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I want to ask a cashier out, but I've been too scared to ask her. Could really use some advice.

Hi. So, there's this cashier at the grocery store across the street from me, and I really like her. We'll call her Wendy. I really only go to the story to see Wendy. I think she's working tomorrow afternoon and I was thinking of asking her out then. Should I? We have a lot in common and she seems nice. We both play video games and both like Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter. I don't have a phone or social media due to my anxiety and introversion. Do you think this might be a problem? I should also mention I'm in my mid twenties and have never asked anyone out before. I don't know if she has a boyfriend/girlfriend though. I've thought about asking other people out throughout my life but I've never found the courage. There's a Starbucks in the same parking lot and a bar across the street so I thought I'd suggest meeting her at one of these places. I've always been scared of asking people out so I never have. Should I ask her if she wants to ...

What are some things you would feel the need to let your future partner know before getting in a relationship with them after having gone through emotionally/mentally abusive relationships in the past?

It’s been 3 years since my last relationship and I feel that I am in the midsts of getting into a new one, as I feel that I am ready and have grown up from the person that I used to be. We are both 20 and in college and have been talking for a few months. However, there is a bit of a catch. Nothing is official but before becoming so I feel the need to clear up a few things before becoming exclusive. I’ve gone through various emotionally and mentally abusive relationships in the past and I feel that I have a bit of PTSD from them...I’m someone who 100% feels the need to be transparent and authentic with my future partner. This includes letting them know about my past and possible triggers that I have that will cause me to shut down. This is where this post comes in. I’m writing down a list of things I feel the need my future partner should know but sometimes I get stuck trying to think of everything. And so, I want to if any of the things you have went through apply to me as well that ...

My Past Trauma Makes Dating Near Impossible.

I thought the hardest thing about finding the person I want to be with would be asking them out. Would be overcoming my depression, anxiety, and fear of rejection long enough to talk to someone I just met and was instantly attracted to. But it’s not. The hardest part is overcoming the paranoia and the fear that this will play out like all my past relationships. As things continue to progress and I develop more and more feelings for her, I’m constantly waiting for my gf to get tired of me and leave without any explanation. I’m waiting on her to cheat on me or use me as an emotional crutch until she finds someone better. I’m always ready for her to snap at me and call me names, to accuse me of things I haven’t done, to lie to me and then get mad when I try to call her out. I keep thinking it’s only a matter of time before she realizes what a pathetic loser I am and I kind of wish she would just hurry up so I can get it over with and go off to die alone. I keep imagining her friends tal...

Do you both need to have similar interests to be compatible

So, there’s a guy I’m talking to and it’s obvious we both are at least interested in each other. I don’t want to go into a whole bunch of details besides, I’m really nervous about our interests? Personality wise we match, both kind of awkward and shy, but goofy too and caring. And I love that about him because it makes me loosen up a bit realizing I’m not alone. But when it comes to hobbies and such we don’t have much in common. He likes the outdoors, exercise, and adventure. I mean I would somewhat be down for an adventure, but I don’t like the outdoors. I get winded easily because I’m just a naturally weak person. I like to read, write, draw, watch TV and play video games. He does like anime and I like that too, he plays some video games. But I’m really nervous about the differences in interests going into a real relationship. Would it be too wide that it won’t work? I want it to work so badly which is why I keep thinking of a way I could work out even though I don’t really like it....

I think i’ve fallen in love someone who I’ll never see again

warning, this is kinda super detailed and long but oh well ( Some context- due to my hilariously unnecessarily traumatic life,, my relationship with relationships (romantic and just general) is kinda warped. I don’t think I’ve ever experienced romantic love and I find it incredibly difficult to even form genuine bonds with people- but, sometimes, I randomly latch onto people and feel more connected to them than I do to anyone else. because that‘s a healthy emotional response. This happened once with a police officer who I instantly viewed as a father/friend figure, and never saw again. And a tutor in a brief course I did who I saw as a mom figure. So tl;dr Im a mess. ) ​ So a while ago I was at work. The shop was about to close (it was nearly five thirty) and I was ready to leave. Then he walks in. He was fairly tall, over six foot I think, with dirty blond hair and round brown thick rimmed glasses. His eyes were blueish/green. He was dressed rather nicely, in a greenish coat an...

