41m but I have a weird situation. I’m married I’ll start with that but we haven’t been intimate for over two years so I’ve taken up to dating apps(please don’t ask why I don’t leave. I can’t at the moment). The conversations go good but as soon as I show a photo I get unmatched. I know I’m not the most handsome person in the world. But 20 women in a row. I’m really starting to think there’s something wrong with me. Submitted November 05, 2019 at 12:14AM 41m but I have a weird situation. I’m married I’ll start with that but we haven’t been intimate for over two years so I’ve taken up to dating apps(please don’t ask why I don’t leave. I can’t at the moment). The conversations go good but as soon as I show a photo I get unmatched. I know I’m not the most handsome person in the world. But 20 women in a row. I’m really starting to think there’s something wrong with me.

We’ve been married for 12yrs and have an amazing relationship with (usually) great communication and support for each other. Background: We both grew up extremely poor and have strived together to build a better life for ourselves. Neither of us have college degrees, but have done so much to get where we are (I’m talking owning our cars, buying a house, and paying our bills, nothing too extravagant like travel or anything). I have my own business that helps with household purchases and fun stuff, but spend most of my day taking care of our home/pets due to chronic illness. He built himself from the ground up and is now an expert in his field with a lot of professional certifications and credentials with ten years of experience. He supports us financially, and we are both happy with this, but he’s been undervalued/under paid at his current company for almost 6yrs. He hasn’t been able to move up and constant restructuring + pay issues have been frustrating, so he decided to start job h...

Bit of background info, my partner and his ex were together for 11 years and have a 4 year old together. He once said that he had a kid with her to save the relationship (never engaged) but then when it comes up changes his story and says they were happy together and wanted one. He continually tells me how terrible of a person (and she is) she is but continues to pander to her to the point where he wouldn’t tell her about me for 4 months because he was worried of her reaction - they’d been broken up 3 and a half years. She lost her head over the news of us. Told the kid that daddy doesn’t love us anymore and caused some real damage. He then waited another 4 months to tell her that I was the one and we were engaged. Made out like it happened that weekend. So she thinks we’ve been together half the time we have.. We’ve been together 10 months now and she dictates everything he does with the kid. She constantly makes him feel bad and tells others too, by saying he’s not there enough but...

We've been together for about 2 years and there's been the somewhat consistent issue of the inability for me to ask for what I need or properly set emotional boundaries. I'm trying to dig really deep and figure out if this might be due to some action of my partner or I just haven't got the strength myself and have to just really push through and do it. My partner claims that I never share what I'm thinking or what's bothering me. My memory is that I do, but I tend to share the small things as a test to convince myself that the big stuff will go okay. Generally the small stuff goes a bit poorly. I find myself not taken seriously, or being told I'm asking too much or that it's my responsibility to deal with. When I set a boundary, it's frequently walked over in a somewhat... plausibly deniable way. For instance, I'll set a boundary to not talk about something, and then I'll be told that not talking about this is making them anxious. "I k...

All my previous relationships I have been unsure if I've liked someone or I've just gotten with them because I find them attractive. I recently got into yet another relationship and, I dont think I like or am attracted to them, which then begs to question, why am I with them? I'm not sure. When I think of select ex's, my heart yearns, it aches for them, I don't know if this means I miss them and I truly did like them, or if it means, that I just miss the attention/affection/happiness I had with them. I'm not sure if this post fits this sub or not, nor am I sure if I was transparent enough, if you need more information or have questions, please ask. I am 16, soon to be 17 and male, I am talking about female's, and my most recent girlfriend is 15. TL DR: I don't think I've ever had feeling for a girl before the relationship, only attraction. Submitted November 04, 2019 at 11:30PM All my previous relationships I have been unsure if I've ...

I admit, I haven't had much social interaction over the years. I have finally found somebody that listens to me. Somebody I genuinely care about. However, it seems like I take the somebody listening to me granted, and apparently I talk about myself too much. it isn't something I intend to do, and nothing I would normally do. I would loathe things to be about me. I do it unconsciously, because I offload a ton of information nobody has ever listened to before. For example; if somebody asks me about something, I always use 'I' because my feelings on it, and I tend to offload a little bit, because I think they are trying to dive into my personal feelings (as the conversation can be about that, for example today it was about my social anxiety, so I was trying to explain what goes through my mind) But, apparently it is too 'I', and sometimes I can't seem to spot when somebody feels shit until it is too late. I don't like this. I want people to feel like th...

