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/u/Clay_teapod on How do y’all feel about Yasmin Beniot’s(who is aro-ace) asexuality themed lingerie line?

I mean, seems to me like normal lingerie stamped with "asexual" label for marketing and media coverage, nice to see representation tho October 30, 2021 at 11:48PM

/u/_theatre_junkie on How do y’all feel about Yasmin Beniot’s(who is aro-ace) asexuality themed lingerie line?

What have they been saying? October 30, 2021 at 11:48PM

/u/LittleLylah on I’m so fucking confused. What is my brain doing

Okay so sexuality has nothing to do with hormones! You should be A-okay there. No matter where you decide you fit in on any identity spectrum, you aren’t weird! Tons of us have this experience. Depending on how familiar you are with this community, there’s also a different between your sexuality and your romantic nature (if you will.) it’s common for people to crave romantic affection but not necessarily want to have sex. It’s also common for people to not want either. Based on your experiences, I’d say you’re panromantic asexual, like me:) but it’s up to you! And if you aren’t sure yet or your feelings change, that’s okay too! No one is ever going to tell you that you can’t. October 30, 2021 at 11:46PM

/u/dracomageat on How do y’all feel about Yasmin Beniot’s(who is aro-ace) asexuality themed lingerie line?

That purple with that sheen is nice but, as a cisgender male, I have neither the bodytype to be able to wear this kind of design well, myself, nor the understanding of its appeal to those who do. October 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

/u/RedVamp2020 on How do y’all feel about Yasmin Beniot’s(who is aro-ace) asexuality themed lingerie line?

Not really. As a sex favorable/positive Ace who actually really loves the aesthetic of lingerie, it makes me happy seeing something that represents my part of the community and says that just because we’re asexual doesn’t mean we all hate sex or are all virgins/celibates who are just using this label as a way of avoiding saying we’re unworthy or undesirable. October 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

Was hooking up but I blew it. What should I do?

Was hooking up w/this guy who I met on a dating site. It got super complicated (due to me) and we’ve stopped talking. I thought about reaching reaching out in a month or 2 when the dust settles bc I know someone who can help him with work. And they says they’d help. Is it weird to reach out and give him the information? ( this was like a 6/7 month situation going on between him and I) Also, I started to like him more than just casual and he didn’t seem to know what he wanted (probably just told me that). He told me about some family stuff and I never told him but I kind of connected w/him and made me like him more bc his family situation/way they treat him is identical to my situation. It was kind of weird to have that commonality among other things. Is it weird to be like “ btw I should have been honest that I wanted both when you asked what I wanted. I was moving so I’m not sure what my plan was. I never told you this but I kind of connected w/you on your family stuff bc it’s the e...

My gf begs for sex after less than a minute or two of going down on her; how can I make this longer?

My personal favorite thing to do is give head to a girl, it’s always been my favorite and I like to think I’m good at it. My girlfriend likes when I go down on her which I’m often doing but after just like a minute or so she is already begging to be fucked. I’m not always able to get her off via PIV so this feels directly counterintuitive to what I try to do, I try to get her off via head but she doesn’t last long before she’s begging for PIV How can I prolong giving head without making her feel annoyed that I’m not listening to what she wants? Could this also mean I’m not satisfying her with head? What’s making her beg so fast? Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:37AM My personal favorite thing to do is give head to a girl, it’s always been my favorite and I like to think I’m good at it.My girlfriend likes when I go down on her which I’m often doing but after just like a minute or so she is already begging to be fucked.I’m not always able to get her off via PIV so this feels di...

Is this OK?

So me and my girlfriend have dated since last year of secondary school. She was born in June and I was born in December. So when I was 16 in December, she was 15. In May, we decided to take our relationship further and we had sex. We had protection but I thought afterwards, isn't she technically underage? We were both up for it and it was safe, our parents even gave us permission to if we were comfortable. What do you guys think? Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:37AM So me and my girlfriend have dated since last year of secondary school. She was born in June and I was born in December. So when I was 16 in December, she was 15. In May, we decided to take our relationship further and we had sex. We had protection but I thought afterwards, isn't she technically underage? We were both up for it and it was safe, our parents even gave us permission to if we were comfortable. What do you guys think?

Why do I feel dead inside and hate myself after orgasm?

In the moment it feels great, sure. For whatever reason the aftereffects of orgasm destroy me. I feel foggy, want to distance myself from everyone, sad, so on. I'm a male for context. Is there a biological reason for this or is my brain messed up? Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:42AM In the moment it feels great, sure. For whatever reason the aftereffects of orgasm destroy me. I feel foggy, want to distance myself from everyone, sad, so on.I'm a male for context. Is there a biological reason for this or is my brain messed up?

She says it's okay but I feel bad she doesn't finish. Help???

