My girlfriend (let's call her Freya) has just gone on a cruise. Her ex-boyfriend (let's call him Sam) also happens to be on the same cruise. Freya and Sam dated for a while after meeting on a previous cruise (NOTE it was a long distance relationship). They both planned out the this summer's cruise together. Sam has a strange view on relationships believing that "sex is needed for a good healthy relationship" and according to Freya has said that next time they meet Sam would have condoms. (NOTE Freya was not happy with this) Their relationship ended after an argument I believe. Sam then managed to get onto Freya's social media accounts (Snapchat, Instagram and a few others) and locked her out of them. Freya since has been scared of Sam and before the cruise was in tears about the possibility of meeting him again. After convincing her that talking to him may solve her issues, Freya seemed to be a lot calmer about the cruise. Freya and Sam agreed that if they...

Hello everyone! This is my first post on Reddit so I apologize if I'm doing it wrong. Plus my native language is really, really different from English so I tend to do some mistakes here and there, I'm sorry in advance. Sadly, I need to give the full back story about our relationship. The thing is, I think it's my fault because I turned out the way I am and I want to see if you can see it too or I'm just naive. We started our relationship two years ago and he was really possessive. We had to be together 24/7 and I wasn't really allowed to go out with friends of mine at the start of the relationship. He had to check my phone every day. I gave it of course, I had nothing to hide. I didn't want his, but when I did out of anger to show him it isn't nice getting doubted most of the time he always handed it to me. I was pretty silent on the matter. I saw that there was no point in trying to talk to him normally because when I did it was turned against me, making...

I will try to keep this as short as I can, but I also would like to get all the vital details about my situation. So my ex and I have sort of been on and off for about the past 5 or so years. We were I guess, high school sweethearts, tried long distance in college but it didn't work. At the time she said she couldn't do long distance, then proceeded to do even longer distance with an ex of hers. Over the past five years, when she's not in a relationship; she constantly leads me on until she gets bored, hits on my friends (actively tried to sleep with two of them and sent them nude pictures), or goes crawling back to a different ex. She recently came back into my life after another break up (as she always does) with the claim that she's a different person, things have changed, for the first time actually apologized for everything she did, and then told me that she wants me back. See, I had transferred to a different college, in part to get away from her, also becaus...

So I [M18] met this girl [F18] at band earlier this summer and we hit it off immediately. She even showed a little interest and gave me her number, but she didnt mention she had a boyfriend until a month later, and even when she did she immediately moved on from that topic. We've hung out a few times over the summer and she is definitely showing signs that shes into me. She laughs at everything I say, keeps her eyes glued on me, constantly has her arm or something brushed up against me, and compliments me often; things like I'm cute, amazing, awesome, etc.. When we hang out it's always just the two of us and she rarely mentions her boyfriend. When she does, she says either how they are going through a difficult time or she moves on very quickly. About hanging out, we always do things that reflect dates. We've gone out and looked at the stars, went to a parade together, and then dinner with her family where we ended up hanging in my car and holding hands for a few sec...

Hi reddit, I'm here because I could use some advice. I think that couples counseling might be best for us in the next few months when I am able to take some time off of work, but in the meantime thought I would seek advice until that happens. This is a bit long so I truly appreciate whoever took the time to read through. My spouse has a tendency to over exaggerate when he tells stories. We have been married for 4 years so to tell you the truth I'm not sure why I'm only noticing this now. It could be that he never told stories in front of me in the past that I was there for so I never noticed that his stories were over exaggerated. Regardless of why, I do notice it now and it drives me crazy. I'll describe a few scenarios when he over exaggerated to try to explain why this bothers me. For the sake of this post, let's call me Martha (this is not my real name). We were living in Hawaii during the false missile alert. We called the police to ask if it was real and t...

Ive been contemplating posting this because I'm already a broken sobbing mess and he also goes on reddit but here goes. We've been together 5 years, had alot of downs than ups, and went to go couples therapy (it was free at the time) around the middle of year 4. Around that time he took a job to go army and well we couldn't really stand the thought of being apart for 6 years so we had to come to an agreement to get married. During this he had doubts of marriage and i decided to discuss our expectations and wants and needs (basically pre marital counseling questions) and we pretty much agreed on everything and there wasn't really anything wrong. He finally came around to the idea of marrying me and was super happy about it. We planned it together (its super small only a dozen people would come) and we got tons of help from my family and his dad. Everything was okay, even the day before the wedding, we saw each other and hung out. The next morning he wanted to talk an...