I've (26 f) been dating a guy (28m) for a little over 5 years now. I moved my entire life in with him after 2 years of dating. I left my family, friends, job and the only town I'd ever really known to truly start a life together with him. For the first several years together everything seemed so great, almost like a fairytale. He had every quality I was looking for in someone, and I just felt like I had absolutely hit the jackpot with him. Within the last year he started his own company taking a very large toll on his own life and our relationship in the process. I try to be a very supportive girlfriend, often putting his needs and happiness above my own. Always encouraging him to go after his dreams, helping him in any way I can. Throughout this time, he's seemed more distant - making me feel as if I'm no longer a top priority in his life. The fights become more frequent. I feel as if I do everything in my power to find ways to not upset him, but I feel like no matte...

TL;DR Girl I have feelings for turns out to be a paranoid, anxiety driven suicidal mess. How do I get out. At first, I thought I was in an amazing relationship. She was emotionally available, bubbly and we shared a lot in common. We really enjoyed our company. Sexually she's always up for it. Perfect girl huh? Well, I got to know her a bit better, and I realized there was something that wasn't right. Those weren't just random little cuts. Inside of thighs, arms, so many scars on her wrist. She was extremely hesitant to talk about it and eventually fessed up to admitting she's getting counselling and help. She's also on a lot of medication for that PLUS with Bipolar personality disorder. She's talked through a lot of it as she's gotten relaxed with me. However, she isn't just relaxed with me at this point, she's obsessed with me. Clingy, needy, anxious if I don't message her soon enough. If I don't message her for a day she will be convince...

So I know that I cannot do anything to help my dad's drug addiction. He is not the first addict in my family. My younger brother (25M) has a heroin addiction. My therapist really helped me realize I have no control over him despite family members telling me I could help him. I spent a year or two not seeing my brother or seeing him very occasionally. He's now 2 years sober and quite a success story. I'm really proud of him. It's a different dynamic when it's a parent and I'm struggling with how to deal. I have contacted my old therapist to set up sessions again but am about to go into the hornets nest when I fly home and would love any advice or support from anyone in a similar situation. When it was my brother, I felt he could get better. He was so young, he had so much to live for. The boundaries felt like "tough love" so it felt "productive" I guess? And there was my mom to oversee the situation with him when it got really bad. In and o...

This is a little silly, but I (25F) met 28M who works for a company that my research group had temporary collaboration with. I thought we had great chemistry! I know he isn’t married. We exchanged some emails after meeting and then it sort of naturally died out. I sent him an email a while later asking for his help on a work thing. Basically asking him to connect me with the people he knew who do a certain technique. (I actually do need the technique done on my samples!) But also was excited to be emailing with him. After our emails, it seems he forgot to contact the people he was supposed to connect me with. 10 days pass and I email him again, and he says he was busy and forgot to connect me with them. Normally I would think this is typical. BUT bc I like him, to me it means he didn’t think of me for 10 days and he must not “like” me. Right? Could you forget to do a favor for someone you like, if that’s the only thing that kept you in touch with them? TLDR; I have a crush and aske...

So I just wanted to know how often I should compliment said girl, since she likes being complimented on that (She's not a piece of shit don't worry) and I just wanted to know how often I should do it without it seeming weird? Reason why I'm asking is cause I really don't care about her looks (She's gorgeous but I couldn't care less) but she likes when I do and I don't want to over do it. You can ask anything you like and I'll try and answer. Btw I'm M(15) and she's F(15), so were really young and just getting into relationships. ​ TL;DR : You have to read the paragraph to understand my situation :( sorry. Submitted November 04, 2019 at 11:37PM So I just wanted to know how often I should compliment said girl, since she likes being complimented on that (She's not a piece of shit don't worry) and I just wanted to know how often I should do it without it seeming weird? Reason why I'm asking is cause I really don't care about ...

