I am considering going on a few dates with some girls but I am a hesitant to go out because COVID 19 is spiking in my area. I am in my 20's, have no underlying health condition, and I am in good health. I wanna go out and have fun and not have to wait until the pandemic is over to date again but I am also still worried about catching the virus. What do ya'll think? Should I go out and live life, wait until cases in my area drop? Or play it safe for longer? Let me know. :) Submitted July 09, 2020 at 12:03AM I am considering going on a few dates with some girls but I am a hesitant to go out because COVID 19 is spiking in my area. I am in my 20's, have no underlying health condition, and I am in good health. I wanna go out and have fun and not have to wait until the pandemic is over to date again but I am also still worried about catching the virus.What do ya'll think? Should I go out and live life, wait until cases in my area drop? Or play it safe for longer? Let ...

If we all made a solemn pact to never ghost someone we’re not interested in, we can make the dating world just a teeny bit better. Even for selfish reasons. Example: I’ve now run into two people I wasn’t interested in after our first date. One was someone I communicated maturely with, and one was someone I admittedly ghosted. Guess which encounter was FAR more awkward/shameful for me, and which one was totally normal?? Let’s all stop ghosting because this is a small ass world and you never know when you’ll see them or if they’ll be your server/nurse/Lyft driver/jury member someday Submitted July 09, 2020 at 12:03AM If we all made a solemn pact to never ghost someone we’re not interested in, we can make the dating world just a teeny bit better.Even for selfish reasons. Example: I’ve now run into two people I wasn’t interested in after our first date. One was someone I communicated maturely with, and one was someone I admittedly ghosted. Guess which encounter was FAR more awkwar...

I’ve been talking to this girl for a few days and we’ve had a conversation tonight about where we both like going on first dates and what we do and don’t enjoy. Am I overthinking that or could she be interested in me? Submitted July 09, 2020 at 12:09AM I’ve been talking to this girl for a few days and we’ve had a conversation tonight about where we both like going on first dates and what we do and don’t enjoy. Am I overthinking that or could she be interested in me?

If you think you could be ace you should definitely look more into it. There is never any harm in research. Even if you don't turn out to identify with the label you educated yourself. Especially the SAM (Split Attraction Model) will probably help you sort out the different kinds of attractions you are feeling and help name your feelings. July 08, 2020 at 11:58PM

Annie... are you okay?... July 08, 2020 at 11:57PM

I laughed at this more than I probably should. The reactions are great! July 08, 2020 at 11:57PM

I’m 32 and only just now realized that I’m asexual. The meds I take have made my sex drive completely disappear but I looked back at my sexual history and asexual fits I’m panromantic, I love holding hands, cuddling, all the romance but no interest in sex it self July 08, 2020 at 11:52PM

Any time I thought about sex I always thought, "well, nobody at my age actually has sex anyways, though". After I turned 17 and my friends started telling me about their sex life I realised that didn't really apply anymore and I was the odd one out. July 08, 2020 at 11:51PM

Someone told me the term, then I looked into it. If I'd know what ace was from a younger age I'd known sooner cuz one time when I was 11 some kids were saying like "you like Becky (not real name)" and "you have a crush on Becky" and I yelled on top of my lungs "I DON'T LIKE BECKY NOR ANYONE ELSE! I DIDN'T GET CRUSHES AND I NEVER WILL!!" That's just 1 out of many giant fluorescent signs pointing at my with giant letters saying "you're asexual you little turd" July 08, 2020 at 11:51PM

You can be beautiful for who you are, not what you look like, and you can never go wrong with a cardigan! (Explode - good song, look it up. Check out The Cardigans! My favorite is Erase and Rewind, but you'll like Explode) Men aren't always subtle, and it's hard to put up with their bluntness sometimes. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, including you. Society hasn't exactly figured out how to teach people that they aren't like everyone else, and everyone else is different from them, but still worth caring about. Try to be comfortable with who you are, it's really freaking hard. I just try to avoid being actively noticeable in an attractive way. Sounds like you've got it down. This was basically a way for me to mention The Cardigans. They're one of my favorite bands of all time. July 08, 2020 at 11:47PM

I'd love to chat with him, he sounds like a riot XD As long as I didn't have to do it at his home, which was full of cats, to which I am allergic. July 08, 2020 at 11:47PM

Thank you for taking the time to talk about this and opening discussion! It’s been insightful to learn about others’ experiences. July 08, 2020 at 11:43PM

They can beep off. July 08, 2020 at 11:42PM

beep boop beep (trans: fuck em, but not really) July 08, 2020 at 11:39PM

thoughts and prayers by grandson. It's bringing awareness to gun violence and schools and how politicians saying they'll keep the children in their "thoughts and prayers" isn't going to save anybody's life July 08, 2020 at 11:33PM

YES! I never really understood why, until I began questioning my ace-ness. I don’t think I do it intentionally or consciously but I do find that as soon as someone (mostly men) finds me appealing in a sexual way I won’t wear that piece of clothing again. It’s like I automatically associate that piece of clothing to the uncomfortable feeling I had at the time. I am very well endowed in the chest and butt areas, so I’m extremely conscious of it. My clothes consist mostly of hoodies and tshirts, and for work large dressy sweaters/cardigans. No skirts, dresses, tight clothing, or anything low-cut. I do like to feel pretty or beautiful but not sexy or thought of in a sexual way. Which I think for some people those things go hand in hand. It also makes me super uncomfortable when I decide to look nice and people assume I’m doing to seem/look/be sexy. As if I’m doing it to get their attention or the attention of a man, instead of me just wanting to look nice for myself. It just tears me ...

what are you on about? this post never mentions anything about sex or sexual attraction or lack thereof and i don’t know how you think it does. it’s literally just talking about the strangeness of the concept of friendship and how you treat friends like a partner except there are no romantic feelings. which is why i said this isn’t even related to being aromantic (a lack of romantic feelings for anyone) let alone asexuality. please quote where in the post it talks about “confusing sexual attraction with relationships”. it’s about not having romantic feelings for friends which applies to literally anyone with friends. i said absolutely nothing about my orientation and exactly how did i try to tell someone how they feel? July 08, 2020 at 11:32PM

This is about you or a friend being confused about your feelings, and confusing sexual attraction with relationships. If your aromantic, that's fine. If your aceromantic, that's fine. How you define yourself and your relationships is what counts. But dont try to tell someone how they feel can only be one way by your understanding of a definition. Because we all define ourselves and sexualities differently. July 08, 2020 at 11:21PM

Yay I'm pan-romantic asexual too July 08, 2020 at 11:16PM

Sex and romance are not the same thing. You don't have to be sexually attracted to someone to want to treat them as your special person. But people can get that confused - that's why we have this issue. July 08, 2020 at 11:10PM

no, and this post has to do with being aromantic, or not even that, just simply not being attracted to a friend. it doesn’t have anything to do with the lack of sexual desire which is what this sub is about July 08, 2020 at 11:10PM

That song sounds amazing do you perhaps know the name of it? July 08, 2020 at 11:10PM

Have you never had a person you care deeply for, but not romantic love? Or maybe a friend your really close to starts distancing themselves from you because their disturbed by the deepness of your friendship? Or your friend starts confusing your friendship for romantic love and attraction and starts panicing or starts hitting on you? July 08, 2020 at 11:07PM