Should I just stop trying for my own and others good?

Hi, [22M] here So yeah, just another guy without any dating experience, nor I have any female friends, which is difficult to be changed (got plenty male ones tho). I'm told I apparently look rather decent, like at least 7/10 I have this rather typical set of hobbies that make you stay at home, you know games, watching shows etc. and I also prefer working out at home. About four years ago I had this unfortunate encounter, for two months I've been in something you could technically call dating but I'm rather convinced to just not call it that. Basically after two months it turns out that I've been in a relationship with some dude (I am straight) and not a girl, who just decided it'd be fun to catfish me. Well all this sounds like silly stuff, it was all via net naturally so this shit happens. The problem is that until this moment in life I've been easily able to suppress urge to be interested in other gender. But after that it weighed on me sadly enough to inc...

I Always Hear About Aspie Girls Who Can't Flirt, But What About The Opposite? I Need Advice For A Friend!

I always hear about Aspie girls who can't flirt. But about the ones who are more outwardly flirtatious? Can anyone tell me how they're like? My friend needs this advice. Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:21AM I always hear about Aspie girls who can't flirt. But about the ones who are more outwardly flirtatious? Can anyone tell me how they're like? My friend needs this advice.

Advice on vaginal cut

Hi- I have a bit of an embarrassing problem that is preventing me from living my best life. I’ve had a cut on my vagina for over a month now. The cut is placed right on the entrance to my vagina, preventing any penetrative sex. My boyfriend has been amazingly patient (and I’ve been doing my best to keep him pleased!) but I’m getting fed up now. I went to see a doctor last week, and she said to wait seven days, as she couldn’t see anything (despite the fact I told her I had my boyfriend take photos and there was a cut!) So we took her advice, and used lots of lube as prescribed, and 30 seconds in- blood. It’s only a small cut, and I’m sure it’ll heal, but am in need of some sympathy and advice from anyone who has had a similar experience! The worst part is we have no idea how long it will be until it heals, and my doctor being absolutely no help, we are left clueless. The itching is also pretty annoying as I assume the cut is attempting to heal. (We have both been STI checked btw, and ...

Wondering if I’m a Sex addict

I need to come to a conclusion to if I am a nympho or not. This guy that I have steadily been fucking told me that he’s never met anyone who wants to have sex as much as I do. I can go like 7 times in a row if I could and I’m constantly begging him for more. I will go out of my way for sex, but not with randoms or anything, just with this one man. I don’t understand if the fact that I think about sex constantly and can go rounds upon rounds, even if it hurt the previous round, makes me a nympho? Like as soon as we’re done, I’m like AGAIN! Do other girls feel the same? Could it do with my zodiac sign because I’m a Scorpio?? I don’t know. I just wanna hear some opinions or questions. Submitted February 09, 2020 at 10:25PM I need to come to a conclusion to if I am a nympho or not. This guy that I have steadily been fucking told me that he’s never met anyone who wants to have sex as much as I do. I can go like 7 times in a row if I could and I’m constantly begging him for more. I wi...

I(F) don’t think I enjoy sexual stuff as much as I used to and am getting bored of doing the same things over and over.

First off all, this is something I’m not comfortable admitting to anyone I know personally because I feel ashamed and think something is wrong with me. I have never been intimate with anyone before, let alone kissed anyone so I’ve resulted to pleasuring myself as a temporary place holder until I start having actual experiences with people. Masterbation feels great and all to me, but I feel that it could feel a whole lot better. First off, I masterbate with a back massager and if I’m not using that then I’m using my fingers to stimulate myself vaginally. While that does feel nice...it’s getting boring for me. I also watch porn when I masterbate but lately it hasn’t even been fazing me in the slightest...like I can watch it with a straight face and not get aroused at all...maybe I’m watching the wrong type of porn? I don’t have any problems reaching climax at all (in fact I can climax pretty quick) However I barely ever get the chance to masterbate because I still live with my family an...

