Can we have a deeper question as to why this person in particular would be your partner? If someone reacted in that way with me, I wouldn't just pull out the Ace cards, I would pull the plug on our relationship. It would be over. No compromise. May 12, 2020 at 12:18AM

Likewise. I have a libido, yet I don't want sex. I would react the AAAAAA, with a "Eww, Get away, raper!" That's just my thing. May 12, 2020 at 12:16AM

Sure. (Maybe I misread your comment and thought you meant reproduction, not sex). As I have said, that other branch is much more comprehensive and worth discussing, than my comment. One of the important things, that was touched upon there is the perception of sex as something intergal to the rest of psychological needs. As part of reproduction, as part of romance, as part of validation as a person, etc. That said, I am curious, how desire to have children corelates with asexuality/allosexuality. May 12, 2020 at 12:10AM

Anything is a cake if you make a cake out of it May 12, 2020 at 12:09AM

Ah. Yeah, I see your point. It's pretty crap behaviour. Sorry you're feeling angry about it - if someone said something rude about asexuality to you, it's a reflection on their character, not anything wrong with you. May 12, 2020 at 12:05AM

Idk im pretty angry right now but anyways Telling asexuals they are asexuals because of hormone inbalance or trauma is like telling you have a brain tumor to a person with a headache. May 12, 2020 at 12:03AM

Wha? May 12, 2020 at 12:01AM

I know for my friend who came out as gay it took weeks of angst and awkwardness for it to get better. When I came out as atheist it was normal almost immediately except for when religion comes up. My point is give it time, it will occur naturally. May 11, 2020 at 11:58PM

If you want to see a plethora of aphobia peep my post history in r/askmen , retrospectively I should have seen it coming but (wrongly) expected most people to be capable of basic human decency. May 11, 2020 at 11:57PM

I’m guessing the reason she doesn’t want to have sex with him is because he’s an asshole. May 11, 2020 at 11:54PM

So I met a guy off tinder like over a month now and we message off and on on snapchat and we’ve hung out about a handful of times. Everything has been going good since the last time we saw each other. But lately he hasn’t been messaging back as often and when he does I don’t get any cute messages like he usually sends just random stuff we usually just send bitmojis clowning around. So I asked him if something was wrong and he says he’s busy helping his dad at his dads house and stuff because his dad broke his back. But sometimes he literally goes as long as 3 hours before he texts me back but he doesn’t even check his snapchat within that time either (he has his maps on so I can see when he last opened the app). So I’m confused if he really is busy for that long to even send one little one minute message or if he’s purposely taking that long to reply back now and not checking the app. Then 4 days goes by and we haven’t planned a day to hangout like he said so I asked him again if some...

We're both at uni, but in different programs (I'm physics, she's biochem). I was going to ask her out, but then lockdown happened before I got the chance. I recently took a leap and messaged her on Facebook and we've started texting. I reckon it's been going great! She's super enthusiastic and sends me long responses and all that, and she seemed glad I wrote to her! But now I realized I have no idea where I'm going with this. Obviously asking her on a date is off the table. Even when lockdown is inevitably lifted in some weeks, she'll be in another town (about an hour away) because she doesn't have classes this summer. I'm a pretty inexperienced dude working in uncharted territory here. Odds are I might not get to take her out until autumn too (and there's murmurs of unis possibly continuing with online classes even then). So yeah, I have no idea where I'm going with this haha Help. Submitted May 11, 2020 at 11:56PM We're ...

So I (38 y/o XX) have been with my boyfriend (41) of two years. Prior to meeting my boyfriend I have always been a woman with a high sex drive. I love sex... I crave sex. I appear nerdy on the outside but love being a borderline sex addict underneath it all. When I met my guy I was not looking for a relationship but we just clicked and I was drawn to him despite the fact that we are completely opposites. My first surprise was the night we had sex. I like Spanish men as most seem to be fiery and generally uncut. When we went to have sex he was circumcised. Not my preference but it’s fine. Next surprise was how small he was. That’s a bit more challenging as I am a tall woman and like to have my G spot hit. Last initial issue was he only lasts a minute in bed. Literally. We never got to have that “Honeymoon amazing sex” as he got a hernia at work only two weeks into the relationship. Which leads me to the next and biggest issue. He had ED which was able to be masked because of his injur...

