Hey, 17 year old boy here. I am in desperate need of an answer to my question. I grew up with a single mother who is a really good human. She taught me good manners and all that stuff but she hasn't had the best youth tho. I never met my dad. I never had a father figure in my life. The family I spent the Most time with were females,like my aunt and cousin. Other family lives in an other country and we do not have contact with them anymore. So my childhood was great. I had friends and I didn't get bullied and I was popular kinda. Everything changed when I went to high school. I was the only guy of color on my high school and that meant that people did not really want to be friends with me. That + normal insecurities for a teen + no father led to 3 years of social isolation in me 12-15. Only thing I did was gaming in my room. I NEVER went out with someone in that time and got teased in class. When I turned 15 we moved to a city (before was a village) and I actually managed to...

So, I (20M) have recently decided to get back into the dating game after a relationship of about a year and a half ended. I haven't made any effort to start dating again, and we broke up when I was 18 and a senior in High School. It was the first serious relationship I was ever in, so it took some time to feel ready to start dating again after it. Now its been a little while and I've been feeling my confidence get back to me, and was really excited to start dating again when I kinda hit a wall in my excitement. See, I'm not particularly rich, and neither is my family, so I still live at home with my mother. I love my mother, and would definitely consider myself a bit of a mamas boy, but I also like to think my relationship with my mother is fairly healthy for someone of my age. I can ask her for advice comfortably and enjoy spending time with my mom, but I also have other things going on in my life and I have my own interests. But considering that we are kind of poor, and...

I’m talking to a guy who makes a lot less than me and I don’t have a problem with that, but I feel as if he’s insecure and he makes comments that makes me feel bad Submitted August 30, 2019 at 11:39PM I’m talking to a guy who makes a lot less than me and I don’t have a problem with that, but I feel as if he’s insecure and he makes comments that makes me feel bad

Okay, my dream has basically come true. One of my friends has asked if I wanted to go to pride with her, even though she thinks I'm straight. So now, I just seem like I'm being supportive of her, while I get the chance to go to something I've wanted to be a part of for a long time. Does anyone have any ways/advice for how to initiate a conversation with some guys there? I want to really get out there, and meet some people, but I also don't want to out myself. Any advice/suggestions welcome. (Me, 15 year old male, looking for similarity aged males) Submitted August 30, 2019 at 11:45PM Okay, my dream has basically come true. One of my friends has asked if I wanted to go to pride with her, even though she thinks I'm straight. So now, I just seem like I'm being supportive of her, while I get the chance to go to something I've wanted to be a part of for a long time.Does anyone have any ways/advice for how to initiate a conversation with some guys there? ...

It's been 3 months and I don't miss him as much as I did before- but i still miss him. He was one of the best friends I could ever have and still have. We still text every few days but it's getting less often :( I guess since we talked pretty often I didn't miss him as much but now that we're not as much I miss him. This always happens but then we start texting again somehow. It's drives me crazy Submitted August 30, 2019 at 11:45PM It's been 3 months and I don't miss him as much as I did before- but i still miss him. He was one of the best friends I could ever have and still have. We still text every few days but it's getting less often :( I guess since we talked pretty often I didn't miss him as much but now that we're not as much I miss him. This always happens but then we start texting again somehow. It's drives me crazy

So recently, two of my best friends found out they had crushes on each other. We'll call them Paint (17 M) and Brush (15 F). I mean head over heels in love, not just a little crush. The problem is that Paint has a girlfriend whom we'll call Bucket (17 F). Paint really does not want to hurt Bucket by breaking up with her, but he really wants to be with Brush. So Brush is stressed because she doesn't know who he'll choose, and Bucket doesn't even know anythings happening. Well Paint still hasn't picked. Brush told me they'll "date later." I really want to help Brush here but she told me not to talk to Paint because I'm not supposed to know about them. Is there any way I can get Paint and Brush together without anyone ending up hurt? If so how? Submitted August 30, 2019 at 11:49PM So recently, two of my best friends found out they had crushes on each other. We'll call them Paint (17 M) and Brush (15 F). I mean head over heels in love, n...

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How do I open up without vomiting all my inner problems emotions on a person and drive them away ? Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:05AM How do I open up without vomiting all my inner problems emotions on a person and drive them away ?

