My [22F] friend [25M] has become incredibly close with a woman and her child very quickly and it’s a bit concerning...

To give a bit of context, I’ve known my friend “James” for around three years. We met in college and we’ve always gotten along great. He’s the typical nice, artistic, awkward, slightly depressed guy. Pretty quiet but fine to have around. Generally he’s a good guy.

Here’s the part that gets weird: James has been in a series of failed relationships. He tends to get VERY VERY attached quickly. The last girl he dated a few months ago was in high school still (18 but still in high school). I didn’t see a huge issue and we never let her drink at our parties but a lot of people were weirded out by it. It just seemed James was more mature than a high schooler but whatever. After a few months she broke up with him and not even a month later he’s dating another girl.

She’s closer to our age, but she has a young daughter (2 or 3). That’s fine but after two months of dating he is calling her his stepdaughter, writing songs for her, saying he loves being a dad. He sits on her bed and sings to her. This is just stuff I’ve seen posted on Facebook. I should probably reach out soon and see how the relationships going but I haven’t yet. It just seems like he’s moving way too fast for this to be normal.

I’m jumping to conclusions but to me it feels a little predatory.

I’m wondering if I’m wrong to be suspicious or if this is normal. I don’t have any close friends who are single moms or dads so idk how they’d feel in this situation. This guy is a good friend but this past year has just kinda weirded me out...My boyfriend also doesn’t know what to think and finds it strange

TL;DR: friend moves quick with girl with a kid. It weirds me out



Submitted August 09, 2019 at 12:30AM

To give a bit of context, I’ve known my friend “James” for around three years. We met in college and we’ve always gotten along great. He’s the typical nice, artistic, awkward, slightly depressed guy. Pretty quiet but fine to have around. Generally he’s a good guy.Here’s the part that gets weird: James has been in a series of failed relationships. He tends to get VERY VERY attached quickly. The last girl he dated a few months ago was in high school still (18 but still in high school). I didn’t see a huge issue and we never let her drink at our parties but a lot of people were weirded out by it. It just seemed James was more mature than a high schooler but whatever. After a few months she broke up with him and not even a month later he’s dating another girl.She’s closer to our age, but she has a young daughter (2 or 3). That’s fine but after two months of dating he is calling her his stepdaughter, writing songs for her, saying he loves being a dad. He sits on her bed and sings to her. This is just stuff I’ve seen posted on Facebook. I should probably reach out soon and see how the relationships going but I haven’t yet. It just seems like he’s moving way too fast for this to be normal.I’m jumping to conclusions but to me it feels a little predatory.I’m wondering if I’m wrong to be suspicious or if this is normal. I don’t have any close friends who are single moms or dads so idk how they’d feel in this situation. This guy is a good friend but this past year has just kinda weirded me out...My boyfriend also doesn’t know what to think and finds it strangeTL;DR: friend moves quick with girl with a kid. It weirds me out
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