My girlfriend used to send me snaps on snapchat everyday, of what she is doing e.g walking the dog, cooking, having lunch, selfies and walking etc. I have a habit of screenshotting everything she sends me. At first she found it cute, now she finds it annoying. She says now that’s why she doesn’t send me anymore exclusive pictures. When I say exclusive, I don’t mean nudes. It is photos such as a mirror selfie of her or a selfie of her in bed. And she has never sent me nudes. She is always either wearing a vest, panties or pjs. Sometimes it’s just revealing more of her legs or bum or body. We’ve been dating for 1.5 years now and have had sex a lot. We’ve seen each other’s bodies many times so have nothing to hide. So I don’t know what the problem is? Today when she said she won’t send me anymore exclusive pictures, I felt hurt. I asked her why? I said I’d never show anyone. She says it’s because she just doesn’t want photos like that on my phone (it’s not even nudes!). I said I’d ne...

M/36/Straight ​ I once slid into a girl's DM's 5 years ago (Facebook) and we chatted back and forth, lots of interest, went on a date and didn't feel it. Honestly, I ghosted her. I'm not 100% sure why, but just was not feeling it at the moment and hate to sound insensitive but was perhaps not emotionally available and perhaps was looking for something else. Something much more superficial, both physically as well as lighter on the commitment side. She didn't take it well, she didn't say anything outright but blocked me from Facebook (ouch). ​ Fast-forward to this past week. I saw her in a video on social media, her work account, and she looked great! I started wondering what the heck I was thinking 5 years ago, ghosting her and being so immature. I sent her a quick message that in hindsight wasn't the best because I didn't really have much to say, so it wasn't much of a conversation started but she was nice enough to answer back and wish me well...

I'm dating a girl right now who's a virgin, and when she asked me how many girls I've slept with, I said somewhere between 5 and 10. I could tell it bothered her, but I've repeatedly told my girlfriend that I'm really attracted to her personality and looks and would never force her to have sex unless she was ready. All the girls I've been with in the past were just hookups that I usually never saw more than once. I wanted to sleep with them, and they wanted to sleep with me. That's all we saw in each other, but I see so much more in my girlfriend, whom I think I really have a future with. What can I do or tell my girlfriend to make her feel loved? Submitted May 12, 2020 at 12:09AM I'm dating a girl right now who's a virgin, and when she asked me how many girls I've slept with, I said somewhere between 5 and 10. I could tell it bothered her, but I've repeatedly told my girlfriend that I'm really attracted to her personality and look...

Hello everyone, I'm currently a 18 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend (or even held hands for that matter) but I'm quite interested into getting more into the dating scene. A really good friend of mine suggested me getting Tinder since I'm better at talking online than irl, but I'm still not sure about it as I'm scared people from my work will recognize me and ask stuff about it and also I'm personally still not the biggest fan of those kind of apps. So, what is a good way for me to get more into dating? Is it through those apps or should I try something else first? I'm sorry if this post seems unclear and I will answer every question Submitted May 12, 2020 at 12:16AM Hello everyone, I'm currently a 18 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend (or even held hands for that matter) but I'm quite interested into getting more into the dating scene. A really good friend of mine suggested me getting Tinder since I'm better at talking ...

This is a long post but I just need to vent and get opinions on the full story. Around this time last year I had met this girl at work, at first we didn't talk much and it we did it was just work related things. One day I decided to ask her for coffee but she kindly declined saying she had a boyfriend so I left her alone. She started to work more because she was finishing up with school so we saw each other more. We started to talk more and flirt with each other which I thought was weird but we continued. She had went on vacation with her boyfriend and before she left she asked me if was going to miss her and I said of course and when she got back she said she said missed me and had a dream about me. This made me confused but didn't really think much of it. I asked for her number because we had plans of playing a video game together online so she gave it to me. At first it started out with just texting each other whenever we were available to play but then one night she asked ...

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I have seen some guys who are clearly a 4 and they get a 7 on photofeeler just because they are black or dark skinned while they only gave me a 3 as a light skinned guy just because my face is round. It seems like women don't like light skinned guys these days anymore. Submitted May 11, 2020 at 11:48PM I have seen some guys who are clearly a 4 and they get a 7 on photofeeler just because they are black or dark skinned while they only gave me a 3 as a light skinned guy just because my face is round. It seems like women don't like light skinned guys these days anymore.

It is widely accepted that if you’re a man over 30, unless you look like a model, you will not have hot 20something or 30something women willing to casually hook up with you. Sure they might be interested in dating you and may develop sexual interest later, but they won’t be down to hook up with you out of raw physical attraction. Yet I have heard many stories of attractive women in their 20s and 30s having sexual relationships with boys as young as 14. In these stories, it usually seems to be a matter of raw physical attraction for these women, the same type that makes men pursue women. The type that women seem to rarely ever experience with 30something and even late 20something men. So while this might seem like an odd question, what exactly is going on here? Considering that grown men usually have to be tall, super fit, confident, successful, etc. before an attractive woman would consider sleeping with them, why on earth are any of these women sleeping boys that young?? Sub...