What are some ideas on how a married woman can initiate sexy things?

Asking for a friend: I’m looking for a bunch of examples/scenarios on taking the initiative in sex or sexy play(keep playful and fun in mind). Toys, toys in public, threesome(FFM), wearing something sultry underneath with a reveal, sexting, the whole shebang. Share an experience or fantasy you’ve had. The whole purpose of asking is to inspire creativity in and out of the bedroom leading to a more fulfilled sex life. Submitted February 09, 2020 at 10:39PM Asking for a friend: I’m looking for a bunch of examples/scenarios on taking the initiative in sex or sexy play(keep playful and fun in mind). Toys, toys in public, threesome(FFM), wearing something sultry underneath with a reveal, sexting, the whole shebang. Share an experience or fantasy you’ve had. The whole purpose of asking is to inspire creativity in and out of the bedroom leading to a more fulfilled sex life.

My gf doesn’t want to do anal

So my(21M) gf(20M) has analed me so many times but she when ever We have sex and I ask she just says “shut up and bend over” , should I be worried, also the other day we went to a hotel and she blind folded me and pegged me then she stopped and went away carried on after we finished her friend came over as soon as we finished I have feeling her friend pegged me as well what should I do about that? Submitted February 09, 2020 at 11:43PM So my(21M) gf(20M) has analed me so many times but she when ever We have sex and I ask she just says “shut up and bend over” , should I be worried, also the other day we went to a hotel and she blind folded me and pegged me then she stopped and went away carried on after we finished her friend came over as soon as we finished I have feeling her friend pegged me as well what should I do about that?

Kinky outfit help - how to get demon horns to stay on for a rough night?

I tried the BDSM community but they haven't come up with much, so I'm gonna try my luck here with the more general community, hello :') Question in the topic but to elaborate: Have been very into demonic stuff lately and my bf is happy to wear horns and lenses and all that good stuff, but we're a little stumped on how to make them hold the whole night. I'd aim for something as lightweight as possible, but they would be horns that go straight up, not the curled going down ones. Something like this: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/25966135336857832/ (sfw image - except they would be going up, not towards the back like in this one) Size also similar to that, could do smaller but not by a lot. I can either try making them or order custom ones but I don't want to get into it until I figure out how to make them hold. No the curled downwards ones won't do, I realize I'm being picky but they just don't do it for me, please don't ask why because I ...

have y’all ever wanted to try hypnosex ?

I think it’s crazy hot to just let a guy take complete control and soothe me and guide me like I’m completely mindless. And I heard it’s a common fantasy to pretend to be a sex slave to a master and I really wanna try after they hypnotize me Submitted February 09, 2020 at 11:55PM I think it’s crazy hot to just let a guy take complete control and soothe me and guide me like I’m completely mindless. And I heard it’s a common fantasy to pretend to be a sex slave to a master and I really wanna try after they hypnotize me

I recently had sex for the first time and had intense pain on the head of my penis. I’m uncut and my head is very very sensitive. How do I make it where it feels comfortable because it’s ruining my sex life

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Is it worth it renting a motel for a hookup

I've been hooking up with people for a while now but since a lot of them are around my age, they still live with their parents just like I do. This has been a major inconvenience for a while now and was thinking of putting down around 30 to 40 dollars for 1 night in a motel. Would it be worth it? Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:03AM I've been hooking up with people for a while now but since a lot of them are around my age, they still live with their parents just like I do.This has been a major inconvenience for a while now and was thinking of putting down around 30 to 40 dollars for 1 night in a motel. Would it be worth it?

why doesn't he want to have sex often?

