Could be sarcoidosis or amyloidosis February 07, 2021 at 12:03AM

Yeah. It’s hard also because people really don’t understand it. I’m hoping eventually something will work out but my problem is that there’s not many people I can talk to February 06, 2021 at 11:59PM

I love kids! I’m still on the fence myself. I’m a firm believer that if you want kids it should be an enthusiastic “yes I want kids”. The children deserve it. I definitely want a partner more than I want kids. But if I did have kids I would use a surrogate and adopt. So I can have a bio kid and give another child a family. February 06, 2021 at 11:57PM

That explains why I love garlic bread February 06, 2021 at 11:57PM

Another one is the "grandma kisses".. complaining the partner gave them "just a peck" or "gives me grandma kisses" and "kisses me just like a friend".. what do you want? Porno style kissing every single time? February 06, 2021 at 11:56PM

Allo here. Personally I find this mentality really confusing, I would not consider cuddling or even kissing to be sexual, at least not inherently. They can turn sexual if there's groping involved and stuff but generally I consider them to be non-sexual behaviours. That said, I also have allo friends who are of the opinion that ALL touch is sexual, and they don't like hugging their siblings etc, and I will never understand them. February 06, 2021 at 11:56PM

Adoption will be my strategy February 06, 2021 at 11:56PM

Guess I’m not ace February 06, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah, that attitude really pissed me off February 06, 2021 at 11:49PM

Hey that's as much as a hatchimal and they don't do anything. February 06, 2021 at 11:47PM

First of all, I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m glad you are doing better, though. I haven’t been through any similar situations, so unfortunately I can’t give you much advice. I’ve heard that many people can lose their feelings of sexual and romantic attraction because of some trauma, and can identify as aromantic or asexual. If you feel that identifying as asexual can be helpful to you, there is nothing wrong with using that label, even if you’re using it because of a traumatic experience. I hope you continue to feel better, and that you find peace with your situation. All the best! February 06, 2021 at 11:45PM

Yes, but that's a bit reductive. Cuddles and kissing are actual things that the vast majority of allosexual people consider to be elements of foreplay. It's not something abstract, this is what society actually believes February 06, 2021 at 11:43PM

Honestly? Just go "so what if we are?" I love to see people out themselves as homophobes. But then again, homophobia is not acceptable where I’m from. February 06, 2021 at 11:42PM

Being ace means you feel little to no sexual attraction. You'll have to have a think and see if sexual attraction is something you're feeling or have felt in the past. If you feel / have felt it, do you think that you feel less than average? if so you can still be ace. Also consider that you may be feeling different types of attraction (in addition to maybe feeling sexual attraction or not) theres platonic attraction which is just friends. Aesthetic attraction which basically means you're attracted to the way someone looks "they look good/cute/hot" etc.. Aesthetic attraction is something that many aces (or those questioning) tend to confuse with sexual attraction. I realise i haven't mentioned anything to do with aro but this is enough essaying for today! Edit: your post is hardly nsfw and definitely not triggering February 06, 2021 at 11:33PM

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Haha sounds awesome February 06, 2021 at 11:29PM

I’ve actually edited my life plan to account for being ace/aro and wanting kids. I plan to have a friend who’s also ace/aro own a house and business together where we adopt four kids and live happily ever after with our gorgeous black and white diamond encrusted rings. February 06, 2021 at 11:27PM

in my experience, neither are sexual unless you make them February 06, 2021 at 11:25PM

Sorry, I feel like I'm missing something. Where's the pun? February 06, 2021 at 11:24PM

Isn't just everyone obsessed with garlic bread? Not just asexual people. February 06, 2021 at 11:23PM

I think for me it's because I realized people ACTUALLY feel something and I began to wonder if sexual content was put into media intending to elicit such reactions and realizing people around me were totally okay with and even WANTED THIS, IN PUBLIC because whenever I said anything against it, I was called a prude and people praised artists for not being so modest as me. Life was easier when I could just naively believe it was as insignificant as that annoying but silly meme that never seems to die (before I knew about asexuality). Now there's horny people all around who pretend to have the decency not to engage in sexual acts publically yet are totally fine being visually titillated in public and nobody questions this at all. I feel like I'm in one of those dystopians where only one person realizes something is wrong and is vilified for it (like Fahrenheit 451 or something). Like do whatever you want behind closed doors, but son of a fluffing crumsnatcher, must you sh...

Exactly! February 06, 2021 at 11:21PM