mixed feelings about starting anythin

My friend, who I've known for 8 years, broke up with his ex early last year after only a month together. They went to different colleges and a few weeks ago, my guy friend was asking if they should, I didn't want to tell him no since I thought it would make him unhappy but now I regret not saying it. His ex was my friend during freshman (or sophomore, I forgot) of high school (we were in the same class, talked and hung out together at school) after they got together last year, my friend started lying to me about stuff, avoiding me when we had already made plans, ditching at the last minute, etc I later found out that she was a really jealous, overprotective person, like maybe it was because she's clingy or she thinks what's hers is hers and she doesn't want other people to get near him (especially girls) I started hating her for "ruining our (me and the guy's) friendship." After they broke up, he went back to normal. A few weeks ago, he told me that h

I have money don’t need a job there’s nothing worth doing that I haven’t already done the few things I wanna do in life are impossible (getting a girlfriend sadly is one of the,) since I don’t know anyone and no groups interest me I have s long failed track record with online dating I’ve never had success with bars as they are a sausage fest and cold approaching don’t work I have no idea how to approach it nothing works I just don’t see the purpose to live when your ready to date or feel like your ready to meet someone it never happens it’s Impossible Submitted August 09, 2019 at 12:15AM I have money don’t need a job there’s nothing worth doing that I haven’t already done the few things I wanna do in life are impossible (getting a girlfriend sadly is one of the,) since I don’t know anyone and no groups interest me I have s long failed track record with online dating I’ve never had success with bars as they are a sausage fest and cold approaching don’t work I have no idea how to

So I've been texting a guy and the conversation trailed off on Tuesday night and he apologized. I responded Wednesday morning (he sent a text really late at night and I was asleep) and I said "haha don't worry about it! Rough day? But at least your night before was fun!" And I still haven't gotten a response. He has confided that he has had such a busy few days at work before the conversation trailed off. Should I just leave him be? Or would it be ok to start it up again? Maybe send a funny picture that made me think of him, so he doesn't have to talk about work which is stressing him out? Submitted August 09, 2019 at 12:20AM So I've been texting a guy and the conversation trailed off on Tuesday night and he apologized. I responded Wednesday morning (he sent a text really late at night and I was asleep) and I said "haha don't worry about it! Rough day? But at least your night before was fun!" And I still haven't gotten a response.

I (26f) just started seeing this guy (28m). I come out of a long term relationship a couple of months ago and I've never really come on to a guy and make the first move before. I met him through a friend so have been seeing him alot lately but hes like really really shy. My friends have said he wont make a move unless I do, but the Only problem is I'm quite shy myself and I dont have the confidence to make the first move. The next time I see him we will be going on a proper date, to go rollerskating, so we're not surrounded by all our friends and I feel like we will be getting close, so I feel like this would be a great opportunity for me to make my move. I just dont know what to do or how to initiate anything, so if anyone has any tips or advice on how I could do this that very appreciated. Submitted August 09, 2019 at 12:24AM I (26f) just started seeing this guy (28m). I come out of a long term relationship a couple of months ago and I've never really come on t

Like no guys take interest to me other than the cheap “hey baby” people which I block straight away, someone help. Submitted August 09, 2019 at 12:25AM Like no guys take interest to me other than the cheap “hey baby” people which I block straight away, someone help.

Really I heard from other aces and they say it’s left hand that means you’re swingers. 🤔 the more you know August 09, 2019 at 12:21AM

I also don't experience arousal or physical pleasure. Like, I might as well be touching my elbow, tbh. My body will respond to intimate situations (lubrication) but it's totally autonomic and I feel literally nothing else, mentally or physically, even though I really loved that person. Sorry, I don't really have any advice except to say that you're not alone! August 09, 2019 at 12:15AM

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Right hand is for swingers, but it is supposed to be on the right hand middle finger for Ace August 09, 2019 at 12:10AM

I'm so sorry. I honestly think what you're asking is entirely reasonable and they should be more than willing to meet you half way on this. You shouldn't be the only one giving ground on this (or any!) issue. I'm not sure what to tell you really. Possibly couples counselling? It sometimes helps to have an outside mediator in these situations. While compromise is a necessary and healthy part of every relationship you shouldn't have to feel like you're breaking your back for them. Compromise needs to come from all parties. "The start of a long and arduous life" is not how you should be describing a loving relationship. I also wonder if maybe talking to a counsellor by yourself as well isn't a bad idea. At the very least they may be able to help you with some ideas on how to approach your partner. August 09, 2019 at 12:06AM

Thank you so much. This really made my day. And yeah, I think I will get a ring. Idk where to look though. August 09, 2019 at 12:03AM

Wish I could find an ace dude or at least a dude who's OK WITH ME BEING ACE. August 08, 2019 at 11:59PM