Hey there. Kind of self explanatory, obviously my boyfriend (23M) has a lower sex drive than I (21F) do. But I'm having a hard time understanding why he ever wouldn't want to have sex. I know he's attracted to me, it's obvious when we do have sex, but he usually just isn't in the mood. I want to know from a Male perspective, why would you not want to just have sex all the time? It seems like most guys feel that way. He does most of the work, which I'm sure is exhausting, but we both like it better that way. Could that have something to do with it? I just love sex and I can't understand someone would not "feel like it" Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:05AM Hey there. Kind of self explanatory, obviously my boyfriend (23M) has a lower sex drive than I (21F) do. But I'm having a hard time understanding why he ever wouldn't want to have sex. I know he's attracted to me, it's obvious when we do have sex, but he usually just isn...

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Can you help me with my penile adhesion?

Hey Guys! I recently noticed that I have a penile adhesion. I am a 18 year old male and never knew that this was a problem until recently. I wanted to ask a few things. my foreskin can only retract for a couple of centimetres. - Can I have sex without having my penile adhesion removed? - Kinda corny but can I have kids in the future? - will penile adhesion cause problems for me in the future?? - What causes this? I had a habit of rubbing my penis on some object to masturbate. was that what caused this? Please help me. Thanks! Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:12AM Hey Guys!I recently noticed that I have a penile adhesion.I am a 18 year old male and never knew that this was a problem until recently.I wanted to ask a few things.my foreskin can only retract for a couple of centimetres.- Can I have sex without having my penile adhesion removed?- Kinda corny but can I have kids in the future?- will penile adhesion cause problems for me in the future??- What causes this?I h...

Is this emotional abuse?

Coming home from work after being up with the baby from 4am, getting the kids ready for school. Dropping them off by 7:50, dropping the baby off at our sitters by 8:15, then strolling into work by 9am (working a job I hate but makes ok money). Off by 6pm. I used to pick up the kids myself too but asked him to do the pick ups because he’s off by 2-3. Goes to the gym/naps. Hangs out at his moms. Had dinner there then comes home to meet me in a bad mood because I’ve been waiting for them to come home? I keep finding him texting/calling coworkers at 2am for a long period of time. He deletes the messages and calls. I have no idea what they talk about. He says they’re friends and nothing else. He has done this in the past. One friendship lasted a year. Why does he have to hide all this shit? And me catching him makes me the bad guy every damn time. This last time I caught him it turned from him calling this girl for 20 mins or whatever to him telling me “I don’t think I’m in love with you ...

Valentines ideas

So I got married last month, and want to know what I can do for my husband for Valentine’s Day. Money is tight at the moment, but I still want to do something to make him feel special. I’m working late the day of, so if we even celebrate it it’ll probably be the day after. Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:23AM So I got married last month, and want to know what I can do for my husband for Valentine’s Day. Money is tight at the moment, but I still want to do something to make him feel special. I’m working late the day of, so if we even celebrate it it’ll probably be the day after.

Sometimes we test the ones we love

It’s good to test eachother every now and then on certain things because trust is an important part of a relationship.... testing one another really shows if the loyalty and love is real and strong or fake and weak Submitted February 09, 2020 at 11:45PM It’s good to test eachother every now and then on certain things because trust is an important part of a relationship.... testing one another really shows if the loyalty and love is real and strong or fake and weak

What's worse for Valentine's Day

Being single or being in a long distance relationship? When everything around you spews out love and oozes with PDA and makes the world into a frosted cupcake. I can't help but feel thankful to have someone to love me and to give my love and my life to, but it can be really hard to not be able to plant a kiss on their head, say absolutely nothing but everything at the same time while cuddling in bed, pamper them with all the best things I can give them in the world, and just feel their breathy, hot, reassuring presence in my life next to me. There is only so much that a FaceTime can replace. And the jealousy of couples celebrating Valentine's Day in each other's arms lives on Submitted February 09, 2020 at 11:55PM Being single or being in a long distance relationship? When everything around you spews out love and oozes with PDA and makes the world into a frosted cupcake. I can't help but feel thankful to have someone to love me and to give my love and my life to,...