TLDR: I am kinda scared that my roomie and close friend (25F) is in a toxic relationship. My friend is acting distant and strange (withdrawing from friends) and her boyfriend (24M) seems controlling. She has been with her boyfriend for almost 2 months officially, and they see each other every day/night. On Friday nights she packs a bag to stay at his house until Monday morning. For context he lives in the same city, his house is about 15 minutes away from ours. At first I didn’t think anything of it, it’s just normal honeymoon phase/butterflies stuff and in previous relationships she was very clingy so it wasn’t a big deal. I have noticed a lot of changes in her behaviour since then and don’t know if I should be worried: She has to wait for him before she can eat dinner every night. He finishes work late and she sometimes complains about how hungry she is, and when I tell her to just eat a snack or something while she waits she says no because her boyfriend would be mad. When the...

Right, so this is my first post on the Reddit right here so I'm not sure how this will pan out but I'm going to explain my situation. Around 5/6 weeks ago I and the girlfriend had unprotected sex but I did not come anywhere near ejaculating and actually went soft during it, it only lasted around 5 minutes and the end result was no cumming. Now here's the tricky part, she hasn't had a period since before that day and obviously I'm worried now she may be pregnant. She's going to get a test tomorrow and we can find out officially but I wanted to ask for an opinion. If she's pregnant, could that mean I'm not the father and shes cheated? I didn't even come close to ejaculating and actually stopped halfway cuz I was almost turned off. **TL;DR; : girlfriend hasnt had her period after we last had sex, came nowhere near close to finishing in her and quit half way. Think she may be pregnant, has she cheated?**. Submitted November 04, 2019 at 11:49PM R...

A little bit of background: I'm a 24 y.o single male. Just finished my undergrads and doing my Master's degree while working full-time as a software engineer. I have a good career and make good money. All my life i have been chasing my career thinking people would respect me more. ​ My only friends are my coworkers (32M team leader and 34 senior developer, both with their own families, not really the most practical friendships) and another guy (23M) that we have been friends since when i can remember. I consider him my best friend, but i don't think he does. I don't really fit in with his company since their life consists mostly of partying and alcohol/drugs. I have no real contact with my old friends since most of them have either used me (for example with studies back in university), or have taken the wrong path in their lives (drug/alcohol abuse, theft and so on). ​ My love life is even worse: I've had only one girlfriend so far (22F), our relationship has s...

Recently my boyfriend (21M) has been quiet. It's not that he isn't there for me or emotionally available, but he's just been very busy. I know this. His job has him working a lot and he's been sick so he takes quite a few naps. For the first month of our relationship we talked almost ever two hours every day. But now he'll leave me for five or six hours without a response. He'll give me one word answers when we do talk. If I say something like "Are you okay? You've been pretty quiet today, just checking up." Then he seems to be a little more communicative for about an hour. I think it's just to appease me. I know this shouldn't get to me. I've been in relationships where I wouldn't talk to someone for two or three days. It's just a huge difference from the whole honeymoon period. I worry a lot about what's going on. At first I thought he was distancing himself because he wanted to break up with me. Then we had a bit of a d...

Me and my other half have broke up a couple of times for various reasons but the main one that always seems to come back is communication. I struggled a lot with talking openly in my past relationships, it's now something I really strive to do after having a very hard time with my depression. I'm always apprehensive about talking to him about when he's doing or has done something to annoy me. This is mainly because he gets very defensive very quickly and then tries to walk away from the conversation. It usually turns into him not really apologising for doing something but turning it into "I'm sorry you feel that way", to which I end up crying for frustration. If I ever do something that annoyed him I always apologise but he seems to struggle with admitting doing something wrong. I'm constantly worried that I'm just over reacting to thing's due to my anxiety, so I always want to think things through to see if it actually annoyed me or if I'm ju...

Been seeing her for a little over a month now. Everything is great so far. We get along really well and I love every minute that I spend with her. I'm also paranoid that I'm somehow going to fuck everything up. I don't know why; it's completely irrational. This is my first proper relationship so it's not even like I have a history of fuck-ups. I don't think that the worry is preventing me from enjoying the relationship go it's fullest, but it's still something I'd rather not have. Anyone know where this comes from, and how I can get it to calm tf down? Tl;dr in a new relationship, worried about messing everything up, want to know how to relax a little Submitted November 04, 2019 at 11:58PM Been seeing her for a little over a month now. Everything is great so far. We get along really well and I love every minute that I spend with her.I'm also paranoid that I'm somehow going to fuck everything up. I don't know why; it's complet...

