I honestly get more extreme reactions when I tell people I don’t drink than when I tell them I don’t date, it’s wild. The party planning committee (including the head of my department) at work a few years ago called me into a meeting to ask what I’d suggest at a Christmas party at a brewery, and I suggested a non-alcoholic option for people who didn’t want to drink, and they were like, “Oh, hadn’t thought of that. Does that mean you don’t drink?” “Yup.” “How come?” “I just don’t.” “No, but why?” “Just don’t.” “No, but why?” “Well my dad drank himself to death, so there’s that.” “………..” “…” “Okay, thanks!” To his credit, my boss has since been very careful to not so much as mention booze in front of me, even though I’ll honestly nurse a single beer all night, but I’ve never been drunk. I casually came out as ace to one of the dudes demanding answers about alcohol, and he didn’t even question it or make a big deal of it. November 26, 2022 at 01:18AM

Hey guys, I’m a 29 f and my boyfriend is 29 as well. I have known him since we were 16 years old and have been dating since 2016 and we share a child. In the whole relationship he doesn’t like to eat me out, he doesn’t like to have sex much only when he is horny … he is not romantic AT ALL. But, he will hang out with friends, he loves to hang out with his mom and he just isn’t very into me. And idk why!! I have asked, begged, pleaded..:: and he always says he loves me. But I can’t take the boring relationship. It’s driving me insane. Help? And yes, I have tried to spicy it up, i even asked for an open relationship… like I have tried everything. Idk why he doesn’t like me but won’t let me go? Submitted November 26, 2022 at 01:16AM Hey guys, I’m a 29 f and my boyfriend is 29 as well. I have known him since we were 16 years old and have been dating since 2016 and we share a child. In the whole relationship he doesn’t like to eat me out, he doesn’t like to have sex much only when he...

But my first boyfriend from highschool dated for nearly 3 years 16-18ish and it ended kinda rough he moved two hours away the last bit and I really have the urge to talk to him but I’m pretty sure the last time we talked we got so mad at eachother we both blocked eachother and I can’t remember his phone number and it doesn’t seem he uses his social media anymore bc he doesn’t interact with anyone on them or post anymore… should I just give it up at this point I feel like we’ve probably milked it dry at this point Submitted November 26, 2022 at 12:08AM But my first boyfriend from highschool dated for nearly 3 years 16-18ish and it ended kinda rough he moved two hours away the last bit and I really have the urge to talk to him but I’m pretty sure the last time we talked we got so mad at eachother we both blocked eachother and I can’t remember his phone number and it doesn’t seem he uses his social media anymore bc he doesn’t interact with anyone on them or post anymore… should I j...

I genuinely don’t understand it. I ask for advice and it seems my view on the whole subject is incorrect or that I apparently approach things poorly. I’ve only been on a date with maybe 2 people at most and in online dating, have maybe tried to plan something only to be ghosted or I was given a last minute excuse by several people. Maybe 3 ish people have said to me that they only like me as a friend out of those I’ve tried to build a relationship with who I’ve met in person. It’s weird to me how some people regularly get dates or are so successful in even trying to date a smaller amount of people. My current methods for testing waters with people to see if they would be interested are: 1. I’ll usually find the opportunity to talk to them and get to know them, usually as friends (why would I date someone I don’t want to be friends with?) 2. If we get along, and it turns out I’m growing feelings, I’ll try to see if I can find any hint that they might feel the same, or I’ll ask them t...

Well you see, if someone really and truly wants to be with you, then compromise to make you comfortable as you are will be included in the relationship; I would say so long as you’re not sex repulsed and you’re willing to do it occasionally (we might once or twice a month most time), the right person would be willing to overlook that they’re not being physically intimate as much as they might like. You’ve already got the right idea by saying you don’t understand their desires, but the same goes vice versa; most allo partners are gonna have to be willing to do some research and some serious understanding to make it work. We’ve found (we’re still together here, just got married and we’re going on 9 years) that a lot of intimate contact can be a good substitute in place of sexually intimacy; it really fills the physical deficit, lots of hugging/kissing/reaffirmation for the allo partner. I would say most Allo people feel like sex completes the relationship because of tying sexuality to ...

Idk I'm demi but i said birommantic cus I guess if I do feel attraction it doesn't matter what gender November 25, 2022 at 11:24PM