And she gets SO EXCITED to hear about you being ace too! Be still her beating heart! Her narrative of thinking something was wrong with her and how others called her cold struck me as even though I never encountered that (I have always only ever been fiercely me and sure of me whatever that was), I've had friends who went through the same thing. It felt a LOT like talking to my friends about being ace who didn't know it was a thing or that they might also be ace. Oh and how she lights up when you remember she doesn't like beer. I would die for this child. I know she's 28 (and therefore older than me), but I would die for her. And oh shit a bioware romance without that weird uncomfortable sex scene? Like even if I were into that... I remember my first time playing mass effect. Those aren't pleasant. I was very grateful that Josie's end romance scene wasn't of the soft core sex variety... I don't ever want to see another bioware butt ever again in my li...

All I can say for sure about you is that being yourself is not a bad thing. If you're asexual, great! If not, great! Like u/TheGoldenDragoness10 said... You decide which label is right for you Heck, you don't even have to decide, now or ever. Labels are just labels: nice to have, but far from necessary. If you're still scared, I'd suggest spending some time on r/asexuality and related subreddits like r/aaaaaaacccccccce as well as https://www.asexuality.org/ . That way you can get familiarized with terminology, common ace experiences, and ofc memes :). You're far from alone here <3 April 08, 2020 at 12:15AM

ACES CAN STILL HAVE ROMANCE DAMMIT Also it's a disney movie for kids, WHY would the characters express any kind of sexuality. that's NOT for kids. April 08, 2020 at 12:10AM

No prob bob edit I can’t stop smiling because of this comment so thank you as well April 08, 2020 at 12:05AM

You said it yourself, no one knows who we are. We’re oppressed by the people who do, and they say we don’t exist. Plus it’s “oppressed.” With two Ps. April 08, 2020 at 12:05AM

Because I'm sick of seeing this shit on the front page. Everyone wants to be an opressed minority, except the actual opressed minorities. Why do you want visibility? You just want people to know who you are so you can bitch about being opressed. April 08, 2020 at 12:04AM

There are actually a lot of issues of discrimination against ace and aro people out there and human rights issues that are just as significt to aces as the other letters of the LGBT+ acronym, that get dismissed because they're not The Big One, same-sex marriage. Going by a 2017 national LGBT survey by the Government Equalities Offices , asexual people are as likely as other non-heterosexual sexual orientations to experience: Verbal harassment Coercive or controlling domestic behavior Sexual harassment or violence Discriminatory behavior in the workplace Being offered or undergoing conversion therapy Asexuals also had the lowest employment rates of all orientations surveyed, lowest rates of access to public healthcare, and were the only sexuality demographic that reported getting a negative response more often than a positive response when disclosing their orientation to healthcare workers. Here's a 2015 AAU survey on sexual assault and misconduct on university campu...

Oh I claim her, fully. 😂 Oh man! Can someone with more artistic talent than me do one of those punk edits for Elsa, but with the ace/aro colors? Or is that already a thing?? April 08, 2020 at 12:01AM

Totally agree with you there. I think the biggest reason why she's sort of been claimed by the ace community is because she has never indicated having sexual or even romantic desires. In fact, when the subject comes up we see her actively reject it. April 07, 2020 at 11:59PM

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My friend set me (F35) up with a really great guy (M39) about 10 months ago. He’s a great guy but his life was in upheaval after a rough divorce. He was not in any place to be dating but had no idea. For example, he brought me a book by one of my favorite authors and he put hawk feathers and incense in the binding on our first date. Totally my kind of thing. Then his card got declined for entry into our local botanical garden and had to call his ex wife to transfer money into his account for dinner. After almost three weeks of similar situations, I told him very nicely that I’m not sure he was in a position to be dating yet and that I really wanted to be friends. He was angry with me at first but he ended up going back to his ex wife and it ended terribly...again. He eventually said I was right and hopes we can try again down the line. I had to have surgery four weeks ago and my friends were organizing a meal train (before Covid-19 hit my state). He shared the post and wrote this abo...