I want to start by saying I haven't lost all hope, but I'm nearly at that point. My teachers ignore me, my peers often laugh at me, I have no idea how to socialise and when I do try socialising with friends I always still feel left out and ignored. My friends get approached by strangers and make friends easily, I get ignored and ridiculed. My friends get texted by each other and know how to start a conversation both through text and in real life. I can't even think of something to say at all, even to a friend. I cant initiate a conversation online, through text, or with someone new in real life, and I can't figure out how others do it so effortlessly and why I can't get spoken to or why people don't like me enough to text me. I even look for clubs since I don't have the confidence to volunteer or do a part time job, and I dont even know where to begin looking for that information. My first and my new therapist don't know and recommend getting inform...

I was dating this girl around this time last year. We both met on Instagram when we had relatively huge followings with both of us having 45K+ followers. We found out we lived in the same city and decided to date after we met in person. For a little while it was great and she really helped me find myself as a person. However we had some incompatibility issues and didn’t handle it like actual adults. To be fair a lot of it was me being a total asshole and partying and taking drugs too much. It resulted in us taking some of the break up drama online and it caused a shit storm with our followers escalating it. That was in December. We haven’t really talked since and we both fell of Instagram for a while. Today I went back on since I’m doing social media marketing for my buddy’s start up. I decided to reactivate my old account for the hell of it and the first thing on my feed was her mourning her brothers passing. I remember her telling me he had really aggressive neuromuscular dystrophy...

My gf of 6 years paid off my $50,000 in student debt last month because she’s been working for 5 years now while I’m just about to graduate. I also found out yesterday that she’s been cheating on me, emotionally and sexually. She paid this money because she expects “my money to be ‘our’ money soon anyways” which was the agreed upon idea, until now. I intend to leave her because I can’t forgive cheating. What I’m wondering is if there’s any way she can somehow undo these payments? The money has been long gone from her bank account. TLDR can (soon ex-)gf undo loan payments? Submitted November 05, 2019 at 12:08AM My gf of 6 years paid off my $50,000 in student debt last month because she’s been working for 5 years now while I’m just about to graduate. I also found out yesterday that she’s been cheating on me, emotionally and sexually. She paid this money because she expects “my money to be ‘our’ money soon anyways” which was the agreed upon idea, until now.I intend to leave her b...

I go to a top 10 uni in the country for my masters degree. I have some friends, I have a good life. But I know no one really cares about me. Ive tried to commit S and ive fallen down the stairs in my flat and i was crying for help, and no one cared to help me in either of those situations. Im dating a guy now who on our dates treats me well but i am afraid he will leave like the rest of them ( I am trying to be positive). When he is gone, I will have no one who really cares. Its super distressing to think about, and its why I dont go to forests or nature in fear that if something happens to me no one will care or think to call authorities to find me. Knowing only my mom would cry if I died is scary. How can I cope with the fact that no one really cares about me? I am blessed in some ways but I am not blessed with anyone whos really got my back, and it gets me down and lonely. TLDR : I know for sure no one really cares about me, how do I cope? Submitted November 05, 2019 at 12:09...

I'm hopeless. Truly, I am. Though it would be my friends who tell me otherwise. That they hope to have as big a heart as mine. They should understand that it is because of love that I am in such sweet sorrow from. They would surely berate me for the pain I put myself through. Have I not already established that love is the deepest pain? Tonight raging rivers of that very love are searing lines over my thoughts. My heart is racing to the rhythm of such painful love. For it is when I find myself in his eyes that I suddenly forget how to breathe, and this force of gravity lessons under my feet. His fingers burn through my skin, leaving tingling sensations for hours. And all the angels in heaven could not coax me from my love when the smell of his cologne surrounds me. For when I am near him, I am lost in all that is. Some days I might rather be like the Angels myself. A heavenly warrior fighting patiently for love's true desire. At least it is surely true in my thoughts. My mi...

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