No, a person's reaction to sex due to trauma is completely separate from their sexuality. While becoming averse to sex is definitely a normal response to trauma, it's just that, a trauma response. Someone who's demi would be demi regardless of whether they were traumatized. It's the same as any sexuality; I'm technically bi, but due to trauma I don't trust men and won't date them, but I'm not a lesbian because trauma doesn't dictate attraction. I experienced trauma too, before I realized I'm ace and it made me confused for the longest time. I don't remember where I read it, I think it was an ace website, maybe asexuality dot org. Reading about other aces helped a lot. 💛 November 20, 2022 at 01:19AM

I'm 25 and have never been in a relationship. Every time I meet someone I like, it never works out. Living in a small town doesn't help. I'm gay, and the dating pool is extremely small. Never made a connection with any of the locals, and whenever someone new shows up, it's like everyone is on them. I hate it. Submitted November 20, 2022 at 01:06AM I'm 25 and have never been in a relationship. Every time I meet someone I like, it never works out. Living in a small town doesn't help. I'm gay, and the dating pool is extremely small. Never made a connection with any of the locals, and whenever someone new shows up, it's like everyone is on them. I hate it.

I’m glad this worries you and that you are searching for advice. It doesn’t seem like your partner is sex-repulsed, which is a big benefit for the way your relationship appears to be structured. I’m sex repulsed, but it seems like both your partner and I might be similar in the sense that we just see sex as another activity. In my case, it’s an activity that I don’t want any involvement in. For her, it seems like she’s fine with it. That’s important, because when I was much more naive, I thought I could “compromise” too. But if you do not want sex , there isn’t really a safe way to compromise, is there? Learned that the hard way. Before I give my main advice, I want to disclaim it with this: imo, your ages make a big difference here. If you’re both established adults, your partner is likely a lot more realistic about consent and her sexual identity. Supported by your respect for her and her boundaries, she’ll likely know how to compromise without getting hurt. If, on the other hand...

Sure! Tbh, I'm still figuring out my romantic label. But basically, the relationship started as many do: with a crush. We had crushes on each other and it developed and we have a really great relationship now. As sexuality and romance are spectrums and can change, I think that's what is happening to me. I'm not sure I feel romantic feelings anymore. But I'm not going to break up with him, I still love him and want to spend my life with him. He's also one of my best friends, and maybe my feelings are just slightly stronger than normal "friend feelings." He makes me happy, he makes me laugh and smile, and he's perfect for me. Maybe that is romantic love, I'm honestly not sure. Also, I haven't had a crush in forever, which would make me think I'm starting to become aro. Crushes are common for most people, right? Currently I identify as idemromantic. November 20, 2022 at 12:14AM

This anology really helped me It's like cake. Sex is the act of 'eating' the 'cake'. Sexual attraction is seeing a 'cake' and thinking 'damn, that's a nice cake, im experiencing urges to eat that'. Libido is 'craving' something 'sweet' but not necessarily 'cake'. Asexual people that enjoy sex are, in this metaphor, people who don't necessarily see a 'cake' and feel the urge to 'eat' it, but they might like the 'taste' or the 'texture' etc. Those who want sex are those who don't 'crave' the cake in particular eithet, but know from experience that they like 'eating' it. It 'tastes' good. They might also be 'craving' something sweet, and whilst 'candy' is enough, 'cake' is also sweet, so why not? Maybe their partner made it for them (pleasing their partner), maybe they wanna know what its like to eat cake (curiosity) etc. November ...

We agreed to go to a movie at 8:30 and that she to be picked up at 8. She then proceeded to move it back to 9:30. She then told me that she doesn’t need to be picked up at 8 anymore and that her mom will take her instead. I don’t know why but I’m getting a feeling in my stomach that I might just be used for a free movie and meal and then get ghosted. Do you think this is a likely outcome? Or am I being paranoid. Submitted November 20, 2022 at 12:04AM We agreed to go to a movie at 8:30 and that she to be picked up at 8. She then proceeded to move it back to 9:30. She then told me that she doesn’t need to be picked up at 8 anymore and that her mom will take her instead. I don’t know why but I’m getting a feeling in my stomach that I might just be used for a free movie and meal and then get ghosted. Do you think this is a likely outcome? Or am I being paranoid.