So basicly me and her family were on holiday together and I stayed in her families house. It was really fun. For example we watched a netflix show together we were both interested in.I also did small (subtle) gestures to her like getting her something she needed so i grabbed it for her or when i was grilling she would be one of the first to recieve something from the grill. I even gotten a text from her mom saying she and her hole family enjoyed my company. maybe im grasphing for straws that aren't there idk. ​ so i developt quite the crush for her that holiday and was wondering how I can check the best for signs she likes me back. Im going to them again in a few weeks to stay a night there and maybe i could recieve some tips to look clues or give her small hints to let her know i like her. ​ Also my mom and her mom are big bffs so is it even good to ask my mom for advise with or w/o telling her its this girl and/or if she knows and how to minimise the akwardness if i get reje...

Background! Long story short, a few months ago I (22m) had feelings and she (24f) didn't. Said she wasn't in a place where she wanted to date (genuinely wasn't). She got into a relationship a while after that (couple months after not being in a good place to date) and I said I can't be just friends and went out separate ways, that was about a month and a half ago (they broke up kinda quickly). Present time, we're talking again but I'm assuming as friends. I’m mostly over her from the time away & fine w/ friends but wouldn’t complain if it were something more. I know it feels & seems like we’re just friends and prob won’t be any more than that. We went out and grabbed dinner and she was a little more touchy than usual but not trying to read too much into it. She asked me if I was dating anyone, I said I wasn't dating anyone & I asked the same, she isn't dating anyone either. We’re both fairly shy people and have never really talked about it ...

I have been single for some time now and have been on a number of dates but they all seem to go the same way, we go on a couple of really good dates everything seems right we text and then suddenly they disappear. Why is that? Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:06AM I have been single for some time now and have been on a number of dates but they all seem to go the same way, we go on a couple of really good dates everything seems right we text and then suddenly they disappear. Why is that?

18 YO male, 5’10, 153 pounds, attending T20 uni Can personalities change? I’m not bad looking and started to lift lots of weights. However, I’m extremely shy and overall a boring person. I have never done drugs, never drank to the point of getting drunk, and rarely hang out with 1-2 friends (I have an addiction problem so I stay away from anything I could ruin my life with). I’m smart and stuff but I just feel so fucking lonely and my one hindrance is my shifty personality. So here is another question: Can a bad personality be over looked if I have looks and a good future in a way? I know this is probably a dumb ass question I’ll get roasted about but any thoughts/advice would be great. Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:07AM 18 YO male, 5’10, 153 pounds, attending T20 uniCan personalities change?I’m not bad looking and started to lift lots of weights. However, I’m extremely shy and overall a boring person.I have never done drugs, never drank to the point of getting drunk, an...

I (18M) hooked up with a girl (19F) I met a few weeks ago from a summer school class. It was a very casual and no-strings-attached ONS in a motel room over a week ago, and I have no interest in remaining in touch. We are not friends otherwise, and the class has ended so we most likely won't run into each other again (neither of us attend that community college during the year). However, she recently reached out to me a couple times this week through WeChat (we had texted a few times last week to arrange the hookup but not afterwards), clearly seeming interested in meeting/hooking up again, which I thought had been clear would not happen from the fact that it seemed quite clear it was just a one night stand and we didn't keep in touch afterwards. I am not interested and was not prepared to hear from this girl after the first hookup, I didn't respond hoping she'd take the hint but she sent another message basically checking if I had seen the first one, and it came off ra...

Idk if this is the right sub but I (16M) went to a party today/yesterday for the first time, got pretty tipsy and l just sat next to this girl (probably 16f) and we kinda like cuddled and she had her head in my shoulders and we just talked and laughed for like a whole hour, we genuinely clicked so well. We were both drunk and idk, I'm sober now, she added my snap a few mins ago and it got me thinking, l definitely want to pursue something with her. But I'm not used to this partying thing, I used to have social anxiety and l recently overcame that. Is this something that people do when they're drunk/at parties and it's just like meh or could it have been more meaningful? I also doubt sober me is as witty or funny or charismatic as tipsy me so there's that too, idk what do you guys think? TL;DR got close with a girl but were both drunk, is it weird to pursue things? Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:11AM Idk if this is the right sub but I (16M) went to a party...

