Is this emotional abuse?

Coming home from work after being up with the baby from 4am, getting the kids ready for school. Dropping them off by 7:50, dropping the baby off at our sitters by 8:15, then strolling into work by 9am (working a job I hate but makes ok money). Off by 6pm. I used to pick up the kids myself too but asked him to do the pick ups because he’s off by 2-3. Goes to the gym/naps. Hangs out at his moms. Had dinner there then comes home to meet me in a bad mood because I’ve been waiting for them to come home?

I keep finding him texting/calling coworkers at 2am for a long period of time. He deletes the messages and calls. I have no idea what they talk about. He says they’re friends and nothing else. He has done this in the past. One friendship lasted a year. Why does he have to hide all this shit? And me catching him makes me the bad guy every damn time. This last time I caught him it turned from him calling this girl for 20 mins or whatever to him telling me “I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore” what?! But I’m the one being emotionally abusive?!

He feels unappreciated, unloved, I text him in a rude way daily (because I’m so exhausted or things I NEED done are not getting done) I am so overwhelmed. He works long hours too. He’s a great dad. But he says I’m emotionally abusive because I don’t appreciate him. He’s not in love with me because of all of these issues now. I threaten divorce/separation when I’m at my wits end ( I just need his help!) am I emotionally abusing him? He’s so angry at me. He’s living back at his moms. He doesn’t want ANYTHING to do with me.

What is going on? Am I this blind that I didn’t see I was emotionally abusing him?



Submitted February 10, 2020 at 12:15AM

Coming home from work after being up with the baby from 4am, getting the kids ready for school. Dropping them off by 7:50, dropping the baby off at our sitters by 8:15, then strolling into work by 9am (working a job I hate but makes ok money). Off by 6pm. I used to pick up the kids myself too but asked him to do the pick ups because he’s off by 2-3. Goes to the gym/naps. Hangs out at his moms. Had dinner there then comes home to meet me in a bad mood because I’ve been waiting for them to come home?I keep finding him texting/calling coworkers at 2am for a long period of time. He deletes the messages and calls. I have no idea what they talk about. He says they’re friends and nothing else. He has done this in the past. One friendship lasted a year. Why does he have to hide all this shit? And me catching him makes me the bad guy every damn time. This last time I caught him it turned from him calling this girl for 20 mins or whatever to him telling me “I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore” what?! But I’m the one being emotionally abusive?!He feels unappreciated, unloved, I text him in a rude way daily (because I’m so exhausted or things I NEED done are not getting done) I am so overwhelmed. He works long hours too. He’s a great dad. But he says I’m emotionally abusive because I don’t appreciate him. He’s not in love with me because of all of these issues now. I threaten divorce/separation when I’m at my wits end ( I just need his help!) am I emotionally abusing him? He’s so angry at me. He’s living back at his moms. He doesn’t want ANYTHING to do with me.What is going on? Am I this blind that I didn’t see I was emotionally abusing him?
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