Have you ever had a friend that you didn’t necessarily see in a romantic way but you also care about in a deeper way than friendship? I (30s F) have a friend (30s M) who I have known for about 6 years and when we weren’t dating anyone else, we would spend a lot of time together as friends and it was just platonic. It was such a confidence booster and comfort to have a good male friend who would be a sounding board to me and was just a good friend in general. When I got into a relationship, I put that friendship on the back burner to be respectful to my partner at the time but I kept in touch with hi frequently. And when I became single, he got into a relationship and put our friendship on the back burner which I very much understood. We didn’t keep in touch nearly as much during that first year of his relationship but now, in the last year or so, we have definitely connected as friends more than ever. We don’t get to see each other very often but we text regularly. I have met his gi...

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Hi everyone, So I've been talking to/dating this girl dating for just over 2 months now. We initially texted for like 2 weeks (met on Tinder), and since have had 8 dates (4 in person, 4 virtual due to COVID19). We've got one due tomorrow night as well. My issue is communication. I've usually dated girls who pretty much text back instantly or within reasonable time frames (couple of hours). When I started talking to this girl, we were talking in paragraphs of 1500+ characters. We usually texted once a day before we met, then a couple of times a day after our first date. This was still in paragraphs, but not as long (anywhere between 400-1000 characters). For background, this girl is quite inexperienced/shy and has never had a boyfriend. A few dates ago, we had a bit of a DNM over the phone, where she admitted that she's a closed book, and its a defence mechanism since she doesn't want to be vulnerable. It made a lot more sense as to her responses, because I would...

Are you willing to date someone who says that they don’t want any sexual intercourse until you both decide to get married? Submitted April 07, 2020 at 11:54PM Are you willing to date someone who says that they don’t want any sexual intercourse until you both decide to get married?

I'm (female) not a big flirter. Rarely I go on dates. It's been one year after my breakup . I'm looking for advice. A friend I hadn't seen in over 5 years wanted to have a beer. I said yes. I was nervous. I had a small crush on him just from online. It was a complete shock that he wanted to hangout. I was most nervous because I know how much weight I've gained since seeing him last. This wasn't a date though, just a hangout I assume! I know, I'm going to hear "we're in quarantine" but we kept our distance , not very close. Anyway! We hung out for almost 4 hours. He even said when leaving to let him know if I want to hangout again but I had also blurted that out too (saying let me know if you want to hangout again). Let me tell you, I felt my weight was going to be such a factor in him being interested in me. Maybe he was just trying to be a friend? Men, what do you think?? After hanging out he's still liking my photos and viewing my storie...

TL;DR: Been talking to & hanging out with a friend for several months. I stay over at his apartment, we've had sex twice now, we talk for hours and hours every time, but he's inconsistent with his messaging when we're apart. Have no idea how he feels. I (30F) have been talking to a friend (30M) for about 5 months now. We've known each other for about 10 years and have hung out in the past in groups, but not very often. We've always kind of been flirty with each other. After some interesting events in my life, I reached out and we've been messaging each other almost daily since the middle of November. He's a bit inconsistent with his messaging, sometimes it will be 1-2 messages a day, sometimes one message every 1-3 days, and when we are making plans for that day or the next, he's very responsive and we'll go back and forth fairly quickly to establish plans/times/whatever. Since we've started talking regularly, we've hung out 4 times n...

So I swiped on a really good looking, seemingly well put together guy. I had to laugh because we both just had “bank” in our job section. We matched, I sent a message. His first reply was “hey do you work at X Bank?” We chatted for a bit, I had no clue who he was initially. I’m in the retail side of things and he’s business. He works in a credit building downtown, and I’m just in a rural area on the retail side. He remembered me from coming to my location for meetings. The only contacted i was aware I had had with him was forwarding some mail to him. His sector of the company has been swamped with work, so he’s mentioned a lot how he can’t talk like he’s like to be able to for a few weeks until it’s all over. I’m well aware and understanding. Today he laid on me “Sorry. Hey so i put a lot of thought into this today, but i have a personal rule to not get involved with coworkers, and i was thinking about bending that rule, and the more i thought about it i just didnt feel comfortable w...