I don't know if this is the right sub, if it isn't, direct me where I should go. I just needed to get this out. Maybe one of you fine internet strangers have been through something like this and have tips for me and my family. I apologize for typos or mistakes of any sort. I'm pretty worked up. There's definitely more details to this issue but will try to give the most concise version of events. Backstory: My dad (57) used to be a good person, kind heart, loved Jesus, was empathic, just all around good guy. He has done a complete 180 in regards to his behaviour. My first big red flag was really weird stuff being posted to his social media. Especially his IG, the pics were just so strange and gave me a bad feeling. He came to visit me (36f) this past November with my step mom. (I live in a different province.) He was just plain weird. Loud. Seemed unaware of personal space. We were swimming with my daughter at the pool and he wanted to talk to me in the hot tub. He...

Boyfriend (BF) and I have been dating for 8 months, we met in uni and are still seeing each other regularly as we are both taking summer classes on campus. He stays over some nights at my apartment and we are both generally easygoing people. However, I don't feel emotionally intimate with him – I am obviously attracted and attached to him at this point but there is no intimacy besides the physical and the surface-level endearments common to most young couples. Some background on BF: he has abusive parents of the Asian variety – has suffered verbal abuse for not being as intelligent or academically talented as his parents are, along with more general abuse that can be surmised from the subreddit AsianParentStories. We are both at a very high-ranked university in the US, so this is clearly unfounded and ridiculous, but he believes that he still could and should be better. His parents liked me at first, but after we spent two days (two afternoons, to be specific) together over the m...

TL;DR: my boyfriend moved across the country for work and I’m having a hard time adjusting to lack of communication and insecurity My (21F) boyfriend (22M) just graduated and moved across the country for his job. We have been together for 10 months now and it’s been beyond amazing. At school we pretty much spent 24/7 together, him basically living at my apartment near school. We even took a class together. Like any relationship we had our ups and downs, but we both were always there for each other and knew how to talk and work things out. Now he is gone and is working all the time, and of course everything is different. I am still in school so I am spending the summer w my parents waitressing while studying for the LSATs. I have been lucky enough to be able to spend about a month with him in his new home, and it’s been incredible every time I visited. I love the city he is in, and we just always have a great time when we’re together. But recently, it’s been really hard. I can’t affo...

I'm really struggling here. I pursued a very shy and nice man a couple months ago and we agreed to be boyfriend/girlfriend very early on. He has a lot of qualities I love and has been the best boyfriend to me. The only issue is I don't feel like I'm excited about him. I don't have a crush on him, essentially. I enjoyed going on dates and yes, we have been sexually active, but I don't think we have that sort of chemistry that tells you this person is meant for you. I thought that stuff would come with time and that I should focus on how compatible we are values and goals wise but now I feeling like a fraud and that I'm leading him on / settling. We have already sort of floated the idea of moving in together in a few months when my lease is up and from his perspective we are doing fine. But I have these really negative thoughts and feelings surrounding feeling trapped in this relationship I agreed to too soon. We also share a friend group, so this will be awkwa...

Hi everyone, first time posting and on mobile so please excuse if I mess anything up. Would appreciate people's opinions on this one and perhaps some suggestions in how to move forward with this! I will try and explain as simply as possible but this problem is really worrying me and I would really appreciate your time! I [22-M] am about to start my second year at university in September. To understand my problem I need to quickly explain some history : When I started first year (last September) I was a virgin who had never had a GF, this wasn't a problem for me I am a generally confident guy and my flatmates just assumed I had had previous GFs or whatever - doesn't matter. Me and one of my flatmates [18/19-F] got along quite well, but I didn't fancy her in particular as she wasn't my type I would say. Being completely honest I didn't find her that attractive. She is Canadian and I'll call her Jane. Anyway, I wasn't interested in a relationship at t...