Hey there guys, I M(20) started seeing this girl F(20) and we've been having sex for a while now. The thing is she isn't finishing, the thing is it's not that we aren't doing it for a long time. We can both go for +45 min. I've had sex with my previous girlfriend and having her finish was never an issue, however with this current girl it just doesn't happen. She tells me it's alright because she feels good but I still feel bad that she doesn't. Any advice or anything that might help? Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:48AM Hey there guys, I M(20) started seeing this girl F(20) and we've been having sex for a while now. The thing is she isn't finishing, the thing is it's not that we aren't doing it for a long time. We can both go for +45 min. I've had sex with my previous girlfriend and having her finish was never an issue, however with this current girl it just doesn't happen. She tells me it's alright because she feels g...

I don't know what to do with this girl

(16M) here, i invited this girl for Halloween 2 weeks ago, and she accepted it( we like each other btw she confessed me.), but the problem is her mom, she is very strict with her and her social life. Few days ago she told me that her mom didn't let her go out but she'll try to find a way to change her mind about going out this Halloween, today ask her how did it went, but she told me again that her mother didn't give her permission despite of trying everything. I know this is not an excuse bc she is always honest with me and also bc she texted about how mad she is with her mom and the rules imposed. So guys idk what do to, should I move on? I really would like to spend more time with her besides the school, but her mother's rules is making it impossible for both of us. What would you guys do in this scenario? Submitted October 30, 2021 at 11:55PM (16M) here, i invited this girl for Halloween 2 weeks ago, and she accepted it( we like each other btw she confessed...

I’m a woman in my late 20s and I’ve done the unthinkable… after a lifetime of never wanting marriage/kids, that’s all I want.

However, I live in a small town, and everyone is either married or they have 5 different children with several different women, are single/immature/players. How do I find this kind of man? What green flags do you look for? I’ve never wanted this, ever, and have never dated accordingly or even thought about it, but now I’m feeling a pain in my stomach while watching all the parents with their little trick or treaters. I feel like it’s hopeless Submitted October 30, 2021 at 11:59PM However, I live in a small town, and everyone is either married or they have 5 different children with several different women, are single/immature/players.How do I find this kind of man? What green flags do you look for? I’ve never wanted this, ever, and have never dated accordingly or even thought about it, but now I’m feeling a pain in my stomach while watching all the parents with their little trick or treaters. I feel like it’s hopeless

Signs or Habits of successful happy long-lasting couples?

Im so curios, like what are the indicators that she/he is the one!! Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:01AM Im so curios, like what are the indicators that she/he is the one!!

Sexual Intimacy Issues with Girlfriend

I (24M) have been dating my girlfriend (19F) for a few months now. We met at our office. She had a crush on me. She asked me out. We went on a few dates and eventually got into a relationship. Now, this is the first relationship for her. She's just had distant crushes before. Whereas I've been in both serious and casual relationships before. Our kiss was the first ever kiss for her of her life. Initially she used to tell me after our first kiss that she was scared. Eventually she started trusting me more and felt safe with my touches. We haven't had sex( and I've never forced or pressured her). We've just discussed it. We've gone till the third base (fingering+oral) but we stopped afterwards due to various reasons (lack of time/circumstances etc) But she used to tease me around that if we get enough time "she'll know she'll end up wanting to have sex" or she teases me like "I thought you'll go further". She comes from a cons...

Forgot I(23F) had a trip with my ex(25M)

So me and my ex broke up around a year ago but we have been in contact (very little) in the rest of the year, mainly because he is really antisocial and he just moved to another country and I know he does feel lonely. The thing is I just started dating a old friend of mine, and completely forgot I made plans with my ex to go on a trip. Yesterday my ex told me he was going to be in my city in a couple of days and I was taken back a bit by that. I don’t remember we had that trip(next month), obviously I won’t go since I respect my current relationship. But I don’t know how to tell my ex and my current boyfriend of the situation. It kinda still hurt to know that after I tell my ex that I won’t go I won’t see him again, he was my best friend. How should I tell them both? Submitted October 31, 2021 at 12:04AM So me and my ex broke up around a year ago but we have been in contact (very little) in the rest of the year, mainly because he is really antisocial and he just moved to another...

/u/WindDeer on Saw this earlier

Yup October 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

/u/AcePainromantic on Is hating sex jokes abnormal?

Yep, felt that one (Danganronpa fan 🥲) October 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

/u/canstac on How do y’all feel about Yasmin Beniot’s(who is aro-ace) asexuality themed lingerie line?

I think that's cool, it helps to show that not every ace is sex repulsed & totally against anything sexual(those of us who are that way are very valid though) October 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

/u/sail4sea on Is hating sex jokes abnormal?

I thought fan service was upskirts in anime. Those don't bother me because I don't really look for them. October 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

/u/SilentLluvia on Anyone else like their food cold?

Can't speak for the person who wrote the original comment, but as a fellow ace person I myself use "hot" equal to "I find this person aethetically pleasant, they look really good" - although tbf for the longest time I thought this is precisely what people mean when they say someone is "hot"... Apparently people can actually feel hot or something when they're sexually attracted to people... ^^° October 30, 2021 at 11:42PM