I feel like all of my friends are quarantined with their boyfriends and I can’t help but feel jealous. As someone who loves sex, all I can think about is the unlimited sex that they’re probably having when I haven’t gotten any in weeks and I’m not sure when I will again. Plus I feel like being stuck with your best friend has GOT to be fun! People who are quarantining with their bf/gf...what has it been like? it really that fun? Have you actually been having sex more than usual? Submitted April 08, 2020 at 12:09AM I feel like all of my friends are quarantined with their boyfriends and I can’t help but feel jealous. As someone who loves sex, all I can think about is the unlimited sex that they’re probably having when I haven’t gotten any in weeks and I’m not sure when I will again. Plus I feel like being stuck with your best friend has GOT to be fun!People who are quarantining with their bf/gf...what has it been like? it really that fun? Have you actually been having sex more tha...

I have liked my crush(who is actually my mother’s best friend son and he have 2 sisters) since I was 14 and he was 17 but I never said anything to him about this matter. Now after 4 years I still really like him and I don’t know if he likes me back. I feel like he is giving a lot of mixed signals for example: 2 years ago me, my brother, my crush and his sisters went ice skating and he offered to hold my hand, I was not struggling to skate or anything and we skated together a bit. After that, I was looking for my brother and I turned and looked behind me and my crush was there, he winked at me and I blushed and smiled back at him and turned around and continued skating ,after a couple of minutes I turned back again and he was still behind me he winked at me agin and I smiled back. 2 days after, me and my family were going back to our city ( we don’t live in the same city) Me and my crush usually handshake to greet each other however this time he pulled me into a hug and it lasted a c...

Like the title suggests, I need help talking to women out in the world once this virus has subsided. I'm a naturally shy and reserved person so I'm not very charismatic at first. I also struggle with anxiety and self worth issues so I never want to bother women with my presence. The vast majority of partners or relationships I've had, started online in some form or another. I want to change that and not limit myself to the swipe of a screen. Meeting online helps me a lot because I'm not as nervous and I have more time to really think about what I want to say. So I'd like for a woman (or man if you really know what you're doing) to chat with that can give me advice or practice with me. Help me get over my fears so I can enjoy my life more fully. Submitted April 08, 2020 at 12:13AM Like the title suggests, I need help talking to women out in the world once this virus has subsided. I'm a naturally shy and reserved person so I'm not very charismatic...

I was crushing hard on a girl for the last few months. We met, hooked up and she started giving me mixed signals, strung me along, and eventually said she would like to further our relationship when she was more emotionally available. Since then I met another girl who is insanely into me, and tries to text me 24/7. She also seems like she’s isn’t very experienced in dating. She’s cute but would not typically be my type. Every once and a while the first girl will text me and she’ll be all that’s on my mind. I want to see what happens with this second girl but also I won’t be able to meet up with her until at least another month, because of quarantine and she goes to a different college than me. And this texting all day, everyday is going to make me lose interest very quickly. I really don’t know what to do, like at all. Submitted April 08, 2020 at 12:13AM I was crushing hard on a girl for the last few months. We met, hooked up and she started giving me mixed signals, strung me...

Hey, so this is my first post on Reddit. Anyway, my question is what your first start talking online. I'm a 35m. One question I ask girls after we start talking a little is "What do you like to do in your free time?". Most of the time I won't hear back or they delete me, is there something around with asking them that? Submitted April 08, 2020 at 12:16AM Hey, so this is my first post on Reddit. Anyway, my question is what your first start talking online. I'm a 35m. One question I ask girls after we start talking a little is "What do you like to do in your free time?". Most of the time I won't hear back or they delete me, is there something around with asking them that?