I posted here last week about my partner and how I’m doing the bulk of everything while he grumbles or wastes away video gaming with all of his spare time. I want a partner. I want compromise. I want someone who pushes me. I want someone who actually wants to help me with dinner/chores, or hang out with me, who will plan date nights. I want someone who is excited by me and who makes me a better person. We had a talk tonight about the disproportionate amount of work in the rel that I am taking on. He told me I didn’t appreciate that he woke up so early for work and that he works outside and he’s tired and I act like it’s not a big deal. He told me that he doesn’t want to make dinner and he often wants to just mentally shut down after work. He advised if I want dinners to be a “fend for yourself” from now on, than we can do that and he just won’t eat. He also told me that ultimately he wants to do what he wants, when and how he wants it, and to not have someone who cares about it. Ul...

I’m (18f) desperate to leave my current living situation and my friend (21f) who has a child (5) is also looking for somewhere else to live. I brought up the idea to her and she was really excited because we both have the same interests and get along very well. She’s responsible with her money and, pays all of her bills on time .The only issue is that she uses hard drugs occasionally and recently got out of an abusive relationship with a guy who overdosed in her living room (he’s alive the last time I heard). I really like her and want to leave but I’m having second thoughts about how well the dynamic would work between us if we were to live together. I’m imagining some scenarios where I might have to drop her kid or pick him up from school but I’d be okay with that. Is moving in with her a red flag or should it be okay in the long run? Should I find a roommate I don’t know too well? TL;DR moving in with friend with past drug abuse and child Submitted July 28, 2019 at 12:04AM I...

I’ve been dating my wife for 4 years now (I’m 22, she’s 45, and her daughter is 24). It took a lot of work to get my family to be accepting of my relationship, but we made it work and we now have a beautiful 2 year old daughter together. I love her so much and we are so close. Her daughter was freaked out at my wife when we first started dating since I was so much younger, but she came around and accepted me. Now I have a problem with her. She started to flirt with me a lot and she told me that she has had a crush on me ever since I got together with her mom. She’s been telling me this for a few months now, but it’s gotten worse since she has tried to get physical with me. Then, a few days ago we celebrated her 24th birthday at our place. She drank a lot and when everybody was asleep she came to talk with me. She was so drunk and she was crying a lot. She told me that she was hurt about my relationship with my wife, and she told me that she had really strong feelings for me. She beg...

My boyfriend broke his phone two weeks ago. So he’s been using my laptop as a form of communication until he can get his phone situation figured out. My boyfriends ex that he literally broke up with a little over a month ago inboxed him on Facebook. I snooped (he left the page up) she asked to come see him. And she said she loved him. And he responded back “love you too i would hang out with you but I’m with somebody else and then he told her that’s she messed up etc” Should i ask him about it or let it go? I don’t mind admitting i looked at it Background info when I met him he did tell me he had just recently broke up with someone. He seemed over her. I don’t have much context over their relationship. He told me he just left her because she betrayed his trust or something he said she didn’t cheat but more so she kept letting others in their relationship. He told me he owes her money too. TL:DR; according to him they have Broken up before and he wanted her back but this time he’s do...

I've been dating this girl for three months and since the beggining of our relationship she knows I'll be moving to another country soon (in the middle of August, to be specific). I'll be living in England for a year as an exchange student, and as the days pass I'm feeling more and more anxious about it, as well as herself. We're almost 100% certain that we'll still be in a relationship while I'm gone, but this will be a huge change since we see each other almost every day in college. We really want it to work out, but both of us have had 0 experience with long distance relationships and have only been dating for a short while now. Do you guys think this could work? Do you have any advice? TL;DR: I'm moving to another country for a year and being insecure about starting a long distance relationship. Submitted July 28, 2019 at 12:08AM I've been dating this girl for three months and since the beggining of our relationship she knows I'll b...

My friend and I have know each other for about 3.5 years. I used to have a crush on a friend of mine, but felt rejected for some reason. It was probably clear to him that I liked him. It took me a while to get over this "rejection". He was away from the city pretty often and finally moved to another continent a while ago. We kept in touch and met each other's partner a couple of times. I thought his girlfriend was lovely, and my boyfriend and he seemed to get along well. When I met his girlfriend for the first time, I had already started dating my boyfriend and didn't feel hurt. I was actually happy that we were still friends after the awkward period. We don't talk often, but kept in touch even after he moved away. Earlier this month, I happened to be in the his city, so we hung out and caught up. He showed me around and I had a great time. His girlfriend joined us for drinks at a bar, and I enjoyed talking to her as well. I really don't know what prompted...