High school just started and there's this girl that sits by me. I saw her show signs of her liking me back, and I've sat by her for 2 days and think I should talk to her on Monday. So I was wondering what I should say. Also the homecoming dance and game is coming up next week so maybe I could ask her if she's going. Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:13AM High school just started and there's this girl that sits by me. I saw her show signs of her liking me back, and I've sat by her for 2 days and think I should talk to her on Monday.So I was wondering what I should say. Also the homecoming dance and game is coming up next week so maybe I could ask her if she's going.

So exposition time! I’m likely goong to be moving to Florida next year, but I have interest in talking to several classmates in college. So obviously going the long term route isn’t wise. And while long distance definitely works, I’m not interested because every person I’ve dated LD has dated behind my back unfortunately. So can someone kindly tell me how I should change up my approach from long term? I’d wager the texting would be less and word “love” tossed around if not nonexistent. I understand short term is preferred in my age group as well. Anything else I should consider? Submitted August 31, 2019 at 12:13AM So exposition time! I’m likely goong to be moving to Florida next year, but I have interest in talking to several classmates in college. So obviously going the long term route isn’t wise. And while long distance definitely works, I’m not interested because every person I’ve dated LD has dated behind my back unfortunately.So can someone kindly tell me how I should ch...

Today was my first day of class in college. I noticed this beautiful girl right away that cought my interest so I just sat near her, not obviously near her though. The teacher asked us to join in groups of 3 so I immediately turn to her and ask if she would like to group, I had also asked the disabled student behind her to join us. He might of had a serious torrets syndrome and it was very hard for him to articulate, and he had no control over his muscular reactions, but I saw through this and treated him like any other person or friend, he was also a cool guy and we are now friends. Anyway we are in the group and I find shes Arabic, Jordanian, and loves her culture. I too am Arabic, Palestinian, and I too love arabic culture. I found many things in common with her, and as we 4 speak, (including the disabled students assistant who was also very pretty and a student) she paid a lot of attention to me and would ask me many questions that she would not ask the assistant, even though we a...

I (19m) find myself getting frustrated with the feeling that because I'm a guy I constantly have to be chasing girls and trying to make things happen while a girl can sit back and wait for people to try and talk to them. I know that's a simplified version of reality but I hope it gets my point across. I can give my very best effort and still not even be able to get a text back where as a girl will have guys reach out to pursue them. Do girls ever pursue guys? How do I deal with that frustration of that dynamic, regardless of its accuracy, how to I stop it from frustrating me? Some of this probably stems from my recent first break up, my ex was incredibly attractive and I knew she was talking to guys just a few days or weeks after she broke up with me while I'm left still broken hearted and unable to get a good date months later and from time to time that makes me so angry. I treated my ex absolutely amazing, she really didn't treat me well at all during the relationshi...

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There is a man. He is so handsome. I catch him looking at me and at first he would act caught, and let his eyes quickly dart away. Each night we open ourselves a little bit more and a little bit more and we begin to see some similarities. In appetite, similarities of desire. Its just been a slow reveal .....So last night again I catch him looking at me and his eyes no longer surrender or look away. Now his stare stays right there and he gives me this confident serious stare and I return that stare just as connecting, just as determined. This is such a mature invitation. I cant wait to see him again tonight. It might be the beginning of Love. Will there be words this time? If there is I will write tomorrow .....ahhhh Submitted August 30, 2019 at 11:55PM There is a man. He is so handsome. I catch him looking at me and at first he would act caught, and let his eyes quickly dart away. Each night we open ourselves a little bit more and a little bit more and we begin to see some sim...

About week ago, I started getting really in to true crime podcasts. One of them, The Vanished, was about missing people. (I swear this is relevant, I promise). Me being me, I got sucked in, but the whole thing made me feel kind of anxious. One thing in particular that I noticed was that almost every single person, especially the women, had been involved in an abusive relationship. I was especially affected by the case of a woman whose husband was so abusive and so isolating that when she went missing (read: was killed by him) her own family didn’t know for thirteen months. The whole thing makes me feel super scared. I guess my question is, how do you find a good person to love? How do you know that that person will never harm you? How do you know that they will never get physical during an argument? Is there a way to tell? Some metric to use? And if you can find a good person, how do you ensure mutual love and respect? I get that these are big, kind of uncomfortable questions, and ...

I recently accepted that I am non-binary. It is a hard process. But it gave me courage to dress and be the way I want to be August 31, 2019 at 12:04AM